My BF is Unfortunately Married

[quennna]

parang palimos ng pag ibig starring vilma santos.. lol..
nakaakpraning kaya yun.. di nyo ma expose isat isa kasi may fear baka may ibang makakita..
dapat isipin na ako ang babaeng pang front liner, ende yung backstage lang...

sana makahanap nang tamang guy si ts, bata pa naman sya..
siguro daapt nya lang pagdaaan ito kasi something great is coming her way basta alamin lang ang tamang daan..

[Girltalker2]

Why are such affairs so rampant? Rampant din ba ito sa ibang society or sa Pinas lang? The way I see it ha, hindi kasi sa ibang country at least sa countries where I live in.  Oo, men go to girlie bars but they don't have serious affairs/relationships na maraming nakakaalam. Pero pag sa Pinas, bakit napaka common nitong situation?  Sadyang malalandi lang ba ang mga lalaki at babae?

ang dami ko kakilalang nasa ganitong situation. yung isa pa nga, hanggang ngayon di pa din alam ni wife na may gf yung husband nya. at nakabili na ng bahay yung husband at mistress.

dami kasi din na pumapayag sa ganitong situation. again, it takes two to tango. we always have to be conscious about our decisions, and kung ano man ang mga magiging consequences nito, like sa ganyan, both adults na din naman ang mga parties involved, bakit parang ang hirap pa din itama ang mali. bakit di pa din ma-realize na it will never work?

[bluish_mommy]

sana makahanap nang tamang guy si ts, bata pa naman sya..
siguro daapt nya lang pagdaaan ito kasi something great is coming her way basta alamin lang ang tamang daan..

naku sana nga.. pero pano yan, eh nadaanan ko sa kabilang thread post ni TS, plano daw nyang magkababy next year eh. kung kay bf nya plano magkababy, naku for sure mas magiging complicated ang situation.

[amethyst028]

^^i heard a discussion about this topic sa morning radio show ni mo twister before. the reason na mas madami sa phils is because mas madaming girls satin na pumapayag sa affairs and yung mga misis/orig gf pinapatawad si guy kahit ilang beses nang nahuli.

iba lang din siguro ang mindset satin. mas martyr mga pinoys/pinays compared to others. well most asians siguro ganun. it has to do with self esteem din and view of your self worth. not to mention yung mga lalake na weak, they easily get tempted. maybe it also has to do with how men are raised here. na para bang ok lang mambabae kasi lalake e. na normal lang yun. ewan ko ba.

[purple.strawberry]

^I guess mas malakas streak ng independence ng mga tao living in other countries, lalo na sa Western since malaki ang focus nila sa self. Dito kasi andaming babae parang takot na takot mawalan ng partner, or merong fear na di na sila makakakita ng iba who's going to equal or even surpass that of their current one, kahit pa yung current is a cheater and/or liar.

[Queen Chokolah]

naku sana nga.. pero pano yan, eh nadaanan ko sa kabilang thread post ni TS, plano daw nyang magkababy next year eh. kung kay bf nya plano magkababy, naku for sure mas magiging complicated ang situation.

Tsk. tapos ano, andun wife nya. Wala syang kasama sa pag aalaga ng bata. Minsan lang makikita ng bata ang tatay nya kasi laging missing in action. Mahirap maging magulang mag isip isip muna sya kung kaya nya na sya lang mag isa kasi kung andun sa wife, malamang ganyan talaga ending nya. single mom.

[Girltalker2]

Tsk. tapos ano, andun wife nya. Wala syang kasama sa pag aalaga ng bata. Minsan lang makikita ng bata ang tatay nya kasi laging missing in action. Mahirap maging magulang mag isip isip muna sya kung kaya nya na sya lang mag isa kasi kung andun sa wife, malamang ganyan talaga ending nya. single mom.

Pag in love ang tao, ang daming #@($& nga naman ang nagagawa. 

Sana di naman iyan si TS.  Kasi it is a very selfish act.  Normally, mistresses would like to have kids, para kahit papano, forever sila nakatali sa guy at di sila iiwan. Kasi syempre lalaki iyan, nambabae nga may asawa na, what is keeping him from pursuing other women as well?   Tsaka, may nakita nakong mistress na taas noo, kahit hindi kasal at binuntis (note binuntis ha, sadya, not an accident) ng may asawang BF, ok lang, hindi nahihiya, kasi iyon ay proof ng "pagmamahalan" nila ng lalaki.  Kawawa lang talaga dito si mistress, yung bastard na anak, yung wife at mga legit na anak.    g*go lang talaga yung lalaki e.

Sa psyche ng mistress:  kung may anak silang mag-asawa, pwes, dapat din kami magkaanak kasi ako ang mas mahal nya. 

Well, kung si Derek Ramsay 'tong guy na to, medyo maiintindihan kita.

