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[hypergalactix13]

sorry to hear that sis, but happy to hear that you're expecting a baby soon

talk to your bf. pwede kasing inako nya yung responsibilities na yun dati pa and the parents, of course, are looking forward to it. kaso syempre hindi naman siguro natin ineexpect na magkakaroon ng baby along the way. obviously, you and your baby should be the top priority. perhaps the parents can wait naman unless they really are living under the bridge or just plain homeless. joke.

alam ba pala ng parents ni bf na magkaka baby na kayo?

 

[sarsingkit]

Hindi ko alam kung fact ba tong sinabi mo or feeling mo lang? Hindi ka mapakasalan dahil sa Health Card? Health Card lang naman yan, pwede naman ikuha ng separate insurance. And besides, since sya ang father of the baby, pwede naman ilista ang baby as dependent diba? So why worry?

It should be your husband who should to the parents about your current situation. Does your boyfriend seem to be worried about money as well? Kasi kung hindi naman, wag ka na din mag worry.

[Project60]

yung sa healthcard pwede naman pag kinasal kayo wag muna sya mag submit ng marriage documents para di maupdate status nya sa company.. ganun [textspeak!] ginawa ng officemate kong bagong kasal...

[j.adore]

Bad idea kasi pwede singilin pag nalaman yung status change ay di ginawa agad..

Anyway, bakit dependent ang parents niya? As in nagugutom level ba sila at di na makawork? Wala ba sila benefits? Walang kapatid bf mo? 
Kailangan din ensure mo kayo na priority niya.

[aquacharly]

Advise? Sangkaterbang man novena mo na palihis ka pa sa pag dasal --  hindi mawawala yang proforma in-laws mo.
It is what it is: Reality.

You will have a kid soon.  At kung you want to continue building a life with  your partner,  eh di Sariling Sikap Program.
Build up your financial independence. Sariling Pera Lang ang solution mo sa mga ganyang in-laws. 
Mas iffy yung antayin mo mamatay sila.   
They can bleed their son dry, ikaw - Control your money & keep a secret account.

Your partner is what he is, his parents are what they are.
IMO, mas achievable and predictable ang results if mag Sarling Sikap Program ka.  Mas mahirap  ang  Management of Change  of Financial Dependency.  Might drive you nuts enough to poison them -- bad. Hahaha

[la_pinay]

talk to your bf. set your priorities. compromise. if may work ka and you have your own money, that doesn't mean na you should come 2nd because his family needs him more.

healthcard: pwede nyo ikuha ng separate healthcard un parents nya, on your expense nga lang.

money: dapat maintindihan nila un na mababawasan na ang padala dahil you are saving up for your baby. wala ba silang ibang source of income? how about mga kapatid ng bf mo?

bahay: are they only renting kaya sobra sila magpush? pano naman un plans nyo? pano pag kayo naman ang kailangan mag loan for your family?

ang hirap ng situation mo sis. pero i think your bf needs to learn to weigh things. lalo na ngayon magkaka baby na kayo.

[antithesisofbarbie]

dapat priority na si baby at ikaw ( health nyo mag ina ) plus syempre un future nyo pa as family. dapat alam yan ng bf mo.

If meron syang responsibilities sa parents nya dapat di muna sya pumasok sa bagong responsibility gaya ng pagiging ama.

Wala ka magagawa sa in-laws mo eh kasama na yan sa package. Pero di ba sila informed na magkaka-apo na sila? at meron din naman binubuo na sariling pamilya un anak nila?

[tischarmedlife]

^ tumpak mga sis!

regarding the health card, sobrang greedy naman ng inlaws mo, talagang inangkin yung benefit na yun? 

well you really have to talk with your bf because you have to save money for your baby. Di biro ang gastos sa panganganak, ang diaper, supplements and all the other stuff. As early as now din you have to save na rin for your kid's education and that would really be difficult sa mga hilaw na in-laws mo.

if the bf can't compromise, well, sariling sikap program nga ang plan B. hindi mo pwede iasa sa kanya lahat kase paano nga kung naubos na sa family nya ang pera nya, how would you support your child diba? mag-save ka ng pera mo pero dapat ma-oblige si bf na ibigay ang tamang sustento sa bata.