Money Dance on your Wedding Reception

[exquisitegem]

H2b and I are both from Ilocos. And it's part of the wedding tradition sa province. Kahit pa dito sa Manila kami ikakasal, most of our guests will be coming from our province naman so hindi na rin ito bago sa kanila.
I don't see anything wrong sa prosperity dance. It's the guests' mindset lang. I've read on the previous thread that some brides consider this as tacky pero tradition rin kasi. Di naman ifoforce yung mga guests to give.  Tska di naman magroroll call yung Emcee kung sino ang mga dapat magbigay haha It's just a song number na sasayaw yung couple tas magssabit yung mga may gusto.

[MS_JanDel]

^Sis maglalagay na kasi kami sa invites na we prefer cash, kaya medyo nagalangan ako sa money dance. Although sa province namin is tradition to. And then yung tito ni h2b sabi baduy daw yung money dance, medyo nagpintig nga tainga ko nung sinabi niya yun. Pero okay lang ba yun mga sis? Hindi ba sya redundant? What do you think?

[fvzdeleon]

^ Hi sis Jandel! Same tayo. meron din ako niyan sa invitation. Then meron pa kong money dance. Wala naman ako narinig from the guests. Understood naman na need ng newly weds ng more money kasi malaki ginagastos sa wedding. 

[exquisitegem]

^For me personally, it's okay. Kasi kung tradition sa inyo sis tas inilagay mo sa invite na you prefer cash, parang ieexpect din nila na sa money dance nila ibibigay yung cash gift. Hindi naman baduy yung naattendan ko. Sa Palazzo Verde nga yun nung wedding ng pinsan ko. It was fun nga. Nakakatuwa yung mga ninong minsan pabalik balik pa. hehe

[MS_JanDel]

^ Hi sis Jandel! Same tayo. meron din ako niyan sa invitation. Then meron pa kong money dance. Wala naman ako narinig from the guests. Understood naman na need ng newly weds ng more money kasi malaki ginagastos sa wedding. 

Thank you sis! At least hindi na ako magalangan kasi may nakagawa naman pala before.

^For me personally, it's okay. Kasi kung tradition sa inyo sis tas inilagay mo sa invite na you prefer cash, parang ieexpect din nila na sa money dance nila ibibigay yung cash gift. Hindi naman baduy yung naattendan ko. Sa Palazzo Verde nga yun nung wedding ng pinsan ko. It was fun nga. Nakakatuwa yung mga ninong minsan pabalik balik pa. hehe

Yay sige sis! Gawin na din namin. At pwede nga na dun nalang ipin ng guests yung cash gifts nila sa money dance. Ewan ko ba jan s tito ni h2b. Yaan ko na siya. Kami naman ang masusunod eh kasi kami naman gumastos sa kasal namin. hahaha.. Pero true sis na sanay na din ang family ko na may ganun so baka magtaka sila pagwala.

[yn061515]

Hindi lang naman sa Batangas tradition ito, my cousins got married in the US and they did this. Gumawa pa ang guests ng crown using US dollars. 

Siguro, iba-ibang opinyon lang. Kung taga Manila ka at ang mga bisita mo e taga Maynila din, panay may kaya at hindi ito nakasanayan, talagang you guys will find it as nakakahiya at as if begging/asking for money.

Kung sa probinsya ka galing, and majority of your guests are from the province also, mga simpleng tao na hindi naman gaano may kaya din sa buhay, they know the importance of the prosperity dance and they don't find it offensive or nakakahiya or as if the couple is asking for money to pay for the wedding. For us, mga laking probinsya, it's a way for our family and relatives to share in the new beginning that we are about to have. Plus, kung yung mga guests naman na invited ay yung malapit talaga sa puso, hindi mo talaga iisipin na magiging judgemental sila na kesyo ganito ganyan. They understand.

Opinyon lang, kasi nakakagulat na yung mga iba palang tao is iniisip na nakakahiya ito and all. Tradition ito and it's a fun activity. I'd say give it a try. Instead of thinking na you will be judged that you are asking, begging or making a money business out of the wedding, focus on the reason behind the tradition. It's for prosperity. It has been passed through generations and generations. It didn't stop because it's for a good reason. 

[Tincywincy]

Hey girls.. just a topic that's recently been brought up by both mom an FMIL. are you guys still doing this on your wedding?

personally kasi, parang may shyness akong nafifeel na mag money dance pa since ilalagay na naming sa invitation yung about sa cash gift...? tho that's just me naman.. just like to know your take on this.. TIA!

[rowan]

^Im not doing it:)

[BBB21]

We're not doing it as well. Kahit na we know na some guests are looking forward to it kasi chance nila yun to give their cash gift. We thought na they can give it to us straight naman. Hehe. Nahihiya kasi kami pareho.

