Problems you encounter while preparing for your wedding (Part 6)

[skela96c]

naku, ako talaga ayoko mag give-in. haha! sabi ko sa kanya kung talagang friends mo yan, they will understand. or kung gusto nila wag nila isama partners nila para mainvite mo iba mong friends (like some of his friends will do).  pero wag sya magcross over sa number of pax ko. hehe

[yannuh]

^haha true sis skela96c! line ko din yan nung di kame magkasundo sa guest list, Dun na sya kamo magpakasal sa sarili nya or sa friends nya:) Though ngayon feeling ko ang hatian namin is 75-65 na mas malaki sken HAHA. Planning to invite 140 pax lang pero 150 pax ang food+ 30 suppliers meal:)

[bzbee]

^ push mo yan sis! haha! i think that's just fair, especially if hati din naman kayo sa wedding expenses. ayoko lang ng sakit ng ulo kaya id rather pay than argue with h2b

[juwie]

@bonzaigirl I guess your MIL is like that because she is really excited about your upcoming wedding and she thinks she's just being supportive. As what j.adore said, look at it on a positive side. What I can advise is that it should be up to your fiance to manage your MIL's expectations and excitement over your wedding 😊

[belle_v2g]

^same here bzbee. 150 pax initially ang gusto ko. When I told hubby about it, ang konti daw masyado..coz nung send off party nya, 200 pax na na daw yung bisita nya.. kanya pa lang yon. So we agreed na 200 pax bisita but since nasa abroad karamihan ng family and friends ko, mas madami sa kanya. 220 pax current head count namin, 140 sa kanya then 80 sakin.

[120515]

i definitely have more guests for our philippine wedding but i'm pushing my husband to invite everyone he wants to from his side. he has 35 invited guests vs 172 for me. confirmed guests so far are 6 for him and 117 for me. although, his view is that the philippine wedding is mainly for me

[Kimjoori]

I have a question about the traditional dances during the reception. We usually have the couple's first dance, mother and groom dance and lastly, the father and daughter dance.

The thing is my father died a long time ago. My mom will walk me down the aisle. I asked H2B if we can skip the traditional dances pero ayaw nya. He wants to have the dance with his mom. I suggested na if I can dance with his father then he will dance with my mom. Ayaw nya. Sabi ko both mothers na lang isayaw nya. His open to the idea but I can see na ayaw nyang magsayaw ng matagal.

Do you have any suggestions/creative ideas on how we can go with the traditional dance with the parents?

[fionaapple]

^kami walang dance kasi wala na kaming dad pareho ng husband ko. instead, my mom sang a song and dedicated it to me. The song was "That's All" by Rod Stewart

I can only give you love that lasts forever,
And a promise to be near each time you call.
And the only heart I own
For you and you alone
That's all,
That's all

I can only give you country walks in springtime
And a hand to hold when leaves begin to fall;
And a love whose burning light
Will warm the winter's night
That's all,
That's all.

There are those I am sure who have told you,
They would give you the world for a toy.
All I have are these arms to enfold you,
And a love time can never destroy.

If you're wondering what I'm asking in return, dear,
You'll be glad to know that my demands are small.
Say it's me that you'll adore,
For now and evermore
That's all,
That's all.

Maraming umiyak. Even my officemates naiyak kasi naalala nila mga mommies nila nung kinasal sila.

[120515]

aaawwww, fionaapple, i'm also teary-eyed just reading your story. it's so sweet of your mom to sing this song for you

[donyafiona]

Mga sis sino sa inyo naka experience na may friend na nasabihan na nakasali sa bridesmaid pero gusto niyo na tanggalin? Sobrang negative niya kasi. Nauna kasi siya ikasal sa akin and siyempre mag aask ako sa kanya tungkol sa mga bagay bagay. Ang dating eh parang ayaw niya na matalbugan ko kasal niya. Nega lang diba?

[fionaapple]

^salamat naiyak nga ako habang pinopost ko yung lyrics e. naalala ko yung song ng mom ko. sis Kimjoori, maybe you can ask your mom to do that na lang.

[bzbee]

hi sis donyafiona! if that was me tatanggalin ko talaga yan haha! sorry but i dont want nega vibes for our wedding. siguro make an excuse na lang na kailangan mo siya palitan ng someone really close or a family member.

[donyafiona]

^ Nakakainis diba sis. Syempre ang gusto mong bridesmaid eh yung full support sayo on your big day. Kailangang makaisip ako ng paraan para machugi ko siya sa ento ko. Or baka naman pag chinugi ko siya eh isipin niya bitter lang ako kaya ko siya tinanggal. Nakakainis!

[blackgreen]

^i have that friend too (though dipa siya kasal). If I will have an entourage kasama rin siya sa bridesmaid, buti na lang wala na kami entourage kasi ganyan din siya mega nega din sa wedding preps ko. Ginagawa ko na lang sis, di na lang ako nagkkwento sa kaniya kasi mas nababad vibes lang ako.

[120515]

in one ear out the other

[sparklingjewel]

^Sis bonzaigirl i don't want to take so much space here explaning so i'll get straight to the point: If you and your fiance are shouldering the wedding expenses, technically you should have the final say.

 In our case, since that was how we planned it, we never even involved our families in the planning, we said we'll do it on our own and we have a pretty good idea of what we wanted to have. Of course my future MIL had some ideas and even inquired for us in some hotels in the metro, but eventually she stopped when we told her we had already booked a church and venue in Tagaytay. We do accept recommendations but we stood firm that ultimately everything, each and every detail, will be our decision. That's how we're getting our dream wedding. I never got into bad terms with my MIL despite this. I understand that normal Filipino families are worse when it comes to this, because they like having an opinion and a say even when they have no hand in it/ are not paying for the event. But up to you how firm you want to be.

The only thing we ultimately changed about that rule is the guestlist. I understood that being the businesspeople they are they have many important people they want to invite. I agreed to stretch our guestlist by +50 people provided that they would shoulder the excess food (2k per head is not cheap and we're on a strict budget). My MIL agreed and actually volunteered to shoulder our entire food expense (25% of total expenses) so we could use the extra money for styling, or whatever we wanted. In the end that was a blessing to us as we did need the money.

[tealover]

Sakin naman I would not mind having younger ones in the reception provided na ninang or ninong ko lolo or lola. And so long as behaved sila and kung magdadala ng yaya, better make sure may gift to compensate the additional cost? ❤️

[yannuh]

^truly, i will remove her talaga as an ento member agad-agad. Ayaw mong magspread sya ng nega vibes during wedding preps, baka mahawa pa ang ibang tao tsk tsk/

[blushingbaby]

^ Hi sis donyafiona. Grabe pareho tayo ng problem. Meron din akong napaka nega na friend. Nauna rin siya ikasal sa akin. Tapos parang sinasabi ko sa kaniya nung una yung mga gusto ko mangyare sa kasal ko. Pag tipong ang gusto ko eh mas bongga sa kanya palagi niya ipipilit na hindi importante yun at mas okay yung choice niya. parang walang ibang magandang choice kundi yung choice niya lang ning kasal niya. Nega siya sa lahat.

[juwie]

^ bakit may mga ganung nega friends? Porket nauna lang sila ikasal feeling nila wala na dapat mas gaganda pa sa wedding nila? Buti na lang wala naman akong ganun na married friends lahat sila supportive.. in fact mas supportive pa sila kesa sa ibang single friends ko kasi yung mga single friends ko naman medyo "bitter" so medyo hands off sila ng onti sa wedding planning