PAANO BA MAKALIMOT?

[akosimaiatot]

It frustrates me that this is the only way I can convey my thoughts to you- not knowing if you will ever see this, but I had to give it one last shot. Chances are, if you are reading this, you are here for the same reason I am, and I can say “mission accomplished”. I have the slightest bit of lingering hope that something will lead you to this site, your eyes to these words, and your mind back to what we used to be.

I’m not angry at you for leaving me. I’m here to say that the person you fell in love with is the same person sitting here typing this message to you right now. I admit that I'm struggling to let go but
I just want you to think back for a second to the way you felt that night we first kissed. I remember the way your hand felt in mine and how it lightly trembled because you were nervous.  It didn’t last but for a few minutes, but I want you to know I would go through the pain of you breaking my heart all over again just feel what I felt in those few minutes.


Although it seemed, at times, as if we were rock solid and nothing could divide us, we were fragile. Every “I love you”, “I’m so happy with you”, “I’m in love with you” seemed to be another brick to the wall between us and the world. Little did I know, you would be the one to tear it down. It’s okay, though. We had our time, our moment in time where we shined, and I would not take anything in the world for it. For whatever reason, you saw it best for me not to be a part of your future.  I couldn’t have given you the world, my love, but, I swear I would have made you feel like the only person in it. Our time came to an end long before my love did, but I want you to know that I am eternally grateful to you for giving me the best time of my life.

I loved you and I lost you. I’m still not sure if you ever loved me but I know some questions can never be answered. What I do know is that I loved you and I lost you.

So, I guess this is my last goodbye. I’ll be moving on. I will never forget the way you made my heart feel for the short time you loved me. I lived – while you loved me. I have to do what’s best for me now. I have to focus on making the best out of what life has given me.  I have to let you go.  Wow – that was the hardest line to type.  Goodbye, Don’t forget about me.  If God decided to take me from this world, please know in your heart that you were loved with everything in my being.  I wish you all the happiness life can offer.

I love you always

[handlewithcare]

I promised myself na hindi na ako iiyak dahil sa ex ko. Pero sobrang nakakaiyak ang letter mo. Feeling ko tuloy ako ang sumulat. Hehe. Same tayo ng nararamdaman about sa mga ex natin. Susulatan ko din ex ko. But I won't let go. Maghihintay ako sa kanya kahit ibig sabihin non ay paghihintay sa wala.

[akosimaiatot]

thank you sis , inubos ko lahat ng emosyon ko dyan and I felt better after writing it
sis don't you think waiting for something that's not gonna happen is such a waste of time? it feels like waiting for the rain to come in drought useless and disappointing, sometimes sis we need to choose our battle learn when to give up and throw the towel ganyan din ako nung una hanggang may pinanghahawakan ako kapit lang kahit ang sakit sakit na. but come to think of it? are you sure that it is him that you don't want to let go or you are just holding on to the memories kaya nakakapit ka parin?

[mysterioza_me]

Paano makalimot? Don't miss him, replace him! Joke!

Do not waste your lifetime sa isang guy lalo na if you know naman na hindi masusuklian ang feelings ninyo. It is ok to be pathetic for a short period of time nasaktan kayo e pero to still hold on to something or someone that is not yours and you know will never be yours its super pathetic to the nth power, it will only make you miserable. Sayang ang ganda ninyo. Hindi sa sinuman nakadepende ang happiness ninyo kundi nasa inyo mismo. Choose to be happy than to be miserable. Move on na.

[handlewithcare]

^ Thank you sa advice sis mysterioza_me. Pero it's easier said than done. Kung pwede lang turuan ang puso, sana ora mismo okay na ako.
 
@sis akosimaiatot, it was you pala who wrote about your not so typical relationship sa other thread. Nabasa ko un last month at sobrang relate ako kasi g2g din kami. Pareho kaming hindi obvious na lesbian, lalo na sya. She broke up with me last month kasi she fell out of love na daw kakaselos ko na wala naman daw basis. Pero nung nagbreak kami dun sya nagkkwento at after 3 weeks pinupursue na nya daw yung pinagselosan ko at sana daw maging sila. Ang labo lang. Nagmemessage pa din sya minsan pero ramdam ko wala na syang ganang kausap ako. Sabi nya dati wag daw akong malungkot kasi hindi naman daw sya mawawala. Friends pa rin daw kami. Pero ang sakit lang kasi hindi ko naman maramdaman na she treats me as a friend kc sobrang dedma na sya.
 
I won't let go of her. Pero I'm not the type naman na nangungulit. Hindi ako nag-iinitiate ng communication. Holding on naman does not mean na I'll be idle na lang. Although, to be honest, sobrang depressed pa din ako ngayon. Pero I know magiging okay din ako soon. Maghihintay pa din ako sa kanya kahit magkaroon pa sya ng iba. And if ever man na merong iba para sa kin, dapat sobrang true love para mabreak nya ang wall na ibibuild ko.
 
Pasensya na mga sis mahaba post ko. Wala kasi akong makausap kaya dito ko na lang binubuhos feelings ko.

