Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 6)

[j.adore]

How about having someone else invite the set B guests? Like a close or common friend or someone from the entourage?

Sayang eh. Or invite people who normally serve you like from banks etc

You may end up with guests you're not close with but at least nothing was wasted (both money and food).

[shygirlme]

Medyo nakakabadtrip yung mga guests na nag RSVP then at the last minute biglang mag decline. We initially wanted to have 150 guest sa wedding namin. During the planning stage, lumobo ng mga hanggang 180 yung guests. We were okay with it and decided to invite yung nag exceed na sa 150.

When we had our RSVP last March 13 all 180 said yes. Ngayon, biglang may nag cancel. We are now down to 168. We sent save the date reminders and invitation to all 180. And all are eager to attend our wedding. Sa akin lang sana nag decline na lang sila during the RSVP stage. They were all excited and even told me kung ano yung susuotin nila.  Tapos ngayon daming excuses.

We could have invited other people in our wedding. Ngayon medyo hesitant ako to invite the set B guests baka kasi ma-offend na late ko na sila na invite.  In addition, we already paid for the 180 heads plus buffer which is already outside our wedding budget. Medyo na sasangayan lang ako dun sa extra plates.
 
Yun lang. I just need to let it off my system para hindi ko na pag-stressan yun.

eto nangyari sa wedding namin. imagine from 170 guests need namin mag trim down to 150 kasi 150 lang binayaran namin sa caterer, willing kami magdagdag eh thankful kami sa mga una nag decline bumaba sa 157 nalang guest namin (plus 14 kids na to), habang papalapit na yung wedding madami na naman nagdedecline, 1 week before the wedding 120 nalang kami. ayaw na ng husband ko mag invite ng iba kasi nahihiya sya sabihin late na sila ininvite. even may father in law na nagsasabi iinvite 4 bestfriends nya, na una tumanggi kami nung sinabi namin iinvite na wala na ayaw na din iinvite. sa wedding day 94 lang nagpunta. sad no? people should know na kada oo nila eh may katumbas na bayad. until now yun mga nag yes tapos di sumipot, di nagexplain samin bakit sila di nagpakita

[belle_v2g]

^nako hiyang hiya siguro sila.

Just need to let this out.. super naistress ako sa invitation ko. Stress na stress na stress!!! Target ko na distribution na first week of april.. hindi na talaga kaya.. it'll be 3rd week of april saka ko pa lang makukuha. Super rush!!!! :S

[120515]

hi belle_v2g, as long as you have already informed the guests through your save the date message, i think it's okay that the formal invites are a little late. don't stress too much...everything will fall into place

[belle_v2g]

Hi sis 120515
I'm trying to sis.. thanks for reminding me though. I had to get rid of my previous printing supplier coz she doesn't have the things I needed. But it's good now.. my coordinator was able to find a replacement na medyo pricey kaya kahit medyo late na our rsvp, no choice naman na ako.. pag maginarte pako baka tapos na wedding, hindi pa gawa invites ko.

[120515]

good thing you found a replacement supplier already! to be honest, now that we have our rsvp set up through our wedding website, i'm really tempted not to give out formal wedding invitations already. but then i remember that i so have older guests who do not know how to use the website so we still have to have formal invitations. though we'll just give a limited number

[donya_dyosa]

Hay naku sis kung ako yan tinanggal ko na silang abay sa unang reklamo pa lang nila. Bilib ako sa patience mo!

I wanted na tanggalin sila kaso inisip ko rin ang long term effect ang laking gulo during and after the wedding siguro nun at feud agad agad.. im surprised na kinaya ko maging mahinahon ng ganon.. pero sa totoo lang onti onti nalang magwawala na talaga ako noon. dahil sa nasaktan at nastress ako ng sobra, hindi ako kumoclose sa kanila..(family ni husband) sa mga pamangkin kong maaarte.. naalala ko na bakit masungit na tita ako sa kanila... kasi ang aarte pala talaga nila ng grabe..
although the black wedding went awesome. galit parin ako sa mga nagpastress sakin ng bongga.

[maukris]

I think isa sa mga naging problem ko mga sis, yung mga gusto maging entourage, yung mga gusto mo kunin pero wala, and yung mga ipipilit nga mga parents maging part ng entourage. Hahhaha


Yung tipong ask ka, bat daw ayun ang maid of honor, bat di kinuha yung apo ni ganyan,
Maliit na problem pero minsan nakaka stress. Hahhahah

[lippiequeen]

while i was reading your posts i can only think and pray na sana sa pagstart ng preps ko wala akong maexperience na major problems, minor lang na kayang solusyonan. happy preps sissies

[Kimjoori]

Hello Ladies!

