Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[kukii]

^ Yeah, but more often than not, the offspring of this combination has perfect looks especially if it's a woman.

True! Most of our half-foreign models/celebrities are the result of that combination.

[p0isonIvy]

question for the guys (but girls' insights are also most welcome):

what if you found THE ONE, as in total package (e.g. maganda, sexy, mabait, calm, sensible, educated, masinop, maasikaso, marunong sa pera, etc). pero when it comes to the bedroom, you are not compatible because either:

a. hindi sya magaling sa kama or cant satisfy you
b. wala lang talagang sexual chemistry
c. any other reason u can think of.

is that a DEALBREAKER?

[ziontrec]

para sakin hindi, workable kasi yan unlike other characteristics mentioned na supposedly na meron si THE ONE, or u can also always "call a friend" as a life line.  *just kidding*

[sacred cow]

@ poisonivy

a) there is no such thing as the one
b) yes it's a dealbreaker, kasi kung sablay ang sex..then you might as well just be really reallh good friends

[jtansanco]

Ano bang nakikita nila sa mga exotic beauty? Mas maasikaso ba parang longkatoots? Lol

1) Their looks are different than the normal ones they see.
2) I guess they're clingy/dependent. American girls have strong personalities and can take care of themselves.

[jtansanco]

question for the guys (but girls' insights are also most welcome):

what if you found THE ONE, as in total package (e.g. maganda, sexy, mabait, calm, sensible, educated, masinop, maasikaso, marunong sa pera, etc). pero when it comes to the bedroom, you are not compatible because either:

a. hindi sya magaling sa kama or cant satisfy you
b. wala lang talagang sexual chemistry
c. any other reason u can think of.

is that a DEALBREAKER?

Not for me because:
- I'm the giver type so no need to satisfy me.
- If you withhold sex from me, you'll still be my perfect wife but don't expect that I'll not cheat on you because sex is one of the needs of men.

[jtansanco]

^ In my case, if I like the girl, I'll give her something back one way or the other. I think of it as "I owe you one" so I'll still give something back whether it be in a form of a gift or a favor. This is assuming it's a gift from a girl I like and not a gift from an aunt/uncle. Now, if this is a gift from a girl that I don't like, well, you have my thanks. Haha

[Girltalker2]

^ and ^^ Sometimes we give gifts kasi gusto natin.  I did not expect anything from my BF when I gave him a watch. Kasi gusto ko lang. Pero for some reason naisipan din nya bigyan ako on my birthday. I guess it depends din what he thinks you will want/need, and kung sincere sya. That's all it matters.

Regarding sa nakasanayan na tumanggap, hindi naman siguro.  Kung na "screen" mo na naman ang BF mo, hindi naman siguro na tanggap lang sya ng tanggap without talking it out with you.

1) Their looks are different than the normal ones they see.
2) I guess they're clingy/dependent. American girls have strong personalities and can take care of themselves.

Hay naku, I know of some instances na tingin naman nila talaga sa mga "partners" nila na exotic ay helper din. Masaya sila kasi lahat naasikaso sa bahay, laundry etc. They are treated like a king. Unlike their caucasian counterparts, kanya kanya kayong kilos sa bahay.

question for the guys (but girls' insights are also most welcome):

what if you found THE ONE, as in total package (e.g. maganda, sexy, mabait, calm, sensible, educated, masinop, maasikaso, marunong sa pera, etc). pero when it comes to the bedroom, you are not compatible because either:

a. hindi sya magaling sa kama or cant satisfy you
b. wala lang talagang sexual chemistry
c. any other reason u can think of.

is that a DEALBREAKER?

Ang mga lalaki, kapag ok sa kama ang babae pero marami na naging sex partners in the past (for the girl to be good in bed), ayaw naman nila pakasalan. Pero kapag virgin pa, tapos palpak sa kama, magrereklamo sila. Ano ba talaga gusto nila?

Ito pa sa tingin ko - if a girl cannot satisfy a man, I think it is the man's fault. Sex is 2 ways din. Kelangan nag uusap din sila how they can satisfy each other.  Hindi naman puede i-testing lang ng guy, tapos magw-walk out na sya if he is not happy. He has to talk it out with the girl, tell her what to do and try out different moves, whichever works for them both.  at least to my mind, ina-assume ko syempre hindi FUBU arrangement ito, but rather a long term relationship/commitment.

May nabasa ako one time, the guy is complaining walang appetite for sex ang partner nya. Feeling ko isn't that his fault din? Hindi ba dapat romantic naman sya kahit papano, for the girl to want to be close to him?  Hindi yung i-e-expect nya na pag uwi nya sa house, wala na syang gagawin kundi hihiga nalang and i-satisfy ng partner nya.

