Guys POV

[cristina]

Kasi sa isang thread napag uusapan ang isang single mom with 2 children in two different father

In your POV can a guy really love a woman who has 2 kids in two different father?

 

[insanelypurpleprincess]

cristina, I just want to be sure I am on the same page. So, single Mum has two children and these two kids have different fathers. If that is indeed the scenario, my short answer to the question is YES. Everyone deserves to find that one person who they can love and be with for the long haul. Regardless of what the circumstance is, it is possible. But if we're to discuss if it would be easy, then that's a different story.

[simang]

My brother had a love child with his HS girlfriend. They broke up when my nephew was about 2 or 3 yrs old and he was left with to his mom's care, and then the girl got pregnant shortly after by her new partner. They broke up, and when my nephew was about 6, she got pregnant again by the new partner. So at 23 years old, she has 3 kids with 3 different fathers. She got pregnant again when she was 26, pero this time it was with the same guy.

When all of these was happening, ang dami kong narinig na judgment dun sa girl from my family, na kesyo pabuntis lang ng pabuntis, na hindi iniisip yung future ng mga bata. My nephew is now 12 years old, and seeing how fine he is now, how well behaved and polite, how smart he is, his mom must have done something right in raising him and his siblings. Right now, my nephew lives with his mom and her common law. Six years na sila together. Nameet ko na din yun partner ng mom ng nephew ko, and he's a very nice guy. This current partner, accepted and loved my nephew's mom kahit na may 2 kids na sya with different fathers. More than that, he accepted and loved my nephew kahit na hindi naman nya legit na anak.

Any woman deserves to be loved and accepted. And they don't deserve all the judgment.

[cristina]

Di ba i also believe kasi na women with kids can find true love

I read kasi dun sa other post may nag comment na only desperate men can love a woman who have two kids na

and mejo na offend kasi ko i have 2 sons na din kasi in two different father before i met my partner today and he accepted me wholeheartedly and he loves my two sons unconditionally

AND he is not DESPERATE!

[Girltalker2]

I think there was a thread discussion about single moms. Di ko lang alam san part hehe, baka sam thread sis sa sinabi mo na may mga comments from close minded people.

I believe that hindi naman magugustuhan ng guy (or sisiryosohin ng guy) yung single mom if she has nothing to offer.  There is also something in her that is attractive, worth pursuing, kaya na inlove sa kanya yung guy.

On the other side, hindi alam ng mga tao ang stories ng lahat ng single moms.  Yes, I partly agree, it is a reflection on the "poor" judgement or lapses in decision making ng single mom, pero malay mo hindi lang talaga sya sinwerte sa guys na napili nya?  If  I am a guy, and I am to love a single mom, kahit papano, I will still want to know her background, what led her to where she is now and why. Kasi kelangan ko maintindihan ang past nya in order to get to know her and see whether her style of handling situations/decision making is compatible with my style, whether I can accept it or not. And not because I will judge her. 

Teka antay nalang tayo ng guys sumagot, puro gals e. hehe