Parang I find this next to impossible.
Tama ka, it will be very hard to look at things objectively if you are in a situation like that.
Yes, it seems impossible. But it depends on the woman kung anong kaya nya at willing syang gawin. Nakaya nya ngang makipag-usap sa kabit eh. But I couldn't say that what I know will always work. Plus there is still the after-effects of trauma to deal with. At the end of the day, it depends on the woman.
The man just needs to rediscover the woman he married long time ago. Sabi nga, "the man marries because of a woman. The woman marries not just because of a man, but because of her dream life, dream home, dream kids." The woman he knew apparently got buried. Kung totally wala na yung babaeng yun, what's the point of staying? Men aren't like women, who will stay for the kids, who will want her family intact no matter what.
So to wives out there, your man married because of YOU. He was not daydreaming of what house you will stay with. He was not daydreaming what's the name of the future kids. Just like what we girls do. If it's not because of YOU, he will not be in the marriage to begin with. If you changed for the better, good. If you changed to worse, oh then that could pose a problem.
Kasi isip ko, para san pa, kasi if you will do that, lalo mong makikita how hurting and painful yung pinagdadaanan ng sis mo. It is like making her false hopes na maaayos if you evaluate the needs. Tapos everything is done na, water under the bridge, is there any use evaluating what could have happened?
I guess that's up to the TS.
Some women will ask,"why did this happen?" or " what is wrong with ME?" There's nothing wrong with them or on their character, just something wrong with the dynamics. And presenting these needs, can somehow help.
[I'm sorry I forgot to add, you use this when it's the wife who started asking and wondering if their husband is being rational. Don't ask this out of nowhere. ]
Others are proactive and palaban, they can be open minded. They may not admit on your face kung anong naging kulang because of their pride, but you see them changing their old ways and bringing something new in the relationship. While others, the reactive ones, obvious nang kung mag-sex once in a blue moon lang, they still don't own their part of the problem.
For me lang, kung wala namang abusong involved sa relationship, I think ipaglaban mo hangga't kaya mo. Bearing in mind, that "a wise soldier knows when to keep on fighting, and when to start retreating."
In the end, it's the wife who knows kung kelan tapos na ang laban. For me kasi, may possibility pang pwedeng masungkit pabalik yan. Seen it happen, though it may not guarantee to work 100% of the time, but I think it's worth a try. Again it depends sa babae. Unang una, dapat capabale sya of insights and self-reflection. If she will not own the part of the problem, then consider the relationship done.
But if the wife here is marking this as the end. Then, yes, move on without the husband. Start a new life.
Oh and about men who keep on telling wala na sila pero tuloy pa rin pala, they're chronic liars. Not all men are chronic liars. Not all men have faulty characters. If you spot one. LEAVE. The husband here doesn't seem like one, he didn't lead his wife to believe what is really not true. In fact, he enacted the deathly truth.
Yet if this is the end of the marriage, I guess it's really the end. Time for the curtain to roll in.
