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And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« on: February 09, 2015, 03:34:12 pm »
i feel this everyday of my life since we transfer to this place were most of our kapitbahay are mag-kakamaganak and i think my family is the only alien sa place nayun. Of course lahat ng pakikisama gagawin ko kasi bagong salta kami doon. Nag pa xmas party narin kami for the kids doon at may mga parent (mothers) na sumama din. Nag pa kain kami and game at lots of give aways kasi i have two kids and gusto ng husband ko maraming friends ang mga anak ko. But thr problem is, mag 5 months na kami doon and everytime na lumalabas ako ng house to go to my office...ang cold ng mga tinigin sakin ng mga tao specailly the mothers. All smile ako to them and with matching good morning po kasi sa dinadaanan ko is tambayan ng mga nanay na tulad ko (pero working kasi ako). Ano dapat ko gawin... Hindi ba enough yung ginagawa ko. By the way, i am a home body person, pag walang work nasa loob lang ako ng house. Online seller din kasi ako ng mga good kaya i have no time to mingle... 
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #1 on: February 09, 2015, 03:41:23 pm »
One thing I can assure you ganyan rin dito sa condo or even sa house namin na san juan. But I dont mind. As long as di rin nila ako pakikialaman di ba. You cannot please everybody. You did your part and I guess that's enough. Wag mo ipilit sarili mo na lang sa kanila. If ayaw nila sayo, so be it, eh ayaw nila sayo eh. Dont Let it stop you from being friendly or dont lt it ruin your day. Besides may kasabihan nga di ba "kill them with kindness".. The more na nakikita nila na di ka affected for sure one day mapapagod rin mga yan. Or if di dumating araw na yun, so what? Di naman titigil mundo mo just because ayaw sayo ng neighbors mo. Wag mo gawin na mission na they will like you sis. Wala kang obligation to make them like you. Live your life like you always do. Smile at them, be courteous at them if needed. At the end of the day sila naman ang lalabas na walang modo. :)

So relax and just ignore them na lang
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #2 on: May 29, 2015, 04:03:47 pm »
Baka inggit sila sayo and sa family mo? Never mind them, kiber lang sis.
I rarely smile sa mga kapit bahay namin lalo naman ang bumati haha suplada ako sa personal eh, anyway kinikuha pa din naman nila akong ninang ng mga junakis nila, so pag naging kumare/kumpare ko na dun na ako nakikipag ngitian  :)
« Last Edit: May 29, 2015, 04:07:18 pm by Ma.Jewel_1987 »
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #3 on: May 30, 2015, 09:01:38 am »
Kung nag greet ka naman sa kanila at deadma sila sayo, di na ikaw may problema dun sis. Baka nga insecure o baka naiilang sayo kasi ikaw nakikita nilang may trabaho tapos sila sabi mo nga nakatambay. Di ba nga birds of the same feather flock together tska magkakamag-anak sila. You did your part naman to show them that you are a nice neighbor. baka gusto pa nila ng party pa more lol joke lang sis. kung wala ka namang ginagawang masama sa kanila sis di ka dapat mabother. Sa mga kids naman, puro laro ang gusto nyan kaya kung ano meron sa mga magulang nila di nila naiisip yun. Pero dahil nga magkakamag-anak sila,  mas close sila at sila sila muna maglalaro. Sa school naman sis may mga kalaro na kids mo.

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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #4 on: May 30, 2015, 01:18:58 pm »
TS nevermind them. Basta ginawa mo part mo sila na ang may problema. Next time wag mo na sila pansinin. Di mo naman mapleplease lahat ng tao eh. As long as wala ka naman ginagawang masama.

Ganyan din dito sa tinitirahan namin. Kami lang ang bagong salta. Nung bago kami dito (10 months na kami) Ilang beses ko nginigitian at binabati mga kapitbahay namin pero sila deadma lang. After nun deadma silang lahat sakin kahit makasalubong ko pa sila. May pagkamaldita din kasi ako.  :P Para sakin kung ayaw mo sakin I don"t care. 

Sa previous naman naming tinirhan lahat ng tao napakapalabati at napaka professional. Somehow nakakamiss rin yun. Pag walang work homebuddy naman ako. Kaya kahit wala ako friend na kapitbahay keber lang. 

tama si sis heartfortress baka insecure or intimidated sila sayo kasi may work ka. tas sila tambay tambay lang.
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #5 on: May 30, 2015, 02:22:33 pm »
Sis, yung pagiging judgemental and somewhat insecurity is one of the common filipino traits.  Most of the time its never about you, it is more on their character.  That's why whatever we do, minsan hindi enough.  These people expect others to please them simply because of their nature, that's what they expect.  Unfortunately, we live in a nation na ganito ang mentality.  Neighbors and even relatives who are not that open minded yet and would love to judge other people based on their own standards.

In this regard, I do hope that you understand that this is not upon you.  As long as you demonstrated an open mind and a genuine heart, that's it.  No need to please them.  At the end of the day, its still your family who will love you for who you are, that's all you need and what matters most.

