Reasons why spouses cheat

[j.adore]

I cannot find a similar thread. Please merge in case meron na pala.

Found this article today and the finding was accurate dun sa kakilala ko
http://m.kickerdaily.com/study-financially-dependent-spouses-especially-husbands-more-likely-to-cheat/

If someone doesn't feel equal to the partner on an important aspect in life, he or she is likely to cheat.

I used to think it's on values or the couple was not able to nurture their relationship. But this friend, shocking to know na magawa niya yun. Reason niya is hindi sila same level (intellectually) ng partner niya.

Equality ba talaga core reason or it's truly a case to case basis and we can't analyze or watch out for it?

[Girltalker2]

Ako tingin ko factor yung magka ibang level sila intellectually. But it is not entirely the reason.

In choosing a partner dapat ma-sustain ninyo ang relationship, and you can do that if both of you have common things to do and discuss. Usually nagsasawa kasama kasi you outgrow each other. Nag Iba ang interest and wala nang things to do or interact.

[jesusadusa]

hubby is an OFW.  two years ago i found out he was cheating on me.  may ka SOC na ex high school classmate.  when i confronted him his answer was "lalake lang daw sya, may pangangailangan"  Nyeta nya! 

[Mej1986]

i don't know if you can call it cheating: Nahuli ko may ka chat si husband and she call her FUBU!
But i am so sure na dipa sila nag kikita nito. His even asking for her pearl pix. yaaaaaaaaaaaaks!

I hate him so much that day. Pero sinuyo nya ako and told me and say sorry. He said it was his dark side, hirap siyang tangalin sa systema nya maki chat. Pero never pa nya na try at never daw nya gagawin na makipag kita.  i just hope so.

[PinKisH_23]

^ingat ka sis. I once thought hubby would not cheat on me. Hinayaan ko lang sya sa trip nya sa pakikipag chat, till one day I woke up and learned about all his cheating. SOP/SEXCHAT/text mates, then 1 girl na pumatol sa kanya, relationship/etc na nakilala lahat sa chat.

[Pink_Sugar]

^nabiktima rin ako ng KAMPANTE mode na yan.

[pikapika2501]

"THERE'S NO REASON AT ALL"

[IamLuningning]

There's no exact reason. Sometimes they just have the chance and made a choice. Sad but true.

[vainmom]

I once asked my hubby about this (though never pa cya ngloko). Kapag nagger daw yung wife. Pag uwi mo pa lang daw nagagalit na.hindi maasikaso.samantalang ang kabit daw, maasikaso , hindi nagger. Taka kayo bakit alam niya pero wala cya kabit? Kasi most of his friends my kabit atmostly daw yung sinasabi nila reasons.

[j.adore]

Ako tingin ko factor yung magka ibang level sila intellectually. But it is not entirely the reason.

In choosing a partner dapat ma-sustain ninyo ang relationship, and you can do that if both of you have common things to do and discuss. Usually nagsasawa kasama kasi you outgrow each other. Nag Iba ang interest and wala nang things to do or interact.

But people change.. So at the time of getting married or choosing a partner, di mo naman malalaman yung changes that would happen between the two. Like what if at the start may commonalities but through time, 1 or 2 changes?

hubby is an OFW.  two years ago i found out he was cheating on me.  may ka SOC na ex high school classmate.  when i confronted him his answer was "lalake lang daw sya, may pangangailangan"  Nyeta nya! 

Do you do SOC with him?

i don't know if you can call it cheating: Nahuli ko may ka chat si husband and she call her FUBU!
But i am so sure na dipa sila nag kikita nito. His even asking for her pearl pix. yaaaaaaaaaaaaks!

I hate him so much that day. Pero sinuyo nya ako and told me and say sorry. He said it was his dark side, hirap siyang tangalin sa systema nya maki chat. Pero never pa nya na try at never daw nya gagawin na makipag kita.  i just hope so.

