Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[misslovelyjoy]

What if they like each other naman? Parang wala lang label kung ano talaga sila.

[j.adore]

Pa-conservative lang.. But why be bothered about it? Just go with the flow and enjoy the experience!

[simang]

What if they like each other naman? Parang wala lang label kung ano talaga sila.

The fact that you're thinking if it makes you cheap, then maybe to you yes it is cheap. If wala lang talaga yun sayo, then hindi mo maiisip yang ganyang bagay

[slickchick]

@misslovelyjoy - in my opinion, depende kung ano yung level ng "relationship" nila, and kung saan ba sya (girl) ni-kiss.. siguro kung beso beso kind or smack lang sa cheek, tapos friends naman sila ni guy, i think it's ok.. pero kung passionate kissing tapos di naman sila in a relationship (relationship as in bf-gf), off ang dating sa akin.. 

[Naughty^GuRu]

If the girl let someone, who isn't her boyfriend, kiss her mukha na ba siyang cheap? Though sa panahon ngayon eh casual nalang ang makipagkiss, the girl is conservative kasi. No kiss, no touch lalo na hindi naman sila ni guy at wala silang commitment.

What if they like each other naman? Parang wala lang label kung ano talaga sila.

Yes. but who cares? mas madaming taong gumagawa ng mas malalang bagay. but still, cheap pa rin yung girl who kiss a guy na hindi naman niya boyfriend. we live in a world na madaming hypocrites and judgmental so hindi na surprising na matawag siyang cheap. pero sabi nga sa ibang reply above, so what, as long as nag eenjoy naman siya eh. pero based sa post mo, parang masyadong bothered si girl sa conservative kuno image niya. she's not that conservative now i guess? 

usual dilemma of Pinays, naiisip nilang gumawa ng kalandian pero hindi nila ma-put into action, kasi bothered sila sa sasabihin nung guy and sasabihin ng ibang tao. tapos bababa na yung tingin niya sa sarili niya feeling niya ang cheap cheap niya. that's not being conservative.

[misslovelyjoy]

Thanks sa opinyon niyo! Screenshot ko nalang at pabasa kay girl friend.

[17glut]

If the girl let someone, who isn't her boyfriend, kiss her mukha na ba siyang cheap? Though sa panahon ngayon eh casual nalang ang makipagkiss, the girl is conservative kasi. No kiss, no touch lalo na hindi naman sila ni guy at wala silang commitment.

panong kiss ba? as in laplapan na gums to gums ba o yung mala-showbiz na beso-besong plastikan? 

[la_pinay]

question.

i found out my husband is still friends with his ex fubu. although i believe and i see naman that they are no longer doing anything beyond limits, i still want him to cut the friendship. is that fine or am i exaggerated?

[17glut]

question.

i found out my husband is still friends with his ex fubu. although i believe and i see naman that they are no longer doing anything beyond limits, i still want him to cut the friendship. is that fine or am i exaggerated?

it all depends on what you're not seeing  kung sure at tiwala ka na walang nangyyari sa kanila then sure ok lang yun pero then again, they used to be fubus so as long as the connection is alive between them, chances are, they might do it again 

[Naughty^GuRu]

question.

i found out my husband is still friends with his ex fubu. although i believe and i see naman that they are no longer doing anything beyond limits, i still want him to cut the friendship. is that fine or am i exaggerated?

you have all the right na sabihin and ipagawa sa husband mk to cut all ties with his ex fubu. and as a husband, dapat naman sensitive enough siya know na you don't feel at ease na friends sila. i'm not being closed minded or judgmental, pero ano bang meron sa friendship nila na bakit kelangan i-risk niya yung trust mo and yung marriage niyo. and hindi ba part of marriage yung pag aadjust para hindi mo ma-hurt yung partner mo. go and demand sa husband mo, tell him you trust him blah blah blah pero hindi ko acceptable sayo na friends siya with someone na naikama na niya before. tell him kung baliktad naman, what if ikaw naman yung still friends with your ex fubu or ex bf or even ex manliligaw, i'm sure hindi din niya magugustuhan

[la_pinay]

thanks sa insights really helpful getting these from a guy's pov.

[dismembered]

I think you have the right to do that. FUBU dati kaya hindi impossible maging FUBU ngayon. Kahit akong lalake, ayokona may connection pa ang GF o wife ko sa kahit sinong FUBU eh. FUBU is FUBU, hindi tatawaging FUBU kung walang nangyayari.

[la_pinay]

thanks guys.

on the other hand, fubu's can turn into good friendships. it just feels so wrong to keep them when you are already in a relationship.

[dismembered]

FUBU is FUBU. Iba na ang level of intimacy nun. The mind may forget, but the body will never forget.

[Girltalker2]

question.

i found out my husband is still friends with his ex fubu. although i believe and i see naman that they are no longer doing anything beyond limits, i still want him to cut the friendship. is that fine or am i exaggerated?

You're not exag. Pero ano ba iyang asawa mo, sarap dagukan. Di ba common sense lang naman? If he truly values your marriage and wants to protect your relationship, and not destroy your trust, sya na mismo dapat kusang umiwas at di mo na kelangan pagsabihan.

[17glut]

thanks guys.

on the other hand, fubu's can turn into good friendships. it just feels so wrong to keep them when you are already in a relationship.

FUBU's always turns out to become good friends kasi nga "with benefits" ang arrangement and who does not want that? Anyone who's into that reaps all the advantages with minimal risks.  It's just like when we're young, you couldn't exactly afford to throw your favorite toy now, could you? 

[ajang]

Q: bakit may mga guys na hindi showy sa feelings nila? no words, no actions. yung tipong sinabi na nila ng isang beses tama na yun ayaw ng ulitin. bakit din may mga guys na hindi nag-oopen sa partner nila? tapos at the end di mo alam may nagawa ka na palang mali o ayaw nila ng wala kang idea.

[ziontrec]

^
i think this based on the personality of the person(guy or girl), specially kung introvert sila.
just keep open communication, mahirap [textspeak!] sa iba na magopen up or magshare ng nararamdaman, isama mo nadin siguro yung machismo feeling sa isang reason bakit reserved ang mga guys.

[Girltalker2]

Q: bakit may mga guys na hindi showy sa feelings nila? no words, no actions. yung tipong sinabi na nila ng isang beses tama na yun ayaw ng ulitin. bakit din may mga guys na hindi nag-oopen sa partner nila? tapos at the end di mo alam may nagawa ka na palang mali o ayaw nila ng wala kang idea.

Not all men are like that. Hopefully yung partner na ma hanap natin ay expressive at communicative. Otherwise Ikaw ang hirap at lagi mag aadjust to make the relationship work.

[simang]

Q: bakit may mga guys na hindi showy sa feelings nila? no words, no actions. yung tipong sinabi na nila ng isang beses tama na yun ayaw ng ulitin. bakit din may mga guys na hindi nag-oopen sa partner nila? tapos at the end di mo alam may nagawa ka na palang mali o ayaw nila ng wala kang idea.

no words and no actions = no love (or at least not enough love)

i believe na when a person (guy or girll, introvert or extrovert, communicative or not, expressive or not) genuinely cares for you and love you, he/she will somehow let you know one way or another. not always sa ways na ineexpect natin (sweet words, physical affection, etc) but in ways they're comfortable with, and in ways they know how. minsan lang maybe we don't see it enough (dito pumapasok ang love language ng tao). pero kung wala silang pinapakita at all, then maybe they're indifferent towards you.