I have experienced that recently.
Wala akong ka munang muwang she was avoiding me. Lol! UNTIL she would ask common friends: is AquaCharly going? Of course, my BFFs would say: if she's in town at hindi sya go, patayin ko sya! Hahaha.
Tapos, she would add: hindi na ko pupunta.
Or, she'd say: Ok Lang if we ignore each other
So, this woman! advertised it na hindi nya ko pina pansin because I didn't even notice! Lol.
When she gave that script to a BFF, I called her agad.
What's the problem?
The scaredy cat hemmed and hawed .
I really to this moment did not get from her exactly ano tampo nya.
To think this is the woman who owes me, though not just me, for getting her this adorable man in her life.
It ended with my telling her: well, if you can tell me exactly what I did that pissed or hurt you -- I will apologize if true. BUT if cuento cuento lang yan ng kung sino -- tell me now and I will tell you which parts are true or just lies. But you have to tell me who told you. She did not want to tell me.
So I said: you are a dear friend. But if I gotta pander to your imagined hurts coz you think you're perfect, or your life mission is to present a perfect public persona -- I won't put in that much effort to maintain this friendship.
So we met after that at a party. Her adorable man hugged me and said he missed me and the rest. I have this friend practically out of my life. She touches base with our common friends when I am not attending our get togethers coz I am abroad.
I do not close doors. When people around me talk about ex-friends, I change the topic or zone out. Wakosey. Lol
Life is short. Friendships are 2-way, give-and-take. I am not perfect, I do not shirk apologizing, if ako nga mali. But if someone is after making it their mission to change my gregarious, friends-to-all, good-life-loving, proud-entrepreneur, prouder-wife ways -- matigas ka sa inggit. Ciao, till you grow up.
'Teh, if you are reading this now: anyare sa yo? When we got freed from our exclusive school -- we learned to loosen up, to widen our definition of Self.. Baket ka ba insisting you belong to a high economic level circle na hello, mas madami nga social climbers as members now -- at pati ikaw naging user-friendly trying to keep yourself in whatever is your definition of "exclusivity & Buena familias". You need to slap yourself, Darling. Life is soooo much more an enjoyable journey if you can include those with hindi-makapal or no wallets, simple and PhD(ead) badudas, the mababaw and the sublime thinkers, the true sosyal & don't care baduys --- EVERYONE has wisdom to share. Everyone has laughter to share. Susko, anyare sa yo? Ok, shoot me for speaking that way. Basta, life is sooo much better with an imperfect but currently human persona.
