Got questions regarding men? Post it here! (Thread 6)

[Xoxolol]

Ang napaka common na tanong: what turns you on? ano bang nakaka attract sa inyo?

Feeling ko kasi di na attracted sakin si bf. di naman ako panget

[jtansanco]

^ I like toothpick-body women. But then, to each his own so looks isn't the problem. There's too many factors in determining how/why a guy is attracted to you. Can't really help if you don't share your situation.

^^ Can't really answer the question based on the "type" of women because the answer depends on how happy or not a woman is in her marriage.

[simang]

do you guys know kung sino yung mga bibiruin ng ganyan or yung mga babaeng kumakagat based on their appearance and gestures only?

Certain guys will hit on any girl na type nila appearance wise. Pero yung response pa din ng girl ang magdidictate kay guy kung itutuloy ba nya or hindi

[telekikay]

Certain guys will hit on any girl na type nila appearance wise. Pero yung response pa din ng girl ang magdidictate kay guy kung itutuloy ba nya or hindi

spot on, simang. regardless of looks, as long as the girl is game for anything, the guys will go for the kill.

[argento]

Pag type ng girl si guy even she or he is married kakagat yan. Nasa babae pa rin.

[stealthscorpio]

^yeah, I agree. May kakagat talaga kahit married na. Pero ang masasabi ko lang they will reap what they sow. Yun lang..

[p0isonIvy]

women who say that men only want sex usually don't have anything else to offer

^ haha hindi talaga lahat binibigay ng Diyos sa iisang tao lang. may mga girls talaga na you know ay pang-kama lang

[celebrity_me]

hi. ask ko lang sa guys...

straight to the point.. I cheated sa bf ko and nahuli niya ako... bago pa lang kami like 2 months pero I know na totoong love naman sa isat isa ang nafeel naming... napakilala na niya ako sa buong angkan niya and ka close ko lahat sakanila... reason ko why I cheated kasi si bf hindi showy masyado like hindi niya pinapakita ng sobra na sweet siya hindi siya masalita masyado eh ako madaldal, may nakilala akong guy friend niya nagkasundo kami and nagging deep ang mga usapan naming like nalaman ko na he likes me din tas ako okay din naman ako sakanya kasi nandiyan siya lagi if may problems ako... basta in short inentertain ko siya...

nung nahuli ako ni bf he said matagal na siya naghihinala hindi lang niya pinahalata which is ang galling niya kasi hindi ko talaga alam na may kutob siya.. tinaboy taboy na ako ni bf and he said bad stuffs about me like Makati daw ako, wag na daw ako papakita sa family nila kahit kelan, magsama daw kami nung lalaking isa, wag na daw ako umasa sakanya...

okay ang gusto ko mangyari talaga magbalikan kami ni bf I said sorry and sincere ako and inamin ko pagkakamali ko na yes nakipagusap ako sa iba at nakikipagmeet sa iba ng hindi niya nalalaman... pinuntahan ko pa siya sa work kahit tinataboy niya ako naghintay ako.. ayaw niya padin ako kausapin sobrang galit siya kahit andon ako so ginawa ko nagdecide nalang umuwe PERO nag last trip na ang mga bus sa LIPA kasi eto ako taga manila.. so no choice siya nung nalaman niyang naiwan ako ng bus... nagkausap kami and all galit na galit padin siya at first but in the end sa kakausap naming lumambot din siya kasi siguro kakaexplain ko, kakaiyak ko.. sabi niya siyempre he still loves me and cares for me kasi kung hindi wala daw siya sa tabi ko that time nung naiwan ako ng bus... hindi niya din naman minimean lahat ng masasakit na nasabi niya at pag taboy niya sakin ginagawa niya lang daw yon para wag na ako umasa na magiging oay pa ang relationship namin.. ayon nag end up na nagsorry and thank you kami sa isat isa...

what will I do now? miserable ang buhay ko. I feel guilty sa nagawa ko and sana maayos pa talaga ang relation namin. please help me. I know bago lang kami sa relationship pero I have this feeling na siya na and sana siya na kahit may mga pagkukulang siya before... siguro nakita ko lang don sa isang lalaki na anjan siya lagi for me at napupunan niya pagkukulang ni bf kaya nagging deep pa ang mga conversation namin at umabot pa sa mga meet ups. pero pinagsisihan ko na talaga. please help me na mapatawad sana ako ng bf ko ayoko mawala siya ng tuluyan sakin.. aminado ako sa mga pagkakamali ko and lahat naman nagkakamali I'm not perfect naman....

