Ano ang kwento ng LOVELIFE mo ngayon? Part 4 :)

[Girltalker2]

^ just enjoy the kilig moments! Happy for you sis.


Ako naman, heto emo moments and a bit sad. I think he overestimated his kids because hanggang ngayon, while mine can accept him, his cannot seem to accept me. And I know kids are our priorities. So now thinking he may not be right for me.

Love is so complicated.

[pretty_B]

i texted him. he replied and asked na magkita kami bukas. ito na yun. yung break up convo. i just made another favor for him, hindi na sya nahirapang ayain ako for tom kasi ako naunang magtext. anyway, una gusto lang nya sa labas ng bahay namin para di na ako magbihis and all. but i insisted na sa labas nalang kami magkita. he then replied "wala na ito". that means, i cant convinced him anymore. ayaw na nya. hay.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^^^ slickchick, it's totally fine to leave some form of skepticism in your system, basta lang it's enough for you to recover (in worst case scenarios), but I can totally feel your excitement when you talk about him, so keep praying and keep working towards happily ever after. After all, happily ever after is not based on what they show in movies, tv or books, but rather your own version of what it is supposed to be! Have a blissful 2015!

^^ sis Girltalker2, did you say "killing moments"? Bakit feeling ko kilig moments? Regardless, the priority is making sure that you don't just think that this isn't right away. Minsan diba? If it was too easy, then it must not be worth it. Perhaps, the profile of his children is different from yours, thus the difference in reactions & reaction time. Keep the faith!

^ sis pretty_B, I don't know with me, but I truly felt your pain. I felt the emotion from your words. Sometimes, things end so that better things can come. I know, easier said than done... been down that road quite too many times.. since I was 14 and now I am close to 33, so all I am saying is... it will seem like the end of the world for NOW... but in time, it will merely remain a memory. Be strong!

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As for us? We're totally cool. We're okay despite our very busy schedules.
He's got work to take care of and same with me, but we're feeling very blessed nonetheless.
It's now 09 JAN, and very thankful that we haven't had a rough patch in 2015 so far, God bless our souls!!!

[pretty_B]

^thanks sis insanelypurpleprincess. i appreciate your reply. :* i can do this.

Today, i cried, smiled, laughed then cried again and so on and so on. But I know i can do this. I need to be surrounded by positive and happy people.

[Girltalker2]

^^ sis Girltalker2, did you say "killing moments"? Bakit feeling ko kilig moments? Regardless, the priority is making sure that you don't just think that this isn't right away. Minsan diba? If it was too easy, then it must not be worth it. Perhaps, the profile of his children is different from yours, thus the difference in reactions & reaction time. Keep the faith!

I just changed it!  Did not realize until you  mentioned it. Wasn't myself perhaps when I was typing this.

You're right with the profile sis.  Will see how it goes. Maybe this can be the time to think again.

[slickchick]

thanks again for the encouraging words sis insanelypurpleprincess and sis Girltalker2!  natawa rin ako sis dun sa "killing moments", but somehow, naisip ko na "kilig" nga yun.. haha! 

sis Girltalker, i agree with sis insanelypurpleprincess, baka nasa warming up stage pa yung mga kids ni bf mo. have you met his kids na? share ko lang sis.. my son kasi when he first met my bf, medyo may wall talaga.. though hindi naman naging violent yung initial reaction nya, pero andun yung silent treatment na tipong he (my son) only talks to me when the three of us go out or deadma nya talaga si bf when bf talks to him.. katwiran nya kasi baka daw saktan lang din ako later so ayaw na muna nya maging close.. on my end, i tried to setup activities na pwede sila magbonding na hindi ako involved - like going to timezone and playing arcade games (na totally hindi ko gusto but is a good opportunity for them to bond since parehas sila mahilig mag arcade) and yung mga simpleng pagbili ng rubber shoes and tshirt since parehas silang boys, so similar taste.. and then ayun na, nag start na sya makipag usap kay bf.. and finally he (my son) told bf na, "ok na ako maging bf ka ni mommy basta dapat love mo kami 2 at huwag kang magkakaroon ng ibang chix.. si mommy lang dapat.. ".. syempre medyo shocked at natawa si bf (as my son is only 8 years old), pero it was good din kasi from that time, nagwa-warm up na si son ko kay bf.. ngayon nga, when i ask my son, si bf na daw yung mas mabait kasi hindi daw sya napapalo.. hanggang words lang daw.. i'm not sure about the setup of your relationship, but it would be good if bf helps you in finding ways to reach out to his kids, since he knows them better.. huwag mo isipin agad sis na baka he is not the right one or he is not meant for you.. kung gusto laging may paraan sis.. wish you the best! 

[Girltalker2]

^ thanks sis sa advice. Kasi iba ang case nya. Tayo pareho kasi kasama natin anak natin, we can somehow influence their thinking.

