Plz help me understand my pina gf

[Mamaxims]

Hi, Im Maxim from Spain, sorry for Im not a native english but I ll try my best.

I met a filippina 11 month ago on a dating website. We did chat a lot, sometimes almost all the night and everyday. Quickly we did consider ourself in a long term relationship. Im 28 and she's 31, but it seems not to be a problem for us. We can have serious talking or silly talk, we both like to tease each other and we do it a lot.

She does running and kind of exercice 3 times/week. One day, after she came back to her training, I did tease her telling her that running is not really a sport. She know that Im really not into sport and so she did challenge me in sport when I ll be there. I told her that running is for women so she challenged me in wrestling!! First I refused but after telling me that it's cause I'm scared I did accept  . Few days, week later, she remind me that we have a challenge and she propose a bet, looser ll cook a diner for the winner, I accept it of course.

Finally, I book my flight to meet her after 10 month chatting. I stay there only for 8 days. The 3 first days were great, we did move and spend amazing moment together. The 4th day she remind me that we have a challenge. I was hoping she did forget but no... Anyway, even if she's a little taller than me (just couple of centimeters) and even if she run Im confident.

We prepare the room for the safety, warm up and we start. First, we both take it easy but quickly it became more intense. I tried my best to pin her but she push me away with her feets or block me with her legs. After couple of fail attempt, I start to be exhausted and running after my breath. Suddenly, while she was lying on her back, she raises her legs and wrap my head on her tighs. I tried to enlock with my arms but she catch and block one of my arm. She throw me a large smile and ask "give up?". I made a last attempt to escape but she squeeze my face and I did tapout...

She laugh so hard and seems really happy. She made a strange winning dance. She said "now we know Im stronger than you" and she did go to the bathroom. After few seconds to recover I did congrats her. So I did cook for her and everything was ok. The problem is after that she start to be more requiring. She asked me to cook for the rest of the trip, ok but it wasn't a part of the deal but she say "you loose you cook"... She made me make the housework too...

Im scared cause of that "challenge" she doesn't see me the same and ask me to do all housework. I really dont want to loose her cause before we were so good together. Do you have any idea of what happen?

[purplegravity]

^Maybe she just want to prove herself or she loves challenges.  You can directly tell her that you dont like sports, i'm sure she will understand you.  Even if you loose, it doesnt mean your weak.  Im sure if you won, she'll get mad at you.  Maybe she already had a hint that you will let her win.

Talk to her.  There is nothing wrong in saying what you feel.  Besides, open communication is very important in a relationship.

The fact that you flew from Spain just to see her already proved how much you like her.

[kaiz]

tell her you don't like doing household chores. the deal was over already.

[Mamaxims2]

First of all i want to thanks u for your answers. Well the problem is she already knew i dont like sport and now she tease me with That. It s ok the real problem is That now she s much bossy with me. She said That cooking and housework are for me now... I try to negociate she do half of it but she doesn t want...She Know i hâte doing it and Im a terrible cooker but it seems filippina eat all no matter How it taste or look :p

I thought maybe i did hurt her when i did tease her for her running and she wanted to give me a lesson. Maybe i have to apologize for That but Im scared it s too late. U think i have to?

I feel pretty bad about it and when i try to tell her That i dont like doing it she laugh and tease me... I dont Know How to tell her That since she did beat me i feel bad

[j.adore]

You mentioned you're able to talk about anything so have a serious conversation with her. Tell her how you really feel about losing on the bet and her making you do all the housework.

Divide the chores to be fair. You're her boyfriend, not her helper.

[purplegravity]

Talk to her seriously. Just an advice, you should let her know how you wanted to be treated. If after all your talks and nothing has changed, its time to let her go. Love should make you feel happy and not the other way around.

[sum.mer]

Talk to her and be honest. All your thoughts that you posted here are what you should be discussing with her. Goodluck!

[Mamaxims2]

Hi and thanks for your advices,

You re right!!We have to talk even if it ll be tough..

When i try to talk to her i complain about her behaviour and How bossy she became. It s maybe not the best strategy. This Time i ll apologize first for tease her for her running. I ll tell her That i did underestimate her and she teach me a good lesson. I ll say That now i feel weak. I feel like Im not able to protect her. Then i ll talk about the housework...

Sound good for u? What about u? How would be ur reaction if u did beat ur bf in something hé was supposed to win???