[winkar22]

Me too. i don't plan to do it. Except na lang kung gusto talaga ni hubby. Pero kung ako lang, ayoko din. Nahihiya din ako. They can give it straight to me naman if ever may cash gift sila 

[exquisitegem]

It will be part of our program. Kahit sa tagaytay area kami ikakasal, we are both from Ilocos and majority of our guests will be coming from Ilocos. It is symbolically wishing the couple prosperity so part talaga ng tradition namin. Sa mga wedding na naattendan ko dito sa Manila e may prosperity dance din. ☺

[Tincywincy]

^ ohhhhh.... mapilit kasi ang parehong moms eh.

inisip ko sa reception, pag magrregister sila sa entrance, mag provide nalang kaya ako ng envelope and pins? para those who will give cash gifts eh yun nalang ipi-pin nila sa sash. noh? (actually medyo shyness galore padin talaga eh. tee hee!  )

[exquisitegem]

^If you and h2b are not comfortable with it, then exclude nyo na lang sa program. Samin kasi, it's not like money grabbing naman yung dating kasi normal naman sa province namin yun dahil tradition talaga kaya di kami nahihiya kasi alam naman ng mga guests na hindi intention na para mabalik yung gastos.  Magkakaproblema kapag hindi sanay yung guests sa ganun, uncomfortable nga sya.

[Tincywincy]

^ Thanks sis! susubukan naming I-sway mothers naming na wag na gawin to 

[MS_JanDel]

Same with sis exquisitegem, tradition na din sa province namin kaya we're doing it kahit cash gift na nakalagay sa invitation. The pins will be distributed by the MOH before the money dance starts. Pero hindi namin iaannounce kung how much yung nakuwa sa money dance. hahahahah

[ecklavou]

I've watched two weddings na me Money  Dance:
1. The first one I think  hindi nacommunicate ni  coordinator. Very few lang nag sabit as in wala pang 10 or 5 tapos tipong tagal nila  nag dadance wala nag sasabit. 2nd hand na kahihiyan nafefeel ko nun. I don't know if tatayo ako kasi nahihiya ako para sa kanila  na walang nag sasabit kaso nahihiya din ako na ako lang tatayo hanggang sa natapos na song.

2. The second one, I think well coordinated, all the relatives are ready to put the money even before they dance, the coordinators are going sa mga table to give aways pins and say na next is money dance. It was fun kasi parang nabibiruan sa bawat table kung sinong mag bibigay, tapos me mga tinutulak ganyan. Also, me mga bente and fifty pesos na sinabit yung mga relatives I think in order to  not intimidate everybody na need ng malaking money and it was all for pure fun. Even the kids ng entourage parang inaassist nung coordinator sa pag pin.

Yung first di ko na sinabi pero parang nakamove on naman kagad siya based on our conversation after the wedding parang di na niya naalala.

Yung second wala dapat honeymoon, pero dahil sa money dance, naafford nilang mag Singapore.

[Tincywincy]

Same with sis exquisitegem, tradition na din sa province namin kaya we're doing it kahit cash gift na nakalagay sa invitation. The pins will be distributed by the MOH before the money dance starts. Pero hindi namin iaannounce kung how much yung nakuwa sa money dance. hahahahah

Originally ba sis, iaannounce dapat ng couple kung how much?

[exquisitegem]

^Sa amin parang hindi naman ina-announce hehe

[pinkmoscato]

Yung napuntahan kong kasal na may money dance, may provided na small envelopes sa guest tables. So ayun marami naman ang nag-pin sakanila at mga hindi na nahiya kung magkano man nilagay nila kasi ng naka-envelope naman. Parang ampao

[yasbabyangel]

kame nagpamoney dance pala kahit na nakalagay na sa invitation namen na we prefer enveloped gifts. medyo awkward din nung iniisip namen ni hubby na gagawin namen yun tapos first part pa ng program sa reception namen ginawa after ng couple's 1st dance pero pinush parin namen kahit manila wedding kame. super fun sya. kase yung mga imbitado namen close friends talaga and relatives. may aunt pa kame na nagprepare ng sash na gawa sa pera and some relatives pinagtripan kame binigyan kame ng 5 peso coins at bente pesos. maikli lang yung song pero as in dinumog kame. di namen inexpect na madame magsasabit nun talaga.  yung iba walang masabitan kaya inabot nalang samen yung envelope. pansin ko sa sobrang busy namen nung wedding yun yung chance ng guests makausap kame at iabot personally yung cash gifts nila
tsaka kung magaling ang host mag-explain kung ano at bakit may prosperity dance di naman magiging awkward. tsaka yung mga dumaan na sa pagpapakasal at may pamilya nang guests maiintindihan din talaga.
super blessed din kase 1/3 ng wedding expense namen yung nakuha namen from money dance. di talaga namen inasahan.