Is there anyone who have near Perfect Marriage? Share naman!

[lovemeagain30]

Anyone among you who are lucky to experience a 'near' perfect marriage? I'm referring to NEW marriages (like less than 7 years) ah. Out of honeymoon stage but kept that fire burning hot!  Aahh, sabi ni Mama ko walang ganun. Lahat ng s*** ng couple lalabas after "makasal' ng couple. She really means "kasal" ah at hindi basta live in couple lang. Iba parin daw yun. Lalo na kapag nagka anak na.. Sabi ko naman sakanya malay mo naman 'Ma baka meron! 

I've known my ex bf/bestfriend now hubby for many years before we decided to become a couple.. then 2 years after we decided to elope.. another 2 years passed we decided to get married.. then 2 years after that,, we no longer the same person when we started! nyahaha.. He was and I believe still my very best friend pero ngayon mag asawa na kami and if there are conflicts,, hindi na ganun ang approach namin sa problem unlike nung mag jowa kami at hindi pa kasal na. Madalas nga gusto nalang namin magsakalan!  Hindi ko namention pala may mga anak na kami ah!  Natatawa nga ko minsan sa sarili ko kasi sa tagal ko na siyang kilala, nasasabi ko lately na may '*censored*' personality ang asawa ko! Malamang din nadiscover niya ngayon may ugali din pala akong 'b****'!! 

I love celebrity weddings (local man or foreign) and when I watched interviews about their lives 'after' their wedding and they say na "wow may hubby/wife is super maalaga sakin and I'm super blessed for marrying her/him" or "cant believe im already married to him/her",,  I often find myself reacting like "Really??" nyahaha.

Pero sabi ko nga kay Mama ko baka naman meron nga diyan. You know baka hindi lang namin alam. So anyone who is experiencing this 'near' perfect marriage, please Share! We would like to be inspired more. 

[j.adore]

Hehe how do you define near perfect marriage?

Parang impossible kasi you bring two different people together. Even if you share so much common things with each other, meron at meron pa din differences.

In my circles, wala niyan even in past generations. Talagang you will have to go through difficulties and the next best thing is weather it together.

[Girltalker2]

I believe there are. TS, Kung definition mo ng near perfect eh yung pagsasama na maayos, walang extra marital affairs, may respect sa isa't isa at lagi nila gusto magkasama together?

Meron naman. Pero baka 1 in 1 million couples . Though pag may office mates ako that flaunt about their happy marriages, I'm just happy for her, but I usually remain skeptical. Kasi nga bihira Na iyan especially pag Pinoy ang hubby.  Bottom line siguro it doesn't matter Kung anong alam ng iba. Importante Ikaw mismo masaya sa relationship mo, kasi it makes all the difference to have a more meaningful life.

[lovemeagain30]

To Girtalker2 yup i also hear newlyweds (mostly celebrities) who would say 'Oh I love being Married to her/him! " Parang ako eh,  " Really?? WTF! (with raised eyebrows)" Ahahaha..

Yeah not being a nega at all pero Marriage is HARDWORK right? At least for my case, it is.  And I would say this that it won't matter how long you've known the person. It's just that they became different AFTER you've married them. For my part I probably did changed as well. Words of wisdom nga ng isang kakilala ko nuon before I got married, " You see girl in a matter of 5 years you will be a changed person after you've entered that commitment". I'd say she was right.

I still Love being married though! ( Yikes baka meron din mag raised ng eyebrows diyan..hahaha) But I would like to hear stories of normal people like me who kept their honeymoon relationship Even after the honeymoon stage. Pang inspiration lang sa mga tao tulad ko. I'm a hopeless romantic when i was younger and i'm sucker for real life romantic stories.

[Girltalker2]

I'm a hopeless romantic when i was younger and i'm sucker for real life romantic stories.

This. This is important. For BOTH individuals. Para din naman iyan sa pagsasama nyo. Kasi Kung sasabihan natin Na alam naman Ng asawa ko mahal ko sya Pero wala kang ginagawa to reinforce that, puede talaga kayo magka inisan instead Na mag mahalan. May guys ayaw mag pda or di romantic, di ko alam how they express things, but it can sometimes become an issue sa mag asawa if one is not expressive.

Kaya for singles, Kung hahanap lang kayo ng partner, make sure romantic!

