Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[graezieylicious]

Why do some guys want to make a girl jealous?

[j.adore]

Ah sorry you seem to be taking it for the word itself. It simply means you have to be considerate of another person (especially if he or she is a worrier) because technically you're not on your own anymore. It doesn't mean you can't have a life.

Like if you go on a night out, at least tell where you went or you got home safely. If something happens may "lead". It's not really very safe out there. What's one text versus peace of mind?

But everything in moderation as always! I'm not referring to ultimo nag CR ka kailangan sabihin ;p

Also, it's compromise at the end of the day if the couple has different views. Swerte lang if the same.

[chinxys4]

Minsan kasi kahit date night namin yung mom niya tumatawag asking asan na siya. Even may mom told me na lagi daw nakabuntot bf ko sa nanay niya.  Pero ok naman kami ng mom ni bf hindi lang ako sanay kasi my mom is not like that to my older brother. i know naman na their family is different from us pero in a way since i grew up na ndi ganun ang nanay ko sa kuya ko kaya medyo hindi pa ako sanay. And minsan naiisip ko what if na kaming dalawa ang magkatuluyan ganun pa rin kaya silang mag ina? Haha.. Napapaisip ako minsan. Pero syempre we should also take care of our parents when their old naman just like what they did to us.

[chinxys4]

Exactly how i feel simang and sacred cow.

Sacred cow sa hospital ako nagwwork and  may mga times na super busy sa hospital kaya hindi na talaga agad agad nakakatext. Pero my bf understands naman. Napatanung lang ako for other opinions. Salamat. Sa mga nagreply..

[sacred cow]

Why do some guys want to make a girl jealous?

to raise her attraction, it banks on the premise that women want what other women want.

[graezieylicious]

to raise her attraction, it banks on the premise that women want what other women want.

It could be that gusto talaga ako ng guy? Pano pag hindi effective or hindi nagselos or nagreact negatively ang girl?

[Girltalker2]

@chinxys4, on texting.

Siguro nga depends sa inyo yun, kung saan kayong dalawa comfortable, and not ikaw lang.

Kasi samin, wala kaming rules. But somehow first thing kasi sa umaga sya naiisip ko, kaya text ko agad sya good morning. Bago matulog din, sya din ang iniisip ko kaya text ko ulit sya. 

Sometimes I will ask him his sched and vice versa because we try to make it a point to see each other everyday again not because it's a rule, but because we want to and it makes our days better.

Hindi rin ako ma-text na tao. Pero throughout the day I think of him often, that's why maybe I text him from time to time. Sometimes kung alam ko busy sya, will just tell him what I'm up to, and I don't expect a response from him.

Last week, when he had a business trip, gabi yung flight nya, pero dami nya hinahabol throughout the day kasi paalis nga sya. So I waited til makarating sya sa airport tsaka nako nag text. Kaso mo kasama nya colleagues so busy parin sila sa airport lounge discussing work, so ma tipid sagot nya. So I asked him 'with colleagues'? He said yes. So syempre we didn't see each other that day, tapos alis sya for a week, sad ako. Then before boarding, he called me. Di din sya ma text coz he has reading glasses na so hassle for him. Sabi nya how can I not call you - di kami nagkita na that day (of course weekend before we were just in krabi), tapos he will be gone for a week, so he makes sure he will at least call.

Sorry for the long post. Pero sis tingin ko ha, yung pag text mo is important e. You cannot just say you're busy kaya di ka mag text. Kung busy ka, then what is a good time to text or talk or CONNECT with you? Di sya manghuhula so kelangan nya malaman. Unless your schedule is kinda routine, mas madali sya makapag adjust.

On his part naman, he can also be considerate to your sched and preference. So give and take kayong dalawa if you want communication to be open and constant between the two of you.

[slickchick]

Minsan kasi kahit date night namin yung mom niya tumatawag asking asan na siya. Even may mom told me na lagi daw nakabuntot bf ko sa nanay niya.  Pero ok naman kami ng mom ni bf hindi lang ako sanay kasi my mom is not like that to my older brother. i know naman na their family is different from us pero in a way since i grew up na ndi ganun ang nanay ko sa kuya ko kaya medyo hindi pa ako sanay. And minsan naiisip ko what if na kaming dalawa ang magkatuluyan ganun pa rin kaya silang mag ina? Haha.. Napapaisip ako minsan. Pero syempre we should also take care of our parents when their old naman just like what they did to us.

