Do girls need to fight for their man?

[zarazan]

If may nagsisimulang issue na  "third party", do girls need to fight for their man OR dapat hindi naman sila pumapayag magpalandi in the first place (the guy)?

I have a friend kasi na medyo malandi yung boyfriend. Not necessarily a cheater, malapitin lang talaga sa girls. And what my friend does is... kinakausap niya yung girls na lumalandi sa bf niya and tells them to back off.  Ayun, sila parin after 5 years.

Then there's a different  friend naman na same situation. But the thing is, napagod siya. So in the end, she broke up with him and looked for a guy na hindi talaga malandi.

Kayo ba? Are you the type who tells the world that he's your man and girls need to back off? Or rely on your trust nalang na pag may lumalandi, hindi naman papatulan ng bf niyo?

[Girltalker2]

Nakakapagod naman ata kung malandi ang guy, ibig sabihin MARAMI yung kelangan mo sabihan. Unless wala ka nang ibang ginagawa mo sa buhay mo except i-monitor ang BF mo, baka kaya pa iyan gawin ng ilan.

Pero kung BF/GF palang kayo at ganyan kalandi na si BF (not to mention marami din malalandi na umaaligid), para sakin, I would not pursue that BF at masasayang lang oras ko. Una una, nakakapagod. Wala kang na achieve sa buhay ko kundi magbantay forever - note BF palang iyan ha, hindi pa asawa, what more kung asawa na. Tatanda ka ng maaga.  What a loser life you will have kung ganyan ang mapangasawa mo. Kaya better to find someone right for you who will take care of you at may integrity at delikadesa na hindi lumandi sa iba.

[honeybunny]

Sis, ganito lang yan, kahit ano pang sabi mo sa girl na layuan ang BF mo, kung si BF talaga ang lumalandi or nagbibigay ng intention, then wala ka magagawa. That's not fighting for your man means to me. Kasi kung ayaw naman talaga ng lalake, kahit na may lumandi pa sa kanya ng babae, kahit mag hubad pa ang girl, kung ayaw talaga ng tao, ayaw nya talaga yan. Sa laki ng katawan at lakas ng lalaki, sa tingin mo ba kung ayaw nya talaga e hindi mangyayari ang landian?

Tinutukan ba sya ng baril at sinabing dapat magpalandi sya?

No.

Mga ganyang lalake mababae ang self esteem at need nila ng validation by making landi to other girls to see if mabenta or gwapo/attractive ba sila. Siguro maliit ang et et haha

edit: to add. Hindi ka naman nakipag relationship to play detective at bantayan ang boyfriend mo 24/7 at tabuyin ang mga malalanding girls.

Fighting for your relationship para sakin means kung sinu mang tao ang pwedeng makapag pasira ng relationship nyo e itataboy mo na. Like kunyari may guy na umaaligid sayo, pumoporma kahit alam nyang may BF ka na, then ikaw na mismo iiwas sa mga yun. Kasi you respect your BF and your relationship inaalagan mo.

[zarazan]

I am not saying naman sis na that's what fighting for relationship means. hehe. I said, if may nasstart na "third party issue", will you fight for your man or leave him be.

Share ko lang. My dad used to have these girls sa office. Alam ng lahat may asawa siya (syempre oldie na haha). And the thing is, may GIRLS talaga na malalandi. As in malalandi na mahilig sa may pera. My dad, I can say if ever natutukso, never pumatol.    My mother never doubted the loyalty of my dad, BUT.... she made sure no one goes past the office landian. She talked to this specific girl and told her "Iha, sayang ganda mo, wag ka na lumandi sa may asawa na".  And since then, umiwas na yung girl.  My parents are still happily married for 32 years.

I think there's nothing wrong naman with fighting for your man once in a while. Guys need to feel wanted too. And there will really come a time na need nila ng assurance. Matutukso yan, not necessarily magccheat, but siguro ma-eenjoy din ang attention from others.

[heartfortress]

IMO, dapat si guy bilang nasa 'in a relationship' status na siya dapat sa kanya na nagsisimula na dapat dumistansiya na siya sa ibang girls at para respeto na rin kay gf. Kahit pa sabihin na natural na malandi lang si guy nung single pa e dapat mabago na yun once may girlfriend na sya db? Kung naligaw lang ng landas si bf at biglang may something fishy na, aba e dapat ipaglaban nya si guy kasi baka natukso lang talaga kaya bumaliko ang utak. Baka kelangan lang gisingin at matauhan. Pero kung paulit ulit na ibang usapan na yun.

share ko lang din.May kilala ako na paulit ulit ang issues ng relasyon nila: babae! Well babaero talaga si guy simula pa lang. May instance na itong si girl e kinausap ang nilalanding girl ni bf nya to the point na tinethreaten nya na yung tao sa sobrang selosa. Ang resulta ga muntik ng idemenda si girlfriend kung di lang nasettle ang issue.

