Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[17glut]

^No matter how you analyze the word "commitment," in general, it only means one thing - that is, stick to one ka lang, regardless of the relationship that a man and a woman is involved in.

[dismembered]

^So if boyfriend/girlfriend lang you shouldn't be commited ganon ba?

Ang point ko lang is. Bakit ba mag-boyfriend or girlfriend? Di ba for the purpose of getting married? You enter a relationship because interested ka na maging asawa mo yun. If that's the purpose of girlfriend/boyfriend, eh you should only go into that commitment if ready ka na mag asawa.

If hindi pa ready, eh madami pang paligoy ligoy na mangyayari. I'm not saying na applicable sa lahat ito, pero.. pag pinilit ang isang bagay kahit gaano pa kayo ka-compatible, kung wrong timing, baka masira lahat ng opportunity na meron kayo.

[red_yesha]

OMG dismembered, maraming masasapul dito hahaha!
Ang oldfashioned ng sinabe mo pero Tama

[Girltalker2]

^ tama naman. And I don't think it is old fashioned. Sobrang dami lang talagang unfaithful these days kasi Gf/BF nang Gf/BF for the sake only to discover na may gusto silang ibang girl/guy na kalandian.

[misslovelyjoy]

Thanks, guys! 😊

[slickchick]

Ang point ko lang is. Bakit ba mag-boyfriend or girlfriend? Di ba for the purpose of getting married? You enter a relationship because interested ka na maging asawa mo yun. If that's the purpose of girlfriend/boyfriend, eh you should only go into that commitment if ready ka na mag asawa.

If hindi pa ready, eh madami pang paligoy ligoy na mangyayari. I'm not saying na applicable sa lahat ito, pero.. pag pinilit ang isang bagay kahit gaano pa kayo ka-compatible, kung wrong timing, baka masira lahat ng opportunity na meron kayo.

well-said bro! and hindi naman yan old-fashioned thought. di naman sa nilalahat ah, hirap kasi sa ibang mga pumapasok sa relationship ngayon, parang puro for convenience or for fun lang ang iniisip or ginagawang status symbol ang pagkakaroon ng bf/gf. medyo mababaw yung foundation or basis kung bakit pumapasok sa relationship, kaya konting trials lang, mas madali rin bumitaw or mas madali rin maging unfaithful. just my opinion... 

[pretty_B]

Ang point ko lang is. Bakit ba mag-boyfriend or girlfriend? Di ba for the purpose of getting married? You enter a relationship because interested ka na maging asawa mo yun. If that's the purpose of girlfriend/boyfriend, eh you should only go into that commitment if ready ka na mag asawa.

If hindi pa ready, eh madami pang paligoy ligoy na mangyayari. I'm not saying na applicable sa lahat ito, pero.. pag pinilit ang isang bagay kahit gaano pa kayo ka-compatible, kung wrong timing, baka masira lahat ng opportunity na meron kayo.

nice! thanks for reminding me this. mukhang nakalimutan kong ganito ako magisip before i entered into a relp (na ngayon ay wala na! haha.)

[red_yesha]

^^ay hindi pa pala.hehe sorry.
e kasi naman napakaraming mga unfaithful these days. paramihan ng jowa,
paramihan ng nakachorva hmp (▰˘︹˘▰) !
Salamat kay dismembered sa pagpapaalala.

[minatay91]

@ sacred cow

Anywhere could be as good as any in meeting someone

Are you kidding me?
Not helpful and that's not even true. And I'm not even pertaining to meet just anybody that I can find on the street or sleazy bars.
So you're expecting me,if I'm fond of being kikay and pa-pretty2 sa makeup fair and girly conventions, I have huge chances of meeting guys?

That's too..idk, unrealistic.

I've just decided to just stick to my own hobbies.

[sacred cow]

@minatay

you fail to understand what I posted since you just wanted someone to affirm what you already want to hear, in this case 'to stick to your hobbies.' 

Going to certain places doesn't guarantee that you would find someone you'd click with, hell why would you even go out na ang objective mo is to find someone to date.

Why would you generalize that meeting guys on the street or bars is sleazy? Are all people that go to bars or guys that talk to girls randomly on the streets not relationship material? What if someone says that girls who post at forums like these are mostly pathetic or single moms with lots of baggage and that there are no pretty and quality girls here, would you agree with that person, who's obviously making a generalization just because of one or two people he met or a story someone told him.

I say, to people that think this way to get off your high horse and be more grounded. If you want a quality guy, be a quality girl yourself. If the guys that approach you are not up to your standards and those you want doesn't show interest, then it means that you're not good enough for them or you have unrealistic expectations. Because quality girls don't have problems looking for quality guys since quality guys go to them (how's that for a dose of hasty generalization)

[koalaa]

I feel insecure.  Bf kase never post anything about us sa social net. Unlike sa mga ex nya before, Displayed photo,  cover photo and kung ano ano pang mga songs and notes tina tag. I feel na hindi sya proud saakin big deal ba tong na fe feel ko? Should I open this to him? Actually gusto ko to sabihin sakanya but I don't want to look desperate. 

