Are Guys not good with dates? My BF forgot my birthday

[girlush]

My BF of two months forgot my birthdate. 

We were just having a conversation an hour before my birthday. Then sabi ko sa kanya na plan ko umuwe sa birthday ng father ko (I'm working overseas). So LDR kami.
Then hanggang sa sabi niya malapit na birthday ko. Then hindi exact date sinabi nya. Tapos hindi pa sure.
So sabi ko natural na magtampo ako at magalit.hayaan mo nalang muna.
Nag sorry siya. D niya alam gagawin niya. Iwan ko nalang daw siya. Sorry at ngayon niya lang gagawin ang sumuko sakin kase sobrang nahihiya siya at wala siya kwenta....

bakit ganon 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

gano katagal na ba kayo magkakilala? dont you think that's quite petty a reason? wala lang. you get through life by brushing off somethings, just saying. but if yan nga lang eh matampuhin ka na, maybe it is better to just break up. less stress and less hassle ng isang ldr relationship.

[Girltalker2]

Kasi bago palang kayo mag bf. Has he celebrated your birthday na ba with you before?

[oreo08]

I also don't think you should worry about this. 2 months palang pala kayo and kahit na brother of your friend, doesn't mean dapat alam nya or dapat matandaan nya birthday mo. IMO you shouldn't expect things like these especially napakabago pa ng relationship nyo.

[bagaholic_chewy]

Nag sorry siya. D niya alam gagawin niya. Iwan ko nalang daw siya. Sorry at ngayon niya lang gagawin ang sumuko sakin kase sobrang nahihiya siya at wala siya kwenta....

bakit ganon 

Agree with the other sisses. Bago pa lang kayo, you're both not used to celebrating occasions together pa. Plus, LDR. Pwedeng-pwedeng palampasin for now ang mga ganitong lapses. Next year, if nakalimutan nya pa din, aba, magtampo ka na talaga. Hehe..

I am bothered though with his supposed reaction (quoted above). He wants you to leave him? "Susuko" sya sa iyo at sa relationship, just because he forgot your birthday? 

[17glut]

D niya alam gagawin niya. Iwan ko nalang daw siya. Sorry at ngayon niya lang gagawin ang sumuko sakin kase sobrang nahihiya siya at wala siya kwenta....

bakit ganon 

Classic case of reverse psychology. Dinadaan sa self-pity ang pagkakamali as a method to end an argument the quickest way possible and of course, get the odds in his favor. Wag ka padadala sa ganyan kasi tuwing magtatalo kayo lagi k n lang idadaan sa guilt trip.

Nangyari na rin to sa kin dati, pero in my case, I forgot our monthsary sa sobrang busy sa work so imbes na magdrama I made it up to her by getting her something nice and explained my side, luckily she accepted my apology naman. Ganun kasimple.

Personally, emotionally unstable yang taong yan kasi parang bata at hindi marunong umako ng kasalanan or pagkukulang. Four years na kayo magkakilala pero hindi matandaan bday mo tapos hindi nya alam gagawin nya? that's BS right there.

[ri-anne]

o ayan sis ha, coming from a guy's point of view na!

i'd have to disagree with the other sisses here... you have every right na magtampo. petty? maybe...but
imagine ha, he forgot the MOST important day of his supposedly special someone?!
it has nothing to do with how short or how long the relationship is...
it has everything to do with how important it is (or not) to him..

and it seems like ganun kababaw lang sa kanya yung relationship nyo. kasi kaya nyang sabihin na iwan mo sya. whether reverse psychology or not, ibig sabihin, kaya nya....or malakas loob alam nyang hindi mo sya kayang i let go...

[iwannabeasupermodel]

So mali pa pala na nagtampo ako.
Ok it's my fault.

I think matampuhin and overly sensitive ka talaga sis. Kahit sa akin na virtual stranger and first time mo nakausap parang nagtatampo ka na ganon sinabi ko, judging from your words.

[purple.strawberry]

Sis parang need niyo pa magmature pareho. Regarding your question, kung ako magtatampo din ako din pero I'll let it go once nasabi ko na yung feeling ko and nag-apologize na si guy since bago pa lang naman kami.

Pag paulit-ulit ng nakakalimutan ang important dates, iba na yun. Red flag na yun.

[ajang]

i think depende sa guy yun. kasi yung hubby ko palage sya ang nagpapaalala ng monthsary and anniversary namin. minsan ako ang nagugulat sa surprises nya..

@TS just give him time marami siguro sya iniisip. mababaw na reason ang magalit dahil nakalimutan though nakakatampo pero at the end dapat ok na kayo.

[sugardrop]

Dear, just let it pass for now. Two or three months into our relationship (me and the bf), ilang beses kami nagtanungan ng birthdays namin eh. Yung months alam pero yung exact dates ang nakakalimutan noon.

Pero mas nakaka-bother yung iwan agad dahil nahihiya at di naalala ang birthday mo? Ewan ko lang but I agree that both of you need to mature nga. Pero don't let those petty things add up kasi baka maipon yan ng parang lobo then isang tusok lang ng karayom, kaboom!

Anyway, work work work if you want the relationship to work.

[Queen Chokolah]

I'd be upset if he forgets my birthday. Magagalit ako sa totoo lang. depende din yan sa babae kung gaano ka important para sa kanya ang mga special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries, kahit monthsaries nga.

My partner is a typical guy who's really, really bad with dates. Nung bago pa lang kami, he used to forget our monthsaries all the time. And every time nakakalimutan nya, nagtatampo talaga ko and hindi kami nag ce-celebrate. Maaalala nya in a few days tapos mag so-sorry sya. I set his expectations. I told him na importante sakin ang mga dates na to kaya responsibility nya na maalala yun. Kung importante sa kanya ang feelings ko. Until unti unti, naaalala na nya. May mga times na nakakalimutan nya pa din (like 1/5 of the time) pero pinapalagpas ko na kasi at least mas madami na ang naaalala nya kesa sa nakakalimutan nya.

I mean, guys should be responsible din in remembering these things kung alam nilang mahalaga yun sa mga gf nila. Dapat mag effort din sila. And of course, isang malaking NO para sakin ang makalimutan ang birthday. It's completely normal na nagtampo ka. Pero nasa sayo yun, kung gusto mo ba magpatuloy, or break na lang gaya ng sabi nya. Kung gusto mo pa rin ipag patuloy, mag move on ka na lang sa nangyaring yan and wait for your next birthday. Kung nakalimutan nya ulit, aba ibang usapan na yan.

[shellenic]

Oks lang kung birthday, kesa naman sa anniversary ang kalimutan! 

[AVIDGOLFER]

Oks lang kung birthday, kesa naman sa anniversary ang kalimutan! 

This is very true in my case. My X was very particular about anniversary, she had no qualms about her birthday being forgotten but not our anniversary.

[shellenic]

This is very true in my case. My X was very particular about anniversary, she had no qualms about her birthday being forgotten but not our anniversary.

Lol. So what did u do? Are you able to make up to her?

[imyourangel]

Mas curious ako dun sa response nung bf mo sis, willing siya na iwanan mo siya just because he forgot your birthday. Sorry, but let me say this... does he really love you? Willing siya maghiwalay kayo just because of that reason?

[JuanDerer]

Two months? Hmmm... its not cool and you definitely have the right to feel bad about it but if this is just the first time (I guess it is kasi 2 months palang kayo) then wouldn't it be possible to just let it go? (Bakit parang napapakanta ako?... )

Kahit just this once? I'm just saying, if maghihiwalay kayo just because of it, then what you have right now isn't really something worth having in the first place.