[120515]

when we had our catholic engaged encounter, we saw two very good examples of great marriages, they were not perfect, but they shared with us how hard they worked in keeping their relationship strong. i also had bosses who have wonderful marriages inspite of their very busy careers. another one is our solemnizer's marriage. the common ingredient in all of them - keep God at the center of your marriage. this is also what all of them advised to us and these are all different people, from different walks of life

[gwyne21]

Curious din ako about dito... meron nga ba? same with one sis, i also believed in romance (mala-pocketbook/novel/romcom type) and now that i am married... ang layo pala ng reality sa nababasa..hehe..
i have been married for almost 2 years with 1 baby. i also work full time kaya less time as a couple. hindi rin siguro na nakatulong na hindi showy/romantic hubby ko... iba kami ng love language.. minsan naiisip ko..this is it na ba? not what i expected/envision it to be... hayyy
 

[aquacharly]

IMO, we all have near-perfect marriages some days, or most days, but definitely not everyday. 

[hypergalactix13]

ewan ko tingin ko wala.. hehe. kung meron mang perfect or almost perfect marriages, boring yun.

[Janelc]

Definitely not mine! Some days are near perfect some days are bad. IMO a near perfect marriage does not exist. Ours is a work in progress pero habang tumatagal you learn not to sweat the small stuff just to keep the peace ganun din si hubby hindi na pinapatulan ang lahat ng kaartehan ko.

[twelvth_goddess]

My husband and I have been together for 10 years now and while there are times when I want to cut his head off, I'm still very much in love with him and I think ganon din naman sya based pn his actions.

Marriage is not easy, it's a choice. Staying in love is the hardest part in being married. It's a challenge to keep the love burning as the years go on. May times nagddwindle ang fire but kelangan that you both work to keep it burning.

[Nuriko]

Pano ba yung near perfect na yun? 5 years married here, 1 year live in, 3 years magjowa.

Ok na ok kasi ako sa marriage ko. Masasabi kong near perfect ang marriage namin kasi magkasundo kami sa halos lahat ng bagay.  Parang best friends. Or siguro best friends nga. Nasasakyan ko trip nya at ganun din sya sa akin. Madalas nauubos ang oras naming dalawa sa hobbies na pareho naming ginagawa ng magkasama. Mga simpleng tao lang kami. Wala kami nung love language na yan. Maayos communication namin. Kung anong gusto mo, sabihin mo ng diretso. Di pa lumipas ang 24 hours na magkaaway kami. Wag naman sana. At willing kami magbago para sa ikabubuti ng pagsasama namin. Actually ang dami na naming nagawang adjustment sa isa't isa. May kanya kanyang ugali kasi. hardwork? oo at siguro team work? Hindi kami nanonood ng celebrity weddings kasi parang puro arte lang. Masaya kami siguro dahil bago pa lang kami?

wala pa kasi kaming baby kaya siguro parang magjowa lang kami at yun ang prob namin. Kasi sa tagal na namin at ttc kami at parehong may work, minsan mga wala kaming gana. parang chore na. nakakalungkot.. curious pa naman kami sa kung anong klase kaming magulang.

naiinis ako sa sarili ko bakit ang haba ko lagi magpost. haha.

[Shadow Angel]

Define perfect marriage? IMO magkakaiba tayo ng definition nito kasi magkakaiba ang ang level ng satisfaction at happiness natin naniniwala ko dyan na choice mo kung saan ka sasaya? Madalas ako makapag encounter ng question na about destiny mo ang tao or life mo parang ako palagi ang naiiba opinion sa mga friends or colleagues kodito lang ako nakakabasa ng may kapareho ako ng opinion na happiness is a choice. Teka bakit parang layo ko hahaha .. Agree ako ng team work kasi if isang lang ang gumagawa ng way para magsuccess ang marriage parang in the end hindi rin magiging forever kasi darating ang time ang malimit gumagawa ng way mapapagod din kaya  team effort talaga. Bago pa lang kami kaya hindi ko pa masasabi for now. Non religious kami pareho kaya hindi applicable sa amin about God being the center of our marriage (naniniwala ako may Diyos to clarify lang) kaya lang hindi ako naniniwala sa religion or priest or pastor.

[super bratinella]

As we always believe that there is no perfect marriage but we have a perfect God in the center of our marriage..

[jimemea]

..More than 7 years na kami married ng husband ko with 2 kids. Each one of us has it own flaws pero masaya pa rin kami. One time i asked my husband buti hindi siya nagsasawa/nagagalit sa akin pag inaaway ko siya, sabi naman niya part ng buhay mag asawa ang away, hindi nawawala. So it's just a matter of acceptance, respect and love. Minsan din  ako naman ask nya bakit hindi pa ako nagsasawa sa kanya, sagot ko naman wag lang siya mambabae para hindi ko siya ibalik sa nanay niya.

