Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[ieiky]

^ ang weird nga naman talaga ng LDR tapos communication na lang, wala pa! follow your instinct sis! GO!

[yajale_22]

^correction pala: November 2012 - February 2013 sya umuwi pala. I mixed up the dates. Bale more than 2 years na kame di nagkikita.

^Oo nga sis. Parang natutunaw na naman defenses ko, nanunuyo sya kaya lang alam ko naman saglit lang yan tapos pag pinatawad ko na naman balik na naman sa dati.

^ ang weird nga naman talaga ng LDR tapos communication na lang, wala pa! follow your instinct sis! GO!

[jeninajenina]

Naiinis ako haha (Telling everyone beforehand na mababaw to)

I was supposed to be with him today, kasi I have a roadtrip to Batanggas with friends and siya yung nagsasabing sasama siya. Hindi ako nagpumilit na sumama siya nung umpisa. But he build me up na gusto nya daw sumama. Nauto ako haha

He said kahapon when he was with me, he wants to be with me daw kaya sasama siya. I bought it.
Tapos when we were talking before we're going to sleep sabi niya if magising daw siya ng maaga, and he even told me na i should ring him if ever daw di pa siya gising. I'd adjusted yung time namin for him i told him that. Pinagluto ko pa si mokong ng tapsi kasi he loves breakfast food and have it packed.

Sabay bungad this morning, sorry di ako makakasama kasi daw may lakad daw sila ng mama nya.
Then my friend asked him na bakit di siya makakapunta, isasagot family time muna.
I know it's never right to compete sa family niya and this is immature, pero sana na lang wag na lang ibuild up ng ganun tapos ended up saying na you couldn't come. Nakakainis magadjust.

I know he has a life of his own pero nakakainis yung ginagawa niya, ano yun may technicalities pa na he didn't actually said yes I'll go so when he bails 30 minutes before wala akong right magalit or mainis man lang? I really don't understand it. Ano ba to. Hindi ka priority, or hindi lang sayo naikot mundo ko, or what. People make time for what they want sabi nga nila. When a guy act like he doesn't give a sht he genuinely doesn't give a sht. Hindi ko alam.

Are men really like that? Or i just have to take it na wala lang. I don't wanna expect kaso pinaasa ako e. I know this sounds like a 14 ywar old being upset for being let down. I just can't seem to hold it in unfortunately.

[j.adore]

No, if a guy wants to be with you, he'll make sure to do everything he can to be with you.

[17glut]

Naiinis ako haha (Telling everyone beforehand na mababaw to)

I was supposed to be with him today, kasi I have a roadtrip to Batanggas with friends and siya yung nagsasabing sasama siya. Hindi ako nagpumilit na sumama siya nung umpisa. But he build me up na gusto nya daw sumama. Nauto ako haha

He said kahapon when he was with me, he wants to be with me daw kaya sasama siya. I bought it.
Tapos when we were talking before we're going to sleep sabi niya if magising daw siya ng maaga, and he even told me na i should ring him if ever daw di pa siya gising. I'd adjusted yung time namin for him i told him that. Pinagluto ko pa si mokong ng tapsi kasi he loves breakfast food and have it packed.

Sabay bungad this morning, sorry di ako makakasama kasi daw may lakad daw sila ng mama nya.
Then my friend asked him na bakit di siya makakapunta, isasagot family time muna.
I know it's never right to compete sa family niya and this is immature, pero sana na lang wag na lang ibuild up ng ganun tapos ended up saying na you couldn't come. Nakakainis magadjust.

I know he has a life of his own pero nakakainis yung ginagawa niya, ano yun may technicalities pa na he didn't actually said yes I'll go so when he bails 30 minutes before wala akong right magalit or mainis man lang? I really don't understand it. Ano ba to. Hindi ka priority, or hindi lang sayo naikot mundo ko, or what. People make time for what they want sabi nga nila. When a guy act like he doesn't give a sht he genuinely doesn't give a sht. Hindi ko alam.

Are men really like that? Or i just have to take it na wala lang. I don't wanna expect kaso pinaasa ako e. I know this sounds like a 14 ywar old being upset for being let down. I just can't seem to hold it in unfortunately.

May right ka na mainis kasi nag expect ka pero mali yung reaction mo about the whole thing, lumalabas lang lalo na unreasonable ka. Do you really honestly think he'd bail out on you on the last minute if it wasn't important? syempre hindi. Every guy would grab every chance we can get para makasama at masolo ang mga syota namin especially on an outing. t**** lang ang lalaking tatanggi sa ganung chance. Since ang dahilan nya is samahan ang mom nya then it is something that he cannot really forego kaya at this point intindihin mo na lang, pag pinalaki mo pa yan at umabot pa sa mama nya then chances are, baka ma-badshot ka lang sa ermat nya. I'm sure ayaw mong makaaway ang mama ng bf mo. 