My guy is like this, pero sa ate naman nya (their parents died a few years ago).. It was never an issue with me kasi close kami ng ate nya.. Honestly, on a date night or in an intimate time together, I would rather have it na ate nya ang tatawag or mag-text or  "mang iistorbo" sa amin, kesa sa barkada nya.. I never felt na "inaagaw" or "nakikihati" sa time namin ng bf ko yung ate nya.. Considerate naman din si ate nya na kapag nalaman na nasa movie or nasa date kami, she would make their conversation brief.. Minsan nga ako na lang ang tini-text ng ate nya, para sa akin ibilin yung message para kay bf, which is ok lang sa akin kasi it means she trusts me enough. Siguro kasi, I also grew up in a close-knit family.. My mom checks on my younger brother kapag late na (i.e. 11pm onwards) and hindi pa dumarating from a date.. It's a parent's natural instinct din kasi.. Just my opinion sis..

[simang]

It could be that gusto talaga ako ng guy? Pano pag hindi effective or hindi nagselos or nagreact negatively ang girl?

Paano mo nasabi na pinapaselos ka nya?

Kase for me, kung hindi naan ako nagselos or wala namang effect sa akin yung ginagawa nya, i wouldn't think na ginagawa nya yun on purpose to make me jealous. Eh di magpacute sya sa ibang girls kung usto nya. Lol

[graezieylicious]

Kinukwento niya yung nameet niya na girl in detail without looking at me straight in the eyes..Yung parang hindi naman makatotohanan just to see how will i react? well i can sense naman kasi na he did it on purpose. If hes purpose is to make me jealous...haha GOODLUCK 

[simang]

Kailangan ba kapag bf/gf na kayo ay kailangan ba like as in everyday magtext? Like simple lang naman na alis nako, bahay nako? Pero nung hindi pa kayo you honestly told the guy na hindi ka talaga pala text.

I get the point that the guy is juct concerned pero hindi ko talaga gawain ang pagiging pala text nor call. Pero I'm trying naman pero minsan kapag hindi ako nagttext feeling ko naman baka mainis naman si bf. pero I reminded and said sorry sa kanya na hindi talaga ako pala text, naiisip ko kasi minsan na baka mainis siya. Sabi naman niya concern lang kasi siya baka anung nangyri na sa akin.

Pero for me ok lang yung ganun pero minsan feeling ko i'm pushing myself to be like that and feeling ko para akong nag rereport nun sa knya. Pero infairness nagttext naman ako minsan lang hindi hehe.

Second question.

Guys lagi ba kayo tinatawagan ng nanay niyo  kahit gabi na asking kung asan kana? May mama's boy issue kasi ako.

Sis gaano na kayo katagal ng bf mo? Naalala ko yung friend ko, kase nung bago pa lang sila nung bf nya lagi nha reklamo samen is sobrang clingy daw, ganun lagi gusto sila magkatext, pag di nasagot tawag magagalit, etc etc... Sabi ko lang let him be. Ganun talaga mga lalaki sa simula. After 3 months iba na complain nya samen. Hindi na daw nagtetext sa kanya si bf, kung di mo tatawagan di magpaparamdam, etc. nakakatawa diba? We always want what we don't have. Kung bago pa lang kayo, let him enjoy the freshness of having a partner. Kaw din enjoy mo lang. Wala naman masasaktan kung magtext ka paminsan minsan diba, napasaya mo pa sya.

Re: mama's boy issues.. Ilang taon na bf mo? I guess normal lang sa magulang to check on their kids from time to time lalo na kung bago pa lang si bf mo sa dating world, or bago pa pamg sya nagiging independent. Magiging issue lang naman yan if sa buong oras n magkasama kayo eh kausap nya nanay nya sa phone. Pero kung text or tawag lang to check up on him, ayos lang yun, understandable.

Yung bf ko kase super close sa mama nya. As in pag andun ako sa bahay nila i can really tell na maganda ang relationship nila. He kisses his mom, hinahug nya, sinasabihan nya ng i love you. Naappreciate ko yun kase yun ang di kk magawa sa mom ko. Even nung bago pa lang kami and magkukwento sya saken about his family, he has nothing but gpod words for his mom. For me it reflected a lot about his personality. A guy who treats his mom well will generally treat all other women well. And sobrang totoo yan sa kanya. Pero di naman sila matext or matawag sa isat isa kaya never ko naman nafeel na nakikiaagaw ako ng attention with his mom.

