What to do

[VainDoll]

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[ohcmon]

IMO the one you should be doing the talking to is your boyfriend. Kahit anong landi ang gawin ni girl sa kanya, if he really is not interested, wapakels 'yan. Ano bang ginagawa niya kapag sumasama si girl sa kanila? Anong ginagawa niya kapag umaakyat si girl sa unit?

Eh 'yung nakita mong pic, nakayakap pa si girl, bakit naman papayag si bf mo na hawakan siya nang ganun at may picture pa kung hindi talaga siya nagchecheat? Tinutukan ba ng baril ni girl si bf mo para pumayag na mag-picture sila nang ganun?

Sorry ha, I don't mean to make sulsol to your galit, it's just that there's a lot of questions you should ask your bf to assess kung habol ba talaga nang habol si girl or sinasabi lang ni bf 'yun sa'yo para 'wag kang magalit sa kanya (which is what cheaters do).

[VainDoll]

Parang sa unit nakantyawan ba.. Ganun. Ang dami pics nila with group namam. May a few silang dalawa na parang pinagpapartner.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

omg ang kapal ng fes! dapat talaga sis si bf mo ang kumausap. dapat nga di na niya pinapatuloy sa unit yung b!tch na yun! i dont give a damn if it's rude, what that b!tch is doing is way way worse. lol sorry medyo eye for an eye ang peg ko sa mga ganyan hahaha.

[spacemonkey]

yikes.

had a similar girl with a thing for my boyfriend before, kept posting photos of her giving him kiss-y faces and even put up her FB profile photo of him and her. even asked my boyfriend if she could stay at his place while she was in town.

thing is, i knew my boyfriend all too well to know he'd never cheat on me. she was a foreign exchange student, and my boyfriend was taking her and her friends out all the time -- i just never went with them because i'm too lazy and i thought they were kind of lame.

i just ignored her facebook posts. i thought she was doing it to piss me off or cause a rift between us, because she would ask my boyfriend if we were fighting because of her or if i was getting jealous, which to me, seems like thats what shes after. just never gave her the satisfaction... also, i really just didn't give a fuucck.

sometimes i'd hang out with them, just to make my presence known, and be like, "i'm here, i'm the girlfriend, and i can take you down if i have to, bitch."

[VainDoll]

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[spacemonkey]

dude, those are the types of people you just laugh at because that is just pathetic and sad. can't get a real boyfriend, so shes going to force herself in and make one up? yeeeeah. not worth it.

'wag ka maasar... ikaw mangasar.

[Girltalker2]

TS, not really sure ha. pero I kinda agree with sis ohcmon.

Your BF should never have allowed any girl to touch him in any way, kahit pa sa buhok lang nya or braso.  That is, kung hindi sya nag eenjoy makipag landian. And this is the one I really hate about offices there in Manila.  Officemates do make kantyaw to their colleagues, teaming them up, DESPITE the fact they know na committed ang isa (or kahit may asawa na ang isa).

And that is where it starts.

The picture says it all.  Walang respect yung girl sayo, or sa relationship nyo ni BF.  Colleagues din. and BF is alright with that?  Sorry din TS, like ohcmon, ayaw ko gatungan ka, pero kung ako sa situation mo, maiinis talaga ako. Di lang sa malanding girl na yun, pero sa lahat sa kanila, colleagues and lalong lalo na kay BF.

Ayaw ko din isipin, how does your BF look like in the picture, nakangisi?  And yet sabihin nya ayaw nya? 

Nagusap na kami ni bf ng maayos. I believe him and gut feeling ko naman na he is honest to me.

Ikaw lang naman makakapagsabi. Pero most often than not, the GF/wife is always the last to know.

Naextract ko pa kay bf na the girl told her na siya nlng yun "gf"'pag sa work. May ganun. Fu*k her!! Nanggigil talaga ako mga sis. Gusto ko ng gera hahaha. Pero pinipigilan [textspeak!] ako ng friends ko. I dont know but i feel she needs to hear something ugly eh. I just dont know how. The nerve!

sis, calm down. mahirap manugod kapag hindi ka sigurado.  Ikaw ang lalabas pa na masama.
May missing piece parin kasi e.  May proof ka ba na totoo sinasabi ng BF mo, may witness ka ba to back him up (aside from what he said)?