Thank you sa mga suggestions! Medyo umaayos na yung guests namin sa wedding. Yung mga nasa guest list B namin nag-oo naman sila. Yung mga nasa B list namin are the people we know pero di na namin nakakasama/nakakausap ng madalas. We invited them personally and explained kung bakit di namin sila invite beforehand. I told them na alam namin na baka ma-offend sila dahil last minute invite sila but we still push through with inviting them rather than not inviting them at all. They were understanding naman.

Ngayon, problem ko na lang is the outfit of my mother. Kaloka, daming gusto pabago ni Mother sa gown nya. Next week na yung kasal ko.

[belle_v2g]

What's the best approach to bridesmaids who refuses/ignores my messages when I ask them to have their measurements taken? Medyo napipikon na kase ako. Haha! 2 months na lang please naman be considerate!! 

[caleeice]

Hala sis, they haven't had their measurements pa? Well, depending on who will be making their dresses, kaya pa naman. One of my female entou is pregnant so she'll be having her measurements only a month before the wedding. So kaya siya.

My entou dati ayaw din pasukat kasi diet pa daw sila. Then every week ata, I'd ask them until they felt guilty and finally had their measurements taken. Hehe. Pwede rin ask a friend/relative or their parents na magpasukat na sila since only 2 months away na lang sis!!!

[aNgelofThEMorning]

shygirlme so meaning nag-excess ka ng 56 heads? ohmygee naman talaga yan...kumuha ka pa ba ng crew meal, ang daming sobrang food nyan. Napaka-inconsiderate naman nila, kung ako yan hinde ko na siguro sila kakausapin ng matagal tagal...lahat kase ng suppliers nagtataas depende sa number of guest. Ang laking tipid sana kung 100pax lang na-reserve mo...gggrrr nahi-highblood ako

[belle_v2g]

Pareho pala tayo sis.. My bridesmaid just gave birth last march 20 kaya diet mode, malaki pa daw puson nya.. Ayun finally napapayag ko na. Sabi ko iadjust nalang if ever basta impt may sukat. My other bridesmaid from japan na friend ni hubby, si mommy ko na magsusukat sakanya. Grabe ang hirap ng ganito. Haha! Nakakawala sa mood ha. Si mama naman super confident, matatapos daw on time, di ako mapakali.

[caleeice]

Kaya naman yun sis. Pero what we did with entou gowns was to set the deadline a week before the wedding just to be safe. I also have secondary sponsor who's living abroad and will only be here a week before the wedding. If magkaroon ng problem with measurements, we'll have it altered elsewhere.

[120515]

hi belle_v2g, i was going to suggest to scratch them off the list if they really don't have any good reason why they won't have their measurements taken. that is very stressful! keep faith! everything will fall into place

[caleeice]

^Sis belle's invites is with the printer na so kind of dyahe to replace. Pero kung pasaway talaga and nobody can intervene to push them to have their measurements taken, I'd also suggest to replace them. Minsan kasi kailangan lang kulitin ng kulitin ang mga tao as if papayat sila in a week's time. hehe

[belle_v2g]

^sis 120515
They have all these reasons na holy week, walang magbabantay sa anak. Eh dumating ka last week pa and you promised to prioritise it. Buti sana kung matagal pa ang wedding pero 2 months remaining time?? 9 secondary sponsors, 2 mothers plus 6 sisters ni hubby ang gagawan ng gowns, hindi lang sya. Hahaha omg, naging bridezilla ako bigla kagabi. Now I have to get my mom again to take her measurements since pareho sila nasa province. Yung friend ko naman, malaki pa daw puson coz she just gave birth kaya ayaw pa pa-measure haha!

Sis caleeice,
If hindi pa gawa ang invites ko sana sis nako I could have done that.. pero you're right medyo mahihiya na rin ako at this point kaya I don't have a choice but mag follow up.

[120515]

^ good thing one of them is finally getting her measurements taken. i was wondering whether you can threaten the other bridesmaid to have her dress made without her measurements and she'll have to wear the gown.
when my cousin got married, she did not tell me and my other cousin (who was her brother) that myself and my other cousin were her maid of honor and best man, respectively. it was crazy! no wonder my mother forced me to fly in to cebu just to attend the wedding. we only learned about it the night before the wedding when we arrived at their house and saw the invitation. i ended up wearing a really loose gown because she just gave the dress-maker fake measurements.

[janagirl]

Some of the suppliers that we shortlisted are booked already on our wedding date. So heartbreaking.