Ugaling Pinoy na di mo gusto.

[hushush]

Ugaling pinoy na di ko gusto, itong ugali ko ngayon, nasa anak ko na naman halos ang lahat ng award na hahangarin ng isang student.., high honors, may special award pa at co-corricular awards pero andun yung extreme desire ko na sya ang ideclare na top1 sa recognition day... Hindi naman siguro ganun ka-evil desire given na may qualification at pinaghirapan din naman nya..Dapat wag ako masyado umasa at maghangad para di masaktan kung hindi matupad ang hinahangad! Yun yung gusto ko maalis sa sarili ko! 😊

[bratty]

^ganyan talaga ang parent/s. Congrats sa achievement ng anak mo sis! 😊

[hushush]

^tnx sis! 😃 this is what i dont like about summer, bukod sa maalinsangan, ito yung panahon na nababagabag ang pag-iisip ko pag moving-up/recognition days na hehe.. Mabuti pa sa progressive school pantay-pantay lang ang students at walang ranking.. 😊

[sarsingkit]

^I also do not like that among Filipinos eh. Yung pagalingan ng anak. Haha. Here in Canada, kahit sports, hindi nag-sscore sa mga bata kasi they don't want to foster a competitive environment. Tamang laro lang ang focusing on learning the sport itself. Eh mga Filipino, binibilang talaga na-score ng anak nila and nakikipaglaban pa sa playing time eh hello ang babata pa ng mga iyan, masyado pine-pressure.

[kvandenhaak]

^Kasi hindi naman talaga to score and to get good grades ang batayan ng success. Kasi ang anak ko ay nerd so hindi talaga sya mahilig sa sports. Mahilig manood but don't want to be involved in it because he said he's gonna suck at it anyway. But the parents told me that it's not about scoring. It also teaches daw camaraderie with other people so it strengthen your social skills, teaches you self-control and to follow rules.  Eh ako ang katwiran ko naman is that he can't be good in everything. He is doing well academically. Not the best but well. Enough na sa akin yon. Gwapo na nga tapos smart pa, eh sobra na kung athletic pa....lol! Joke lang!

So sa mga moms na nai-stress about their kids getting excellent grades, there's more to it than medals. Besides, we might be putting too much pressure on then as well. Chill lang!

[dismembered]

Naalala ko tuloy decades ago. Hindi pa masyadong uso ang social media, kaya if filipinos want to flaunt their child's achievement, papagawan ng tarp. Ginagawa pa rin naman sya sa ibang province.

Same sa social media, you deserve recognition kasi pinaghirapan nyo. But then, I don't think kailangan pa i-display sa plaza or sa kanto yung tarp. Most people don't care anyway kaya wag na lang i-public. 

[mysterioza_me]

Ay speaking of tarp. Nung grumaduate classmate ng sis ko may malaking tarp sa harap ng bahay nila. Kaso di man lang nagamit pinag-aralan niya kasi nagbuntis agad and nag-asawa. So yun ginawa nalang tolda, panlaban sa init at ulan yung tarp ngayon. Naawa kami sa magulang. Pinagmamalaki ang anak nila pero bigo sila. Sorry ha pero sa ganung sitwasyon di ako papakaplastik sabihin na achievement din naman magkaanak or magkaapo ng maaga. Depende kasi yan sa sitwasyon.

[hushush]

^haha OA naman yun nagpa-tarp pa e no.buti kung for school promotion purposes ok lang..
Anyways, ako bilang stressed mom,( past tense na kasi now hindi na ako stressed. 😅)I immediately learned to value what my child has achieved.itong mga achievement nya na to ay nakuha nya nang hindi sya pinupwersa o napipilitan. Dito ako mas lalong proud sa kanya at sa sarili ko dahil never ko pinressure yun batang yun. Yun talaga ang hilig nya. Magbasa, magsolve ng math probs..sumali sa competitions, at iba pang extra curriculars dahil gusto nya at hindi sya pinilit.andito lang ako to support, reviewhin sya para manalo sya. Pag hindi magchampion pero nasa top3 pa rin e i still cheer him as if sya ang nagchampion..hindi ako yung tipo ng nanay na (like other moms sa skul) na kapag hindi nagchampion ang anak ay sinesermunan sa waiting area, at sinisisi bakit indi nagchampion.. Grabe naman yun hindi man lang hinintay na makauwi sa bahay at dun na lang pag-usapan.. Dami ko nawitness na ganyan like nag-iiyak ang bata dahil di nakapasok sa elimination round.. Buti na lang naturuan ko agad ang anak ko na maging isport kung indi makalusot sa mga mahihirap na competitions like national math comps or olympiads kaya hindi sya nag-iiiyak hehe.. 😁

Anyways, andun pa rin naman yung hope (hindi na extreme desire) na sya ang ideclare na top1 hindi lang dahil sa bragging rights or medal kundi dahil sa reward ng school (free books) . imagine kung mafree sya dun, 7k pambili ko na ng alahas yun. Nyahaha!! 😂😂 wala naman syang kaalam-alam na ganto ang peg ko kasi di ko naman sinasabi sa kanya at wala akong balak na ipaalam sa kanya. Masyado pa syang bata para maintindihan ang mga kadramahan ko sa buhay. 😁

[Shadow Angel]

Bata pa lang stress na kasi pressure by their parents. Mga friends ng hubby ko un mga anak pinakita sa akin ang grade pasang awa happy pa sila kasi nakapasa raw kahit papaano. Mahirap kapag mataas ang expectations sa anak.