Kaso kids nya are with the ex, who is still not happy with their divorce. And traumatic for the kid is every time magkasama sila, the mom asks kung may kasama silang iba (me). And at one time the mom threatened the 12yo daughter na if she leaves her for the dad, the mom will commit suicide. So parang nakaka trauma sa bata. Na feeling responsible sya if something happens to her mom.

So parang we cannot force her to be with us or me with them kasi may influence ng 'ex' nya sa bata. And both my bf and his ex are not in speaking terms up until now kaya ang hirap para sa 12yo.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

pretty_B, of course, of course. It will be quite rough for now, but things will be better eventually. Cry all you want, it's good for the tear ducts. Then, smile at the memories.

slickchick, that's the spirit!!! Go, go, go. Have a great weekend with your boys!

Girltalker2, it is indeed complicated because the Mum has hang-ups. Anyway, don't rush it... don't force it. If indeed the daughter is not yet ready, let her be... Remember that you're in the relationship for your man and if you do get the heart of his kid, that's a bonus and not a requirement. The bare minimum is that the anak of your man respects you and... love will just follow through time.

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We're having a lazy weekend together! So, we're so chill!

[Girltalker2]

^Thanks sis for your thoughts.  I am thinking this through and tingin ko it is important for me to separate the external factors vs the character of the person. This issue is external. We would eventually have to deal with it when the right time comes, not now. Emphasizing on 'we' as we're in it together.

Maybe pms'ing as I doubted his willingness to settle the issue. After our talk, things were clearer and now not in doubt about his sincerity.

Kaya happy ulit lovelife ngayon.

Will miss him terribly in the coming weeks as he will be out for business again.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ When you put things in perspective like that, it makes as whole lot of sense for everyone concerned. Bottom line, I am very very very glad to hear that things worked out wonderfully after you spoke about it and yes, it does suck big time when the one we wanna be with 24/7 has to be out of town.
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He's out with the guys while I am still on lazy mode at home.
Regardless, I shall be ready for him once he comes home later

[slickchick]

sis Girltalker - I'm glad na you're feeling better now.. I also think na hindi naman yung bata per se ang may ayaw or against sa relationship nyo ni bf. It's just that, malakas yung influence talaga yung mom nya kaya ganun ang reaction nung kid. Agree with what sis insanelypurpleprincess said - your relationship is something between you and your man. Hindi madali at hindi dapat fino-force yung mga bata to like/love yung new partner ng mom/dad nila, but they should at least show them the respect they deserve as persons. I'm sure naman na if you're doing your best na mag-reach out whenever there is an opportunity, makikita ng bata yun, and she will also learn to appreciate and love you. good luck sis! kaya natin yan! 

on the topic : natawa ako sa ate ni bf during our merienda date yesterday. sabi nya, malakas daw ang feeling nya na mananalo sya ng lotto this year. and pag nanalo daw sya ng lotto this year, sya na daw mag sponsor ng wedding namin ni bf, with bahay at start up capital for the business daw ang gift nya sa min. hahaha! muntik namin mabuga ni bf yung coffee na iniinom namin.. hahaha! excited much si ate..   

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ slickchick, that is so cute, sis! 
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We're so excited to spend some quality time together later in the day since he's been always pagod and puyat over the weekend.

[simang]

Wedding preps in full swing already and I'm loving that he doesn't leave everything for me to decide on. We collaborate on most things, and so far, his choice of wedding music is my favorite

We'll be going somewhere far tomorrow. I'm excited!!!

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Awwww... how exciting!!!
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We're very, very, very stable and thankful for that... almost halfway into the month & we're so grateful that we haven't fought... and we do intend to keep it that way!

[pretty_B]

another heartache caused by you last night. i don't want to get angry because we're friends. but i think i need to pass that stage to really get over you.

[winkypops]

zero pa rin. I'm still praying for the right guy that will accept me for what i am

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Keep the faith, sis! It will come to you!!! Claim it and it will be yours.
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We're good. We're very blessed because we haven't fought since the start of 2015 and that's a great streak.. half a month and no LQ... how awesome is that?!?

[erza0916]

LDR parin. I miss him so much. It's our 100th month today, and yes we still greet each other every month. Kahit hindi kami makapag celebrate I'm still glad that after 8 years we're still excited every time dumadating ang 16th of the month. He's really busy with his job right now. And being within very distant timezones, hindi na kami halos magkausap. Nevertheless, I'm still very much in love with him. I appreciate everything he's done and still doing for me and our little angel on the way.

[simang]

So grateful that he's so patient with my weak sedentary self during our trek earlier. Di ko sure kung kaya ko tapusin yung trail without him. Pagbaba nami sa hike he kissed me paulit ulit, sort of a good-job-im-proud-of-you peck on the lips. Sobrang thankful naiyak ako talaga :')

[insanelypurpleprincess]

^ Good job!!!
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Very upbeat and hyped up! Nakiki Sinulog lang!