badly needing your POVs

[janitorfish]

well here's the situation

*i met the guy sa online dating im a doctor hes an accountant

*his last relationship was (yung counted daw )during college days pa has had only 1 serious gf and the not counted was 2 years ago which lasted months lang

*dated for 9 months

*i noticed na medyo nagiging madalas na ang date and we are practically acting like bf/gf

*during the 9 months he expressed things like his friends wants to know me, he would want to actually introduce me to his mother but none of this was put into actions

* i intend not to tell my parents about us but he keeps following up on me kung na kwento ko na daw so i finally told about us to my parents and relatives

*finally had the chance to confront our status pero sadly thru sms lang and he says things like BAKET PA KELANGAN NG LABEL EH PARANG GANUN NA DIN NAMAN YUN..
   -para sa akin di importante ang label as long as seryoso kayo kung manloloko ang lalake ke me label o wala manloloko pa din yan

*and then had the chance to let him know my side na halos lahat ng babae natanungin mo importante ang label

*and then parang napilitan siya na sabihin sige lagyan na ng label which of course i got offended kasi parang napilitan lang

*so guys do you think this guy is serious about me or hes still considering meeting someone else or should i put end to this before ma fall pa ako dito

TIA

[Girltalker2]

^ regarding kung serious yung guy, I guess Ikaw lang mas makaka confirm.

But normally kasi, ganito ang approach ko pagdating sa dating - I never ask or won't ask kung ano ba kami.  Para sakin, we are friends. Period. I won't even ask him kung seryoso sya sakin. Friends lang naman eh. But... I'm free to date anyone I feel like getting to know, at wala syang say doon.

And you're right about your question - you want to know para naman di ka heavily invested pa. but Kung Hindi mo alam, lagi ako bumabalik sa default - friends lang kami. Never assume and don't assume. Huwag mo pangunahan at hayaan mo sya mag pursue. Kung nainip ka, move on.marami pa naman mas ok sa kanya.

I always believe kasi for guys/men, if they really want you, they will do anything to be with you and be your man.  Kung di sila sure, puede kasi gusto ka nya now since it is convenient and masarap ka kasama but he is still not that sure at Baka may iba Na mas OK. So let him shop around, Kung meron mas feel nya Na gawin gf, but that shouldn't stop you din from meeting other people.

[mysterioza_me]

No Label=Friends ONLY, so that means you are free to date anyone and ganun din siya.

As a girl important ang label sa kin baka super claim ako na boyfie ko siya tapos siya pala friends lang or dating partner lang ang pakilala sa kin. Masabihan pa akong assuming, nakakahiya.

Remember that guys are territorial. If the guy is dead serious he will definitely mark his territory para wala ng lumapit.

[tischarmedlife]

I asked hubby and he said, stop dating that guy kase mukhang wala sya'ng balak na mag-commit.

Hubby and I started out as "tropa". We're always out on group "dates" and then nagka-developan na lang after a couple of months. Nung una wala din label, parang MU lang, I did not dare ask him kung ano ba kami pero our colleagues were all asking. Then, tinanong nya ko if I'd like to be his girl. Boom! Yun na 

IMHO, if that guy really likes/loves you, dapat mag-commit sya. Otherwise, you're single and free to mingle 

[three8one]

one thing i noticed TS, both of you are acting like parang kayo na talaga which is dun palang sa sitwasyon na yun eh may mali na. hindi naman sa nagpapademure ka or ano pa man but sana binigyan mo ng linaw muna sana yung kung magano ba talaga kayo.

ang mga lalake pag binigyan mo yan ng pagkakataon sometimes aabusuhin ka nyan like what the guy did to you.. bakit pa nga naman sya makikipagcommit sayo kung nagagawa na nya yung mga bagay na ginagawa na ng mag bf/gf? yung mga ganun klaseng lalake ang tingin ko jan mga iresponsableng tao yan. i suggest medjo dumistansya ka na jan marami pa naman iba jan na worthy sa attention mo.

 

[Midnight17]

For me he is a type of guy na sigurista. Sigurista in a sense that he asked you kung na kuwento mo na siya sa family and friends mo. Kapag sinagot mo na oo iisipin noon type na type mo na siya.

Either super baba ng self confidence niya para naging ganyan siya or on the side ka lang

[lovely_carrot]

A man's love fits only in 3 categories, Profess, Provide and Protect. You might want to read Steve Harvey's book, act like a lady think like a man.

If he loves you, he will definitely introduce you to his family and friends. To let them know that YOU are HIS. The fact that you have to ask him about labelling you relationship clearly shows that he doesn't want to put any label at all.