Sis, July 2015 pa naman kayo magtravel. You still have a few months to plan with him. In his case, kahit hindi sya well travelled, basta ok naman ang bank account nya, he should be able to be granted a visa. Baka mas madali nga mag apply ng US visa to where he is working kesa sa Manila?
How long have you known him? Mukhang di pa kayo masyado magkakilala kasi sabi mo gusto ninyo magkasama ng July 2015 para magkasama at makilala ng husto ang isa't isa? Ang point ko lang, sometimes it is not worth throwing away your original plans for someone you are not sure. Feeling mo lang sure ka pero hindi nyo pa nga nakikilala ng husto ang isa't isa e.
At the same time, I need to be in the US on or before October2015 as an immigrant. I have waited for this for a long time (way before I met him) at surprisingly, when he came into my life, doon naman bumilis ang process.
Ok, Uuwi naman kayo ng July 2015. Magkakasama. July-Sep is 3 months. Then Oct you go to the US, maganda kung makasama sya.
He doesn't want me to move there kase gusto nya magkasama muna kami ng matagal. He believes that we need a strong foundation bago kami magkahiwalay ulit. He wants to have a family (he's 31).
Matagal? Like ...? July 2015 hanggang??? Without work? How can you/he sustain your bills while not working? Do not tell me that both of you will wipe out all your ipon?
There is no amount of being matagal magkasama if you are already in LDR to begin with.
Of course, gusto ko din ang gusto nya mangyari kaya lang mahalaga din sa akin na makapagsimula ng buhay sa US. My future family will benefit as well sa immigrant status ko sa US. Isang option namin ang umuwi ako ng madalas para magkasama kami ng madalas pero money is an issue. I will start a new life there at syempre part nun is maghanap ng trabaho. Hindi naman pwede na ubusin ko ang pera ko kakauwi ng Pinas para makasama sya.
How long is he staying in Pinas ba? At gaano ka katagal kelangan magstay sa US?
I'm considering of marrying him before I leave para lang mas mabilis ko syang ma-apply ng immigrant visa. Yun nga lang, before ako makapag-sponsor, kailangan stable na din ako sa US which again will take time. My clock is ticking and I want to have kids too.
Sis, huwag mo madaliin (at least to my mind), make sure he is the right one. Sigurado ka na ba sa kanya, or just so happened na sya ang BF mo now at gusto mo na magkaanak kaya you are settling with him na ikasal sa kanya agad?
Tandaan mo, mahirap ikasal sa Pinas only to end up with a philandering partner at walang divorce. Panghabang buhay na sakit ng ulo iyan.
Marry right, pang habang buhay mo sya makakasama. Having kids can also be a blessing. Pero kahit 30s puede ka pa naman mag anak. Kasi kung may FAMILY ka man, inuna mo kunwari ang FAMILY over career, worse case? kapag hindi ka naging masaya since he is not the right one, you end up separating, so bale wala. masama pa nyan walang divorce sa pinas. so gulo gulo buhay mo. So make sure he is the right one muna before you give up so many things. If you are not sure, then go for your US trip and plan around it.
Kung inuna mo naman ang CAREER, more opportunities will be open for you there. He would wait for you kung mahal ka talaga nya. He would remain loyal and faithful to you kung mahal ka talaga nya (kasi maraming pinoy finds it hard to be be faithful kung nasa LDR man o hindi just dunno why). Worse case, puedeng hindi sya ang mapangasawa mo, pero hindi ka mawawalan ng prospects naman. Especially you are in the US, mas open minded ang tao dun at marami ka pang ma-m-meet.
So kinompare ko lang yung Worst scenarios for both kung inuna mo FAMILY or CAREER. Lumalabas mas risky kung inuna mo ang FAMILY at worse ang kinalabasan. Pero kung inuna mo ang CAREER at worse ang kinalabasan, you are still better off.
Pero syempre the best case for both FAMILY and CAREER is you are in the US with him, kaya walang problem dun.
