Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[pretty_B]

@pretty_B, napanood mo ba si Glenn Close sa Fatal Attraction (1987)? Ganun ang psycho!

Aww. Di ko pa napapanood. Hihi. Please elaborate. LoL. 😁

[argento]

hirap talaga makipaghiwalay kaya sobrang sisi ko na nagpakasal ako sa isang a**hole!

nung bf mo pa lang siya hindi pa siya a**hole?

[Girltalker2]

^ 1. Puedeng the guy is still shopping around. Madali lang magsabi ng I love you, puedeng mahal naman sya ng guy, but most likely not enough yung pagmamahal nya for the girl such that he is willing to commit.

Puede din the guy is committed na. Pero gusto pa makipag landian sa friend mo.

The guy likes to do such things syempre for company. He may like your friend din so masarap kasama, pero hanggang dun lang.

2. May pumapayag na girl because they are not thinking clearly. The more the girl agrees to this set up, she will definitely fall harder for the guy, lalo syang ma-trap sa setup kasi addictive at ok kasama si guy. Since she likes the guy, she would rather have this setup kesa di nya maka sama si guy at all.

[sacred cow]

@sportygurl

the guy said it himself 'ayaw niya magcommit' commitment changes everything, suddenly may karapatan na magselos si girl kapag may kalandian siyang iba, and sometimes it wouldn't be as fun. I admit, sometimes I miss the times na hindi pa kami ng gf and we were on the same boat as your friend. mas exciting nun e

[Girltalker2]

^ tsaka sometimes mas mabuti na honest ang guy na hindi pa sya ready magcommit, at least bilang babae you know the real score is.  So nasa saiyo kung kaya mo iyan i-take or not.

Kesa sa mga guys na manligaw agad, asking you to be his GF, then later mangagaliwa din.

[melle17]

nung bf mo pa lang siya hindi pa siya a**hole?

sa palagay mo ba pakakasalan ko kung nung bf-gf pa lang kami eh a*shole na? naging a*shole po after we got married, jus mio ka naman bro! just found out a few years ago about his affair with a girl na mukhang ewan at ang age gap ng anak ko at ng anak nila is just one year. we're separated already and i'm happy to get rid of that a*shole!!!

[dismembered]

sa palagay mo ba pakakasalan ko kung nung bf-gf pa lang kami eh a*shole na? naging a*shole po after we got married, jus mio ka naman bro! just found out a few years ago about his affair with a girl na mukhang ewan at ang age gap ng anak ko at ng anak nila is just one year. we're separated already and i'm happy to get rid of that a*shole!!!

Sorry, but I think, A*hole na sya kahit bf/gf days nyo pa lang. Nagkataon lang na hindi mo sya nakilatis o di mo nakita yung A*hole side nya nun. 

[sacred cow]

^ agree

[erza0916]

I absolutely love my husband but there are some things about him I think that could use a little bit of improvement. Like his temper, the way he deals with me pag nagagalit sya, his silent treatment and insensitivity. I think reading up on some of the threads here can make him realize and understand me more. How do I get my husband to read or even join GT? Guys pano ba kayo napasali sa GT? Did your wives convince you? How? Thanks!:)

[Girltalker2]

Sorry, but I think, A*hole na sya kahit bf/gf days nyo pa lang. Nagkataon lang na hindi mo sya nakilatis o di mo nakita yung A*hole side nya nun.

I think same story kami ni sis melle e. Hindi mo alam. Hindi mo masasabi. Kasi nagbabago din ang tao e.  Tsaka it is not just me who thought my ex was a good catch. Even my friends, all out support sila.  Everyone thought he is responsible, lagi sunod sa gusto ko, etc.  Indeed he did all those, nung hindi pa kami kasal.

After we got married, he also had a new job sa sales, dun na sya na tempt and all.

I absolutely love my husband but there are some things about him I think that could use a little bit of improvement. Like his temper, the way he deals with me pag nagagalit sya, his silent treatment and insensitivity. I think reading up on some of the threads here can make him realize and understand me more. How do I get my husband to read or even join GT? Guys pano ba kayo napasali sa GT? Did your wives convince you? How? Thanks!:)

I think sis nasa pag uusap ninyo iyan.  It is not about being a member of GT. Kasi mahilig ba magbasa hubby mo? Baka mas hilig nya mag games hehe .

You can talk about how you want to improve yourselves para sa ikabubuti ng relationship ninyo. You cannot change a man, kelangan manggaling sa kanya ang willingness ng change, otherwise, baka lalo kayo magkaron ng misunderstanding.

[melle17]

@ dismembered and sacred cow - opinion niyo yan and entitled kayo diyan. what I'm saying is that for the 6 yrs na magbf-gf kami di siya nagpakita ng pagiging a*shole saken and all my friends were saying na he's the right one for me, etc etc. all the issues and troubles nangyari yan kasal na kami and out of the country kasi after namin kinasal nag-abroad na siya. so there...

@ girltalker2 - same story talaga tayu sis, we married the guy na akala ng lahat ay good catch at sobrang sabi nga nila eh patay na patay saken pero after the marriage lahat nagbago. DI ko naimagine na kaya niyang gawin yun saken but as you said nagbabago nga ang tao, sa case niya totoong totoo. Buti na lang hiwalay na kami.

