Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 7)

[pretty_B]

^hi sis. i guess, my issue is about having sex with him. di ko kaya pa. -.- tama ka nga, baka di pa lang talaga ako 100% sigurado sa kanya. nagkaroon kasi kami ng time na kaming dalawa lang nung weekend, pinigilan ko sya. abah. ang sabi ba naman sakin..."akala ko ba mahal mo ako?" kakadisappoint sya. sa totoo lang. -.- nagtry pa ulit sya pero he's not that aggressive naman. i still said no. then saka sya nagsorry then cuddling lang.

[dismembered]

question: can we really separate love and lust?

love and lust are two separate things.

You may love someone without lust

You may lust someone without love

You may have both.. So yes.. you can separate those two.

[tigerlili]

First time experience with a guy who replies to text messages with short texts or replies really late.  To begin with he is the one who initiated texting? I find it quite odd. Wondering if its polite if I do not text back at all since he seems uninterested to keep the convo going.

[mindiegirl]

First time experience with a guy who replies to text messages with short texts or replies really late.  To begin with he is the one who initiated texting? I find it quite odd. Wondering if its polite if I do not text back at all since he seems uninterested to keep the convo going.

Sis! Had a similar experience a loooong time ago, yan ba yung sya una nag text tapos pag nagreply ka, yung reply nya after several hours pa??

Apparently, in my case he's just not that into me. Di naman nya nituloy or nagshow na interested sya sakin more than friends. Hihi. Babye nalang sa kanya.

[Girltalker2]

^ @tigerlili, you're not obligated with the person. hayaan mo lang sya mag text. Kung feel mo sagutin e you can text back naman. Pag walang time, dedma din.

[batangpasaway]

guys... normal ba magdelete ng messages ng certain girl. i mean si hubby kase di naman pala delete ng messages pero there is this one girl na everytime na maguusap sila dinedelete nya kaagad convo nila... what are your reasons for deleting the convo sa isang girl... usapan nila casual lang about work and what are they doing sa free time nila sa work... i know na dinedelete kase may time na natyempuhan ko na kada usap nila matic delete agd... alam ko kase password ni hubby... considered ba yun agad as cheating na kase it means may tinatago? or talagang minsan may valid reason kayo kung bakit nyo dinedelete... except sa may plans na mangsurprise ha. hehe. kinakabahan ako. kahawig ko yung girl kase.... magkalayo pa kame ni hub...

[TomHansen]

You cant say it's cheating dahil casual lang ang usapan nila pero if you're not comfortable na makipag-usap siya sa ibang babae sabihin mo sa kanya sis, kapag inulit niya pa then yun na yung cheating. Talk to him muna baka wala lang kasi yan, maliban dito may changes ba kay hubby mo? Maaari rin na topic nila is problema sa trabaho and ayaw niyang mag-alala ka kapag nabasa mo.

Nasaan ba si hubby mo?

[tigerlili]

smells fishy. observe ka lang muna.

[tigerlili]

thank you nga pala kay girltalker2 and mindiegirl for your insights.  I'll probably just play it by ear.  Kung anong effort nya i-equal ko nalang. First time to have someone na parang tamad na tamad ako katext.  Pero like they said there's always a first.

[argento]

guys... normal ba magdelete ng messages ng certain girl.

normal lang yan.

normal yan sa may tinatago 

[batangpasaway]

guys... di lang about work e. random topics. like nagkakayayaan na to watch movie and antayan kapag break. tapos si girl nagrereply sa group chat gamet fb account ni hubby...di ako komportable kase hindi sya mahilig makipagusap kahit saken mismo... eversince. sabay ngayun may ganung usapan sila... pati off ni girl at off nya alam nila... how to confront him about this? ayoko sabihin na alam ko kase he might change his password or worst through text na sila mag-uusap... lalo akong walang idea kung anung nangyayare sa kaniya. sa kanila...

[Girltalker2]

^ if I'm in your shoes, diskartehan ko.

Mukhang di ganun kastrong ang relationship nyo so you have to build it. Focus on building your marriage by setting up more frequent dates with quality time.

Kwentuhan, palitan ng kuro kuro. Take vacations Na kayo lang. Then usap kayo about your marriage. Setting distance with the opposite gender and how uncomfy you are.  Etc etc

[Pink_Sugar]

^imbyernakels na ako nyan sis

[batangpasaway]

