Accidentally saw yaya/helper's FB

[candyjersey]

Hi! I was browsing my Facebook yesterday and biglang lumabas yung name ng yaya namin sa suggested friends ko. I was curious so I checked her profile. I checked all of her posts and nagulat ako sa mga naka-posts.

First: She wore my dress!! Now I'm paranoid anong gamit ko pa ginagalaw niya. And feeling ko pati make-up kit ko ginamit niya.

Second: She posted pics of my niece and saying bestfriend daw niya yun. And nagpost din siya ng pic ng baby ko at pamangkin daw niya yun. (So okay lang sakin baka hindi alam sa FB niya na yaya sya) BUT!!

THIRD: Nagpost siya ng stolen picture ng husband ko! Hindi ko masyado naintindihan kasi bisaya yung conversation nila pero medyo jejemon din kasi magsulat. May mga words lang na sinearch ko lang kay google. Na parang boyfriend daw niya yung asawa ko. So pinakita ko sa husband ko at natawa siya. I think may 3 stolen pics yung husband ko sa profile niya.

For me I trust my husband kasi I know naman na hindi naman siya ganung tao. And seeing her posts, mukhang super ibang level ang mga posts. Ang daming lies sa posts niya. And she took a pic of my mother's iphone saying na bigay daw ng boyfriend niya.

Gustong gusto ko na siya paalisin pero wala kasi makaka-tulong mother ko sa pag-alaga ng baby ko.

Kayo ba ano gagawin niyo kapag ganito nakita niyo?

[j.adore]

I will find a replacement asap. Hate na hate ko yung using my stuff without my knowledge. Plus she's an online poser so you never know other lengths she'll do to post in FB.

[tomatostellar]

that's so creepy! yeah I hope you find a replacement soon

[candyjersey]

^^ Would you tell her the reason kung bakit papaalisin?

^ Thanks! I hope na mkakakuha na ako ng replacement. Whenever I see her na, naaalala ko yung posts niya at naiinis ako.

There's this post pa, we went to the wake of my cousin. She posted it and sabi niya bakit daw iniwan siya agad ng friend niya. hahaha! Hindi nga sila magkakilala nun! grabe lang.

[lovely_carrot]

Get a replacement muna syempre without her knowledge. Then pag ready na pumasok yung kapalit, simply inform her that you decided to let her go (same day termination) because of what you learned. Kung pwede sana don't give her any inkling na alam mo na yung tungkol sa FB nya kasi baka makaisip na gumanti. 


I wouldn't be comfortable having a maid na sinungaling. I mean, I don't care if she's a poser, baka in a way gusto nya lang maramdaman na accepted sya, she can do it as long as its not at my own expense and not in my own house.

[patriciaheart]

Mahirap yan sis, respeto nalang sa eployer nya siguro. Ok lang siguro in a certain level yung mag pangap sya na hinde Nanny. Pero yung unauthorized use ng damit mo, at pag stolen shot ng husband mo as her BF. Baka pag may gawin syang kalokohan eh madamay pa kayo.

[momentum]

sis, may access ba siya sa wifi ninyo sa house? assuming diyan yung pinaggagalingan ng internet connection niya to be able to access FB? if yes, then change your wifi password and never tell her. when she asks you can just say may problema sa wifi  or if you want to be blunt then tell her bumabagal connection dahil nakikigamit siya . I did this sa last yaya ng anak ko, panay fb posts sa gabi and saw she also posted a pic of my kid and my lola. nung hindi na siya maka access sa wifi, nabawasan na posts niya to 1x a month or in 2 months. syempre gastos sa kanya yun to load her phone kaya humina.

second, prohibit her from taking pics of your kid, the house etc. actually, prohibit her from using her phone during work hours niya. tell her this is your new rule. and that may security issues ka about taking pics. keep the phone with you and give it to her lang during breaks and at night. I did this before sa dating kong yaya na sobrang text addict at panay tawag, na pinapabayaan na work. wala siyang reklamo coz I warned her too many times about her phone use kaya umabot na sa ganun.

before she leaves, ask for her phone, and delete the pics of your kid, etc. ginawa ko ito sa same yaya ko before. kasi mama niya and other relatives ay marunong mangkulam/mag"basa"..based sa mga kwento niya samin before kapag may problem siya, she just tells the details sa mom, with the name and pic and the mom can tell na kung ano yung issue..I was afraid she might do something to hurt my kid ..I just wanted to make sure so I asked for her phone asap before siya umalis and I had her delete the pics in front of me. pati yung sa fb.

kung ako yan sis, fired na siya asap, pero bago yan kakausapin ko muna mama ko and tell her all those things she did, I am sure she will understand and help you. it is not funny..scary siya ha..