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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #6 on: June 02, 2015, 01:42:43 pm »
Thanks mga sis...
 
appreciated much your comments. Yeah deadma nalang ako but continuously smile at them. Bahala na sila sa buhay nila. Lol

By the way last April i celebrated my birthday so nag datingan mga officemates ko and my family and some friends outside work. Nag invite din sa kapitbahay. May mga pumunta din naman pero marami sa kanila nag sabi kaw kay hubby na nakakahiya daw at di kotse lahat ng bisita. So after the party ubos ang handa nagpabili si hubby food take out at yun pinamigay sa kapitbahay.

well...ganun nga talaga sila mga sis. 

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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #7 on: June 02, 2015, 02:58:02 pm »
^bait niyo naman masyado sis. Nagorder pa kayo ulit ng food para sakanila.
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #8 on: June 04, 2015, 01:20:39 pm »
TS no disrespect pero mejo showy kayo. nayayabangan siguro neighbors nyo kasi you are well off.

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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #9 on: June 04, 2015, 01:50:45 pm »
showy?

Hindi po kami showy... and never kami naging ganun. Nakikisama kami and yearly talaga nag ce-celabrate ako ng bday ko ganun din si hubby and my 2 kids. Before maliit lang yung tinitirhan namin kaya sa isang rented event area kami nga cecelebrate with friends and family. First time to do it at home kasi maluwang ang play ground and backyard ng house. Lahat po ng food galing sa family restaurant ng husband ko kaya tipid. Walang music at all. Walang inoman kasi di kami mahilig sa ganun. kunting kwentohan at about 2 hours tapos na nag uwian na lahat. Ganun din nangyari sa bday party ng two kids ko. Spaghetti and chicken toys and give away sa kids.

We are not showy gusto lang ni hubby makisama sa lahat. :)
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #10 on: June 04, 2015, 01:56:22 pm »
^bait niyo naman masyado sis. Nagorder pa kayo ulit ng food para sakanila.

Si hubby sis. Ang katwiran nya kami kasi salta doon kaya need makisama. Gusto sha ng mga taga doon kasi lumalabas sha to mingle. Ako mas gusto ko sa loob ng bahay after work. But i smile at them naman.

First time nasabihan ako ng showy... May mga nag pa-party narin sa kanila with all the VIDEOKE na super ingay magdamagan... Kami 2 hours lang tapos na party. Kami pa-pala ang showy... :(
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #11 on: June 04, 2015, 06:38:39 pm »
Sis hindi kayo showy that's your way of pakikisama eh, sa totoo lang mabait nga kayo, wag mu pansinin si Argento ganyan talaga yan hahaha, peace bro  ;D
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #12 on: June 05, 2015, 03:31:07 pm »
Sis hindi kayo showy that's your way of pakikisama eh, sa totoo lang mabait nga kayo, wag mu pansinin si Argento ganyan talaga yan hahaha, peace bro  ;D

Thanks sis for letting me know... :)
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #13 on: June 07, 2015, 07:15:30 pm »
sarap nyo naman kapitbahay. hehe.

just continue to smile and don't mind them, ma-stress ka lang kakaisip dyan. sila may problema, hindi ikaw. we're the same, after work sa bahay lang, hindi nakiki-mingle. difference lang forever na kame dito. mabait ka pa nga, nag-smile ka. me, deadma. bumabati lang ako sa kakilala ko lang talaga.
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #14 on: January 09, 2017, 07:28:36 pm »
Samin naman girl sobrang pakielamera at tsimosa mga tao. sanay na, may iba pagka umasenso ka lang ng konti magiging cold at indifferent na pagtrato sayo, merun namang iba pinapansin ka lang pagka merun ka. even some so called friends can be like that. pero Hindi ko na lang, ganung pinagaaksayahan ng panahon mga ganun. I use to get so upset over those types of people but ever since nagturo ako na iba iba din ugali ng students na iapply ko na din sa relatives ko at ibang tao na hindi magpa apekto sa ganung attitude unless literal ka nilang aawayin ibang usapan na yun
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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #15 on: January 10, 2017, 02:01:37 pm »
@TS why do you to try so hard na makisama sa kanila? as you said magkakamag anak sila so close talaga sila. hindi naman nila kayo relatives and since lagi ka naman nasa loob ng house keber. as long as hindi nila kayo sinasaktan wala naman yun. don't be too sensitive.

kame ng son ko 3yrs. na since tumira kame sa village namin and not once kame nag attend ng xmas party, hindi rin ako nag jo-join sa mga meeting ng homeowners. i only greet the treasurer kasi siya lang kumakausap sakin pag nag sisingil ng association dues plus yung katapat kong bahay hi-hello lang kame kung magkita. 100 plus homes kame sa village.

so what? not everything is about you. kung hindi ka nila pinapansin e di huwag. just mind your own business na lang and kung may mga kids yung friends mo dun mo na lang ipalaro anak mo. don't think too much or stress yourself over these stuff.

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Re: And cold ng approch sayo kahit na all smile ka sa kanila
« Reply #16 on: January 24, 2017, 09:46:14 am »
Ako naman, pag ganun, I smile (sweetest smile :D ) tapos i don't expect a smile back. Smile or hi hello lang  tapos balik sa ginagawa ko.


 


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