Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[dismembered]

this is the most real and most honest answer you'll get. some kasi loves sugarcoating haha. kaya naman okay ka sa akin bro! lol.

Apir!

[jeninajenina]

I've been dating a guy for two months now, okay naman siya kasama, sweet. Pag kasama. haha

Lagi siyang nagccancel sa akin. I totally hate that. Like madaming beses na kong nagiging third wheel sa mga lakad, kasi nga wala hindi daw makapunta and everything, syempre i always got let down kaya sanay at wala nang dating yung mga dahilan nya sakin, mga an hour later magccancel, or even papunta na sa kanila magccancel pa.
I'm trying to understand kasi he's going to law school and managing the family business pero minsan it gets through me..

Pumapasok sa isip ko na no one is ever that busy and it only depends on how much of a priority a person is. I don't know, I work under shifting schedules pero i can drop everything i'm doing for him. I told him that, he doesn't seem to get the weight of that either.

Last week i exploded, he said na dun ako matulog sa kanila, so instead na gumala pa ko with friends, i cancelled. Biglang nagyaya mga friends nya and he said na he can't let it pass. Sobrang sakit sakin nun to the point na i asked to break up with him na. Ano pa nga, He stopped me, I'd let him.

I think I am trying to ignore it pero it seems like I'm just his chance passenger, filler sa tira tira nyang oras. I can't settle for that.

Am i being makitid for not understanding na he's going through law school and working?
or i'm just ignoring the fact na hindi ako priority sa buhay nya and i should walk away til i can?
 
 

[minatay91]

thank you po dismembered and girltalker2. I need to convince him that cars are better too! xD

[Girltalker2]

Am i being makitid for not understanding na he's going through law school and working?
or i'm just ignoring the fact na hindi ako priority sa buhay nya and i should walk away til i can?

If you are not happy, walk away. Bata ka pa naman, marami ka pang mam-meet.  Kung kayo talaga, malay mo ma realize nya na kung wala ka na sa kanya, tsaka nya ma realize na kelangan ka nya i prioritize.

Kasi how can you be happy kung lagi ka nalang naka abang kung kelan nya feel i-meet ka?  Sya naman feeling nya lahat ng bagay dapat umikot sa kanya. Well, dapat ngayon palang mag bf palang kayo na ma realize mo - hindi yan ang tipong BF/husband material. kaya magandang lumayo ka na at humanap ka ng mas ok kesa sa kanya.

[Jamann]

If you are not happy, walk away. Bata ka pa naman, marami ka pang mam-meet.  Kung kayo talaga, malay mo ma realize nya na kung wala ka na sa kanya, tsaka nya ma realize na kelangan ka nya i prioritize.

Kasi how can you be happy kung lagi ka nalang naka abang kung kelan nya feel i-meet ka?  Sya naman feeling nya lahat ng bagay dapat umikot sa kanya. Well, dapat ngayon palang mag bf palang kayo na ma realize mo - hindi yan ang tipong BF/husband material. kaya magandang lumayo ka na at humanap ka ng mas ok kesa sa kanya.

Agree with her sis Jenina, kase what if kayo na talaga as in di lang bf/gf husband mo na sya. Edi ganun nalang sya palage? Dapat nga ngayon palang na bf mo sya dapat pakita nya na karapat dapat naman sya, na deserve mo sya. Kase kung lage nalang ganyan, baka iniisip nya na 'okay lang naman sa babaeng to na ganito ako, so hayaan ko muna sya, mababalik balikan ko naman yan, anjan lang yan kaya maghintay kahit di sya ipriority' yung mga ganun bagay sis.

Ako, sabi ko sa boyfriend ko I will let him do all the things na gusto nya habang hindi pa kame mag asawa gusto ko mag enjoy sya, pero kahit ganun naugalian nya na magpapaalam sya at isasama talaga nya ako. Atsaka para pag time na mag asawa na kame medyo sawa na sya gimik.

