Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 6)

[Reynamargallo]

^ hi sis simang. awww..hugs. ilan daw gusto ng dad mo na guests? maybe you can gently explain to him na your wedding will be a private affair and napagkasunduan ninyo ng fiancee mo to limit it.

Parents ng mga ikakasal are extra sensitive sa ganitong panahon na ikakasal mga anak nila. As in. witness ako na medyo dramatic ang mom ko at mom ng fiancee ko. konting kibot lang, nagdaramdam na.

Maybe dahil sa they feel na tayo ay mga bata pa. Maybe reality is sinking in na rin na we are no longer babies anymore at  bubuo na tayo ng sariling pamilya.

lets assure them na we love and respect them kahit ano mangyari

[Chili1113]

Hay new problem. Just found out my videographer accepted another wedding on the same day even if we were both assured that 1 wedding a day lang sila.

But on a positive note, weeks ago I kept saying that H2b and I were having problems and a big reason why we kept fighting was because of his lack of cooperation re wedding preps. Eto yung nakakatawa. Dahil sa double booking issue na yan with videographer, H2B is now actively participating with wedding preps! LOL I dont think we ever discussed our wedding preps this much since I had gotten engaged!! HAHA

[belle_v2g]

I'm happy that you guys are starting to be okay again.

[jentotmd]

^ true sis chilli, it's good to know na mas active na si h2b ngayon. maybe because nastress din siya sa videographer. haha

on topic: isa lang naging problem ko sa wedding. and that is our guestlist. initially 100pax pero nag extend kami ng 150pax. mostly because of my mom na may mga gusto iinvite, na in fairness naman sa kanya is talaga namang close niya. i didn't like the idea at first. pero bumigay na din ako since ang mantra ko talaga is di naman ako pinagdamutan ng mom ko ever so wala ako reason to do the same to her.

our wedding was on a Sunday in Tagaytay. Mother's day din siya so you can imagine the traffic. pero nagulat ako na almost lahat ng invited, dumating. sa part ko pa yung may mga hindi nakarating. masarap yung feeling na madaming nakisaya sa celebration. and hindi ko talaga pinagsisihan na nagexpand ako ng pax to accomodate my mom's and dad's guests. she was very happy. and in turn, masayang masaya din kami also, may mga dumating din na relatives si hubby na from isabela pa kaya masayang masaya din sa kabila and siyempre si hubby.

and that made our wedding special.
kaya all in all yung problem about the pax, sometimes kailangan mo talaga ilet go e. come to think of it, you would pay heaps for your gown, for your stylist, photo/video team, pero sa celebration par eg pax, guests, not so willing some brides. more extravagance, less people to share it with. sometimes ganyan talaga.

everything depends pa din sa preference niyo though

[rightback]

sis chilli good to know h2b is now more active sa wedding preps--and the silver lining about your videographer issue is that you both have a chance on how you can deal with issues as a couple. hope your new issue will be sorted out soon. you have time pa naman. at least you guys discovered it early.

[reese17]

Okay, medyo paranoid na rin ako na my videographer might entertain another booking also on my wedding date. I didn't get Dreamechanics but I booked someone who's originally a photographer but can also produce good SDEs (given that he has enough content) -- although I was personally assured (and it's documented via email) that the guy himself will be directing the SDE at my wedding, I can't help but wonder if this could change...and if I should request them to include that clause in the contract?

Chili, I'm glad your fiance is taking a more active role!

[caleeice]

Oh no. That's sad to hear sis chili. However, on a positive note, at least you found out about it now that you still have time to do something about. Also, I'm happy that your fiance is now actively participating and helping you sort this one out.

[simang]

^ hi sis simang. awww..hugs. ilan daw gusto ng dad mo na guests? maybe you can gently explain to him na your wedding will be a private affair and napagkasunduan ninyo ng fiancee mo to limit it.

Parents ng mga ikakasal are extra sensitive sa ganitong panahon na ikakasal mga anak nila. As in. witness ako na medyo dramatic ang mom ko at mom ng fiancee ko. konting kibot lang, nagdaramdam na.

Maybe dahil sa they feel na tayo ay mga bata pa. Maybe reality is sinking in na rin na we are no longer babies anymore at  bubuo na tayo ng sariling pamilya.

lets assure them na we love and respect them kahit ano mangyari

Thank you sis. Actually before we discussed the guest list sa parents ko, we thought it would be easy to insist on the limit.. But when my ate told tatay na piliin nya lang ang iinvite nya at wag masyadong marami, he kept quiet lang (which is usually not him). Nalungkot lang din ako since youngest ako and i know how much he wants to invite his friends to his bunso's wedding.

Inexplain naman namin sa kanila yun because of the budget din. Totoo yan, medyo sensitive talaga sila, i was thinking maybe iniisip nila na hindi na sila kasali sa planning or parang wala na silang say sa mga decisions namin. Oh well. I love my tatay so much sa mga ganitong events lang ang hirap kasi social buttefly talaga sya. Hehe.

Good to know sis chili!! at least naging concerned sya sa preps nyo hehe. sino p/v mo pala?

