Gusto niya ko, gusto ko din siya.

[misslovelyjoy]

Childhood friends kami na nawalan ng communication and just early this year ay nagkausap and nagkacatch up sa times na di kami nagkikita at nag-uusap.

We're on early 20's, we're 21 to be exact. Fresh graduates looking forward to the career life. Sa 4 months na nagkausap kami ulit bumalik yung closeness, bumalik yung dati, pati feelings bumalik. Gusto din naman isa't isa nung mga bata pa kami.

The thing is para kaming nasa MU stage. More than friends, less than lovers. Ganun lang since ayaw niya pa ng long term commitment. Sinabi naman niya yon para malinaw daw. Ako naman since ayaw niya ng commitment sabi ko we remain friends nalang. Ang problema daw kasi gusto niya ko. Loko loko kasi yun, ayaw daw niyang dumating sa point na kapag kami na eh magsawa ako kakaintindi sa kanya at maghiwalay kami. Tapos baka daw anong sabihin ng nanay ko sa mama niya kapag nangyari yun. Barkada ang mothers namin.

I get his point naman. Hindi pa siya ready magcommit sa akin. Ako naman kasi naguguluhan sa situation. Magulo pa sa kulot na buhok ni Agnes. Lol. Ayaw niya ng commitment pero ayaw din niya kong mag-entertain ng ibang guys. Single ako, walang commitment sa kahit na sino so I guess pwedeng pwede naman ako makipagdate sa iba. Wala naman kasi kaming napag-usapan na exclusive yung relationship namin. Kasi open naman ako sa possibility na maglandi siya sa ibang babae.

Ewan. Hindi ko alam.

[fionaapple]

My opinion: snap out of it, girl. This guy has put a spell on you. I say, get out of the situation or be prepared to get hurt. A lot. Been there,done that.

[misslovelyjoy]

^I don't know sis. I'm in between of staying and letting go. May little hope kasi ako dun sa nararamdaman naming pareho na hindi lang majustify dahil nga don sa commitment thing.

[Tatrix]

Based on my experience, kapag gusto ka ng lalaki, hindi na kailangan pang pilitin. Magcocommit yan.

At yung mga excuse na hindi pa ready magcommit, gasgas na yan. Dami na gumawa niyan. Red flag yan sa akin.

Kung hindi niya kayang makipagcommit, bakit ka niya babawalan na magentertain ng ibang guys? Another red flag yan para sa akin.

Natatakot siyang may malaman ang mommy niya kapag sinaktan ka niya, another red flag for me.

[Shadow Angel]

Just want to share, My friend is in this situation MU as in malabong usapan at si friend lang ang may alam na MU sila kasi sya lang nagbigay ng ganun label. They started as friends then evenually they have feelings for each other but the thing is from the start the guy said he is not ready for any commitment for now. the guy still studying for masteral degree. Then one time may nangyari sa kanila. They are not FUBU's because they exclusively dating i mean no other girls/boys na involve sa kanilang dalawa. Pinaka kilala na rin sya sa parents ni guy at may selosan blues din sila the guy told to him not to entertain other suitors. My friend is so confuse now kasi hindi sya makapagdemand. Until now ayaw ni guy ng commitment ON/OFF MU sila. I already told her to get out in this situation she's getting hurt too much. She feels that the MU relationship with him is just one sided. She realized that her guy gets all convenient he needs like sex, dating, love. As of the moment my friend avoid him for 4 days already. Though its early to tell that she's moving on but atleast she starts to figure out what she worth.

[misslovelyjoy]

Hindi ako nagpaparamdam sa kanya ngayon. Gusto kong mag-isip isip muna.

[may12]

Naku sis, pag ang isang guy sinabing gusto ka, and at the same time eh sasabihin sayong ayaw makipag-commit, layuan mo na agad!

Trust me, walang magandang balak yan. Pinapaasa ka lang.

If he loves you enough, he will do everything to court you. Pero if in case may valid reason siya na di siya makapag-commit, pero mahal ka, then he should do everything to protect your feelings. Hindi yung papaasahin ka lang.

[misslovelyjoy]

Andun yung feelings but I guess hindi pa ito yung right time para samin. Ayaw ko nalang muna din madaliin tutal bata pa kami madami pang pwedeng mangyari. Kung kami talaga siguro when the right time comes kami pa rin talaga.