How does your BF FB look like then?  Kayo ba ang nasa FB nya?  tapos sa FB ng girl - nag comment ba sya na TAKEN NAKO??? Or pagdating sa public, tahimik lang sya regarding sa relationship ninyo?

And when the girl said - ako nalang GF mo sa work. Ano sinagot nya, wala at tumawa lang sya na parang joke lang yun (na may hidden meaning?)? 

[VainDoll]

^ i was asking for space from him kanina since di ko talaga matake parin he wouldnt agree naman kasi in the end magbbreak lang daw kami. So, right now sis unti unti muna ako lumalayo.

Sa fb namin hindi kami in a rel kasi we dont like posting pics naman of us na lambingan etc but i check his ig puro pics namin and the girl is following her and even tagging her.

Ive already told him na kaya ganyan si girl kasi iniisip nya siguro na magigiba nya kami kasi magkalayo kami ng work. Wala akong kilala pa sa work nya. He is new. I dont like hanging out with them.

Yeah i am mad with him and he said g@go siya na pumayag ka. I also said to him na kapal ng mga kawork niya na may karelasyon un tao ippair nila. Wala silang respeto. I know sa simpleng ganyan bagay pwede talaga masulot ni girl.

I honestly dont know what to do. Of course di ko susugurin si girl. Ayaw ko mapahiya na baka meron pala talaga something.

Ang sakit.

[Girltalker2]

^ sorry sis, hindi ko pala nasagot tanong mo what to do, dahil sa inis ko sa situation.

What to do?  Suggestion ko - once na mas nagmellow down ka na ng konti, yung inis mo hindi na sobra sobra, perhaps after a few days, you need to have a heart to heart talk with your BF.

Kung ako ikaw - ito sasabihin ko sa kanya -

1) Kung may iba na syang nagugustuhan, bitawan na nyako para at least puede pako sumaya sa piling ng ibang nararapat. Kaya ko naman nang wala sya.

2) Fidelity - pinaka importanteng ingredient sa relasyon at ang definition ko ng fidelity ay hindi lang yung pakikipagrelasyon/GF sa ibang babae, pero pati narin yung makitext/chat nang matagalan or worse, nilalandi ng guy yung girl or inaallow ng guy lumandi sa kanya yung girl.  Dapat hindi sya passive. Dapat HINDI OK na may umaaligid sa kanya.  Dapat alam din nya ipaglaban ang relasyon ninyo by shoo-ing away the other women.

Kung hindi nya kaya gawin iyan, kasi nga totoo naman nakaka flatter at nakaka enjoy, that only shows na hindi pa sya dapat nag GF kasi he still enjoys the thrill of flirting with different women - which is unfair for the GF.


I guess TS, ang importante siguro eh magkausap kayo (nang walang sumbatan or sigawan or galit). Yung totoong usap. hindi yun sinabi lang nya na wala yun. Then tapos na. Yung usap ba na mag-agree kayo sa concept ng pag-protect ninyo sa relationship ninyo by simply not getting too close with another person in the opposite sex. Hindi lang sa case nya, kahit sayo din.  Kung may lumalandi na guy, deadma at di mo papansin.

Tapos both of you have to make it known to everyone that both of you are taken, both of you are in a serious relationship at hindi fling lang, kaya hindi na possible na meron pang puedeng sumingit.  It is the responsibility of each one of you to make that known to the people around you.  Hindi yung tatahimik ka lang at deadma kung tinutukso ka ng mga officemates mo.

Iiwasan na daw talaga ni bf si girl.

Hindi sa pag iwas lang e. BF should be man enough to say no. Something like - kung kaya ng girl magpost ng "new bf?"  sa FB, puede isagot ni BF sa same forum.... NOT... coz  I am super taken na, pero marami pang single dyan na puede mo landiin.    Tingnan natin kung hindi sya ma offend at tumigil. hehe

Ano kaya pwede gawin kay girl. Ignore ko na lang o kausapin ko din? The pics were with his co workers na ka area ni girl. Sumasama si girl sa kanila... And inaakyat nyq talaga un bf ko sa unit...

Ikaw, just ignore.

Si BF, he has to really do something to tell everyone na he is very much taken, and not interested.
Ang pag iwas kasi can mean, gusto na nagpapahabol or nahihiya lang.  It can also give mixed signals so it is not enough.

Pero syempre, di mo sya puede utusan or pilitin. Dapat kusa nya gawin ang dapat.