[argento]

hindi ba kapag mahal mo ang isang babae, ang pinakagusto mo nga mangyari eh maging kayong 2 na officialy?

Not necessarily.  Mas ok pag wala commitment.

[erza0916]

I think sis nasa pag uusap ninyo iyan.  It is not about being a member of GT. Kasi mahilig ba magbasa hubby mo? Baka mas hilig nya mag games hehe .

You can talk about how you want to improve yourselves para sa ikabubuti ng relationship ninyo. You cannot change a man, kelangan manggaling sa kanya ang willingness ng change, otherwise, baka lalo kayo magkaron ng misunderstanding.

Yeah I guess so. Lagi ko kinkwento sa kanya mga nababasa ko dito sa GT and sya naman kahit hindi palagi eh nagffeedback din ng onti. Hindi sya pala basa ng kahit ano and tama ka mas hilig nga nya mag games.haha minsan kasi nahihirapan ako mag approach sa kanya tungkol sa mga bagay na ginagawa nya dahil yun nga mabilis sya magalit. Sometimes I wish na may close friend kaming magsabi sa kanya about sa mga negative traits nya. That way hindi sya magalit sakin pero at the same time marealize nya mga mali nya.hehe I dont want to cause unnecessary tension between us lalo na magkahiwalay kami..mahirap manuyo.hehe

[j.adore]

You're his wife. Wag mo iasa sa GT o sa ibang tao kung ikaw may gusto magimprove siya.

Before thinking of the how, what kind of person is he? Open minded ba siya? Does he recognize his faults and work on them? Siya ba mismo gusto magimprove as a person?

[Girltalker2]

^ sis, tingin ko lang ha, dapat mo i-improve din communication skills mo for him. For the sake of your relationship. Importante kasi iyan, kung sya mahina dyan, try mo galingan, nang sa gayon, mas lalo maging deep Ang emotional connection nyo at mas madali kayong magkaintindihan.

Alam mo I took the 'communication' dati for granted. Kaya di rin nag work marriage ko. Ex ko typical guy na hindi nagsh share then expect nya mahulaan ko feelings nya. Duh?! Kaya now I'm into a relationship, I've learned how to communicate - timing, manner at approach. Si BF ko naman now, sobra akong natutuwa because he recognizes good communication as an important aspect of any relationship - kahit pa mag-Ina or mag-ama, mas lalo na sa mag asawa

[dismembered]

@ dismembered and sacred cow - opinion niyo yan and entitled kayo diyan. what I'm saying is that for the 6 yrs na magbf-gf kami di siya nagpakita ng pagiging a*shole saken and all my friends were saying na he's the right one for me, etc etc. all the issues and troubles nangyari yan kasal na kami and out of the country kasi after namin kinasal nag-abroad na siya. so there...

Im sorry if I may sound offensive, pero, as a guy, yan talaga masasabi ko. The things guys  talk with each other kapag magkakasama sila dun mo malalaman yung inner thoughts at kalokohan ng guys. As for what happened to you after marriage, lahat ng tao, girl or boy, prone sa temptations. It's just a matter of choice. Ano difference ng A*hole sa hindi? Halos wala, kundi yun yung choices lang nila at how they stand for what they believe in. Everyone can pretend to be "matino". Pero during time ng adversity, dun mo ma-define ang character ng tao.

But tama ka sa choice mo. If possible, wag mo hayaan na madali syang maka-walk away sa kalokohan nya. Make him suffer. Don't forget yung sustento and stuff.

[dismembered]

I think same story kami ni sis melle e. Hindi mo alam. Hindi mo masasabi. Kasi nagbabago din ang tao e.  Tsaka it is not just me who thought my ex was a good catch. Even my friends, all out support sila.  Everyone thought he is responsible, lagi sunod sa gusto ko, etc.  Indeed he did all those, nung hindi pa kami kasal.

Tama ka, lahat nagbabago at lahat prone talaga magloko. Lahat ng bagay at least may simula, so hindi naman siguro mangyayari na magloloko ang isang tao overnight. Somewhere, somehow, nabuo na yung thought sa kanya kaya sinubukan, and then he fell into it. Ayun.

So, I think it is safe to say na lahat ng tao A*hole, o capable na maging A*hole talaga. Everyday, we strive wag maging A*hole. We all have this devil within us. The more na i-entertain natin at kunsintihin, the more na magiging prevailing.

[pretty_B]

^haha. Nice. Mala-Amy Dunne of Gone Girl pala. Hihi.

Another question to guys...bakit kayo nangfflirt ng ibang girls if you're already on a long term relationship? Kahit ata fiance nyo na yung girl, lakas pa din ng loob nyo mangflirt ng iba eh. Hays.

[simang]

^some guys are naturally playful and friendly and madalas these gestures are mistaken as flirting. Madalas we girls overanalyze even the littlest thing they do. Kaya even yung simpleng pagiging gentleman or friendly sa opposite sex eh nakikita natin as flirting. Eh di syempre lalo na kapag karelasyon natin si guy diba? Mas lalo tayong praning

[j.adore]

They probably miss the game saka ego builder din yun.