Your guy's reasons why his previous relationships didn't work out

[Girltalker2]

What are your guy's usual reasons for breaking his past breakups?

Do you take it to heart na say nagger gf nya, you make it a point na iwasan maging ganoon?

Tapos, sa dami ng unfaithful guys around, curious lang ako if ever these men truly tell their gfs or nililigawan or dates na naging unfaithful sya sa dati nyang gf?

[minatay91]

for the first gf, 8 years sila but accdg to him, their relationship was going nowhere.I didnt prod for extra details, I wasnt so comfy with him when i asked this question.i'll try asking again.

2nd is because of complications from the firt relationship.

3rd is he caught his gf telling a friend na she is starting to like someone else so he broke it up with her.

he claims rin na he never cheated on his exes. But he did have somewhat like a one.night stand (one night lang, no gf at that time)

:/

will prod him for more info.

[Girltalker2]

^ kapag kayo na, importante pa ba prodding? Sometimes na isip ko kapag dating palang kayo, this is important. Kasi di mo naman malaman din agad lahat lahat.

My first bf and ex hubby, ako kc first gf nya Kaya walang history.
Kasi I'm wondering ano Kaya ngayon ang sinasabi nya sa current gf nya at nagustuhan sya since our relationship didn't work out at nambababae sya, di Kaya ang version nya e malamang iba na, hehe nga pintas siguro sakin haha

My current bf naman - his past relationships didn't work out because of difference in personalities, walang 3rd party.

[yajale_22]

5 yrs nya ka live in yung ex nya..ambitious daw si ex nya. gusto ng maraming pera kaya nakipagdate daw sa boss tapos naging sila kaya ayun iniwan daw sya. Lagi din daw nilang issue yung pera noon. Maluho din daw kase yung ex nya na yun. Pero ngayon daw nagchachat sa kanya sa fb yung ex nangungutang ng pera sa kanya. Di rin daw nag work out yung relationship dun sa boss. He claimed that he never cheated with his exes. LDR kame nitong bf ko na to and so far wala pa naman akong nararamdaman na merong iba

[simang]

Bihirang bihira namin to napapagusapan. Parang once or twice lang yata. Di na ko nagproprobe ng details eh, because honestly, i don't really care.

Meron syang mga kwento actually na may mga girls syang dinate na pinaasa nya lang, yung idedate nya tapos after sometime narealize nyang di nya trip si girl kaya di na sya magpaparamdam. Meron din syang kwinento na back then he had a gf and then some on the side. Hindi ako nagtatanong ng details because again, i don't care. The thing is, hindi ko rin sya pinipiga about his past. These conversations come casually, and he's very candid about it. Minsan pag nanunuod kami ng movie, tapos may scene that reminded him of something. Ayun ikukwento nya. Ganun lang. It comes in very light casual conversations.

[tomatostellar]

isa lang ex ni bf, highschool naging sila, sabi nya nagbago daw si girl like rebellious kind ganon.. I think that was his reason.. though bagets pa sila nun, so maybe di rin nya ganon ka-love.. ewan ko tagal din kasi sila hiwalay bago naging kami

[minatay91]

@girltalker2

for me yes, because i want to know him completely para ma.accept ko rin siya completely, i want to know what went wrong. (charot lang, nakichismis lang pala! aw haha) but seriously, yes I would want to know..because what if may anak siya sa ex niya, its a a good ground for a breakup for me (pasensya na mga single parents, I dont want the responsibility and I want out right away)..or if financially irresponsible siya, money at 3rd party inaawayan (esp. if siya ang may 3rd party) if he wouldnt tell me then I would think he has trust issues sa akin or hindi that comfy sa akin. In my POV, I wouldnt also count on asking him dating pa lang (although I asked those questions na we were still fairly new pa) to be complete and truthful because I know sa early part sa relationship pa.impress pa yan or safe answers usually. I think he's not yet that comfortable with me because he still cant fart na I'm around LOL (my girl friends always ask if he would do fart jokes because it suggests a certain level of comfort. A disgusting kind of comfort haha)