sis. we're in an ldr. eto pa. si hubby dinedelete kaagad every convo nila. we used to have a stong foundation or I thought we have. nagbago lahat ng umalis sya ng bansa.  the girl says to hubby during work hrs na samahan sya ni hub kase natatakot daw sya. tapos samhan sya magbreak ni hubby. paulit ulit pa yan na dun na sa kanyang place mgbreak si hubby. with matching please pa. naiisip ko never ko yang sasabihin sa guy na hindi ko gusto iflirt. tapos yun nga inaaya nyang manuod ng sine si hubby. gusto nya pang movie yung napanuod na ng common friends nila. she's calling ny hubby sa nickname nya tapos yun lang laman ng message. pabitin. tapos nakikisagot sya sa group chat gamet fb ni hubby tapos papakilala pa sya. iniisip ko in the first place bakit hawak nya cp ni hub. tapos magsesend kung kelan yung leave nya sa dec kay hubby sabay sasabihin wrong send. andame nyang sinesend na signals. kulang nalang sabihin nya crush nya si hubby. nakakainis. at nakikicompromise naman si hubby. like gusto mo ng rice may extra akong dala. gusto mo ng cake. malakas ka saken. sige. and they are trying to arrange their sked para magkasabay sila magsimba. kinonfront ko si hubby kung [textspeak!] yun. kung bakit may ganun. sabe nya wala lang daw yun sa kanya. kapanipaniwala ba yun. I'm bothered sa pagdelete nya ng usapan nila. He used to be open samen for more than five years at ngayun lang nya yan ginawa. do I have the right na magalet at masaktan sa ginawa nya? I felt betrayed. as in ambilis nya magdelete ng messages nila alam ko kase nag-abang ako ng2 days para malaman kung anung meron... yung trust ko sa kanya na napakalake. gumuho talaga.. ganun ba kainsensitive ang lalake para di maramdaman yung mga obvious na paramdam? katwiran ni hubby. engaged na yung girl. kahit pa. sabe ko nga kung ganyan yung girl kawawa nman yung fiance nya. at ang sabe ni hubby inosente daw sya. at wala lang sa kanya yun talaga. pero I doubt him na. after ko sya iconfront he immediately changed his password. akala ko gagawa sya ng move na makampante ako. kaso baliktad yung ginawa nya. sobrang saket.

[junetwentythree]

Soooo if you're in an LDR with this dude batangpasaway, then how do you know all of this?

First off, get your head out of the clouds. As you had stated in an earlier post, he's not your husband so you need to stop calling him your hubby (misleading some advisers here). Being that he's not, he could very well be using that as an excuse for his receptiveness to this girl's advances.

So you either start trusting your boyfriend and stop checking on his Facebook at all times (incessantly checking up on him will lead you to make up paranoid stories in your head and just drive you crazy) or you tell him straight up that you're not comfortable with this, especially with your LDR situation and he needs to terminate his friendship with the girl.

[Girltalker2]

^ batangpasaway, BF palang ba? Or fiancé?

Iba naman Kasi ang advise kapag BF palang. LDR is not recommended for BF/GF Kasi nga getting to know stage kayo. But if di nyo malampasanan ang LDR without losing trust, I'd say better let go and move on. BF lang naman, LDR pa, kesa ipilit mo sa bandang huli ikaw din di masaya.

[batangpasaway]

ok sis. sorry kase nasanay sa tawagan. bf palang. pero we're together for 5+ years na. we have plans to get married na before sya umalis. he keeps on asking me na sundan ko na sya duon kahit tourist lang pero ayoko kase gusto ko legal ako makapagstay dun para di masyado pressured sa pag naghanap ako ng work. ang alam ko next year may plans na sya na ikasal kame. pero i'm not sure if ganun padin plans nya. never nagloko si bf. sobrang open kame sa isat isa. he knows my password ganun din ako sa kanya. ngayun lang sya nagpalit. sa assess nyo [textspeak!] lang talaga kay bf yun? e yung moves ng girl normal ba yun?

[batangpasaway]

sis, I learned about this kase kinutuban nako sa sudden change sa communication namen. tapos naglogin ako sa fb nya tapos may nakita akong message ni girl tapos maya maya bglang nawala so nagbantay ako ng 2 days para makita yung flow ng convo nila... ayun dun ko nakita lahat... diko matanggap yung sinasabe nyang inosente sya. na di nya alam na ganun na yun. e bakit kelangan nyang itago saken? I stopped na sa pagcheck ng fb nya pero I told him to stop doing things na makakasaket pa saken. I still trust him that he'll choose me  at istop nya communication kay girl. thanks sisses. mukang sa ibang thread ko na nga dapat ito ipost

[tigerlili]

somebody once told me "mas mabilis huliin and manok na nakatali..."

sundan mo na!!! kahit dalawin mo lang.

[batangpasaway]

hi sis. di pa naman kame tali pero grabe lang. never ko naimagine na magkakaroon ng ganung issue kay bf. dun din talaga mas natetest yung loyalty sayo ng isang tao. pag malayo ka. pag dimo nakikita ginagawa nya. nagsorry naman na sya at di nya na daw uulitin. pero wala daw syang ginagawang masama padin. bakit ganon noh? guys would never admit kahit huli mo na nakikisakay din sya. Pero ayun. trinatry kong magtrust ulit sa kanya kahit sobrang hirap. di ako selosa pero ngayun lage akong napaparanoid. gustong gusto ko magtrust ulit sa kanya completely. sya lang naman makakaprove na worthy syang pagkatiwalaan ulit e. he lied to me once kaya wag lang syang magkamali ulit! sana di nya sayangin yung chance na binigay ko sa kanya kase subukan nya lang ulit. iiwan ko na talaga sya! It might be painful sa simula pero in the long run sinave ko sarili ko sa mas malakeng pain... tsaka ko na sya susundan kapag may maayos na syang plano para saken...