Wife is a Lesbian

[kaiz]

hi. im not sure if i should post this here or sa married life section.

anyway, im trying to help a guy friend here. he's depressed and feeling ko kinakain na sya ng galit. sabi nya he feels betrayed and every morning daw upon waking up, ang bigat daw sa dibdib dahil feeling nya, sira na lahat ng plans for the family. they're 11 years married already. before marriage, nandun na daw yung symptoms of being a lesbian but was "cured" (yun yung word na ginamit niya, although sa isip ko, hindi naman yan disease na na cu-cure diba? so maybe he was really inlove talaga and was blinded by his love for the girl.) now, for 10 years, ok naman daw. until last year, kinda nahuli nya yung wife nya with another girl. so 1 year na sila na not in good terms. para bang for the sake of the kids nalang. he really loves his wife, kaya lang shempre he was cheated on. his work requires him to be on the station always so there once a month lang sya umuuwi and when he goes home, mabigat talaga sa loob nya. galit pa rin yung nararamdaman nya towards his wife. naaawa ako sa kanya. how can i help him? what should i advice?

[17glut]

11 years is a long time and kung proven na he's been cheated on, kahit pa sa kapwa babae, i'd drop my wife right away. Kumbaga tabla na sya sa kin kasi wala na sira na ang tiwala. Mag usap na lang kamo sila tungkol sa mga bata and he has to be stern about this. 

kahit pa anong idahilan nung nangaliwa, kahit pa trippings lang yun or fubu, mali pa rin yun. Pag pinalagpas ni lalake yan definitely uulit at uulit yang si babae kaya pag sure talaga si lalake na kinaliwa sya then iwan n lang nya si babae.

[ajcruz]

Hi, Im not one and don't know anybody in the same situation, and I have my own opinion about it.

I can only think it's somewhat related to Bruce/Caitlyn Jenner, from his first wife palang pala he/she has the same feeling of being a woman na, same reason din pala on the second wife for 25 years, so in his/her case hindi pala nawawala by having a family and kids.

It's still best to seek marriage counselling. Even if not for their reconciliation but the hubby needs to process on how he will accept letting her go - very hard and sad but I think it's linking to that and eventually he needs to learn to understand, accept, love her wife no matter what. And if only the wife ask for freedom soon, he is emotionally ready.

So instead of feeling depressed, sana his love for his wife will open his mind - show love more, care more, date her and let the wife know she is being loved kahit alam ni hubby about the other girl. Sana they will try to work their relationship muna or baka she's lonely - so try more calls and videocalls pag malayo sila or kung pwede silang lumapit sa work nung guy para magkakasama sila.

[three8one]

hi TS, tingin ko advantage yun para sa friend mo kung may fantasy sya like 3some 2 girls 1 guy hindi na sya mahihirapan i convince yung wife nya. hehe!

but, kidding aside if he felts na naloko talaga sya then siguro kausapin nya yung wife nya and pag napaamin nya na talaga i suggest patawarin nya yung wife nya but hiwalayan na nya dahil once ang trust ang nadamage sa isang relationship hinding hindi na magkakaron ng kapayapaan sa isang relasyon. puro pagkukunwari na lang yan. forgive then move on siguro na lang.

 

[mrgrey]

my girl is a bi who had ONS with a married lesbian. The married lesbian is a good friend of mine. She's a total babe, you wouldn't guess shes a lesbo. My girl even asked me to have a threesome with them but I declined because I know his husband. I'm not sure if he knows. We could even be talking about the same couple.

[fastlove]

Go lang 3 some.  importante.. walang sakit..  kung  na discover mo  man na  lesbo.. eh  kasalanan mo rin yun.. di ko  kilala   kasama mo.. tignan mo nalang  personality  di naman  masamang  tao..  okey na yun..

[akosimaiatot]

Does your friend try to talk to his wife ? Maybe she is a lesbian na but did try to live a normal life but after so many years she found out na babae parin gusto nya
lemme tell you a story : I just broken up with my Lesbian Gf because she decided to go straight and have a family IDK kung pinag-adya na I bump into this thread but to tell you honestly it was so hard for her to make this decision knowing na she's really into women but her mom and dad ask her to have a kid ..baka naman hindi talaga napigilan ni wife yung sarili nya because that what she really is , your friend really needs a lot of understanding regarding this matter and sana handa din sya

[bhmomma]

Naalala ko pinsan ko nung mabasa ko title ng thread. He was or shall I say he is married to a lesbian kasi di pa naman sila annulled. They were highschool sweethearts. Both landed good jobs. Both virgins till their wedding night. Napaka ideal ng love story nila. My cousin is a seafarer. Everytime na uuwi siya nasesense niya na there was something wrong with the wife. Nirereject daw siya everytime he initiates love-making. Hanggang sa tuluyan ng nagkalabuan and eventually the marriage crumbled. Later on nalaman niya na may kinakasama ng kapwa babae ang wife niya. Sobrang depressed ng pinsan ko nun. Ilang years din yun. Buti na lang nakahanap siya ng bagong pag ibig at ngayon masaya silang nagsasama with their 2 kids.

[magno4]

better na lesbian sya kesa manlalaki, mas mahirap naman yun. at least kung same thing ang iniisip nyo baka pwede mag threesome na kayo nun, at least sya pa ang pipili ng maganda partner to join the company..

[sensi]

since they're married for 11 years and has kids, i think he needs to talk to her, confront her, and tell her how he feels...kasi if he's gonna stay silent about it, there's no chancd of solving the problem..while if kausapin niya, then the wife is aware na may alam ang husband niya.and starting there, they might come up with a plan about thei marriage if to work on it, or end it.