[psyche29]

love this thread.

medyo madami ex ng hubby ko. i just asked for the latest ones. hehe.

yun isa, which is his longest before me, 2 years, he was in college, nagsawa daw sya kasi lagi syang pinapahabol.

another one, super yaman, all the nike shoes/clothes that he wants, check in sa isang room sa 5 star hotel na owned ng girl (yung room lang). owner ng isang bar that time yun girl. simple lang kala nga raw nya cashier e. nung nagpasama sakanya, sinundo raw sila ng expedition. binigyan sya ng crv na car na hindi nya tinanggap kasi nakonsensya sya. reason he broke up w/ her is nagsawa sya kasi walang excitement. mabait daw masyado.

isa pa, 2 months lang daw, masyado naman vain. kahit love na love sya, super vain na hindi na nya kinaya.

ex wife, controlling and physically abusive towards him.

so, dami nyang reason and iba iba talaga. for me, hindi ko inisip na dapat hindi maging katulad ng mga ex nya. siguro, i learned na, if you try to change yourself to be someone you are not, mas lalo mahirap masustain yun relationship. ako, i dont know yun exact na rison why almost 8 years na kami pero walang sawaan na nangyayari. magkasundo lang talaga kami sa madaming bagay and i think, madaming ways na napapatawa namin isat isa.

[mebpa]

since 1 gf lang naman si hubby before me, he has only 1 reason. she cheated. they had a "cool off" daw, parang "we were on a break" ni ross-rachel. may iba na daw bf (coworker), eh cool off lang daw sila. true enough, after ilang months buntis si girl.

[donzski_doinks]

sa first gf ni hubby, they have several reasons. una, religion. the girl kasi is jehova's witness then hubby is catholic. parang anak pa ata ng pastor yung girl, so they wanted hubby na magpa-convert. eh si hubby, parang naguguluhan na nga, tapos he met someone pa n sabi nya he fell in love instantly dun sa girl. so they broke up para tapos nakipag-relasyon sya dun sa girl n yun na nakilala nya. kaso, di sila nagtagal ng one year nung ipinalit nya sa 1st gf nya. niloko naman sya nitong girl na 2nd gf nya. tapos lately lang, dahil sa pag-hahanap ko dun sa 2nd gf nya sa fb, nalaman namin na yung ipinakilala sa kanya nung girl na bata dati as pamangkin e in reality anak pala talaga ni girl. so it means sa buong panahon na magkarelasyon sila, niloko sya nung girl.

[Ms. Right]

His ex cheated on him.

[simang]

Sa thread na to parang karamihan kawawa yung lalaki. Haha wala lang.

[Girltalker2]

^ exactly.

Bakit ang daming breakups na alam natin at nangangaliwa ang lalaki. Eh bakit dito parang yung mga babae ang mas manloloko?

That's why I was really wondering how men who were once unfaithful ever disclose this to his current gf?

Or if not, is that the reason why we all think our men are loyal? Haha idk! Basta alam ko loyal sakin so bf at alam mo loyal sya sayo now. That's the most important thing.
Just a thought!

[simang]

^good point (yung last part especially). Para sa akin talaga ha, hindi na important the details of the breakup with the exes. Mas important naman kase talaga what kind of persons you are now and how your relationship is at present.

On a more chismosa mode, masaya din siguro marinig ang version ng mga ex gfs. Also, paano din kaya tayo nakwento ng mga ex bfs natin sa mga current partners nila? haha. Ang saya din siguro marinig.

[djctapalla23]

Pasali!

His 1st GF from high school - He was afraid/scared/had gone cold turkey. The girl was constantly telling him of their would-be future once they get married. He felt that she was rushing him, he hasn't finished college yet and she was already discussing their future home, etc. He dumped her before he started college.

2nd GF from college - She left him, without a trace. He met her during the first semester, they dated briefly until she told him that she'll transfer to another university. He believed her and he waited for her outside her new university, for several weeks, and she didn't show up. He just gave up on her.