[aquacharly]

Hwag mo sugurin, confront nor kausapin at baka:
    Ma You Tube ka in an unflattering way
    Feel ni feelingera na may chance nga sya sa bf mo
    Matuwa mga pakialamero pairing your bf with her - at lalo nila encourage si feelingera

Ignore. She is not important.
Do not break up with your bf over her wishful thinking/ imagination. 

Just tell your bf that if does not want to rock your relationship or hurt your feelings -- he should totally avoid compromising situations. Kahit katuwaan lang  -- he is not a clown, after all.  A firm NO from him, kahit na biruin sya na torpe or under, should stop all that destructive biruan or fooling around by the asungots. 

[alice_alice]

Mukhang the girl wants to get a reaction from you, in a way inaasar ka niya by being super close sa bf mo and when she asked your bf if pinagaawayan niyo ba siya dahil sa pics or whatever eh di ba intention na nga talaga na pagawayin kayo. Wag mo na lang kausapin yung babae don't give her the satisfaction na naapektuhan ka sa kanya.

Best if you just ignore the girl, but pagsabihan mo yung bf mo na wag na sakyan ang kantyaw ng mga officemates niya also si bf mo ang may control ng situation so kung ayaw siya tantanan ng mga kasama niya it is best siya na lang umiwas or ipakita niya na hindi na siya natutuwa sa biruan na ganon.

and sis totoo yung naguumpisa sa kantyawan ang lahat i know kasi ilang beses na ako nakakita ng ganyan sa opisina nagstart lang sa tuksuhan hanggang sa naging sila so dapat si bf mo marunong umiwas at pagsabihan ang mga kasama niya na tumigil, pwede naman biruan wag lang yung ipagpair kasi may gf na nga siya.

[erza0916]

Kung ayaw talaga ng bf mo dun sa girl tablahin nya.. paglumapit sabihan nyang malandi para matahimik. Pag may ganyan sa bf now husband ko naiinis ako hindi dahil sa selos kungdi dahil nakakairita yung mga girls na feeling nila kaya nilang kunin kahit sino gusto nila. My husband never gave me a reason to be jealous kaya sobra ang trust ko sa kanya dun lang talaga sa mga ganyang klaseng babae ako naiinis.

May ganyan ako dati yung friend ng husband ko lapit ng lapit kesyo bestfriends na lang daw sila ganto ganyan eh alam ko naman motive nya. Hindi sya pinapansin ng husband ko pero nairita parin ako. I told him to make her stop. Ayun sinabihan ni husband na tumigil at never ever silang magiging bestfriend dahil ako ang bestfriend ng husband ko kung ano man ang gusto nya eh hanapin nya sa iba. Edi tumigil. Si bf mo ang magpapatigil jan.kung pinahahalagahan ka ng bf mo ayaw nyang magselos ka or mastress ka sa ganyan kaya gagawan nya ng paraan. Goodluck

[VainDoll]

Thank you mga sis sa mga advice. At natawa ako sa mga asungots hehe. Yeah, will have a sincere talk woth bf.

[Girltalker2]

^ Personally, I find this excuse lame. "Huwag nyo na kantyawan kasi magagalit ang wife/GF"?!!!?

Hindi ba dapat ang sagot huwag na kantyawan kasi ayaw ni guy at taken na sya, hindi yung may matapang sya na kontrabida na partner na nagbabantay sa kanya. 

[twix01]

haaay naku TS i feel you..
Sabi nga,sa fairytale laging may witch, sa relasyon din laging may b****!
ang kakapal pa tlaga ng mga yan! grabe.. dapat sa mga makakati na yan sinasaktan Lol! sorry carried away ako

[VainDoll]

Whew. Sobrang cant function ng maayos. I trust my bf. Pero ang dami pics na di siya nagpaalam. Di ko alam bakit.

[Girltalker2]

^ Keep your composure. The issue has not changed, pareho parin naman. Same girl rin naman di ba? So malamang, same occasion at same picturetakers na obviously cannot be him (kaya nga andun sya sa pic).

Where do you see all the pics? sa FB ba? Siguro naman hindi nya tinatago iyan sa ilalim ng pillow nya. So, importante ma realize nya na something is not right, therefore has just have to do something about it. Para sa ikatatahimik mo, at para sa reputasyon nya rin (na he is in a serious relationship at hindi playboy na kani kanino  lang sumasama whoever makes landi to him).