DAPAT BANG BAWALAN?

[graZiousa]

Hello mga sis... Tanong ko lang sa inyo if ok lang ba to...

Sister inlaw ko getting married na soon, pero mom talk to the guy and said na pwede nya pakasalan si sister inlaw in one condition (by the way SIL is a single mom) na hindi sila pwedeng mag anak pag nag asawa na sila dahil may anak nga si SIL...

Di ko ma gets... Any inputs?

[aquacharly]

Oh, let MIL impose her probitions.  Are these enforceable?   She can't enforce her no-kids condition.  Lol
 It's none of her business in the 1st place, family planning is the couple's choice.

Hwag ka na mag commentaryo --  it's a useless issue to get involved in.   It isn't even a valid issue for discussion.

I know of a  woman whose mom demanded that of her future husband -- because she had a weak heart.  The cardios all said she will not survive childbirth.   But she went ahead and had 2 kids. 

[graZiousa]

oo sis hindi ako nagcomment nung nagkwento si MIL sa pag uusap nila ng soon to be SIL nya... puro ganun ba, ganun ba... yon lang ang sagot... sigruo kumukuha lang ng opinyon kaya nagkwento. nagtaka rin lang ako bakit pinagbabawalan... ayaw nya ng apo (additional apo)... naibahan lang ako, hindi namin nakalakihan kasi na ganyan...salamat sis aquacharly.

[amethyst028]

^sound like my mom ang MIL mo. im also a single mom and my mom would always tell me huwag na mag asawa and mag anak kasi may anak na ako. i don't get the logic but i just let her be. hindi ko na lang pinapansin after all im an adult and living on my own. i get to make my own decisions.

baka ang kinakatakot ng MIL mo is ma-bale wala yung apo niya pag may sarili na silang anak. yan kasi fear ng mom ko, baka daw iba ang treatment or apihin yung anak ko. i always tell her hindi naman ako pipili ng asawa na gagawin yun sa anak ko. of course i'll choose well or none at all if that will be the case.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

TS, I agree with the others here.
1. Let your MIL be, she is entitled to her demands and preferences (no matter how unreasonable? it may seem).
2. This kind of gives you a clearer picture of how your MIL's brain works, so be wary that she doesn't do the same to you in the future or your children, maybe?
3. Pray that your SIL's marriage becomes a success because marriage is a risk. Regardless of how great things seem at one point, anything can happen!

[graZiousa]

tama ka sis amethyst028, nabangit nga yan ni MIL dati "kawawa naman ang apo ko"... Well, ayokong isipin na baka gawin nya if ever magkaanak na kami. Only daughter lang kasi si SIL kaya ganun narin siguro ang higpit ni MIL dahil nga naging single mom... Nabangit din ni MIL na baka ok ok lang daw si soon SIL para makasal tapos pag kasal na hindi na tutupad sa usapan na hindi mag aanak... Nakakasad naman, kami nga ni hubby gustong gusto na magkaanak tapos hindi pa nabibiyayaan tapos merong iba na pinagbabawalan naman...

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Naisip ko lang bigla. In the event that your Sis-In-Law and Bro-In-Law to be end up being pregnant with a child, what's the chance that you'd be open to adopt the child? Since you did mention that you have been waiting on the blessing to come your way. Again, it was just a thought I had out of the blue. You can readily disregard it.

[Girltalker2]

Hello mga sis... Tanong ko lang sa inyo if ok lang ba to...

Sister inlaw ko getting married na soon, pero mom talk to the guy and said na pwede nya pakasalan si sister inlaw in one condition (by the way SIL is a single mom) na hindi sila pwedeng mag anak pag nag asawa na sila dahil may anak nga si SIL...

Di ko ma gets... Any inputs?

Maybe your MIL does not trust the guy.  Or MIL mo pa rin ba ang nagtu-tustus ng gastos ng anak ng SIL mo?  Isip ni MIL, baka sya pa ang maburden ulit in case magkaanak si SIL. 

If your MIL sees na responsible enough si SIL and h2b, I don't think she will comment like that. Baka hindi mukhang responsable yung dalawang magpapakasal. Maybe better for them not to get married and just cohabitate muna and see how things go.

[graZiousa]

^ Naisip ko lang bigla. In the event that your Sis-In-Law and Bro-In-Law to be end up being pregnant with a child, what's the chance that you'd be open to adopt the child? Since you did mention that you have been waiting on the blessing to come your way. Again, it was just a thought I had out of the blue. You can readily disregard it.

Hindi rin sis... Hindi naman sa ayaw, hindi lang din kami nawawalan ng pag asa na magkaka baby kami considering na magkalayo kami ni hubb, once or twice a month lang nagkikita at may PCOS pa ako..

[graZiousa]

Maybe your MIL does not trust the guy.  Or MIL mo pa rin ba ang nagtu-tustus ng gastos ng anak ng SIL mo?  Isip ni MIL, baka sya pa ang maburden ulit in case magkaanak si SIL. 

If your MIL sees na responsible enough si SIL and h2b, I don't think she will comment like that. Baka hindi mukhang responsable yung dalawang magpapakasal. Maybe better for them not to get married and just cohabitate muna and see how things go.

may trabaho naman sila pareho sis, nga pala sa tanong mo sis kung MIL gumagastos sa bata..yes sya, pero ang alam ko kusang loob nya yon. dati si hubby gumastos nung nanganak tsaka mga gamit ng bata, gatas etc... pero nung lumalaki na si MIL na tapos may work naman si SIL nagbibigay rin. but most of the time si MIL ang nag aalaga sa bata...

[Girltalker2]

^ If that's the case, kaya may K ang MIL mo to say that.  Kung dapat ba, well, wala naman syang magagawa kung magbuntis ulit si SIL.  Pero siguro kelangan matuto ng SIL mo and h2b nya na hindi na umasa sa MIL mo.

[FayeP]

sis, un nga baka nag aalala lang si MIL...un nga lang weird ang dating kasi di naman nya desisyon kun magkababy un mag asawa o hindi eh...

[graZiousa]

Its been a very while since my last visit here.

SIL already married and pregnant of 5 months of a twins

No say na si MIL