I'm the 3rd girlfriend & hopefully, the last GF. 

[alice_alice]

My boyfriend is really honest the reason why nagfail sila ng ex niya is because nahuli siya ng ex niya na sumama sa pinsan niya, parang finiflirt siya nung pinsan and instead na tumanggi eh sumama naman siya that's the reason why his gf left him.

Honest naman siya saken, he said nadala na siya and he won't be doing that again kasi nga dahil dyan iniwan siya.

Di naman ako bothered na gawin niya yan sa akin. Takot niya lang. Haha.

[Girltalker2]

On a more chismosa mode, masaya din siguro marinig ang version ng mga ex gfs. Also, paano din kaya tayo nakwento ng mga ex bfs natin sa mga current partners nila? haha. Ang saya din siguro marinig.

It's all in the moving on and breakup thread.

Kaya parang di ata same population yung mga partners natin now at yung mga nang iwan or nanloko sa breakup threads. As if we are all talking about 2 different species of men.

[yasbabyangel]

Sa tatlong ex ni bf lahat mutual decision daw ang breakup. walang 3rd party on both sides. gulat nga ako na possible pala magbreak na walang 3rd party at choice nyo parehas...Yung first narealize nila na bata pa sila (3rd yr hs). Yung 2nd, same sa 1st gf din yung issue pero yung girl naman yung bata pa (3 yrs tanda ni bf kay 2nd ex. pero 4 yrs ang tanda nya saken. haha). parang nilet go nila isat isa believing na kapag sila ang destined for each other sa right time magkakabalikan sila. tapos kay 3rd ex, isa sa factors yung religion at parang nagkalabuan daw sila kase lage silang nag-aaway kaya nagdecide nalang sila na magbreak nalang to save the friendship....

[purple.strawberry]

Napansin ko nga din parang kawawa ang boys sa mga kwento nila haha. Siguro pag yung ex-gf ang tinanong e iba rin ang sasabihin. Yung isang ex-bf ko e nagcheat with his two serious relationships pero pagkakakwento parang siya pa rin ang kawawa haha. Kesyo ganito ganyan daw, ginantihan siya and so and so.

Di rin ako matanong about ex-girlfriends. Hinahayaan ko lang pag napagkwentuhan and siyempre I will be wary if merong history of cheating.

Yung boyfriend ko ngayon madaming niligawan parang ang gist e finifriendzone siya. Yung isa he was the third-party and then naguluhan yung gf nakipaghiwalay sa kanya. After a while nung single na ulit yung girl, tsaka siya kinocontact kaso ayaw na niya. Yung last naman di sila naging official and the girl was insisting friends lang sila, pero nagpapaalaga, nagseselos, hinahayaan siya matulog same bed sa condo nung girl and then nung last away nila the girl said she was still seeing her ex-bf. Nung kami na ayun tsaka siya ulit siya kinocontact haha.

[khaleesiCersei]

Ako naman bilang may pagka chismosa inaalam ko talaga hehe. Kay hubby sa ex nya is hindi na nya daw kinaya hehe. Nagger si ex, sobrang selosa na pati pamilya ni hubs pinagseselosan, physically abusive and may pagka cray cray. Naniniwala naman ako kasi pati relatives nya yun ang sinasabi. Yun daw ex na yun ang talagang hindi nila nagustuhan for him. Too much drama daw kasi ang eksena ni ex, skandalosa. Unlike daw kasi nun isang ex ni hubs na may pagka prim and proper. Banned pa nga daw yun sa house ng tita ni hubs kasi pag may occassion at nalalasing, nagwawala pag napikon sa asaran Haha kaya hindi na daw pinapasama ng mga relatives dun pag may handaan. Ako naman daw sabi ng friend ko na pinsan ng isang ex, ang sinasabi daw ng ex na reason is kesyo ako daw eh pasaway at masyadong matapang lol!