Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 6)

[sparklingjewel]

Omg sis juwie nakakainit ng ulo!! I understand na ayaw nya yung napili mo for her but she can at least have a little bit of consideration for the bride on what will go with the rest of the look of the ento. Maybe you can provide her sketches you agree with for her to choose from para di na sya magdictate.

[reese17]

Juwie, would it help if you give that BM a call and explain? I'm just thinking that maybe hearing your voice might soften the discussion din, iba kasi pag via text. She may misinterpret you. Altho dapat talaga understood na ito ng entourage, there will be some na EGR (extra grace required)... Hope it all works out. I'm also thinking, have your designer talk to her during measurements para she hears it na from the designer mismo.

[juwie]

sis reese, she is based overseas kasi. pahirapan pa to get her measurements (which she sent late) kasi she was ignoring my messages nung malapit na yung deadline. busy daw sa work. yung isa naming friend na overseas din and part of the entou is very responsive and agrees to what I want to happen naman. iniisip ko nga if only she's not flying to PH just for my wedding, sana iba na lang. gusto ko na lang intindihin na baka she's stressed sa life nya dun kaya ganyan sya now.

I never thought I'll have problems like these na dati nababasa ko lang here. hinahanda ko na nga sarili ko that she really can be one of those people na pwedeng magpa importante on our big day. dati gusto nya mag +2 on our wedding coz she wants to bring her lola and sister. tapos sabi nya +1 na lang daw para she can bring our college friend na hindi ko naman na ka-close (pero sila close pa rin until now). sige na lang. di ko nga nirereplyan after nya isend yung "new design" nya. finorward ko na lang sa designer. buti na lang their designer is very accommodating to all these changes.

Sabi ng fiance ko wag ko raw masyado damdamin yung nangyayari kasi not everything is about me daw on our wedding. at the end of the day, I will still get what I want naman daw (na papalitan na their gowns). bridezilla na ba ko?

btw, thanks sisses for all your replies. I feel your concern.

[120515]

oh juwie, hugs to you!
i really can't add any other advice because everyone has given such sound pieces if advice to you.
i just wonder why there are people out there who are just plain difficult.

[juwie]

Thanks sis 120515. i just got a message from her, screenshot lang ng money transfer nya. she transferred the full amount of her gown. ang agreement was hati lang.

[120515]

she has such a big attitude problem, juwie! oh my gosh! sorry, i know she is your friend but i can't help but feel really irritated by the way she is acting. can't she allow herself to be in the background for once?
it's your wedding, be firm with her about the gown design.
more hugs!

[edna_mode]

wooow sis juwie mejo mean ata yun message ng BM mo .. it's like saying.. I paid for gown na so I can have it made any which way I want :/

[sparklingjewel]

^omg she sounds pissed, baka parang o eto ako magbabayad para mapagawa ko gusto ko! grrr

[juwie]

Oh well. Naisip ko na lang i will be firm to my BMs about what I want. If they can't deal with that, then by all means: opt out. Bringing back the good vibes! ☺

[clairetez]

Oh well. Naisip ko na lang i will be firm to my BMs about what I want. If they can't deal with that, then by all means: opt out. Bringing back the good vibes! ☺

Tumpak. Screenshot mo din yung gown

[blackgreen]

^^grabe sis juwie. Meron pala talaga ma-attitude na friends. Kahapon lang yun isang close friend ko umaattitude din sa amin, ayaw na daw niya magsocial networking dahil puro weddings and engagements lang nakikita niya. Why just can't be happy for them diba? Parang same tuloy yun friend natin tsaka yun BM mo.

[juwie]

Sis blackgreen, naku may mga ganyan talaga. I just tell them na nauna lang ako ngayon and that they will have their turn soon, for sure.

[blackgreen]

^yan nga rin sinasabi nung friend namin na nauna na ikasal, pero wala may attitude pa rin. Kung meron kami entourage kasali siya dapat, buti na lang din wala at baka mag-ganyan rin siya like your BM.

[bzbee]

Oh well. Naisip ko na lang i will be firm to my BMs about what I want. If they can't deal with that, then by all means: opt out. Bringing back the good vibes! ☺

like! bride dapat ang masusunod

[juwie]

Sis clairetez, now ko lang na gets yung sinabi mo na i-screenshot ko rin yung gown. Hahaha! Good one! 😀

I think a lot of our single friends will not get what we engaged women are going through because they've never been in our shoes, and it can be frustrating sometimes. Buti na lang may GT coz you girls understand ☺

[fluffyfluff]

naku sis juwie, naiistress na ako just reading about your BM..grabe! May ganun pala talaga na mga tao sa mundo noh? medyo thankful ako na wala naman ganyan sa entourage ko (sana) , ang problema ko lang sa kanila masyado silang lahat busy para samahan ako sa mga bridal chores ko. Nakakalungkot mag try ng gowns magisa noh!

[Maxim04]

ahaha BMs pa ang cause fo headache no! Yung first choice ko ng MOH was a headache too. felt like nagpapaantay siya ng design and sukat until the day that i told her that i need the measurement na. She didnt replied to me and viola! i replaced her instead. i have so many friends waiting for me to invite them to be my abay and yet this ONE person is making paimportante as if she is the only person to fit being my abay. kairitate ano? hahaha

then ako naman my abay chose their design. (then we will put a common denominator for the gowns.) simply because i want them to feel good on their suot. i dont want them to wear the gown ng masama ang loob dahil gusto ni bride. my SIL's wedding, hindi nila gusto yung gowns nila kaya they never used it again kahit sa functions, conventions, etc. they are not even proud of posting it sa FB kasi they dont like the way they look. ewan ko ba kung hindi talaga maganda pero its decent naman for me. nakakahinayang na malaman few weeks after the wedding na napilitan lang sila isuot yung gown dahil gawa na.    ayoko makarinig ng ganun. hehe. My MIL is like asking me pa kung ok lang ba ganitong design..  she asked for my approval too, kasi ayaw din daw niya na 'overdesigned' yung suot ng mga SIL ko. at least she know the 'boundaries' of the dress ng abay. Not like the pabongga effect or parang 100% may say sila kasi they will pay for their gown. o edi sige, kayo na ikasal! hahaha 

[barbeecue]

sissies will you let your bridesmaids pay for their gowns, half-half kayo or will you pay for everything? how about their makeup? i don't know how to go about this pa eh... parang i don't know how to ask them to pay for their dresses...

[120515]

^ i'm paying for my secondary sponsors' and maid of honor's gowns and make-up (i don't have bridesmaids) ^

but i've been a bridesmaid twice where i paid for my gown. my friends sweetly requested that my gown will be my gift to them

they just gave us certain styles to choose from and we each get to choose a style for ourselves.

[sparklingjewel]

I'm paying for all MOH, bridesmaid, secondary sponsor and flower girl gowns plus their hair and makeup. For principal sponsors i think the practice is just to provide tela so we'll do that.