It's possible bigla syang tinamad pero if that was the case then dapat hindi ka na nya kinulit na sasama sya in the first place di ba? sana umpisa pa lang nagsabi na sya.

Tsaka this is only one time, marami pa naman chance na pwede kayo mag plan ng outing na kayong dalawa lang, for this one, enjoyin mo lang yung outing with your friends. Look at the bright side, you're free to do what you want without him breathing down your neck di ba?

[jeninajenina]

^actually it was for the car show sa world trade kaya siguro nagreact ako ng ganito..

and, Hindi ko naman siya inaway.  i'm just upset. wala lang. Madaming beses na siyang nagccancel. Hindi ko maintindihan.

Parang mas okay lang kasi yung no na lang umpisa pa lang Hindi yung oo ng oo then 30 minutes or 2 hours or nasa tapat ka na ng bahay magccancel. sa akin lang.   

[17glut]

^actually it was for the car show sa world trade kaya siguro nagreact ako ng ganito..

and, Hindi ko naman siya inaway.  i'm just upset. wala lang. Madaming beses na siyang nagccancel. Hindi ko maintindihan.

Parang mas okay lang kasi yung no na lang umpisa pa lang Hindi yung oo ng oo then 30 minutes or 2 hours or nasa tapat ka na ng bahay magccancel. sa akin lang.

wait, he bailed out on you coz of the car show sa world trade? oh well, boys will be boys  can't blame him, daming tsiks dun .... like i said, enjoyin mo muna yung original planned outing nyo ng mga friends mo, it helps na puro tropa muna kasama mo at marami pa namang chance na pwede nyo masolo ang isa't isa ng bf mo.

[Girltalker2]

^actually it was for the car show sa world trade kaya siguro nagreact ako ng ganito..

and, Hindi ko naman siya inaway.  i'm just upset. wala lang. Madaming beses na siyang nagccancel. Hindi ko maintindihan.

Parang mas okay lang kasi yung no na lang umpisa pa lang Hindi yung oo ng oo then 30 minutes or 2 hours or nasa tapat ka na ng bahay magccancel. sa akin lang.

Sis maraming ganyan. Nasa imagination nila na they want to do it pero the flesh is weak. Hindi convenient kasi, gigising ng maaga or traffic or malayo.

However, that doesn't mean he is not interested. Of course interested sya sayo that's why gusto nga sumama eh, that is, kung convenient.

 Maybe he is just not interested enough to overcome the inconveniences of being with you. Kaya ayaw nya magcommit na sure sasama para maka bail out sya if di nya feel pumunta the following day, pero ayaw din nya mag No para may option sya sumama baka sakaling ganahan sya the following day.

For me, mahirap makipag relasyon sa mga ganyan kasi fickle minded and can't make their decisions. Better be friends nalang and kung mag blossom man ang nararamdaman nya for you such that he can commit, tsaka na lang kayo mag usap.

[simang]

It's simple. If he wants to be with you, he will be with you. He will find ways to be with you.

Okay lang sana kung once or twice lang sya nagkacancel ng last minute, but then from your previous posts, parang napapadalas yata.

[minatay91]

Hopefully this question is a breather among all the lovesick questions.

Where do a lot of guys hang out? Na hindi mga minor, usually with stable lives?
Except bars, and disco places. And except the workplace (after all, I can't go work hopping) No sleazy places and places with alcohol. A place of interest

Where's a good place for introverts like me?

I'm thinking gym pero I don't usually think of meeting guys there. I'd be too focused on myself haha. I've had guys approach me naman in coffee shops, small restaurants or while walking sa mall. And I prefer places na it's safe to be alone (my friends/kasama usually repel them )

[misslovelyjoy]

There's this guy na kakilala ko na since gradeschool. We were so close back then until I transfer school in grade 4. Nawalan ng communication though we went to same school during highschool. Pero kahit schoolmates kami nun at sa liit ng school eh never na nagkasalubong landas namin as in never in 4 years! January this year nagparamdam siya bigla, nagmessage sa facebook nangangamusta and all. He asked for my number na binigay ko naman since I know him and may pinagsamahan kami nung mga bata pa kami.

Ayon, text/chat. Napapag-usapan yung memories noong bata pa kami, reminiscing ba. Gusto din niyang lumabas kami, magcatch up sa years na lumipas na di kami nag-uusap. Just like the old times. Very vocal siya about it. Maliban sa memories na binabalikan eh pati feelings bumabalik. Crush namin isa't isa noon (Ang lantong ko pala gradeschool palang. Haha!).

Kaya lang napansin ko sa nakalipas na 4 months na nagkaroon kami ulit ng communication na flirt flirt lang siya. I told him na ayoko na ng landi landi relationship. I want serious and long-term commitment.