[stealthscorpio]

^I dunno, but kung ako ang nasa situation ng bf mo I think, I would totally wipe you out off my memory bank. You're lucky na despite all of the things that you've done which means nagalit lang siya sayo dahil it's a man's pride na "andito naman ako, bakit maghahanap pa ng iba? Ano ba ang wala sakin na meron sa isa" -- parang ganun. Ikaw naman siguro was just simply "tempted" kasi nga may hinahanap ka na affectio na di mo nafeel sa current lover mo. But the question is, bakit naging kayo? Does it mean na naging kayo even though di niyo pa kilala ang isa't-isa? Kasi I wouldn't be surprised kung ganun ang reason dahil if you knew each other very well before the day you gave your "yes" to a guy, it means that comfortable ka sa kanya and you know almost all of his angles. Sa tanong mo naman kung ma forgive ka niya, well, I think my answer would be uncertain but obviously, the trust will never be the same than it was before. Personally, I hate to be cheated because I haven't had tried that ever since. Depende pa rin yan sa bf mo kung matatanggap niya ang pag cheat mo or not. It all boils down din naman sa personality ng guy but no one wants to be cheated.

[celebrity_me]

@telekikay

thank you for your reply... I said sorry na kay bf pinuntahan ko pa siya from manila ako going to lipa to show na sincere ako and willing ako humarap sa family niya and say sorry too sa mga nagawa ko. but he keeps on telling me na tama na, it's over dahil sinira ko na yung relasyo naming and sinayang ko.. he said na may pagkukulang din naman daw siya he is aware pero never siya nanloko or nambabae, loyal siya sakin. so eto lalo ako naguilty and lalo kong gusting magkabalikan kami ni bf. what to do para hindi niya na ako tabuyin? para lumabot na puso niya? huhuhu please... help....

@stealthscorpio

thank you too sa reply.. pero hindi naman din kasi ako perfect minsan oo tama natempt ako pero never ko din naman siya pinagpalit... sinagot ko siya kasi nafeel ko na love ko na siya talaga and yon ang gusto ko mangyari gusto ko siya makasama though kahit before alam ko na ganyan ugali niya na hindi showy and all pero naisip ko kasi kahit ganin hindi naman niya ako iniiwan and nagagawa naman niya ang role niya as a bf except lang sa pagiging showy parang nakulangan ako sa effort then umeksena tong guy na isa so parang yung attention ko napunta sa isang guy. hindi naman sinasadya... siguro depressed lang ako nung umeksena yung isang guy... hmmm ang want ko nalang ngayon is anong mga paraan para mapagaan ko loob ni bf nagbabakasakali lang na mapapatawad niya pa ako kasi I really love him...

QUESTION:

MAKAKATULONG BA IF SUYUIN KO SIYA? PAANO KAYO SUYUIN MGA LALAKI? FIRST TIME KO KASI GAGAWIN TO... PAANO GAGAWIN KO PARA MAPATAWAD NIYA AKO AND TANGGAPIN ULIT? HELP!!!!

[stealthscorpio]

Ok.. I think your bf and I are on the same boat 8 years ago kasi hindi rin ako showy that in a relationship but then, tumagal kami ng 2 years until such time na naging LDR na. Anyway, connected kasi ang "showiness" at ang personality eh. Somehow, it changes through time din naman pero kung ano ang rason mo bakit sinagot mo siya, eh yun ang lagi mong isipin kasi dun ka niya (in his simple ways) napa inlove. But kung gusto mo talaga maibalik ang feeling (kasi I doubt it kung same pa rin ang trust niya sayo) you should keep on the communication but don't look desperate to seek his attention. I think he's just thinking about the things muna and I think he is also a rational person. He thinks before taking an action. In short, just let your guy have his time to think BUT don't lose the communication

[celebrity_me]

@stealthscorpio

hmmm... kasi inunfriend niya ako sa facebook after the day na pinuntahan ko siya sa lipa nung time na nagsorry kami and thank you sa isat isa.. super nasaktan din ako the next day pag check ko hindi na kami friends sa fb sa sobrang hurt ko dineactivate ko fb ko and nagpalit ako ng number, kaya ko ginawa yon kasi lalo lang ako nasasaktan sa mga nalalaman ko like example, yung pag delete niya sakin sa fb and if ang number ko ay same pa sa dati everyday lang ako maghihintay sa text niya and maloloka na ako for sure... pero sa ginawa ko parang lalong na lose yung communication... any idea kung ano dapat ko gawin? like call him nalang with random number then kamustahin siya... pwede ba yon?

[lyon]

celebrity_me,

for the mean time, spare him na lang muna. set a time line kung kailan ka dapat na magMove on. time will tell.

gaya nga ng sabi ni telekikay
"if you look into other thread you will learn something this.
1. if a guy does not want you. he does not want you...really."
siguro ang #2 nito for me ay "if a guy does not want you anymore, he mean it."

di pa naman kalaki yung investment mo sa kanya kaya di pa mahirap makipaghiwalay just in case.

save the time for you to get busy on other things na lang muna.