[gwyne21]

To TS, if I were in your situation, papalitan ko na rin yang yaya na ganyan. For me unacceptable yung mga ganung gawain (lies, using your stuff, etc). Hanap ka na ng kapalit then once okay na yun.. give your yaya notice of termination. Tell her the reason kung bakit. I also agree with sis momentum about wifi access and deleting pics bago siya umalis.

[momentum]

and if I were in your shoes sis, bago ko siya paalisin, aside from making her delete in front of me yung mga pics sa phone niya, I will have her open her FB too in front of me and let her know I know what she has been doing. Lahat ng posts niya ipapadelete ko sa kanya, and reprimand her that she shouldn't do that, tatakutin ko rin siya na kung pumalag siya about the deleting her posts, tatawag ako ng baranggay and file a case, takutan lang ba, para madala at hopefully hindi na niya gagawin sa iba. sabihin mo part yan ng cybercrime law 

and don't forget to check every single thing inside her bag before she leaves, as well as her pockets. you'll never know

and next time you hire a yaya, let it be part of your house rules ang bawal mag take ng pics of your family at lalong lalo na about posting it in social media. and never give your wifi password, ever.

[quinone]

^better to do that in front of a third party like the barangay or whoever, kasi it is your word against her baka sabihin inabuse pa siya diyan sa inyo. hindi siya liar...crazy siya, kaya if i were in your shoes paalisin ko na yan asap may kapalit man o wala.

[candyjersey]

Thanks sis sa replies. I actually don't like yung idea na nagpapagamit ng wifi. But yung husband ko kasi masyado mabait at siya pa yung nagbibigay ng password sa yaya and sa dati naming yaya. Baka daw kasi ma-inip. etc..

Sis @momentum I wish I have a strong personality like you! Hindi ko alam paano yan gagawin. Minsan nga masigawan ko lang, after that naguguilty na ako. And worry ko din baka kung ano gawin after kaya iniisip ko wag sabihin about FB. Nakakalito! Gusto ko sabihin na parang ayoko. Issue is yung security.

[momentum]

^better get the cooperation ng husband mo sis about the wifi access. coz hindi rin maganda na laging connected sila sa internet, just like the example ng yaya mo, na nakaisip ng gagawing mali. mas okay ng mainip siya kesa naman ganyan gagawin diba? buti kasi if hindi niya ginagawa yan eh. so first step mo talaga sis is change the password ng wifi asap. I tell you, mababawasan ang pag post niya sa FB. tried and tested na yan. kung wala ka gagawin about it sis, she will just continue doing what she is doing, thinking ok lang. kaya nip it in the bud asap, putulin ang wifi access! 

how is she sa pag-aalaga ng anak mo pala and her other household chores? nagagawa ba ng maayos? kasi based sa experience ko sa mga yaya na mahilig magtxt, call, fb, nako..guaranteed ang sama ng trabaho. kelangan paulit ulit mo sisitahin kasi lagi silang distracted.

^^ tama sis na in front of the baranggay but ito na ang worse case scenario like if she makes a scene or what. sa amin kasi, normal lang at SOP talaga na chinecheck yung bags before leaving.

 pati yung ultimo pag day-off at maliit lang na bag dadalhin, I still check. no issues sa kanila ito kasi sanay na sila. you just have to tell them lang naman kasi sa umpisa ano mga rules mo..tsaka since binabayaran naman natin sila we have the right to make new rules to be implemented.

kapag may malaking kasalanan sila kaya ko sila pinapaalis, I let them know bakit mali ginawa nila and as much as possible (ito ay depende sa yaya, matatancha mo naman) I still am respectful at careful sa pagpili ng words, kumbaga nagpapangaral..kaya hindi nila masasabi na inabuso sila kasi you still treated them with respect inspite sa ginawa nila. at hindi ganun kabigat yung goodbyes ninyo sa isat isa hehe. kahit kumukulo ka na sa loob  ewan ko ba, sa dami ba naman na dumaan na lokolokong yaya sakin eh I learn something new sa larangan ng mga kalokohan nila, kaya careful na huwag maulit sa next

[smoothie]

Scary sis. Better find a replacement. Baka ma single white female ka dyan. hehe! joke!

