Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 7)

[edna_mode]

thanks mga sis dito lang din sa GT nakaka pag kwento ng mga wedding woes. Stressful truly pero "keep your eye on the prize" na ang mantra namin ni fiance

sis f878 mag set aside ka din ng day or time (weekday probably?) kahit after work and take her to the the mall/department store. Bring her to the formal wear section just to get a feel of the kind of dresses she goes for ninja moves hihi.. mother daughter bonding.. Even if wala sha mapili or mabili at least she gets to shop with you and she gets to see her options I suggested the mall/department stores para lang hindi sha mabigla. You guys can escape or grab coffee if it gets overwhelming for her

[Maxim04]

my sorta kinda problem is my mother. 2 weeks na lang before the wedding and wala pa syang damit! 
i've asked her so many times to buy na pero lage nyang sinasabi na sya na lang pipili at bibili. di ko rin naman sya masamahan since puro meetings kame pag weekends. feeling ko medyo in-denial pa sya na ikakasal ang panganay nya kase almost every time na pinag-uusapan yung kasal ko tumatahimik sya o kaya ngingiti lang. ang cute lang ng nanay ko pero sana makabili na syang damit! haha!

Naku sis in denial nga si mother! hehe. Baka naman meron na siyang damit ayaw lang niya ipakita or ipaalam sa iyo? hehe. 😉
Or baka gusto niya surprise rin dress niya. 
Ask her bestfriend or kapatid, baka nahihiya siya sa iyo. Or kung in denial nga siya, lalong hindi siya bibili ng dress na kasama ka.. Two cents! 

[bonzaigirl]

Hi sis minsan our mothers may mga sentiyemento yan. hehe. Especially since you are the panganay. So probably she's thinking na iiwan mo na sya. I think she probably just wants some one on one time with you. Minsan mga mums natin naghahanap lang yan ng konting TLC especially since sabi mo n rin, most of the time you are busy. Like what one of our sis had previously suggested,maybe it's best to allocate some one on one time with your mum, and have some mum-daughter bonding. Sa mga shopping malls wherein you could help choose what she's gonna wear.  She probably wants some approval from you as well kung ano yung best na susuotin nya. Hope this helps sis

[f878]

sis yannuh, actually wala pa kaming idea. haha! though malapit yung church namin sa baclaran and may mga rtw's din dun na medyo ok. mas pricey lang ng slight sa divi pero nakakapagod kase maglibot sa divi. hehe though yes, madami din akong nakitang ok sa landmark.

love your mantra sis edna_mode! that's the right mindset talaga.
sis 120515, my mother and i are not really the girl bonding types and she's very shy and timid while may pagka-dominante naman ang personality ko. baka kase magkaron ako ng tendency to bully her into buying a dress para lang matapos na. hehe

sis Maxim04, naku. wala talaga! haha! gusto nya at her own pace sya bibili. i've asked my sister to help her pero ayaw din ni mother. i'll ask my titas and her friends na kulitin din sya maghanap.

true sis bonzaigirl. kaya i always remind my mother na i'll visit often. hindi rin kase sya expressive masyado sa feelings nya kaya i think yung pag-dodge nya ng pagbili ng gown is her way of saying that she'll miss me. which i understand and appreciate naman. kaso pag sinamahan ko kase sya, baka nga mag-away lang kame pag di sya makapili or mag-iyakan kame in public kase ikakasal na ko. haha!

[120515]

had to lol on that last bit, f878 i do
hope your mom finally comes around and gets herself a dress.

[belle_v2g]

I agree with sis bonzaigirl, sis f878.. mum needs some time with you.. naglalambing lang sya syempre kahit ikakasal ka na you'll always be her little girl. nako mukhang iyakan yan sa wedding! hihi..

sis bonzaigirl! Today's your wedding (civil) tama?? Congratulations sissy!!!