[mysterioza_me]

@sis handlewithcare yeah its easier said than done but if you will not do something about it because mahirap ang magmove on lalo ka lang malulunod sa sadness and made-depress. I was in the same situation like you a few months ago and I also cried a river pero naisip ko that life is too short. Why waste my tears to someone who doesn't care? Life is too short para magmukmok lang, sayang ang buhay. Ok lang umiyak girl nasaktan ka e. Ibuhos mo lahat one time bigtime. After nun stop na, wipe your tears, bumangon ka uli at magsmile. Bino-boost mo lang ang ego niya pagganyan ka. Hindi dapat tumigil ang ikot ng mundo dahil sa kanya. Hugs for you sis. Kaya mo yan kasi kailangan mong kayanin.

[akosimaiatot]

sis handlewithcare yes , My GF decided to have a baby kaloka db? pero I understand her naman kasi I have kids narin and she also wants to have someone when she gets old and nape pressure narin siguro sya sa mom nya asking her to change. At first I was hesistant to let her go but minsan we have to be objective and consider things in normal perspective, I'm in the process of moving on and we remain friends pero minsan I still missed US and mahirap pero kailangan natin umusad eh ..I know how hard it is sis but try to accept things , it will lessen the pain I promise

[handlewithcare]

@sis mysteriza_me, I was okay na sana. The whole month of June sobrang down ako pero sabi ko pag start ng July dapat okay na ako. Tanggap ko na naman na ayaw nya sa kin. Pero last weekend nagparamdam sya for 3 consecutive days. Nangumusta pero cold pa rin. After that ayun back to zero uli ako. Back to depressed mood. Haist.
 
@sis akosimaiatot, yung ex ko gusto din magkaanak pero girl pa din daw gusto nya. Magpapabuntis lang. Okay naman sa kin un. Di naging issue. May mga differences lang kami na mahirap iresolve. Kaya tanggap ko na din na malabo na talaga kami. Ang masakit lang talaga sa kin is the way she treats me now. Sabi nya friends pa rin daw pero masahol pa sa stranger ang treatment sa kin. Saka namimiss ko [textspeak!] dating sya at yung dating kami. Sa isang iglap kasi biglang nag-iba lahat. Tapos may gusto na syang iba agad. Actually ang dami nyang options. Sobrang sakit na parang basura ako na iniwan kasi madami namang pwedeng kapalit.
 
I'm thinking of giving her something. Parang last goodbye ko din. Mga sisses, do you think it's a good idea?
 
Salamat uli sa responses nyo. Laking tulong. 😊

[akosimaiatot]

WAIT SIS ang labo..gusto nya magkaanak pero may bago na syang iba? don't you think its a bit odd? she doesn't even know what she want ..then magpaparamdam after 3 days pero cold parin? ano yon? she's just checking if you're still there ? sis MOVE ON! she's deff toying with your feelings and making you an option ..this girl doesn't even know what she wants hence how to treat you right

[khaleesiCersei]

Um i think the heart never forgets lalo na dun sa taong sobrang minahal mo or sobrang sinaktan ka. But eventually it gets easier.. Na mabuhay ng wala sila. Dadating yun time na Hindi mo na sila hinahanap, hindi ka na iiyak at hindi ka na malulungkot. pero may mga times na maiisip mo pa rin sila, minsan mapapanaginipan pa hehe pero hangang doon na lang. Isa na lang syang memory. Tapos you'll meet someone that will make you smile and love again. And then pag maalala mo pa yun certain someone na yun from your past, wala ng pain. Wala ng what ifs.

[handlewithcare]

^I agree. Feelings lang ang nawawala pero hindi ang memories. Nung nakilala ko si current ex, I was mending a broken heart. Then nung nagkagusto na ko kay current ex, nawala na feelings ko sa previous ex. Naisip ko pa nga na sayang lang mga araw na iniyak ko kay previous ex kc makikilala ko naman pala si current ex na much better sa kanya.
 
@sis akosimaiatot, matagal pa naman nyang gustong magkaanak. Not naman this year. So hindi talaga yun ang issue namin. She wanted me to trust her. I wanted her to respect me and our relationship. Dun kami hindi magkasundo.
 
About sa sinabi mo na she's toying with my feelings, ilang beses na nya yan ginawa sa kin. Aminado naman sya na mapang-asar sya talaga.
 
Nakakainis nga kc sa kabila ng lahat ng mga di ko gusto sa ugali nya, I still love her. I want her back. Pero wala na talagang chance kc ayaw na nya sa kin. Haist. Hirap magmove on.