[j.adore]

Life's too short to be holding on to negativity. Here you go http://elitedaily.com/dating/dont-get-stuck-gray-area-dating-black-white/991369/

[fionaapple]

TS, eto na yung "he's just not that into you". read the book or watch the movie version.

[Girltalker2]

Andun yung feelings but I guess hindi pa ito yung right time para samin. Ayaw ko nalang muna din madaliin tutal bata pa kami madami pang pwedeng mangyari. Kung kami talaga siguro when the right time comes kami pa rin talaga.

In fairness sa mga lalaking ayaw mag commit, at least honest sila at alam nilang di pa sila handa.

Tsaka agree ako, sobrang bata pa ang 21yo for a guy to have a serious relationship. TS, sa case mo naman, you should also meet more guys for you to know ano ba ang gusto mo sa isang partner, then tsaka ka nalang mag BF. I-enjoy mo nalang ang friendship mo with this guy, but don't stop meeting others din. Kung ayaw ni guy, drop him and move on to the next. Marami pa dyan, bata ka parin, don't act as if wala nang lalaki sa mundo at papayag ka na exclusive kayo ba walang commitment. Ano sya, sineswerte?

[misslovelyjoy]

I am enjoying my friendship with him. And looking forward din to meeting other guys lalo na pag nagstart na magwork. Introvert din kasi ako kaya mejo hirap makipagfriends sa iba. Sa kanya kasi dahil childhood friend super comfortable na ko. Wala ng ilang factor.

[simang]

He's very clear na ayaw nya magcommit. So I don't know why you're confused... Tapos pag head over heels ka na sa kanya, you'll ask why he's not reciprocating, when in fact at first he told you ayaw nya pa ng commitment. Kapag gusto ka kasi ng lalaki, he will assure you that he does. Kung gusto ka nya, hindi mo kelangan magtanong.

[bagaholic_chewy]

IMO, yung mga lalaking ganyan na di pa daw ready mag-commit pero nag-aastang boyfriend e tipong naghahanap lang ng "meantime" or "for now" girl. Pag nakahanap na yan ng gusto nya talaga, bigla iiwan yung unang girl. Olats ngayon si unang girl kasi she thought me pag-asa sila ni boy. Pag kinonfront nya si boy, gagawin lang palusot "e di ba sabi ko naman dati pa na di pa ako ready mag-commit sa yo".

[simang]

And for me ha, when a guy says he doesn't want to commit yet, that usually means he doesn't want to commit to you. But if he finds a better option, magkocommit yan. So while he's still looking for other options, since ikaw ang nandyan, eh di ikaw muna ang gusto nya.

[misslovelyjoy]

Sa kanya nagbabackfire yung ayaw niya muna ng commitment. Kasi kahit naman gusto ko siya there are other guys na nagpapansin. Since wala naman akong commitment pinapansin ko, kinakaibigan ko din. Nag-aaya din lumabas ganon. Tapos pag sinasabi ko sa kanya nagtatampo. Sasabihin ko nalang na wala naman kaming commitment sa isat isa so wala akong nakikitang problema sa pag entertain ng iba.

[simang]

^if you're thinking that way, i don't know kung anong problema.. Mukhang wala naman palang problema sayo. Why are you even bothered by his unwillingness to commit. Wala ka naman palang problem girl

[may12]

I think TS, gustong gusto mo talaga maging kayo. Kasi why even bother tell him you're seeing other guys? To make him jealous?
In a way, tama din ginawa mo. It's either matatauhan siya at ma-realize na ayaw niya mapunta ka sa iba at gagawa siya ng way, o matatauhan ka kasi wala namqn siyang gagawing hakbang.
Ang delikado lang, yung pa-hurt-hurt niya kunwari ay magwork sayo at aasa ka ng aasa. Magbackfire din sayo.
Give yourself and the other guys a chance 'cause you deserve it, not to get back on him.

[donzski_doinks]

when a guy is really into you, he will do every possible means para maging kanya ka. that is what I believe.

kalokohan yung MU. tingin ko, ginagawa ka nya na spare tire habang wala siyang nahahanap na gusto nya talaga. pero once na makahanap na sya ng babae, he will drop you like a hot potato. so, if I were you, get out of that situation while you still can.

[teambdc]

gusto niya ko, gusto ko din siya. kaya lang, parehas kameng in a relationship na.