Dating a Friend's Ex

[mmquack]

Is it okay to date a friend's ex? Or this is really against the "girl code"? Rules of Feminism daw according to Mean Girls! Hahaha

Please share your thoughts about it.

[j.adore]

It's against the friend code and shows what little value you place on your friendship.

Unless it was your friend who pushed you and her ex to be together? 😛

[erza0916]

I think you can do whatever you want, but there are some things you have to consider:

1. Your friend and the exs relationship. How they ended, how serious their relationship was, are they still good friends, is there still some kind of atttaction between them, has it been a long time since their break up?

2. Your friendship. Are you willing to jeopardize it, how close were you, did she give her blessing, has she moved on from her ex and in a happy relationship now?

3. Yourself. Do you really like the guy, does he really like you back, are you in a hurry to be in a relationship, do you think you'll last?

These are just my opinion naman. But definitely, do NOT do it behind your friend's back. She's bound to find out, and when she does, magmumuka kang ahas regardless kung ok lang sakanya or not. Try to subtly tell her, see what her reaction would be.

I've had exs who dated my friend or even my sister. Ok lang sakin cause I was so happy with my bf then saka I've never had a serious relationship before my husband. Medyo awkward lang especially nung sa sister ko kasi he would visit sa bahay. Pero if my current relationship were to end and one of my friends date him right away? All hell would break loose. Kahit hindi ko friend, basta someone I know. Hmp

[jojo2978]

Ex means it's over. Unless one has not moved on, I think there is no issue if my Ex date a friend of mine or vice versa.

[purple.strawberry]

Have you watched Mean Girls? Ex-boyfriends are off-limits to friends. Haha. There are exceptions of course. One is if they've been apart for quite a while na and it's okay na to your friend. Yung fresh from break-ups, that's a no-no.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

I've never been faced with a situation like this, but I personally prefer that I don't date a Friend's Ex.
On the hind sight, I don't mind if my Ex dates my Friend or my Friend dates my Ex --- whichever way. Why? Because I am the kind of person who only ends a relationship when I am very sure that it's the end of the line... the kind that doesn't merit any getting back together, so I am very certain of my decision, so I can definitely deal with a Friend dating an Ex.

Again, life is full of surprises... who knows? One day, I may wake up and I am dating a friend's Ex, but at least, as I am typing this now... It is my personal preference to just date others instead of any friend's Ex!

[molybdenumstudios]

I'd rather not date a friend's ex. Bakit? Dating the ex is betraying someone's trust.

[Yal]

Tried this and regretted it. I took a chance because my friend keep on insisting that I should give it a try maybe because she's somewhat guilty that he dumped him. Then, thought he's over with my friend and months passed, he ditched me and went back to his ex (after my friend). Oh, well...l

[Miss Taken]

I don't think so. I'm a firm believer of this rule that you shouldn't date your friend's ex. There are many guys out there so why would I pick someone who shared something special with a friend of mine even though it was in the past. And if I date her ex, I won't be able to share anything with her. It's just going to be awkward and I'm not willing to sacrifice our friendship for just a guy.

[sarsingkit]

I will not date a friend's ex but I am okay with a friend dating my ex. It happened to me, gumigimik pa kami together. Pareho sila actually shares with me their ups and down. Wala naman akong nafeel na awkwardness. Siguro din kasi hindi ko nafeel na sobrang deep yung relationship namin and talagang nakamove on na ako. Same with the guy, he has moved on and I support him.

[aquacharly]

Is it okay to date a friend's ex? Or this is really against the "girl code"? Rules of Feminism daw according to Mean Girls! Hahaha

Please share your thoughts about it.

Clear it up with your friend first.  Make sure they have really ended their relationship.

If your friendship is between 2 mature adults, I do not see why you cannot explore this bidding romance.

[Frozen Toes]

For me, it's not okay. Marami namang iba dyan.

[Pink_Sugar]

No, kahit ano pa man, may kurot pa rin sa puso yan ng bawat isa. Iba na lang.

[coffeelovermd]

Wow naalala ko book ni emily giffin.. something borrowed

For me, don't.. respect nalang with your friend

[redhead69]

Big no. Respect lang. Simple as that.

[lovely_carrot]

If my friend is among my core group of friends, no. Its going to be awkward. Plus I value my friends more, i've known them half my life.

If i can consider the girl as an acquiantance lang, maybe

[huggykaye]

I'd share almost everything to a friend except an ex-lover... =) bitter mang tawagin pero minsan kong pinangarap na sya ang makakasama ko habang buhay... kung mangyayari yun, siguro wag muna sila magpapakita sa kin hehe =))

[honey.mae]

No. it's awkward and disrespectful.

[honeybunny]

i dont even wanna think about it. so, no.