Yun bf mo sana kahit papano marunong sya makiramdam na nasasaktan ka din, na dapat para kng treasure na kelangan pg ingatan di yun ganyan naman na parang balewala or pampalipas oras nya.

Don't worry if ever na hindi sya para sayo madami dyan yung deserve mo, naniniwala kase ako na lahat ng tao may kanya kanya kapareha na deserve nila.

Sorry Sis.

[simang]

Hi sis jenina. You know why he does that? Kase he knows you'll drop everything for him. Kase kahit ilang bses pa sya magcancel, sure magagalit ka and magtatampo, but he knows that once he says sorry everything will be back to normal.

Try NOT cancelling in your friends. Please try. Kahit pa ilang linggo na kayong hindi nagkikita ng guy mo, if you have plans on your own, do them without him. Hindi sa gagantihan mo sya so he'll feel guilty, but it's more of having a life outside of the relationship. I know you have a lot of things going on with you, just continue enjoying them. Don't make yourself free everytime dahil lang iniisip mo na baka yayain ka nya lumabas or magkita. If he wants to see you, he will see you. If he wants to spend time with you, he will make time for you.

[j.adore]

May mga guys ba talaga na tamad o di mahilig makipagsex? Yun hubby ko kasi hindi mahilig. Or baka unattractive na ko sa kanya? For sure walang 3rd party. Wala din syang sakit. 

Did you try to talk to him about this? As in ganyan siya talaga from the start o nagiba?



Husband ko naman ang reason bakit ayaw niya is "too hot". Pwede ba yun? Di ba dapat all the more reason to do it? Haha
Though sometimes lagi, sometimes di masyado so I guess it really depends on the mood.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ guys are hornier daw pag malamig...

[pinkmallowpie]

kapag ang best friend mo ay may kasintahan na at biglang tinigil lahat ng klase ng communication sayo, may karapatan ka ba magtampo?

[17glut]

kapag ang best friend mo ay may kasintahan na at biglang tinigil lahat ng klase ng communication sayo, may karapatan ka ba magtampo?

wala. tsaka bakit kelangan pa magtampo? dapat nga supportive sya dun sa bespren na nagkaron ng kasintahan eh

[Jamann]

kapag ang best friend mo ay may kasintahan na at biglang tinigil lahat ng klase ng communication sayo, may karapatan ka ba magtampo?

Siguro magtatampo ako, kase nung wala syang boyfriend ako yun nilalapitan nya. Pero nung nagka boyfriend sya hindi na nya ko kinakausap. So siguro magtatampo talaga ako,

[harley18]

Did you try to talk to him about this? As in ganyan siya talaga from the start o nagiba?



Husband ko naman ang reason bakit ayaw niya is "too hot". Pwede ba yun? Di ba dapat all the more reason to do it? Haha
Though sometimes lagi, sometimes di masyado so I guess it really depends on the mood.

Nun BF/GF, oh my, humihirit ng round 3!! Lol
Kaso nitong magasawa na kami, mejo nabawasan na. Nun preggy ako, as in wala! Kasi natatakot ako at uncomfortable. 4 months after ng delivery, ako na lagi nagiinitiate. Hanggang sa nirereject na nya ko. 
Sinabi ko sa kanya thru text lang. Nagsorry sya, pagod lang daw talaga, tapos babawi na lang sya. Feeling ko nasanay na syang walang do after nyang magtiis ng 9 months during my pregnancy.

[dismembered]

^ First and foremost, you have to know the guy's priorities.. kung ano ba ang pinahahalagahan nya short term and long term. Parang sa sa mga company may core values lang like integrity over profit etc. In your case, you have to know kung ano yung sa guy mo then saka ka mag-decide if fit ba ang mga nangyayari sa kanya ayon sa mga gusto nya, compared sa gusto mong mangyari...

