SINGLE MOMS: Your surname or the father's?

[foxlady]

Hi sisses na single moms!

What made you decide na gamitin ni baby ang surname nyo? or
What made you decide na gamitin ni baby ang surname ng father nya?

TIA!

[donya_dyosa]

It was my mom'S decision na gamitin ng son ko ang last name ng dad niya. I was too young too decide.
Pero kunmaibabalik ko lang, last name ko nalang sana... Sobrang walang kwentang tao ng dad niya... Wala sustento, communication , even regalo on pasko at birthdays wala... Kapal

[killbill]

My surname. Kasi tumakbo sa responsibility yung tatay ng anak ko so why bother. At least ngayon hindi ako nakaka encounter ng question sa kanya kung bakit hindi kami pareho surname.

[LGV]

Just exactly the same as donya_dyosa as in ganyan na ganyan with matching eyes rolling. Lol but seriously oo. Okay kasi kame at that time kaya ayun, mali maling mali talaga kaya ngayon hirap na hirap kame sa pagpalit ng surname na yan!

How I wish na nga lang tinakbuhan nya ako from the start sana. Sana ganun nalang.

[mysterioza_me]

My son is using his dad's last name. Ok pa naman kasi kami nung time na manganak ako and nagplan kami na magpakasal right after I gave birth. Kaso daming nangyari e. My son wanted to change his last name to mine but I told him to wait until he is of legal age and siya na ang magprocess since I don't want to deal with his dad anymore. For sure ico-contest nun ang petition to change his son's last name pag ako ang nagprocess kaya sabi ko mas mainam na silang mag-ama ang mag-deal nun later, bakasakaling mahiya ang tatay niya sa bata at pagbigyan ang hiling agad. My son doesn't get ANY support from the dad (sabi ko nga maski moral and spiritual support ok na e kaso wala talaga). Sakit sa ego ko na ako nagsho-shoulder ng lahat ng expenses and needs ng bata tapos lumalaki ang bata na ibang last name ang dala. Tapos pagdating ng panahon na successful ang bata biglang eepal yung tatay na parang walang nangyari.

[lovely_carrot]

Dad's surname. Eventhough he's an *censored* partner, he is pasado naman as a father. Gives allowance/allotment, sees our kid when he's here for vacation, as in bonding talaga esp if free si junakis.. They also chat/video call online pag free ang tatay.

[mysterioza_me]

Dad's surname. Eventhough he's an *censored* partner, he is pasado naman as a father. Gives allowance/allotment, sees our kid when he's here for vacation, as in bonding talaga esp if free si junakis.. They also chat/video call online pag free ang tatay.

Good for you and for your child sis. He may be a bad partner but atleast he's doing his best to be a dad.

I remember my son telling me that his dad is a bad person and I corrected him. I told him that he's father is not really a bad person, he is just a bad father. Nagulat din ako sa sinabi ko na yun.

[Raserei]

I, UNFORTUNATELY, named by child after the father thinking that we'll eventually get married so para less hassle eh pinasunod ko na sa apelyido nya. My child also liked to change her name para pareho kami ng apelyido kaso ayaw ng tatay. Since I'm getting married soon, I'll just wait after the wedding so I can get the paperworks done. The hubby will adopt my daughter so she gets his name din. Hoping the father won't have objections this time since wala namang napapala ang anak ko sa kanya.

[foxlady]

Pinag-iisipan ko pa kung surname ko o surname ng bf ko ang pagagamit ko sa baby ko.  I have a feeling that we will not end up together naman and hindi ko rin nakikita na magiging responsableng ama sya sa baby ko.  But our relationship is currently ok. 

Gusto ko sanang gamitin ng baby ko ang surname nya dahil ayaw kong maging blank ang middle name ng anak ko.  On the other hand, gusto kong ipagamit sa baby ko ang surname ko dahil ako mag-aalaga, magpapalaki at magmamahal sa anak ko hanggang lumaki sya.

[foxlady]

By the way sisses, ano pala ang irerequire ng hospital sa parents for birth certificate registration ni baby?    Hihingan ba nila kami ng ID or birth certs?