[TysLolakins]

different kids, different abilities,  huwag mag-expect kung hindi naman naturally born with higher intelligence or better athletic coordination.   pero if you've seen that your child has the ability to excel,  then the child is accountable for showing that he did his best by the grades he get or recognition in sports.  the level of expectation should be directly proportional to the natural capability to excel.   i can only use my two kids as an example.  both were A students consistently and I test them myself for me to get an idea that they really know stuff.  so one of them got a C in one subject so I asked what happened, I wasn't mad or anything to be honest,  she said she didn't study hard enough she wanted to just watch TV and you can see from her expression that she was guilty of something which is laziness,  maybe she's trying to prove to herself that she can get by without studying.  so we had a talk about that,  it's really me re-iterating that we always try to do our best in anything we do,  not just school and sports but everything in our daily lives,  if our best is a C then it's ok too.  so i've emphasized accountability to them at an early age.  the same with my son who played team sports growing up (basketball and baseball).  he's born well coordinated so excelling in sports is easy for him.  he knows what he's capable of and that's what he strives to deliver all the time.  again, there are instances when mediocrity is not acceptable for some people,  we all have to challenge ourselves to our full potential.  the only thing us parents can do is to support them in everything that interests them.  we are not aspiring to have a scholar nor an athlete from our kids,  in the process we are helping them build character, because character is that defines us, in my opinion. 
also parents should not expect so much more from their children if they themselves weren't able to accomplish the same feat.  and i'm not talking about things related with money/wealth/earning potential,  i'm talking about when parents were just average students and they expect their kids to be honor students.  or when a parent is  just a so so player but they expect their kid to be the next michael jordan.  i've seen a lot of this kind of parents over the years.

[otra_vez]

not a parent but i read somewhere before that it's more beneficial for parents to teach their children about the value of hard work instead of intelligence. like instead of saying, "oh you got good grades, you're really smart!" parents should praise instead the hard work that went into it. there has to be an emphasis on effort because that's character building as well. children should learn that be everything can be learned and that it is only by repetition and constant practice that you really get good at something. emphasis on "natural intelligence" just makes the "naturally intelligent" slack off.

if you think about it, the most successful people are not necessarily the ones who did so well in school. i'm not saying that grades are not important but people who excel in school generally do not do better in life. the most important thing is that willingness to hustle and sacrifice and continuously learn. something that grades don't necessarily reflect.

anyway, back to the topic: ugaling Pinoy na hindi ko gusto-- i would say i really hate that Filipinos are so sensitive when it comes to opinions by other people especially foreigners. like that whole claire danes nonsense back in the 90s. hindi mo puwedeng sabihan ng totoo because they get overly defensive.  it's hard to be straight with a Pinoy because we don't take criticisms too well.

also ayoko talaga ng level ng pagka-chismosa ng mga Pinoy. tapos judgmental pa.

[yabutize]

ako din, di ko gusto ang pagiging chismosa ng mga pinoy and yung holier than thou attitude! and yung feeling nga magulang na once magtapos na ng pagaaral ang mga anak nila, mga anak naman ang bahala na buhayin sila. lol

[lalee888]

Yeah the chismosa and judgmental ugali ng pinoys... it might not be so obvious in the Philippines but here in the US it's quite obvious and glaring.

on the tarp thing -- shookt, laughed, annoyed and feelings of incredulity for me! I remember when I grew up in the Philippines, I used to often see "Projects care of Politician Tarps" which are in very bad taste. They are funded by taxpayers money  (the projects and the tarp) and the tarps are deliberate campaign ads. Same with tarps of congratulating children and the pressure or praises from parents... i find they can possibly deliver the wrong message to children: could breed poor emotional and social skills as children are praised for achievements, not skills. Breeds high ego, poor emotional abilities to cope with both success (humility) and failures (endurance). Not a parent (yet) but this is my observation in general... it's just overall in bad taste.

[mysterioza_me]

Yung mga tao na akala lahat ng problema masosolusyunan ni Raffy Tulfo hahaha. Nakakatawa na nakakainis.

[three8one]

yung mabilis makalimot na tipong hindi ka na kilala...

[salmoncat]

padrino system. 

[kaiz]

being chismosa

[young_maiden]

double standards sa pagreject ng taong may gusto sayo

pag lalaki may ayaw sa babaeng type siya, madalas ko marinig magmove on na lang si babae. respetuhin na lang decision ni lalaki. hindi t**** si lalaki sa pagreject sa kanya. hindi lang daw pasok si babae sa standards nya.

pag si babae naman may ayaw sa lalaking type siya, unfair daw si babae for not giving him a chance. baka si lalaki na ang para sa kanya pero pinalampas nya pa. hindi ba pwedeng di lang talaga siya gusto ni babae.

nakaka-asar talaga. kung makareject mga guys sa girl na gusto sila, ok lang. pag si girl ang nang-friendzone, engot siya. may diperensya siya. nakaka-inis.

[marge070407]

hindi ko gusto yung iba mga bobotante ang dali makalimot. Hindi marunong pumili ng iboboto basta sikat tulad ng celebrities etc kahit di qualified iboboto. May mga kaso na nga ng corruptions at katiwalian binoboto pa din.

[young_maiden]

^ Pareho tayo sis.

Isang rason kaya di umaasenso bansa natin dahil sa mga bobotante eh. Inaabuso tuloy sila ng mga corrupt na pulitiko.

Madaming bobotante nauuto. Basta kung sino sikat o magbigay sa kanila ng pera, iyon agad iboboto nila.