Tanggalin sa systema meaning he's been doing this before you met?

"THERE'S NO REASON AT ALL"

Oh dear

There's no exact reason. Sometimes they just have the chance and made a choice. Sad but true.

Like grabbing an opportunity though it seems more of feeding the ego -- Wouldn't this be a reason?

I once asked my hubby about this (though never pa cya ngloko). Kapag nagger daw yung wife. Pag uwi mo pa lang daw nagagalit na.hindi maasikaso.samantalang ang kabit daw, maasikaso , hindi nagger. Taka kayo bakit alam niya pero wala cya kabit? Kasi most of his friends my kabit atmostly daw yung sinasabi nila reasons.

Hmmm, di ba wives don't become naggers just because they woke up one day and wanted to. Based on what my relatives say, it's because of husbands and children na makukulit kaya nagiging nagger ang mga dating tahimik na babae.

[Janelc]

I once asked my hubby about this (though never pa cya ngloko). Kapag nagger daw yung wife. Pag uwi mo pa lang daw nagagalit na.hindi maasikaso.samantalang ang kabit daw, maasikaso , hindi nagger. Taka kayo bakit alam niya pero wala cya kabit? Kasi most of his friends my kabit atmostly daw yung sinasabi nila reasons.

Sis pag si kabit pinangakuan ni husband na iiwan ang pamilya nya para sa kanya at hindi kayang panindigan ni husband yun pinangako nya ewan ko lang kung aasikasuhin pa sya  hindi rin maging nagger si kabit lols.

[IamLuningning]

Feeding the ego. Sinubukan kung may asim pa sila or kaya pa nila kahit married na.

[twenty5]

What is SOC po?

[Pink_Sugar]

^sex on chat

[snowberry]

I once asked my hubby about this (though never pa cya ngloko). Kapag nagger daw yung wife. Pag uwi mo pa lang daw nagagalit na.hindi maasikaso.samantalang ang kabit daw, maasikaso , hindi nagger. Taka kayo bakit alam niya pero wala cya kabit? Kasi most of his friends my kabit atmostly daw yung sinasabi nila reasons.

I call these reasons as palusot ng lalaki. Lagi na lang wife ang may kasalanan. Abg dami kong kilala mabait ang wife, maasikaso, maganda , never naging nagger, pero si lalaki may kabit pa rin.
Meron namang guys na simple lang asawa, may pagka maingay din at hindi kagandahan ugali pero stick pa rin husband nila sa kanila.
 As I mentioned in the other thread, it all boils down sa values na nainstill sa kanila at sa upbringing nila . Huwag na nila isisi sa asawa nila . Mahina lang din sila sa temptation.

[aquacharly]

Any reason will do; we will run out of space & time if we list it and discuss it all.

The undeniable reality is:  An itch was scratched, regardless of the consequences.

Why couldn't the itch be ignored?   
Multiple Choice yan (I got these from philanderers themselves ha!):
  (A). God gave Man 2 heads (1 above the waist, 1 below); but gave him only enough blood supply to fuel 1 head at any 1 time;
  (B). Men are like dogs, they fck around.
  (C). Women shop around, men fck around.
  (D). When a man sees big boobs, his IQ drops to the bra cup size of the big boobs.
  (E).  Masarap ang bawal
  (F).  "Nobody stopped me"
  (G).  She was asking for it!
Etc etc etc

A "profound" explanation:
A philanderer rationalizes his cheating; and goes back repeatedly to rationalize his rationalizations. 

[jesusadusa]

Do you do SOC with him?

sometimes. pero ang funny thing there eh nandun naman ako sa piling nya that time, nakabakasyon ako sa flat nya.  as in humihirit pa rin sya ng chat with this woman maski nandun na ako???  may message pa sya na meron daw syang bantay kaya sa office na lang sila nagcha chat.  naisip ko  tuloy baka sakit na nya yun pagiging menyak