[honeybunny]

for me, as long as my guy does not initiate the landian and that hindi siya pumapatol then i will step up and talk to the sl*t like what your mom did.

pero if yung guy ko mismo ang malandi, then wag na dun na sya ayoko ng sakit sa ulo.

[Girltalker2]

^ and ^^ but I think the problem is you won't know if he is telling the truth or not di ba? I mean syempre sasabihan ng guy na yung babae ang humahabol (di ba most of the time ito ang reason???) pero malaki ang chances hindi naman din at mutual lang ang landian ng 3rd party and the guy??

Being the partner of the guy, di ba nakakahiya manita at baka niloloko ka nanga at di mo pa alam. Ang dating tuloy sa girl (3rd party) eh parang bantay sarado or kapit tuko yung wife sa asawa nya kasi babaero.

I think bottom line nyan nasa guy talaga e. Hindi nya hahayaan na umabot sa ganoon ang situation nya sa ibang babae such that may opportunity ang babae lumandi sa kanya.

Tapos, he would also not put you in a very awkward situation such that maninita ka lang or mang aaway ka lang ng kung sino sino.

Hindi naman minor/bata yung lalaki such that hindi nya magawa ang magsabi sa girl - sorry I'm not interested and I'm in love with my wife. Ano sya mute na di makapag salita? Tapos yung wife/gf ang manunugod? 

Sorry, I just find it socially awkward talaga. Not my style. The guy has the responsibility. Hindi yung gf or asawa na mag police-police-an.

When my ex spouse had a mistress, never ako nanugod. Ano pa kaya kung mga flings lang na ganyan. Di naman papatol or lalandi ang girl sa guy mo lang kung sya lang talaga ang malandi. Naniniwala ako either nabigyan iyan ng motive ng guy or Hindi ka maipaglaban ng guy mo just by simply saying NO - Tapos you go around saying you are fighting for your guy??? Talagang doesn't make sense and only puts you in a bad light.

[simang]

I have a friend kasi na medyo malandi yung boyfriend. Not necessarily a cheater, malapitin lang talaga sa girls. And what my friend does is... kinakausap niya yung girls na lumalandi sa bf niya and tells them to back off.  Ayun, sila parin after 5 years.

My bf is flirty and friendly, at talagang lapitin ng mga babae at bakla, ganun talaga. What do I do? I let him be. Pakialam ko sa mga lumalapit sa kanya? Ang importante sa akin sya lumalapit. Pero totoo never pumasok sa isip ko na kausapin yung mga humaharot sa kanya, as in wala akong pakialam sa kanila at all. My focus is on my relationship with my partner, and the security should come from within the relationship. Hindi yun matatahimik ka lang kapag alam mong walang manggugulo. Diba mas peaceful kapag alam mong kahit may manggulo eh chill pa rin kayong dalawa?

Kayo ba? Are you the type who tells the world that he's your man and girls need to back off? Or rely on your trust nalang na pag may lumalandi, hindi naman papatulan ng bf niyo?

I am proud that he's my man, but i don't feel the need to tell the other girls to back off. Hmm insekyora ang dating masyado. Same pa din, bahala kayo dyan basta masaya kami dito. Haha

[three8one]

IMHO, case to case basis... like, if may third party no need ipaglaban pa yan... si guy or girl kung mahal talaga nila at kontento sila sa pakikipagrelasyon nila hinding hindi maghahanap yan ng pupuno sa kakulangan ng karelasyon nila.. hindi rin naman natin pwede sabihin na baka hindi nila alam ang ginagawa nila dahil malaking kasinungalingan naman yun.. no need na to fight for your man/woman hindi worthy like what i said if may third party involved.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

If may nagsisimulang issue na  "third party", do girls need to fight for their man OR dapat hindi naman sila pumapayag magpalandi in the first place (the guy)?

I have a friend kasi na medyo malandi yung boyfriend. Not necessarily a cheater, malapitin lang talaga sa girls. And what my friend does is... kinakausap niya yung girls na lumalandi sa bf niya and tells them to back off.  Ayun, sila parin after 5 years.

Then there's a different  friend naman na same situation. But the thing is, napagod siya. So in the end, she broke up with him and looked for a guy na hindi talaga malandi.

Kayo ba? Are you the type who tells the world that he's your man and girls need to back off? Or rely on your trust nalang na pag may lumalandi, hindi naman papatulan ng bf niyo?