[xsugar]

sis Chili1113, on a positive note nakatulong yung dilemma nyo sa videographer dahil naging cooperative bigla si h2b! try to discuss/clarify with your supplier na din sana, specify mo yung gusto mo para aware din sila and marinig mo side nila.

aww sis simang..maghahanda pa naman ata kayo sa bahay nyo tell your dad na lang sa bahay na lang papuntahin yung ibang bisita.

[simang]

^actually sis dinismiss na namin yung idea na yun, pero parang ganun nga ang mangyayari. Na may separate reception sa bahay..

[xsugar]

kami din kasi sis dismiss namin ni h2b yung idea pero since nag limit kami ng bisita sa reception bukod sa friends ng parents, may friends pa din kaming baka hindi makapunta sa reception dahil sa schedule. so mag handa kami kahit konti sa bahay namin at nila:)

[Redishred Correa]

 The worst problem to encounter before wedding is...
REALIZING THAT YOU ARE NOT IN LOVED TO HIM ANYMORE.
or
REALIZING THAT YOU ARE NOT READY TO GET MARRIED.

So mere but might happen.
(crossed fingers)

 

[bonzaigirl]

Hay new problem. Just found out my videographer accepted another wedding on the same day even if we were both assured that 1 wedding a day lang sila.

But on a positive note, weeks ago I kept saying that H2b and I were having problems and a big reason why we kept fighting was because of his lack of cooperation re wedding preps. Eto yung nakakatawa. Dahil sa double booking issue na yan with videographer, H2B is now actively participating with wedding preps! LOL I dont think we ever discussed our wedding preps this much since I had gotten engaged!! HAHA

ooohh that's good to hear sis Chilli1113 

[bonzaigirl]

I mean, that you and your fiance are on the same boat on wedding preps Not so good to hear about the videographer though 

[bonzaigirl]

When we insisted about the limit of the number of guests, nalungkot si tatay -_-

Oh dear, I can empathize with you.  When I told my mum about this,  she understood immediately.  Before I left Manila, we already made a mock guestlist on our side, and what she did was just took a number of guests per partida.  Tapos meron kaming 10 extra.  Just in case may mga mag no sa RSVP.

Unfortunately, my MIL, upto now eh parang may tampo.  Kasi parang gusto nya imbitahin buong barangay and yung high school clan nya.  Although naintindihan naman namin na talagang proud lang sya sa anak nya.  And kasi parang hindi nya talaga gusto na ang gusto naming kasal eh in a bed and breakfast type, instead of an events place like Fernbrook. 

So tinatry talaga namin sa kanya ipaintindi na we would really just want a solemn and intimate wedding.  Hay.    But I still have 1 year to go.  Who knows, maybe she'll warm up to the idea. 


Kelan ba kasal mo sis, hopefully maintindihan ni Papa mo about your situation. 

[simang]

^november wedding namin sis bonzaigirl, 6 months to go. I feel na naiintindihan naman nya, feel ko kaya sya nalungkot is kasi he knows he can't insist on what he wants dahil alam naman nyang limited lang budget namin. Naalala ko nung nagsabi kami sa kanila about our plans, isa sa mga reminders nya kay fiance is how expensive it is to get married in our province (fellow batangenya b2b's, i know you know what i mean lol). Kaya sabi na lang nya, sa bahay na lang daw sya magpapareception for his friends -_-

Ang pangit lang ng feeling na di natin sila mapagbigyan. But i hope na positive pa din parents and in laws natin with everything.

Sis xsugar, ayun parang ganun ang magiging plan. May small post wedding reception sa place namin, and meron din kila partner since north and south kami.

[bonzaigirl]

Aww..  sis simang, don't worry, he has 6 months to process it out. hehe.  I think minsan mahirap lang din nila tanggapin na this time around, they are not the ones calling the shots.    Hindi na sila ang big boss, and from this time on, kayo na on your own will be making your own decisions in life. 

[belle_v2g]

Guests who promised that they'll come tapos ngayon sasabihin hindi sure. Ano yon, joke joke lang??  After reserving the exact number of pax yesterday sa final FT???  Some talaga di na lang maging honest instead na magpaasa.

[ilynaloira]

^I had those too! sure na sure then hindi na pupunta.. nung una nainis talaga ako pero ngayon carebears na lang.. kesa mastress pa ako ng sobra.

[bonzaigirl]

Guests who promised that they'll come tapos ngayon sasabihin hindi sure. Ano yon, joke joke lang??  After reserving the exact number of pax yesterday sa final FT???  Some talaga di na lang maging honest instead na magpaasa.

oh no sis belle_v2g,    nakakaasar talaga yung pinapaasa ka lang na pupunta tapos hindi naman pala. Sabihan mo na lang sis yung mga super close nyong relatives and friends na sulitin ng bengga ang food, para hindi masayang, or isipin mo na lang sis, eh mababawasan ang crew meal na iorder mo instead.  Huwag ka na pastress sis.  Lapit na ang big day mo.  Best wishes and congratulations in advance.