[prettysummer]

TS, please screenshots all her fb post para may katibayan kang hawak.

Pinaka ayoko is sinungaling. Nakakatakot kasi. They can lie about everything. Lalo na may anak ka pa. Hindi ako magiging komportable na iwan ang anak ko sa sinungaling at magnanakaw.

If natatakot kang gumawa ng move, asks for help, sa husband mo, sa mom mo or sa mother in law mo.

[chicafabulosa]

Better to fire her. that is a scary one sis. the fact she is using your things without your permission and posting pics of your family claiming it was hers, thats a red flag already. but do not forget to screenshot all her FB pages that will show na she is indeed using your stuff without permission specially yung posts nya about your husband, niece and your kid. para wala rin syang lusot sakali.

[snowberry]

When I fired a maid na may ginawang kalokohan , pinaghandaan ko rin talaga  (ex. statements nung kapitbahay na nakakita ). so kahit  anong pagsisinungaling eh walang lusot. The day came, I gave her last pay and pinapirma ko ng  quit claim in tagalog at in explain ko rin kung ano yung laman . Siempre surprised at todo denial , pero umamin man siya o hindi sinabi ko talaga yung dahilan kung bakit ko siya pinapaalis .

Ihahatid ko sana sa car  hanggang gate ng subdivision pero ayaw sumama kasi akala pala niya dadalhin ko siya sa pier ,lols eh ayaw nya talaga umuwi sa province . So doon ko na lang inihatid sa homeowners office namin at para may witness din ako na wala siyang sugat, galos etc.  Baka kasi baligtarin ako, sabihin binugbog ko siya. You know those kind of people na magaling sa kalokohan, expect na gagawa rin ng istorya either para hindi mapahiya o "makaganti ".

Also , a day bago ko pala siya pinaalis , ipina blotter ko din sa barangay. Nagpapasok kasi ng lalaki ng madaling araw habang tulog na tulog kami. Mabuti na lang may kapitbahay na nakakita . Masyado kasing "makate" itong si inday. Two months pa lang nakadali n ng boylet samantalag may asawa sa probinsiya. hay naku sakit talaga sa ulo.Sana may Robot na lang na maimbento na kasambahay.

So kung ako sa iyo paalisin mo na rin yan. i screen shot mo FB nya as evidence. Cut her access to internet asap ( pero screen shot mo muna FB , baka makahalata) .

[killbill]

To TS kahit walang wifi may free fb naman. Ngayon pa lang i screenshot mo na yung mga posts nya sa fb.

[momentum]

[quote author=snowberry Nagpapasok kasi ng lalaki ng madaling araw habang tulog na tulog kami. Mabuti na lang may kapitbahay na nakakita . Masyado kasing "makate" itong si inday. Two months pa lang nakadali n ng boylet samantalag may asawa sa probinsiya.
[/quote]

This was exactly what our previous maid did. And it did not happen only once. It happened several times. Kaya pala biglang nasira yung malaking padlock ng back garden gate namin! Duon dumadaan. Construction worker yung lalake from a neighbor that stays-in. Actually, nakipag landian din sa guards namin back then sa barracks nila. Grabe talaga sa kati at lagim kinalat nila dito. Kaya wala narin those guards dito. After that we we double-lock our gates with padlocks na. Madami pa talaga siya ginawa, ang sasama talaga. Usually malalaman mo nalang yung ibang details kapag wala na siya. Kaya TS be very careful and aware parati..

[khaleesiCersei]

I think delikado ang may ganyan kasama sa bahay. Parang may psychological problem si ate. Single white female ang peg. Get a replacement asap.

[candyjersey]

I want to fire her asap pero walang replacement. Yung replacement dapat from my sister eh nakakuha na daw ng work. Nakakatakot din naman sa agency kumuha. haaaay sana makakuha na ako talaga!

Sis @snowberry nakakatakot naman yan! nagpapasok ng guy!

Ang hirap makahanap ng maayos na helper ngayon. At yun nga ang hirap niya na pagkatiwalaan kaya sana talaga makahanap na ko.

Sis @momentum naka-ilang helper ka bago nakakuha ng matino? hehe