A woman should not fight this hard to be with her man. For the first case, parang ang hirap naman nun. I can almost forgive a lot of things but never cheating. The guy is already in a relationship and that there is already someone who can give him a whole damn lot more than cheap thrills of attraction. Being a in a relationship (where a man loves and adore you, as what relationships should be) means no more flirting with others.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

My guy is neither flirty or friendly, but this doesn't stop women & women-wannabes from giving him a look every once in a while. Whenever this happens, I keep calm and do nothing. All I know is this... he has made a choice to be with me. In the event that the day comes that I would need to really make an effort to really make the world know that he is WITH me, is the day I start to re-evaluate if I am still in this relationship for the right reasons. I seriously don't see the point in telling other ladies to back off... minsan nga, mas masaya yung hayaan mo silang lumapit and si boy na ang bahala to keep them away or totally deadma, so no effect. I mean, c'mon, you can't be all over him & everything that goes on 24/7, if there is really an intent to play around, no matter how you guard your guy, it is bound to happen. Therefore, you will just have to trust that he values the relationship enough and not commit anything that will shake things up! Again, this is just me. Different folks, different strokes!

[young_maiden]

If you have to fight with other girls to get him, you're better off without him.

Kahit ano pa gawin natin para ipakita natin na mahal natin ang isang guy at kahit ano pa gawin mo para gumanda ka o manatili ka maganda, may ibang mga girls pa rin na mas maganda sa atin. may mga tao na daig tayo pagdating sa kalandian. nasa boyfriend na lang yun kung magpapadala siya sa tukso na nasa paligid niya. kung matinong lalaki siya, tatanggihan niya mga taong lumalandi sa kanya.

[baliwsayo]

Okey lang naman sa akin pag may lumalapit.. basta ba hindi siya naglalandi back eh.

Yung isang ex ko kasi ganyan, nababasa at nakikita ko pa pakikipaglandian niya (real estate broker kasi yun sa states) kaya likas na siyang malandi talaga. Lagi namin pinag-aawayan kaya ayun nagbago naman siya. Maski nga ngayong hiwalay na kami eh, hindi na siya malandi. Sabi ko nga pwede na siya manglandi ulit kasi di naman na kami eh. Ayaw na daw niya. Sabi ko plastic. Lol!

[aquacharly]

If a man is good looking, charming & a gentleman -- lalapitan  talaga yan ng girls. 
Or, matanda, and/or pangit but has money:  lalapitan din yan ng girls.
Kanya kanyang needs kasi mga girls.  Hahaha
Well, who would want a bf/husband few find attractive anyway? 

Will I fight for a man?
Yung kausapin the competition to back off - no. 

But I will find ways and means to foil the competition.
Like, one way is to make it hard for them to meet up.
Or exclude her from our social activities. 
Another is to befriend the competition. Keep your friends close, your enemies closer.
It depends what tactic to use -- depends on the emerging threat. Hahaha

Or, outright tell my man -- I do not like you being overly close to this woman.  He should consider my feelings since I am not possessive nor insecure; and so he should cease and desist from being over-friendly/close. 

[17glut]

sa mga ex ko, i never experienced them fighting for me ... pero one of my ex was so possessive she always likes to put hickey on my neck na halos kita ng lahat so dun pa lang backoff na talaga yung makakapunang girls sa kin.. talk about marking your own territory 

[zarazan]

sa mga ex ko, i never experienced them fighting for me ... pero one of my ex was so possessive she always likes to put hickey on my neck na halos kita ng lahat so dun pa lang backoff na talaga yung makakapunang girls sa kin.. talk about marking your own territory 

Ano naffeel niyo pag ganito? HAHAHA like yung si girl talaga umeeffort to show you off.

[17glut]

Ano naffeel niyo pag ganito? HAHAHA like yung si girl talaga umeeffort to show you off.

actually unintentional yun pero nung katagalan ako na lagi nag rerequest na maglagay nun - sarap din kasi sa part ng lalake na pinanggigigilan ka and physically that you are really wanted by your girl. No one can deny na ang sarap din ng pakiramdam habang nilalagyan ng ganun sa leeg - atleast for me . Nung una awkward pero nung katagalan parang ego boost na rin haha! funny thing is, once we step out of the motel sya pa yung naiilang sa sobrang obvious na pwesto ng mga marks, umabot sa point na nauubos na yung concealer nya just to hide out the hickeys

[peachlipstick]

I'm a princess, not a soldier.

So, definitely not. Lalo na kung bf ko pa lang. Why choose a life of uncertainties with a guy who will make you act like someone you're not? Besides, if he brings out the worst in me, he's probably not the right guy. And I may miss out on being with the right one by being with the wrong one.

[khaleesiCersei]

No.. I love myself and respect myself enough para hindi makipag agawan sa taong obviously eh hindi naman ata nirerespesto yun feelings ko or yun relationship naming dalawa. So kung gusto nya lumandi, i'm out. I don't need to be in that kind of relationship

[thekitchenbride]

A man should make you feel secured.