I though about a second option. If she tease me again when i try to talk Seriously maybe i can ask a rematch. If i win i guess we would be equal again and maybe she just had luck the 1st time... Sound silly for you?

[j.adore]

It's different with other couples.

For us, when I win, I claim whatever prize we agreed upon then laugh it off. Because he wins in other games that we do anyway.
We don't do rematch because nobody wants the results to change

But overall, we're competitive only when the game is on and then proceed to laughing it off when it's done.

Wish you all the best!

[duchessxspeaks]

Look up the term "lambing". It's distinctly Filipino. I think it's either that or she's dominant by nature. 

Listen for clues when you talk. Gather your thoughts and have a serious conversation about how she made you feel. It sounds like you really like her and if she feels the same, then I think she will consider your feelings and maybe tone it down a little -- while you step your game up, of course

Good luck!

[Mamaxims2]

Hi girls,

I feel better After talking with you Yes i really like That girl and I dont want to loose her...

I had maybe an idea of why is she acting like this...I did try before to ask her about her past and her past relationship.She refuse to talk about it it seems really taboo for her. I think That maybe her ex was a Guy who treat her badly so maybe she wanted to get the upper hand on the beggining of Our relationship so i ll treat her good..Sound possible for u?I would like to ask her directly but when I try she get mad...

Anyway I ll tell her How bad I feel since she beat me. I ll tell her That i feel i cant protect her and i dont feel like her man anymore so it can be good if she tease me less with That...
That defeat teach me That i really That Im not in good shape at all. I have to do sport and stop smoking quickly...

I was so surprised when she raised up her legs and lock my face That first i didn t want to tapout cause of my male ego so it did Hurt my neck when she squeeze and i did give up.. Now i confess That Im a bit traumatize by her.. I wont ask a rematch and if she does i ll piss on my pant and tell her no thanks Baby you won.

I have never fight a girl before tat even a play fight but are all filippinas That good? I mean you have martial art lesson at school or Things like That? A friend of me told me one day That filippino are the best fighter in the world but filipinas too???

[duchessxspeaks]

It's great that you want to do things that will make you physically stronger,  but you still have to be honest about how bad she made/makes you feel. You can't have a good relationship with someone unless you both learn to communicate your feelings without the other person throwing a fit. 

Now, if she still gets mad or refuses to talk about the issue,  then you might have to think about how you can continue being with someone who doesn't seem to respect you enough to listen to what you have to say. 

Ps.
I cant speak for all Filipino women, but my girlfriends and I don't usually beat the men we date up

[Mamaxims2]

Hi girls,

I feel so dumb right now... On friday i did go to the pub with coworker cause of a tough week. I was drunk when i connect on skype to chat with my gf and she guess it instantly... I tried to talk to her about The répartition of housework and cooking and she quickly get mad. I insist and she said "ok let s do a rematch in a taekwondo game if you dare. If you win i ll do half of the work if you loose you buy me an iphone 6". I said no way and i dont see the connection of buying her a new phone and housework but she did tease me a lot..She said i was scared being ass kicked again That she s stronger That me... And cause i was drunk i said ok sure i ll show u who s the boss...

I had huge hangover when i wake up on saturday. When i connect on skype she sound really Happy and quickly remind me of yersterday bet.. She said That even if she s not a martial artist she did play taekwondo on high school and it s enough for her to pût me ko... I said That i dont want to do it anymore she laugh and said ok give me my phone...

I feel trapped!! I like That girl really but i really dont like when she act like That. It s not funny anymore and it s embarassing...

 Mean while i  start to practice and i did jog. After 12 min of jog i was exhausted and i du stop.. That suck!! We ll see each other in 2 month and i dont Know what ll happen next

[Yaya]

^ i dont like your girl friend. she's using you. good luck.

[j.adore]

First, she makes you into a house helper and now a sugar daddy?

I don't think you are "good together" if she gets mad when you tried to talk to her about this and if she uses her strengths to undermine you.

[Mamaxims2]

Well i understand what u say and ur probably right for some aspect. I would like to win her in That taekwondo to stop That shitty housework and to prove her That Im not That weak

[oreo08]

Get rid of her, I'm sorry

[TysLolakins]

sorry i just have to say it.  si wrestling girl, she's giving us all a bad name, beating up on that poor out of shape foreigner boyfriend. 

[iwannabeasupermodel]

She's using you.

[kukii]

Asking for an iphone6 was definitely a red flag, it's obvious she's using you. If I were you I would man up and leave her. Goodluck!