[p0isonIvy]

Ang mga lalaki, kapag ok sa kama ang babae pero marami na naging sex partners in the past (for the girl to be good in bed), ayaw naman nila pakasalan. Pero kapag virgin pa, tapos palpak sa kama, magrereklamo sila. Ano ba talaga gusto nila?

haha i never thought of it that way sis. pero not necessarily naman siguro na porket magaling in bed, it follows na madami na naka-sex before. pwedeng may sexual chemistry lang talaga sila. some guys want a virgin also kasi parang di nila kaya yung idea na may naka-do na si girl at maaaring ma-compare sila. hehe guys are weird

[ann08]

Hi, what are your thoughts about 'opposite attacts'?  May nag work na po ba dito na ganito?

[jtansanco]

^ I like it assuming your meaning of opposite is limited to the context of extrovert vs introvert. I'm a quiet guy, an introvert, and I do things as I planned. My ideal girl - talkative so I can listen, an extrovert to bring life to my soul, and spontaneous (or maybe not?). That's beneficial for me but not for the girl (too boring?) so I don't end up with an opposite. If I go with a fellow introvert, it's going to be a boring life for the both of us. In my opinion, extrovert guy can go with either an intro/extro girl. But for an introvert guy, no good combinations. Haha


Soooo.... Why are you having quarter-life crisis? Hahaha

[missyA]

Usually naman ng nagkakatuluyan opposite mga personalities ewan ko ba bakit ganun hehe like my mom maingay talaga siya and dad ko naman tahimik lang so far nagwowork naman actually its a matter of respect siguro sa mga differences of each. I agree sa sinabi ni @jtansanco hindi talaga bagay pagsamahin ang 2 introverts hehe boring nun sobra hehe, being introvert like me mas gusto ko yung guy na extrovert, fun to be with speak of his mind guy.

[stealthscorpio]

Hi, what are your thoughts about 'opposite attacts'?  May nag work na po ba dito na ganito?

^
AKo naman ang naiisip ko is looks. And there are a lot of the opposite couples nowadays. I think it's the trend na nga siguro ngayon. I don't know what's behind the attraction though. Can someone slap me on my face? Baka nananaginip lang ako.. hehe There's this guy kasi in our place. He's already in his 40's but he can still get girls from the youngest is 18. But he looks like a paa at hindi lang mukhang paa, paa na may athlete's foot pa.. hehe it's just that he is giving "gifts" sa matitipuhan niya. Like cars, house and luxuries 'cause he's far too rich talaga. So I think that's his attraction.. hehe

[p0isonIvy]

^ I like it assuming your meaning of opposite is limited to the context of extrovert vs introvert.

same here. im the type of introvert na really abhors small talk. i get uneasy among strangers. i dont like big crowds and talking to a lot of people. thats why i get mistaken for being suplada. pero surprisingly, my bf right now is the extreme extrovert type. as in he can talk to all kinds of people. kahit saan situation mo sya ilagay, he can blend in. he's outgoing and super talkative! pero despite our differences, we get along very well. feeling ko nga somehow nag ccomplement yung personalities namin.

^
But he looks like a paa at hindi lang mukhang paa, paa na may athlete's foot pa.. hehe it's just that he is giving "gifts" sa matitipuhan niya. Like cars, house and luxuries 'cause he's far too rich talaga. So I think that's his attraction.. hehe

hindi yun "attraction". ang tawag dun, "pangangailangan". haha!

[stealthscorpio]

hindi yun "attraction". ang tawag dun, "pangangailangan". haha!

^
marami ang nangangailangan nowadays eh.. hehe so it's fishing time for individual's like him..hehehheeh but I don't give a dam*. His soul is already toasted in hell. Kumpletos recados na kulang na lang karne niya sa palayok.. hehe

[gharz412]

ask ko lang if it's really possible na yung guy/husband is nakikipagcommunicate lang sa wife for the sake of their child? Hindi ba pwedeng may feelings pa din siya sa wife niya?

[ziontrec]

^ i would say it is possible, syempre depende padin how they separated pero it can be na responsibility lang talaga with the kid ang sole reason ng guy to communicate, mahirap if magassume si wife unless it was clearly stated.

[p0isonIvy]

^^ actually you should count yourself lucky that he is still communicating with you for the sake of your child. most guys just vanish into thin air and does not even acknowledge their responsibility as fathers.

[Girltalker2]

ask ko lang if it's really possible na yung guy/husband is nakikipagcommunicate lang sa wife for the sake of their child? Hindi ba pwedeng may feelings pa din siya sa wife niya?

but really, what's the point kung "may feelings" ?  Ako tingin ko ha, kung nagsama naman ng matagal yung mag asawa, kahit papano di mo maaalis yung "may feelings" of care?  Dunno... As what my ex would say, kahit papano he cares pa DAW.  Pero naman, is "may feelings" enough to sustain a marriage and bring up a family?  No.

^^ actually you should count yourself lucky that he is still communicating with you for the sake of your child. most guys just vanish into thin air and does not even acknowledge their responsibility as fathers.

Nakakatawa naman comment mo. Ako naman isip ko, mas maswerte pa nga yung mga nawala na parang bula at least wala nang asungot sa buhay nila. 

[gharz412]

just a thought, parang ang weird kase na after 5 months biglang nagkaconcern, Asar, ang hirap tuloy mag move on