Pretending to be a doctor

[LeallianFaye]

Hi sissies! I have a question kasi I know someone who's pretending to be a doctor. Although nagstart lang yun para matanggap siya ng mother-in-law niya ( which is my mom ). She has kids na with her first husband pero even that dineny nila ng brother ko sa mom namin, yung story nila about sa mga bata pa-iba iba like unainampon daw sa close relative na namatay ang parents hanggang sa naging tunay na anak nila. We found out na hindi sa brother ko yung kids since we saw yung pictures with the real father and actually talked to him in person. Si mother nga lang, ewan  ko anong gayuma o kulam ginawa nila parang paniwalang paniwala dto sa sil ko na napaka sinungaling, she said na sinisiraan lang daw siya nung lalake gusto lang ng pera from her. Yung gift ng mom ko sa wedding nila is trip to hongkong so bale yyun yung honeymoom nila. Then one time naglayas sila sa house ng mother ko kasi nag away sila ng sister ko, so bitbit nila the three kids pumunta sila sa tita namin. Nakitira sila dun for idk months? Hanggang sa bumalik sila sa bahay nung bumalik ng ibang bansa yung mom namin. Nalaman namin na yung kinekwento ni sil sa tita namin na siya daw lahat gumastos sa hongkong from tickets to hotel pasalubongs foods nila dun, ipon niya daw sa pangdodoctor niya. Sinungaling! Meron pang incident na siya nag tahi ng sugat ng brother ko sa noo, that time wala pa kaming doubt sakanya. When we confronted her bakit hindi siya nagtatrabaho since si brother wala namang means of income kung hindi sa padala ni mommy at sa paupahan ni mommy tapos they have three kids to feed pa, one is in college already. Sabi niya gusto niya magkabusiness o trabaho muna si brother para hindi mabruise ang ego. And about her license # hindi niya mabigay and kahit daw ibigay niya wala na sa records ng prc since years na siya hindi nagpaparenew. Nakakapagtaka kasi walang pictures of her working sa hospital or her past patients trying to contact her. Ayaw maniwala ni mommy so boto parin siya and mas naniniwala sya kay sil kesa samin kasi professional daw si sil.

Are they ways ba like by papers/cert/letter sa prc stating walang dr that goes by that name ever since ever?

Thanks sissies! Badly need your help. Super bad ni sil hindi ko makwento lahat kasi super dami talaga!

[j.adore]

Did you try PRC site? Alam ko they show board passers by name but not sure on historical year kasi defense niya she hasn't renewed. Or call PRC?

[LeallianFaye]

Hi sis! Thanks sa reply. We tried yung prc site walang lumalabas na license number under her name wala siyang record pero since may nakalagay dun na pwede ring magloko yung website nila sa results yun yung defense niya. Patay nalang talaga ang walang dahilan. We havent tried calling prc.

[aquacharly]

Does it matter what you know to be true? 

It's your brother and mom who have the power & allow your SIL  the life she wants now.  If yang 2 na yan eh are in denial and CHOOSE to accept her story-telling lies, so be it.  Of course, you have the moral responsibility to reveal critical info about your SIL to your brother & mom, but they both choose to believe her.  I am quite certain the 2 of them know some story-telling lies are lies, but they prefer to live in denial.  For some people, see, The Truth is an inconvenience.

Save yourself wear and tear, and just let them be.  As you indicated: any contradictory fact you may reveal will easily be explained away by your fraud of a SIL.  It's not that she's just a consummate liar, but that your brother & mom are very cooperative suckers. Sorry, but The Truth hurts at times. 

[LeallianFaye]

Thanks sis aquacharly


Yun pa nga sis isa pang major problem yung dalawa nagpaplano na ipangalan yung titulo ng bahayat lupa sa brother ko without my moms consent parang nagtatanong sila sa mga kakilala nila how to forge yung signature ng mom ko etc and yung process tsismosa kasi mga yaya nila dun minsan pag dadalaw ako tsinitsismisan ako sila rin nakabukingng first marriage ni sil kasi sa aparador nila may mga books dun tapos iba yung name both last and first pero before that pag may big events sa bahay minsan pupunta yung mga rel ni sil akala ko mali lang rinig ko nung tinawag ng isang cousin yung daughter ni sil iba kasi tawag nya akala ko tawagan nila o nickname pero naconfirm ni yaya yun dahil sa books nga tapos ayun onting search kahit fb lang ayun thank god nakita ko yung father nila and talk to him in person
I  know minsan talaga i just want to sit back and watch things playout and naiinis din ako sa mom ko dahil kahit sabihin ko about that binabaliktad ako ni sil ako daw talaga may habol sa bahay niya sinabi ko pa daw sa kuya ko na ibenta namin yung bahay ng mom ko then paghati hatian namin magkakapatid. I was really shocked and talagang uminit tenga ko nun mga sis parang wow ha ang galing magbaliktad nito tapos sya pa parinPaniwalaan ni mommy kaya minsan naiisip ko nalang na hayaan si mommy mawalam ng bahay oarang i did warn her pero hindi talaga mawaa uung concern ko at pagkaworried ki sa mommy namin since alam ko yung hirap at pagod niya para maipundar yung bahay at paupahan niya tapos mawawala nalang bigla. Haaaaay mga sis sakit sa ulo ni sil....

[LeallianFaye]

Hangang hanga kasi mommy ko kay sil kasi nga "doctor" may natapos may profession kaya mas naniniwala mommy ko sakanya kaya naisip ko na pag napaniwala ko si mommy na hidi talaga siya doctor she might come back to her senses.

[aquacharly]

Well, it's really hard if it's your mom who wants to swallow the lies.

I had a BFF neighbor before who would let her bf sneak into her bedroom. Of course, eventually nahuli -- a maid squealed on her and her mom immediately reported her to her husband/BFF's dad. So gulo, etc.  the next week, her sister snuck in  her BFF into her room. My BFF informed their mom, but she refused to believe it just because the sister said: of course not, I even have my period now. Just like that, no investigating the room.

My point is -- some people just refuse to see the truth, for reasons only they know of (favoritism?)
Or, your mom is aware of the lies but she is just sooo glad to have a "doctor" (kahit hindi licensed) as part of the family (she must think it increases your brother's public image value) --  she is willing to pay any price.

Play your cards well.  IMO, at times the best strategy is to retreat.  Left alone, unchallenged, your mom will have space to think, & may question your SIL's motives if her (your mom's) pride is not at stake too.