[SarSi_Em]

awww sis  akosimaiatot, natuloy pa rin pala break up nyo

yung letter mo, ang sakit sakit, gusto ko maiyak, ramdam ko gano mo sya ka love pero gusto mo pa rin maging happy kahit nasasaktan ka.

almost same story tayo, kaya lang guy yung sakin, isa sa mga reasons nya need nya ko iwanan dahil gusto na nya mag ka family na kanya, pwede nya pagmalaki asawa nya, kasal kasi ako sa una at may anak din, hindi nya masabi sa family nya about sakin, mama's boy kasi, feeling nya mapapahiya sya, which ang sakit sakit sakin syempre ikahiya at itago for 4 yrs.

sis handle hindi ba mahirap mag move on kapag friends pa rin kayo?
nagawa ko kasi to last year, almost one year and half ako nag paka bff aka fwb sa ex ko and pinagsisihan ko now yung decision na yun. una, andyan ako lagi pag kailangan nya, akala ko pag binuhos ko na lahat hindi na sya aalis pero umalis pa rin sya, yung time pala available ako sa kanya, ginamit nya ko para maka move on sya ng todo, dahil pag wala ako di nya alam if rebound o mahal na nya talaga un new girl nya. so ayun successful naman sya, happy na sya sa new gf nya.

pano ba makalimot?

isa lang alam ko, di mo makakalimutan, mawawala lang yung pain, darating time wala na tayo maramdaman sa kanila, never natin malilimutan, magiging part na lang sila ng past natin. and sila rin ang reason para maging better tayo sa next relationship natin at pati na rin reminder na dapat mas mahal natin sarili natin.

nasa process parin ako ng moving on, nasa stage ako na galit sa sarili ko at sa kanya, and wishing him na ma karma, unti unti nagagawa ko na i block, sabihin ko na lang di worth, masaya na sya, dapat maging happy ka na rin, mahirap pero kailangan na gawin.

kaya natin to! aja!

[akosimaiatot]

hi sis SarSi_Em hugs!

Yes natuloy din , I'm strong enough to let go narin kahit masakit kasi sometimes being strong is the only choice we got eh, its either you turn around or move forward pero either way both required movements sis life goes on sabi nga nila and its our choice to be happy or not

Aww sis,,you don't deserve that kind of guy, he doesn't even have the balls na ipagmalaki ka? I am a single mom too sis and our culture is so unfair when it comes to single moms, kasal din ako sa una sis and sometimes people judge us because of our past not because of who we truly are, the perks of having a close minded society really sucks .. but like what you've said darating din anf time na wala na tayo mararamdamang pain and I'm so looking forward to that !

[mysterioza_me]

Yung true mga sis, single moms thread ba ito haha?! I'm a single mom too pero dedma na ko kay ex kahit magparamdam pa siya. He had his chance already but he blew it away so sorry na lang sa kanya. He's not my loss anyway since nasa akin naman ang anak ko. I don't care kung ano sasabihin ng ibang tao. My child may not have a dad but he is very much well-provided compared to other kids with complete family.

Para hindi naman OT: @sis handlewithcare siguro it is better to cease all sort of communication with her. Maybe try changing your number or blocking her in social media para di siya makapagparamdam sa iyo. Huwag ka muna makipagfriends sa kanya.

[akosimaiatot]

 @sis handlewithcare tama si sis mysterioza_me complaisant si ex knowing na andyan ka lang naghihintay , pls increase your price tag sis don't make yourself an option

[mysterioza_me]

Super agree. Don't make yourself an option sis and stop showing her that you are readily available for her. Sayang time&effort mo sa ganyang tao, move to the next person ka na. Wag ka ma-stuck sa kanya, sayang ang araw na lumilipas.

[Girltalker2]

Susulatan ko din ex ko. But I won't let go. Maghihintay ako sa kanya kahit ibig sabihin non ay paghihintay sa wala.

Kung wala na kayo, better not write pa. you will just appear pathetic.

Pano makalimot... First step is dapat determined ka to want to forget. Having this mindset that you will wait for her forever won't make your forget. Kung ayaw mo, it's your decision and gateway to a miserable life. So long as you don't want to forget, just cling on to nothing, you will always cry, be sad and miserable. And for what? Wala lang, kasi gusto mo.

[handlewithcare]

Salamat sa mga words of wisdom mga sisses!

Sa ngayon medyo okay naman ako. Nakapag-church kasi ako kanina kaya gumaan pakiramdam ko. Sana magtuloy-tuloy na. I don't think imemessage pa ko uli non. So no need to block her or change my numbers. Busy na sya sa mga options nya o baka nga may napili na.

Mahal ko pa rin sya kaya hayaan ko na lang sya kung san sya masaya. Ayusin ko na lang muna sarili ko. Dami ko din kasing nagawang mali. Pero sana maging kami uli sooner or later. Hehe. :p

[mysterioza_me]

Tama yan sis magpray ka and tama din na magpaka-busy ka at ayusin ang self mo. Lagi mo isipin na "You will be able to find another love but not another self."

[handlewithcare]

^I don't want another love sis. Sya lang ang gusto ko. Siguro pag hindi kami nagkabalikan, magpapakasingle na lang ako ever.
 
Super down na naman ako. Meron na syang iba. Kinalimutan na talaga ako. Bakit ganon sobrang dali lang para sa kanya. Binalewala nya agad lahat. Siguro hindi nya ko minahal talaga.