Ya right, kahit si Brad Pitt pa iyan, *sshole talaga sya.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^^i heard a discussion about this topic sa morning radio show ni mo twister before. the reason na mas madami sa phils is because mas madaming girls satin na pumapayag sa affairs and yung mga misis/orig gf pinapatawad si guy kahit ilang beses nang nahuli.

iba lang din siguro ang mindset satin. mas martyr mga pinoys/pinays compared to others. well most asians siguro ganun. it has to do with self esteem din and view of your self worth. not to mention yung mga lalake na weak, they easily get tempted. maybe it also has to do with how men are raised here. na para bang ok lang mambabae kasi lalake e. na normal lang yun. ewan ko ba.

^ Aside from the possibility of being more prone to subject oneself to being martyrs in the name of love, people in this country are not quite threatened by the consequences. Perhaps because not a lot of people are willing to go through the route of going to court to file charges, people in general have nothing to fear even if they know that they have committed such. It's a sad reality. Perhaps, if the consequences (aside from 'karma' taking its natural course) are far more concrete then it could serve as a wake up call and will drive people to always think twice. But again, what do I really know? Like we don't kill other people because we don't want jail time or even be killed in the process, so if it were something like this when it comes to relationships, then perhaps, just maybe, people will be far more careful.

[Girltalker2]

^ Actually sis, may point ka. sa Arab countries nga, kung nadiscover na may kalaguyo ka, sobra sobra ang consequence, you can be stoned to death or something.  Eh dito satin, kabaligtaran. Laws even protect yung mga salarin, in the name of justice. 

[whatswithjuly]

i read the first post but not the comments.

i think everyone in this kind of situation feel that theirs is different from the rest. i know someone na gusto nya makipagbreak sa gf nya na because "he doesn't love her anymore" and tried to court another girl.. tapos nun na-fall na yun girl, nabuntis naman si gf. so iba din daw ang situation nila. and i know someone din na yun asawa ng guy ang unang nagloko..so may reason din si guy para maghanap din ng sarili. parang laging ganun. laging "iba yun situation".

[purple.strawberry]

Find ways to find single guys like me, marami kame sa mundo, minsan nafe-friend zone mo lang. Magtiwala ka lang and stay positive.

Ayan TS o.

[quennna]

idevelop na yan fredprinz and ts loveteam... LOL..
eh teka, single na single k aba talaga, bro.. hehe...

kawawa ang bata pagnagkataon..
gagawin nyang pananga yung baby.. tapos dedemand ng time, financial support etc...
TS WAKEEEEEE UP!!! (sensya na hyper lang, kaka-cofee lang eh.. lol)

[Pink_Sugar]

Korek ganyan nga mga press release ng mga lalaki, sasabihin na on the rocks na ang relationship nila ng gf nya, pero sa totoo naman eh hindi. Grrrr

[purple.strawberry]

@honeybunny Meron din akong kakilalang ganyan. Kung [textspeak!]-anong sob stories kinekwento about his gf dun sa nilalandi niyang girl, and then nalaman nung girl di naman pala totoo mga sinasabi so iniwan din siya. Gf found out but sticked with him anyways. Bakit kasi uso kamartyr-an dito.

[maria helga]

TS, read ka tungkol sa mga nacissists. Siguro narcissist yang bf mo. Kailangan nila ng "supply" para ma-feed yung ego nila and they are expert liars too. Search mo lang sa net. 

[onefineapril]

Hello Sisses,

Hindi na sana ako magpopost and kuntento na kong mabasa ang mga comments and advicce nyo kaya lang may gusto lang sana ako i-correct

Sis bluish_mommy, yes.. we had plans of having baby next year SANA... pero nangyari nga itong "balikan" issue with the wife so hindi ko MUNA itutuloy.  I think the post that you read was last September 1 pa when I was asking questions about birth control pills.  During this time, "maayos" pa ang relasyon namin, we were planing for lots of things, including settling, Annulment, etc but again, nangyari ang mga nangyari 5 weeks ago.

This is exactly my point, jumping into conclusion without getting into the details first

[quennna]

pero still sis....
aware na aware ka na taken yun lalaki...
pero baket pursigo ka pa rin na mapa iyo ang dapat di naman sa iyo..

[maria helga]

^Niloko si TS, sis. Kailangan natin tulungan si TS na marealize na kailangan nyang layuan yung lalake na yun. The fact that TS shared to us her predicament meant na she's aware that what she's doing is wrong. She just needs strength to go "no contact" with that man-whore.

TS, get away from that man. Narcissist sya probably. Read this, TS para maliwanagan ka...http://esteemology.com/understanding-the-other-woman/

[purple.strawberry]

^Feeling ko sa last post ni TS e feeling misunderstood pa din siya. :p Ayan na jumping to conclusions daw.

[Girltalker2]

^ hindi ba that's the point of forums? To post and speak up. Kasi sometimes di mo agad mapaparating sa lahat ang nararamdaman mo sa isang post.

So if you're 'situation' is different, you really have to explain why you said so otherwise people will just disagree with you. It's a free country.