Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[dismembered]

Ms. Simang and J.adore is right!

[anonemus]

Another question to guys...bakit kayo nangfflirt ng ibang girls if you're already on a long term relationship? Kahit ata fiance nyo na yung girl, lakas pa din ng loob nyo mangflirt ng iba eh. Hays.

Nakow. Isa sa mga perennial questions na to dito sa GT. Daming threads about this. For me, the simple answer is because, more often than not, men think with their heads below rather than up their necks!

[pretty_B]

Perennial quesion na nga. Hehe. Grabe kasi mga ganyang klase ng lalaki. Hays. Pero the guy im referring to is definitely playful and flirty. Iba na mga words sa akin eh. Feeling ko, he's really thinking with his head below. So, sinasakyan ko lang. :3

[young_maiden]

what do guys think pag nakakatanggap sila ng letters from girls? i'm sure aware naman kayo na uso talaga sa school [textspeak!] susulatan mo mga friends mo. di naman necessarily love letter. pwedeng friendly letter lang naman like a thank you letter for being my friend. basta mga ganun. do you find it sweet or corny?

[jtansanco]

^ Anything received from the girl of my dreams will always be considered sweet and flattering. Other than that: k, thanks.

[fredprinz]

If the letter has good intent, I'll appreciate it kahit kanino pa galing.

In reference to being sweet and corny, kung gusto ko 'yung babae and she gave me a letter, that's sweet for me. Siguro magiging corny lang para sa aken kung sobrang over the top yung letter to the point na it's not flattering anymore (medyo scary, ganun).

what do guys think pag nakakatanggap sila ng letters from girls? i'm sure aware naman kayo na uso talaga sa school [textspeak!] susulatan mo mga friends mo. di naman necessarily love letter. pwedeng friendly letter lang naman like a thank you letter for being my friend. basta mga ganun. do you find it sweet or corny?

[pretty_B]

guys, do you really get hurt kahit na kayo yung nakipagbreak?

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^ i'm not a guy but i know for sure the answer is yes. Evidence based lol.

[fredprinz]

Yes. The lyrics ring true: there's no easy way to break somebody's heart.

Unless sobrang manhid yung guy, never siya masasaktan kahit pa siya nakipagbreak.

guys, do you really get hurt kahit na kayo yung nakipagbreak?

[pretty_B]

^ and ^^, kahit for me parang fall out ang reason ng breakup?

he broke up with me without looking through my eyes. but only when i asked him kung may iba ba sya. i trust him when he said no. and im still thankful though coz he wanted to do the breakup personally.

[jtansanco]

guys, do you really get hurt kahit na kayo yung nakipagbreak?

Yeah, because breaking someone's heart is something that no man would ever want to do.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

^^ yes kasi siyempre mamimiss ka pa rin

[fredprinz]

^^^

Pretty B, I admire your man for meeting with you personally and mention the breakup. I broke up with my girl a few years back and it's so hard to do especially when I saw her sobbing.

May kanya-kanyang rason ang paghihiwalay but it doesn't mean na we guys are happy initiating it (well, unless na sobrang sama niyo sa amen).

[pretty_B]

thanks guys. di ko maalis sa isip ko na baka di naman sya nalulungkot kasi sya ang nakipagbreak.

my friends told me na ang lame ng breakup reason namin. nanghihinayang sila. well ako din naman, obviously. pero ewan ba. minsan gusto ko nalang maging happy for myself (and for him na din) thinking na at least ngayon, makakapagfocus kami sa mga bagay na dapat namin ipagfocus (like work and study). kaya lang, struggle talaga ang bawat umaga ko. i am missing him each day. birthday pa nya bukas. hays.

do you think it's okay to surprise him? >____<

[pretty_B]

^^^

Pretty B, I admire your man for meeting with you personally and mention the breakup. I broke up with my girl a few years back and it's so hard to do especially when I saw her sobbing.

May kanya-kanyang rason ang paghihiwalay but it doesn't mean na we guys are happy initiating it (well, unless na sobrang sama niyo sa amen).

this is why i love him. i admire him a lot. sa mga prinsipyo nya sa buhay kahit sumpungin sya at kasing sungit ko.