[Girltalker2]

A guy who treats his mom well will generally treat all other women well. And sobrang totoo yan sa kanya.

Mga sis, pay attention to this. I believe what sis Simang has stated here is very true.  Ito rin ang napansin ko. How he treats his mom is an indication how he will treat you din kapag mag asawa na kayo - with respect or without.

Of course hindi 100%, pero tingin ko totoo ito in most cases.

[sacred cow]

^ I honestly don't see any basis for this claim, I think sinasabi lang 'to ng mga moms dati sa mga anak nila for their sons to treat them better. Masyado siyang pro-women, I don't hear people saying look at how a girl treats his dad/brother, para malaman mo how she would treat her future husband. Same as yung hirit na 'Parang wala kang kapatid na babae/nanay" it's an appeal to pity, kapag may babaeng nanlalake...sarap din sigurong hiritan ng "parang wala kang tatay/kapatid na lalake"

[Pink_Sugar]

I dont believe that also na kung paano i-treat ng bf ang mom nya eh ganun din ang treatment sa gf. Kasi si bf eh hindi sila close ng mom nya dahil sa mga ginawa ng mom nya sa kanila, mas close at respetado nya ang father nya.

[slickchick]

share ko lang lunch topic namin earlier ng office mates ko --- if the gf/wife wants to do the "deed" with her bf/hubby, and medyo sloooow ang absorption rate ni bf/hubby, any subtle words/moves the gf/wife can say/do para ma-gets ni bf/hubby (without making the girl appear "sabik" -- for lack of a better term)?? and another question that came up, if the guy's "drive" diminishes (di naman abruptly or suddenly) does it mean, less na rin yung feelings (of love and affection) nya sa wife/gf nya? my officemates (both male and female) had varied replies to these questions, so na-curious ako how would our sis and bros respond to this.. post away po.. TIA! 

[j.adore]

Bakit kailangan magpakademure pa to start with? Just go ahead and "rape" the bf/husband!

[graezieylicious]

Yeah wala nang paligoy ligoy pa go and rape him! hahaha

[fredprinz]

If the guy's "drive" diminishes, it might be due to several factors:
1) stressful work/classes
2) needs a lot of rest lately
3) how frequent he has sex (yung halos 7days a week makipagsex na parang nagiging chore na siya)
4) feelings for the girl

Pwedeng maging factor 'yan, pero generally, kung malib*g talaga 'yung guy, gagawa siya ng paraan talaga to do the deed.

share ko lang lunch topic namin earlier ng office mates ko --- if the gf/wife wants to do the "deed" with her bf/hubby, and medyo sloooow ang absorption rate ni bf/hubby, any subtle words/moves the gf/wife can say/do para ma-gets ni bf/hubby (without making the girl appear "sabik" -- for lack of a better term)?? and another question that came up, if the guy's "drive" diminishes (di naman abruptly or suddenly) does it mean, less na rin yung feelings (of love and affection) nya sa wife/gf nya? my officemates (both male and female) had varied replies to these questions, so na-curious ako how would our sis and bros respond to this.. post away po.. TIA! 

[slickchick]

^ bro, follow up question.. in our society wherein sex is sometimes deemed as a "taboo" subject, do you think it is ok for the girl to discuss with the guy why his "drive" is slowly diminishing? and how should the girl open the subject, especially if the guy is the traditional type na nagcla-clam up when sensitive topics like this is brought up? just curious.. dami mo kasi factors na nailista eh.. 

[simang]

Kung slow ang reception ni guy, wag na magpakasubtle!!! Hahaha. Kung ginagawa nyo naman na talaga yung deed, bakit nahihiya pa si girl mag initiate? Thinking about it, siguro part of our culture na din talaga ang pagiging maria clara ng mga babae. Na kapag horny ka eh masamang tao ka and not worthy of respect (of course im exaggerating) kaya siguro ayaw ng girl na magmukhang sabik. Personally i think guys appreciate yung minsan minsan na magmukha tayong sabik sa kanila. Syempre they'll feel na ganun sila kasexy and we can't resist them. Malaking bagay sa mga lalaki to be the ultimate moistener of our lady gardens lol

Re: diminished sex drive, it doesnt necessarily follow na less attracted na din sya sa girl. Posible talagang pagod lang. Unless tatlong daan ng walang gana si guy syo, yun malamang di ka na nya type