Most probably, kung ano sya ngayon, ganun din sya someday. Busy sya sa studies at walang time sayo, I tell you, mas magiging busy yan sa work at ganyan pa din. Unless magkaroon ng dramatic realization or mag promise na magbabago sya or what.... Ikaw na ang kailangan mag choose jan whether you want to stay or not... Decide while you still can pag married na kayo, you have to endure na lang lahat.

[Berynice]

Hi.

How long po ang bf-gf relationship bago kayo mag settle or get married? why?

[Girltalker2]

Nun BF/GF, oh my, humihirit ng round 3!! Lol
Kaso nitong magasawa na kami, mejo nabawasan na. Nun preggy ako, as in wala! Kasi natatakot ako at uncomfortable. 4 months after ng delivery, ako na lagi nagiinitiate. Hanggang sa nirereject na nya ko. 
Sinabi ko sa kanya thru text lang. Nagsorry sya, pagod lang daw talaga, tapos babawi na lang sya. Feeling ko nasanay na syang walang do after nyang magtiis ng 9 months during my pregnancy.

Bakit kaya ganun?  Hindi ba pagdating sa aspect ng sex, dapat pinag uusapan ninyong mag asawa?  Kasi it is essential sa pagsasama?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

And from experience sis, it doesnt get much lighter after med/lawschol. The workload just gets heavier at more and more responsibilities ang panghahawakan. And isipin mo na lang, di lang naman siya ang law student sa mundo di ba. I'm sure he's not the only lawstudent who has to juggle work and studies, bakit yung iba namamanagement naman to be in a relationship. Ang sabi nga nila, pag gusto laging may paraan, pag ayaw laging may dahilan

[j.adore]

Lagi siyang nagccancel sa akin.

You're simply not his priority. You deserve better.

kapag ang best friend mo ay may kasintahan na at biglang tinigil lahat ng klase ng communication sayo, may karapatan ka ba magtampo?

As in seenzoned ba sa FB na hindi na talaga nakikipagusap o busy lang?

Nun BF/GF, oh my, humihirit ng round 3!! Lol
Kaso nitong magasawa na kami, mejo nabawasan na. Nun preggy ako, as in wala! Kasi natatakot ako at uncomfortable. 4 months after ng delivery, ako na lagi nagiinitiate. Hanggang sa nirereject na nya ko. 
Sinabi ko sa kanya thru text lang. Nagsorry sya, pagod lang daw talaga, tapos babawi na lang sya. Feeling ko nasanay na syang walang do after nyang magtiis ng 9 months during my pregnancy.

Baka nasanay nga. Mag lingerie ka pag-uwi niya tipong surprise gaya sa movies? Haha

How long po ang bf-gf relationship bago kayo mag settle or get married? why?

Meron thread sa engagement section that answers this

[pinkmallowpie]

As in seenzoned ba sa FB na hindi na talaga nakikipagusap o busy lang?

as in wala nang text kahit hi or how are you. pero nung wala pang kasintahan, araw araw nagpaparamdam.

[simang]

^dapat as a bestfriend naiintindihan mo yang ganyang mga bagay. Hindi ibig sabihin na hindi na kayo magbestfriend dahil lang may lovelife na sya. kung hinahanap mo yung araw araw na pagpaparamdam nya prior to having a gf, parang ang selfish naman nun for a friend. For sure hindi lang ikaw yung friend nya na hindi na nya nakakausap. Dahil may bagong chapter sa buhay nya, you cant expect everything to be the same with both of you.

Namimiss mo lang sya. I'm sure pag may lovelife ka na din hindi na ganyan ang mararamdaman mo.

Isipin mo na lang kung ikaw may boyfriend at madalas pa makipagbond so bf mo sa bestfriend nya, babae man o lalake, how would you feel? Your bestfriend is just trying to be a nice guy to his girl. Supportahan mo na lang

[dismembered]

Hi.

How long po ang bf-gf relationship bago kayo mag settle or get married? why?

Ideally, around 2 years enough na! Kaya mahirap din mag BF/GF if hindi pa prepared for marriage.