Kung ano-ano daw naiisip niya, "Eh pano kase alam mo medjo loko ako. Pano kung magsawa ka kakaintindi tas maghihiwalay tayo tapos baka ano pa sabihin ng nanay mo kay mama. Tas ayun baka magaway pa sila. Haha ewan ano ano naiisip ko." Her mom and my mom are friends since God knows when.

So I told him na mas okay siguro if we remain friends nalang. Sabi niya, "Haha gusto kita e un yung problema. Pero bahala na haha. Masaya naman na ganto e db? Pwede rin naman tayo lumabas. Db?haha ekaso nga gusto kita.haha. dana kagulo. Bahala na tlaga si batman. Magenjoy muna tayo sa isat isa. Tsaka na natin isipin un. Bata pa tyo."

I therefore conclude na ayaw niya ng commitment atleast for now. May time daw para don. Isa lang malinaw sa akin, hindi niya kayang ibigay yung serious at long-term commitment na gusto ko.

[dismembered]

^Might as well na pinoprotektahan nya ang possible future nyo. Bata pa kayo masyado pa mahaba ang time para sa happy ending o masabing kayo na nga. Ayaw nya lang siguro i mess up ang isang perfect match dahil sa hindi pa tama ang timimg. Kahit ako ganyan ang gagawin ko. Why enter into commitment eh di pa naman magaasawa agad.

[misslovelyjoy]

^Good point. We're still on our early 20's. Nagstart palang sa career. As he said, enjoy life first.

[simang]

^hindi mo pwedeng iimpose sa lalaki na gusto mo right away ng forever. Matatakot yun. what you can do is continue meeting other people, date around, be available to other opportunities WHILE he's still at the "bahala na" stage. Kung hindi pa sya sure if he wants to have a relationship with you, he means he doesn't want to have a relationship with you right now. And that doesn't mean you have to be exclusive to him. Hayaan mo sya until he figures out what he really wants from you. For the mean time, enjoy your time together, and enjoy your single life still, because after all, he's not your boyfriend.

[misslovelyjoy]

Nabigla nga siguro or more on natakot siya sa sinabi kong gusto ko. Hmmm. Ang sabi ko sa kanya mag-enjoy siya which means do whatever he wants and meet other girls. Ang ayoko lang when he said na I should enjoy my life too eh except enjoy with other guys. Parang ang dating sakin eh he wants me to be exclusive to him while he on the other hand is not to me. I said no of course coz after all, we don't have commitment to each other, he isn't my boyfriend.

[17glut]

Hopefully this question is a breather among all the lovesick questions.

Where do a lot of guys hang out? Na hindi mga minor, usually with stable lives?
Except bars, and disco places. And except the workplace (after all, I can't go work hopping) No sleazy places and places with alcohol. A place of interest

Where's a good place for introverts like me?

I'm thinking gym pero I don't usually think of meeting guys there. I'd be too focused on myself haha. I've had guys approach me naman in coffee shops, small restaurants or while walking sa mall. And I prefer places na it's safe to be alone (my friends/kasama usually repel them )

Introverts don't usually prefer to hang out in the open or public places for that matter, they prefer solitude so any place na tahimik at walang masyadong tao - either a library, gym or just at home.

I should know, introvert din ako.  Ako naman I seldom go to bars even with friends, pag trip ko uminom I just do it at home mas tipid pa. Same goes for watching movies or eating out, like, bakit pa ko gagastos at mag aaksaya ng oras makisalamuha at makipag plastikan kung pwede naman ako dumiretso sa bahay at magagawa ko pa lahat yun ng hindi na gumagasta masyado.

[ajang]

bakit may lalake pinipilit itago ang totoo para lang di maging masama ang tingin sa kanya ng babae?! yung tipong pinaparealize mo na sa kanya noon pa ang sitwasyon pero di sya nakikinig and at the end lahat ng sinabi mo sa kanya noon ay sinasabi nya ngayon sayo, so ang result parang ikaw pa ang naghahabol..

may mga lalake ba talagang naniniwala na magiging friends kayo after ng breakup?!

[sacred cow]

Hopefully this question is a breather among all the lovesick questions.

Where do a lot of guys hang out? Na hindi mga minor, usually with stable lives?
Except bars, and disco places. And except the workplace (after all, I can't go work hopping) No sleazy places and places with alcohol. A place of interest

Where's a good place for introverts like me?

I'm thinking gym pero I don't usually think of meeting guys there. I'd be too focused on myself haha. I've had guys approach me naman in coffee shops, small restaurants or while walking sa mall. And I prefer places na it's safe to be alone (my friends/kasama usually repel them )

Anywhere could be as good as any in meeting someone, limiting belief lang lahat ng iniisip mo...seriously

[argento]

Why enter into commitment eh di pa naman magaasawa agad.

tama.  Commitment starts at marriage.

[misslovelyjoy]

^So if boyfriend/girlfriend lang you shouldn't be commited ganon ba?