Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[fredprinz]

Assuming that the guy is a partner/husband na, you probably know how he reacts and what his usual demeanor is, so start with the approach that will work for him and start the topic ng walang beating around the bush - wala nang, "ayoko ma-offend ka" or "I hope you won't think of this negatively" since kilala mo na naman siya, di ba? Kahit magusap kayo about anything, kung madali siyang maaburido, that's him.

And yes, it's perfectly OK to talk about it, nagiging honest ka lang. Just like issues about infidelity, arguments about the in-laws and exes, OK pagusapan 'yan. Basta talk with an open mind and not with a heavy heart.

^ bro, follow up question.. in our society wherein sex is sometimes deemed as a "taboo" subject, do you think it is ok for the girl to discuss with the guy why his "drive" is slowly diminishing? and how should the girl open the subject, especially if the guy is the traditional type na nagcla-clam up when sensitive topics like this is brought up? just curious.. dami mo kasi factors na nailista eh.. 

[blackgreen]

Question, okay lang ba sa guy kung yun ex ni bride supplier (P&V coverage) sa kasal nila?

[dismembered]

Question, okay lang ba sa guy kung yun ex ni bride supplier (P&V coverage) sa kasal nila?

Depende sa guy. Ikaw mismo alam mo yan base sa pagkakakilala mo sa guy. Pero dahil nagtanong ka na rin lang at medyo hindi ka sure at may doubt ka, better pili ka na lang ng ibang P&V coverage. Mahirap na baka mag ala "Starting Over Again" ang peg 

[jtansanco]

^^ I suggest you find another one. If your husband-to-be will see your ex throughout the wedding, it will definitely one memorable torture experience for him but the other way can also happen. "Hey supplier, I'm walking your ex down the aisle. In your face, brother!" Haha

[j.adore]

Exes should not be in weddings regardless of they come as. Respect lang for the spouse-to-be

[simang]

Question, okay lang ba sa guy kung yun ex ni bride supplier (P&V coverage) sa kasal nila?

Hindi. Respeto na lang sa partner.

[Girltalker2]

^ haha, naku, mamaya, paglabas ng pics, lahat si Bride lang ang pics, tapos si groom, panay hati ang mukha   

not proper.

[blackgreen]

Thank you for all the replies. Iniisip ko rin na hindi okay eh. Sayang kasi discounted. Haha.. again, thank you

[dismembered]

Thank you for all the replies. Iniisip ko rin na hindi okay eh. Sayang kasi discounted. Haha.. again, thank you

Naku, baka i-sabotage ang wedding. "Itigil ang kasal!!!" Wag mo ng invite. Awkward feeling yun!

[twix01]

may I ask bakit yon ibang guys nananakit ng partner nila physically or verbally? How could you? nakakainis lang yon mga ganon lalaki

[p0isonIvy]

Question, okay lang ba sa guy kung yun ex ni bride supplier (P&V coverage) sa kasal nila?

unless absolutely wala na talagang ibang makuha na p/v, this is really not proper. dami namang ibang supplier. best to have that day for yourselves. dapat wala ng mga memories of the past hehe

[dismembered]

may I ask bakit yon ibang guys nananakit ng partner nila physically or verbally? How could you? nakakainis lang yon mga ganon lalaki

Wala tayong magagawa. I think upbringing itong mga ganitong issue. You will know if yung lalake is mananakit ng partner nila kahit during courtship days pa lang. Iwas iwas na sa ganun. One indicator is to observe how he treat his own mother. If sinisigawan nya, medyo warning na dapat sa inyo yun.

[jtansanco]

^^ It's probably because they were maltreated by someone or their parents when they were a kid so, in their mind, it's okay to physically hurt someone as part of disciplining them.

[wanderbrewha]

may I ask bakit yon ibang guys nananakit ng partner nila physically or verbally? How could you? nakakainis lang yon mga ganon lalaki

aggression is a sign of insecurity, verbally or physically.

before, lagi ko sinasabi na hindi hindi ko hahayaan na makanti man lang ako ng bf ko. hindi nga sya physical but on our 4years together, madami na syang nasabi and in a way, naaffect nya the way i see muself and the people around me.

[wanderbrewha]

may kadate lagi yun guy friend ko. Masaya daw siya kapag kasama nya ang girl. Araw araw halos magkasama sila, pero kapag tinatanong ko un friend ko kung mahal nya ang babae, sabi niya hindi daw. Masaya lang daw siya kapag kasama nya yung babae. Bakit may ganon? Masaya ka with someone, you always want to be with that person, pero hanggang ganon lang. Hindi nadedevelop into love.

anong klaseng date? date as in date or hangout lang?

if it's a romantic kind of date,
tapos walang progress, maybe one of them is already committed, mahirap kasi ien ourage ang feelings to grow pag alam mo na hindi pwede (at least for logical people ha). pwede din na comfortable lang sila sa ganun, as two friends hanging around.

[twix01]

@dismembered @jtansanco if you dont mind me asking. kayo guys kaya nyo ba manakit? yes prolly upbringing kasi rich kid maybe pero that's not an excuse for such behavior right.


@wanderbrewha likewise sis..i think kung sobra na rin tagal ng relationship yon respect nawawala na which is dapat nga hindi

[wanderbrewha]

@twix, hindi naman sa nawawala yung respect in the long run. the ex kasi may trust issues even before we got together. i'm just thankful he never hit me, not even once, although my friends thought he does.
looking back, the verbal abuse could have been avoided unfortunately pareho kaming mayabang.
being in a relationship requires understanding of the other persons character and personality, even his past. i'm not depending his behavior but may kasalanan din ako. i'm 6 years younger so medyo may mga bagay na hindi na kami nagkakapareho ng tingin. and worse, i do and say things that ticks him and everything went downhill.

this may sound funny, but  still consider him the one great love, if we must all have that.

[jtansanco]

^ Nah, my parents brought me up really well. One of my cardinal sins is hurting women so I never dare lay a hand on a woman. I don't think it's in the status. I have tons of rich kid friends and I don't see them hurting their girl. It's definitely how their parents treated them. Some parents hurt their kids to discipline them so these kids think that hurting others is just the norm.

[dismembered]

@dismembered @jtansanco if you dont mind me asking. kayo guys kaya nyo ba manakit? yes prolly upbringing kasi rich kid maybe pero that's not an excuse for such behavior right.

Noong elementary ako, naalala ko nakipagsuntukan ako sa classmate kong babae. Ngayon sya ay isang mahusay at sikat na volleyball player na. Dumugo yung ilong ko nung sinuntok nya ako. haha.

Ngayon, hindi pa ako nakakasakit ng girl. Girlfriend or anyone. Hindi kasi ako yung mananakit if napikon or naasar ako. To be honest, Hindi ko siguro ito magagawa sa babaeng mahalaga sa akin. Mas gusto kong manahimik na lang at palamigin muna ang ulo bago mag react kasi.

May exemption din. Siguro makakasakit ako ng babae if mananakit din sya ng babaeng mahalaga sa buhay ko.

[twix01]

@dismembered
@jtansanco

kudos guys tama yan! be good kawawa naman mga girls eh! :p