[simang]

^he and his exes broke up, right? maybe he's trying to do something different with you. so you two will end up differently din, unlike what happened to his previous relationships

I've just decided to just stick to my own hobbies.

there you said it. you know your hobbies so you already know where to look.

[j.adore]

BF mo naman go ask him why different treatment sayo.

[dismembered]

I feel insecure.  Bf kase never post anything about us sa social net. Unlike sa mga ex nya before, Displayed photo,  cover photo and kung ano ano pang mga songs and notes tina tag. I feel na hindi sya proud saakin big deal ba tong na fe feel ko? Should I open this to him? Actually gusto ko to sabihin sakanya but I don't want to look desperate.

He might be doing something differently this time. Sa mga exes nya ganun sya, and ano ang naging ending? May reason sya kung bakit ganyan. Go ahead ask him. Regardless of reasons na sasabihin nya, I believe Operant Conditioning is one of the reason. Hindi ko lang alam if ano ang reward/punishment sa experience nya before...

Unless ang reason eh para maka pag flirt sya sa ibang tao dahil hindi informed sa lahat na taken na sya, you shouldn't be bothered.  Eh ano naman kung wala sa social media. Kailangan ba andun? Yung mga ancestors natin wala namang social media dati pero nag-survive naman.

[may12]

Koalaa, dati nagpopost ako sa FBcc about sa bf ko. Pero nung iba na bf ko, na-realize ko ayaw ko ng nagpopost. Not because I love him less.
Siguro nag-mature lang ako at narealize ko na di naman namin kailangan i-update pa ang lahat sa personal life namin. Mahirap kasi pag bigla kayo naghiwalay. Dami rin makisawsaw. And worse, pag nakahanap ka ng ibang karelasyon, eh makikisawsaw na naman kung anong nangyari dun sa una.
So promise ko sa sarili ko, tsaka na ako magpost pag engage na kami.

Naiintindihan ko din naman insecurities mo, kasi dati yung ex ko, di din nagpopost sa fb. Turned out, dami niya pala karelasyon. Lol. Pero wag ka matakot. Just be sure kilala ka ng family at friends niya.

[simang]

^eh hindi mo naman pala sya gusto romantically, at friend lang sya for you.. I don't get why you're affected that she hasn't asked you to be his girlfriend. And i believe he's assuming because you're entertaining him. Kung dinededma mo naman sya i doubt na magiging ganun sya kacomfortable sayo.

[shayne_12]

Sis hindi mo siya gusto as boyfriend and friend lang tingin mo sa kanya and yet naghihintay ka na magtanong siya na kung pwede kang ligawan? what for? What if he asked you kung pwede kang ligawan, papayag ka ba? Feeling ko sis gusto mo din siya eh,  gusto mo lang na formal siya mag-ask sayo...

[dismembered]

^ Ateng, nararamdaman kong kinikilig ka habang nagkkwento ng istorya nyo. Kung formality lang ba ang need mo na marinig mo sya sabihin ang mga words na yun, hindi pa ba sapat yung mga words na sinasabi nya na sa aking palagay ay mas mabigat pa sa "Will you be my girlfriend?". Grow old with you > Will you be my girlfriend. Lol.

Tama lang na talagang protective ka at naninigurado ka. Advice ko lang, one thing para malaman mo kung talagang seryoso sya sayo eh, hindi lang ikaw ang dapat nyang suyuin. Kundi dapat ang pamilya mo din maliban sa anak mo. Like your mom and dad. At para din na malaman mong seryoso sya sa iyo, dapat ipakilala ka nya sa pamilya nya. Sa mga magulang nya. Unless umabot kayo sa ganitong stage, medyo malabo na masabing seryoso nga. Malay mo may ibang pamilya pala yan at hindi mo lang alam?

[fionnah325]

may partner ako now at may anak kami..he is a seaman...may anak siya dati mag 10 years old na this month...our baby is 13 months old na..ang tanong ko bakit kaya ang tagal niya magplan na magpakasal kami?ano kaya ang gusto pa niyang mangyari?ang sabi lang niya sa akin dati na yong papa niya kasi may sakit that was last year grabeh daw ang gastos mas okay lang daw muna na hindi kami magpakasal kasi mas nakakasave siya oag single siya kasi sa company nila pwede niya e beneficiary yong papa niya kasi di pa siya kasal at makasave sila sa pmbayad sa hospital kasi libre...kaso his dad died last december 2014....hindi nga niya nakita si baby eh kasi nasa province sila kami kasi andito sa manila..

ang tanong ko lang bakit ngayon pag tinatanong ko siya f kailan kami pakasal ang sagot lang niya is: darating din tayo diyan..alam mo naman mga plans natin diba?this relationship for me is not a short term but this is for a long term relationship...
may balak ba kaya talaga niya ako pakasalan or ano?nalilito na ako

[argento]

question ko lang po, may mga lalake ba talagang ganito? na parang gusto short cut nalang?a is mapasaya niya ako..ewan ko ba

ok nga yung short cut walang paligoy ligoy.