Unwritten rule namin mag asawa, no cursing kapag mag aaway and dont ever mention the word ' hiwalay' kasi lahat naman ng prob may solution.

Lambing ganun pa rin kahit nung hindi pa kami mag asawa pero syempre napapadalas sagutan/away regarding sa kids, finances and other stuff.

[happytalker]

What is perfect? As in walang away, walang problema, walang differences throughout the marriage?  I don‘t think it is possible.  But we can take the word ‘perfect‘ to mean happy then naniniwala naman ako na marami pa rin  niyan. 

Normal naman that people change as years go by, nagmamature lalo or paurong (hahaha). Events/circumstances (like having kids), people we meet affects our personality and beliefs which would eventually affect our relationship with hubby/wife.  IMO, as we go through changes and notice changes in our partners, we should TRY to accommodate, accept and adjust, hanggat sa makakaya natin, for the peace and happiness of the marriage.  For me, near perfect na yan.

BTW, 10 years married and still counting.....

[FayeP]

I guess not perfect pero masasabi ko na happy and contented naman kami...


so far wala kami major na away, lalo na pagdating sa pera, di pa kami nag-away because of that.

sa bahay wala din kami gaano issue kasi parang nasanay na kami sa work flow kaya walang nagsusumbatan na pagod si ganito, dapat si ganyan maglinis, mag ayos etc...

we still text each other ng parang nagkukulitan...we still joke around and laugh a lot sa bahay...we go out ng kami lang para mag movie or kumain...magsimba ng kami lang dalawa.  sex is still wow...so all things considered ok naman....

6 years married na kami and with two kids na...ang malaking question nito ay kung hanggang saan or ano ang pwede gawin para manatili sa ganitong state un marriage =)

[sarsingkit]

Growing old together. Just like with friends, there are friends that you do not outgrow and I try my best not outgrow my husband or that we do not grow apart.

We do not fight over money, we do not fight about running the household. So at that point, we are okay.

We still call each other, we make jokes and reminisce about the good things in the past. What I love about reminiscing is we laugh and make jokes about how were when we were young. We do not say." dati ganito ka, bakit ngayon iba ka na?" We always recognize that we have grown so much. We help each other meet our goals, we fulfill each others dreams.

We are not yet blessed with a child and it is a rollercoaster of emotions. I feel happy and sad at the same time because having just the 2 of us, I already feel complete. I do not feel incomplete being childless. I want a baby but it is on the happiest days that the Universe seems to be telling, "you don't need one."

[contala]

God centered marriage for me is a nearly perfect marriage that whatever problems,trials your marriage can encounter you overcome together.Togetherness in everything kahit dumadating talaga sa time na di kayo magkasundo eh pinipili niyo na maayos ang relasyon niyo rather than proving who is right and who is wrong.

[yn061515]

IMO, we all have near-perfect marriages some days, or most days, but definitely not everyday.

This is true.
IMO, we are where we are because were supposed to be here and not somewhere else, or someone else's pants! lol. ang gulo.

there are days na sobrang mahirap na may-asawa, lalo when the going gets tough. Minsan, not enough funds, not enough time, expectations aren't met, not enough romance, not that much too talk about, etc. I have known my husband since 2011 and we lived together from 2012 till 2014 when we got married. Now, we have a 15month old and I can honestly say that I am happy and contented on most days. Yes, on most days but not everyday.

IMO ulit, nasa klase ng pagkatao nyong mag-asawa at nasa pag-uusap at diskarte sa buhay at relasyon. Madaming beses na gusto kong ibalik si husband sa matres ng nanay nya kasi nakakainis at nakakasawa, pero at the end of the day narerealize ko na mabuting tao ang asawa ko at maldita lang talaga ako.

Kahit hindi perpekto ang pagsasama namin, I love my husband so much and I can feel his love for me too. Kahit ano pa ang pagdaanan namin, we rely on each other at iniinspire ang isat isa na pasasaan pa at lilipas din ang phase nayun.

IMO ulit, yung mga celebritites na sobrang saya kuno na naikasal sila sa mga partners nila,at yung mga friends natins a social media na wagas makapag post na happy and contented, cannot ask for anything else... mga echosera haha! Sabi ko nga kay husband and sa mga friends ko pag may nakikita akong ganito, "ay, wag ako!" hahaha. Hindi natin alam ang nangyayari inside the 4 corners of their home and I wish for these people to just stay quiet and not boast that much. IMO lang. lol