[BillionaireMom]

Nothing wrong with using your surname kung di naman kayo mag end up together ng sperm donor mo. My daughter is using my surname and middle name as well. di ko kasi alam dati na hindi pala dapat. She's now 15 and I am solely responsible for her. Just make sure na may acknowledgment ang tatay sa birth cert para kung maging bilyonaryo ang tatay eh may mahabol ka. HAHAHA! Makaganti lang!

Kidding aside, best talaga kung same surname nyo. May sense of belonging ang bata lalo na kung di naman nagpaparamdam ang ama.

[bubblywobbly]

When I gave birth then surname ko ang ginamit ng son ko hanggang he was 12 years old kasi ayaw namin ng family ko iapelyido sa dad but he signed the acknowledgement sa b. Certificate. Walang sustento until my son was grade 5. Ngayon surname na ng dad ang gamit nya and sya na nagpapaaral and allowance monthly. Buti naman din siguro kasi before wala pa sya permanent job and now na Ofw na eh nahiya na siguro. But sabi ng son ko mas gusto na lang nya surname ko kasi mas feel nya hehe

[Cess Sarah]

Late reply na ko.

I've read sa net na according sa law, pag single ka, you should use your surname and hindi dun sa tatay, not unless kasal kayo.

[mysterioza_me]

Late reply na ko.

I've read sa net na according sa law, pag single ka, you should use your surname and hindi dun sa tatay, not unless kasal kayo.

Pwedeng gamitin ng child ang last name ng dad pagkinilala niya ang bata. May Affidavit sa back portion ng birth certificate na pipirmahan ng tatay kung inaacknowledged nya na kanya ang bata. Pagpinirmahan ng dad yun pwedeng-pwede gamitin ng child ang surname ng dad

[amethyst028]

ang advice ko lang kung hindi pa kayo kasal don't name your child after the father. wait till you get married na lang. pag naka register na kasi mahirap na palitan. there is no law that will allow you to change your children's surname to the mother. adoption process lang which cost 100k or more, very tedious process and could take years hindi ka pa sure kung ma approve.

[Cess Sarah]

Pero okay lang na nakasulat siya sa Father's name at naka-fill up ng admission of paternity tapos surname pa rin ng mother iyong gagamitin ni baby?

[amethyst028]

^no sis. pag sinulat mo siya dun automatic surname niya. may sign kasi siya sa likod ng form na affidavit na ina-acknowledge niya yung bata. unless you don't make him sign there.

maybe you can ask the doctor or someone from the hospital kung pwede ba na surname mo kahit nakasulat ang name ng father sa form. yung fill-up na form kasi yun ang i-submit nila sa city hall. kaya dapat lahat ng nakasulat dun accurate kasi lahat ng info dun lalabas sa birth cert ng anak mo.

[kvandenhaak]

If the dad is MIA, the mom's surname!

[Cess Sarah]

^no sis. pag sinulat mo siya dun automatic surname niya. may sign kasi siya sa likod ng form na affidavit na ina-acknowledge niya yung bata. unless you don't make him sign there.

maybe you can ask the doctor or someone from the hospital kung pwede ba na surname mo kahit nakasulat ang name ng father sa form. yung fill-up na form kasi yun ang i-submit nila sa city hall. kaya dapat lahat ng nakasulat dun accurate kasi lahat ng info dun lalabas sa birth cert ng anak mo.

Ayy ganun? Ang komplikado naman. Nalilito na ko sa mga nababasa ko rin sa internet.

[pinklilac]

Pero okay lang na nakasulat siya sa Father's name at naka-fill up ng admission of paternity tapos surname pa rin ng mother iyong gagamitin ni baby?
[/quote

Hi sis. Eto  case ko.baka makatulong
Hindi kame.kasal ng ex ko.
Gamit ng anak ko ang surname ko pero
Nakapirma si ex sa birth cert ng anak ko bilang patunay na siya ang ama ng bata.
So YES puwede gamitin  ang apelyido  mo