[f878]

yes sis belle_v2g! minsan nga iniisip ko pa lang naiiyak na ko. what more on the day! kawawa naman ang hmua namin ni mama. haha
mukhang ayaw nya talaga na kasama ako mamili but she promised naman na bibili sya this week. *cross fingers*

our wedding's next week na and feeling ko parang ang dami ko pang hindi nagagawa! this is what i get for procrastinating. hehe
naniniwala na talaga ako na it's never too early to plan a wedding sa panahon ngayon. 

[120515]

wow! just a few more days, f878! don't worry! everything will fall into place

[Maxim04]

our wedding's next week na and feeling ko parang ang dami ko pang hindi nagagawa! this is what i get for procrastinating. hehe
naniniwala na talaga ako na it's never too early to plan a wedding sa panahon ngayon. 

Yay next week na kaagad! ang bilis nga!

[toria]

Hi girls, I want to get your opinion on this.
We're planning of not getting bridesmaid/groomsmen
(due to budget constraint and para wala din masyadong magtampo kung sinong di mapipili)
We only have maid of honor/best man and secondary sponsors (which are all family related)

May suggestions ba kayo on how I can make my friends part padin ng wedding kahit di sila bridesmaid?

[shygirlme]

^hi sis. catholic or christian wedding? if catholic sis pwede sila mag 1st and 2nd reading then sa offertory pwede din sila

[toria]

^Catholic sis. Yung sa reading itatanong ko pa sa church kung pwede. Yung ibang church kasi lector talaga ang gusto.

How do you tell your friends na sorry wala akong bridesmaid? baka ma-sad sila haha

[Maxim04]

Hi girls, I want to get your opinion on this.
We're planning of not getting bridesmaid/groomsmen
(due to budget constraint and para wala din masyadong magtampo kung sinong di mapipili)
We only have maid of honor/best man and secondary sponsors (which are all family related)

May suggestions ba kayo on how I can make my friends part padin ng wedding kahit di sila bridesmaid?

Hi sis! you can assign roles sa church for them. like ushers, offertory, readings, choir, kung gusto nila, hehe. sa reception naman they can be the one to distribute souvenirs, ushers para sa seating arrangement, guide sa VIP seats,, distribute ng crew meals, assign a person to collect monetary gifts, or standby dun sa mga gifts na bulky. 

[shygirlme]

^if they are your true friends maiintindihan nila. ako personally kahit wala akong role basta andon ako to attend their wedding mapapasaya ko na yung bride and groom non

[toria]

@shygirlme @Maxim04

Thanks mga sis. Kinakabahan lang ako on how to tell them na di sila bridesmaid.
I think most of them are really aiming for it based on mga parinig.

[yannuh]

Agree with sis shygirl. If they are really your true friends, maiintindihan nila yun at magiging happy sila kasi invited silang mawitness yung wedding mo:)

[juwie]

Sis toria,  think of it in a positive way. Since wala kayo ento na friends, less chances of anyone getting tampo that they weren't chosen. At least if no one is getting the role from your friends, then none of them should feel bad. In the end they can only respect the couple's decision that the family comes first. ☺

[toria]

Thank you girls, wish me luck .

[120515]

hi toria, we're the same, i also don't have any bridesmaids or groomsmen or flower girls or little boy bearers of things (rings, bibles, arrhae). i'm sure your friends will understand when you explain to them your reasons.

so far, i only had to deal with one person about this. my cousin asked me whether she can be a bridesmaid and i told her that we are budgeting our wedding expenses very carefully and because of that we opted not to have the wedding entourage, just the key people. she understood and even told me that what's important is the marriage right after.

so don't worry too much about it. from my experience, only explain when you have to like when someone directly asks you whether she can be a bridesmaid in your wedding

[toria]

^Thanks sis, maybe I'll do that na lang. If they don't ask then no need to tell them hehe.

I don't want my entourage to spend for the dress and makeup too which is why h2b and I would like to cover all expenses kaya we are only getting the key people too.

Who will carry your rings and arrhae sis? I'm thinking of not getting little boys also for this since most of our nephews are big kids na din naman.