[fredprinz]

^^Bakit mo susurpresahin? You two are over.

Greet him just like any friend and kung kaya mo, give him a gift. Pero honestly, yung giving a gift, no-no para sa aken 'yun, kaka-split niyo lang, you're still hurting.

And based on my experience, pag kame nakipagbreak, matagal makarecover ang babae. Baka pag nagbigay ka pa ng gift, may magawa ka pa or masabi na hindi maganda kahihinatnan.

[Girltalker2]

May kanya-kanyang rason ang paghihiwalay but it doesn't mean na we guys are happy initiating it (well, unless na sobrang sama niyo sa amen).

Talaga?  Hindi ba sa Pinas, most of the time 3rd party?

do you think it's okay to surprise him? >____<

No

my friends told me na ang lame ng breakup reason namin. nanghihinayang sila. well ako din naman, obviously. pero ewan ba. minsan gusto ko nalang maging happy for myself (and for him na din) thinking na at least ngayon, makakapagfocus kami sa mga bagay na dapat namin ipagfocus (like work and study). kaya lang, struggle talaga ang bawat umaga ko. i am missing him each day. birthday pa nya bukas. hays.

You are missing him of course. Sa umpisa lang iyan.  Kaso lalo mo sya mami miss kasi iniisip mo wala na kayo.  Just believe na someday na if you guys are meant to be, puede pa maging kayo in the future.  Pero not now muna. Bata pa kayo, enjoy your singlehood. If he is your first BF, rejoice kasi this is a good learning experience din.

^^^

Pretty B, I admire your man for meeting with you personally and mention the breakup. I broke up with my girl a few years back and it's so hard to do especially when I saw her sobbing.

Hmmmm, ako naman hindi.  While may points ang pag meet to formalize the breakup kesa sa ibang lalaki na nagtago nalang, PrettyB knows her BF more, there are doubts, really, ang babaw ng breakup.  So para sakin, there is something fishy and he is still not man enough to admit - he has lost the love and feeling.  There was not even a cooling period or "period na ayusin natin ito" or talk na "hindi nako masaya, can we do something about it"?  Wala e. So for me, I would give him a score of 65%, bagsak parin.

[fredprinz]

Paki-kwento in detail yung breakup, Pretty B, pati yung mga sinabi sayo ng ex mo, mukhang alibi man/BS or hindi.

65% lang ang rating ni GirlTalker2 sa kanya based dun sa pakikipagmeet niya sayo to end the relationship; pag nagkaroon ng full details, baka tumaas or bumaba pa.

[dismembered]

Bakit ba kailangan may SCORE at RATINGS?

Bakit hindi na lang pwede na ABSOLUTE fail ang kung sino ang makipag-break. Dahil kung sya ang bumitaw at kahit anong reason eh ibig sabihin hindi nya kinaya panindigan ang commitment na pinasok nya? Kahit anong pagandahin pa ang reason or what, naghiwalay pa din eh. Masakit pa rin sa naiwan.

[slickchick]

do you think it's okay to surprise him? >____<

in my opinion sis, if it is his birthday, ok lang na igreet sya ng happy birthday - a simple and civil happy birthday text message would be ok. wag na haluan ng mga sweet stuff that would bring up the hurt again from your end. wag na yung mga tipong surprise visit with matching gifts pa. you're just making it more difficult for yourself to move on. kung hindi mo naman sya igreet on his birthday, i think it should be understandable at this point.

Bakit hindi na lang pwede na ABSOLUTE fail ang kung sino ang makipag-break. Dahil kung sya ang bumitaw at kahit anong reason eh ibig sabihin hindi nya kinaya panindigan ang commitment na pinasok nya? Kahit anong pagandahin pa ang reason or what, naghiwalay pa din eh. Masakit pa rin sa naiwan.

bro, paano naman kung physically or verbally or emotionally abusive yung tao, hindi ba enough reason naman yun para makipag-break yung other partner? siguro depende rin sa cause kung bakit nakikipag-break.. just my opinion ah..