[celebrity_me]

celebrity_me,

for the mean time, spare him na lang muna. set a time line kung kailan ka dapat na magMove on. time will tell.

gaya nga ng sabi ni telekikay
"if you look into other thread you will learn something this.
1. if a guy does not want you. he does not want you...really."
siguro ang #2 nito for me ay "if a guy does not want you anymore, he mean it."

di pa naman kalaki yung investment mo sa kanya kaya di pa mahirap makipaghiwalay just in case.

save the time for you to get busy on other things na lang muna.

pero kasi ayoko din naman mag give up agad baka naman may chance pa.. kasi alam ko naman kung gaano siya ka serious sakin kasi agad agad pinakilala niya ako sa family niya and ang mga nasa isip na niya is ako na talaga ang papakasalan niya, then sinunod niya ang mga want ko tulad ng mag work siya he did it para hindi na ako mastress sakanya.. madami din naman akong magandang naitulong sa buhay niya ang isang pagkakamali ko lang talaga yung nagawa ko na pag cheat na friend niya pa yung guy... pero overall maayos naman akong gf like sweet ako, vinivisit ko siya lagi, concerned ako sakanya and sa future niya, minahal ko din naman siya ng todo. I mean tanong ko lang sa guys hindi niyo ba nakikita yon porket nagkamali once ayaw na agad? alam ko mabigat kasalanan ko pero hindi naman puro mabigat at hindi maganda ang nangyari sa relationship naming madami din naming maganda sana maalala din naman niya...

[stealthscorpio]

Kasi nga may mga mistakes na forgivable ay may mistakes naman na deep-boned unforgivable gaya ng "cheating" is a bad bad thing to do. Kaya nga sabi ko kanina if ever magkabalikan kayo eh kumusta naman ang trust department ng relationship? Hanggang kailan ba tatagal? At kapag di tumagal eh, masasaktan ka na naman ulit. I think, ginagawa mo ito dahil you knew you did not just a wrong, but a sin. And you're thinking na pag nagkabalikan kayo ipapakita mo na nagbago ka na. Na hindi ka na mag checheat. But then, the damage has been done.

Sa communication naman, naku, pag ganyan ang situation na putol na lahat ng means -- you better off have a time off. Mahirap yan; trust me. I've been there. Baka mag wait ka in vain. So, I suggest live your life na lang muna for now and stop thinking about him. I know how he feels kasi I think pareho kami ng personality na pag mkahanap ng isa, stick na doon agad. At dahil nagawa mo ang cheating thing na yan, it's so painful sa amin yan. Yan din kasi ang ginagawa ko na kapag may gf ako pinapakilala ko agad sa family ko. Siguro nasayangan ka lang talaga kaya ka nagkakaganyan. Chill ka na lang muna..

[lyon]

hindi naman general equation yung iniQuote ko kanina. siguro most but not to all apply.

don't be too concerned sa kanya, it will hold you back lalo na kung ikaw naman ang may gustong kumalas na.

malay mo, escape goat na nya yung situation.

i'm playing a devil's advocate here.

ang situation naman dito ay you did your part na. it takes two to tango, wika nga nila.

[j.adore]

If your current relationship isn't enough, end it before finding what you're looking for. Why go through all the drama?

Anyway, giving you the benefit of the doubt na nagsisisi ka talaga at gusto mo patunayan sa ex mo na nagbago ka na, suyuin mo siya.

Text or call everyday to check on him. Magkwento ka din tungkol sa mga nangyari sa araw mo. Be friendly even if he might not be.
Ask if you can visit him before going. Try to do things for him. Just continue to be in his life.
Do this for I dunno maybe 1 or 2 months. Then ask if he'll give you a chance. Kung ayaw pa din talaga, accept it as consequence and move on with your lives.

[JSmoove]

pero kasi ayoko din naman mag give up agad baka naman may chance pa.. kasi alam ko naman kung gaano siya ka serious sakin kasi agad agad pinakilala niya ako sa family niya and ang mga nasa isip na niya is ako na talaga ang papakasalan niya, then sinunod niya ang mga want ko tulad ng mag work siya he did it para hindi na ako mastress sakanya.. madami din naman akong magandang naitulong sa buhay niya ang isang pagkakamali ko lang talaga yung nagawa ko na pag cheat na friend niya pa yung guy... pero overall maayos naman akong gf like sweet ako, vinivisit ko siya lagi, concerned ako sakanya and sa future niya, minahal ko din naman siya ng todo. I mean tanong ko lang sa guys hindi niyo ba nakikita yon porket nagkamali once ayaw na agad? alam ko mabigat kasalanan ko pero hindi naman puro mabigat at hindi maganda ang nangyari sa relationship naming madami din naming maganda sana maalala din naman niya...

Did I read your post right? You were together for just 2 months and you cheated on him already?

Well, that will set off alarms everywhere. If you did that even though he was serious about you, ano pa kaya ang kaya mo gawin in a few months time? In a few years? Most guys won't let you meet his parents unless he is serious about you.

If I were you, I would save face and move on from this incident and learn from it.

[p0isonIvy]

Did I read your post right? You were together for just 2 months and you cheated on him already?

Well, that will set off alarms everywhere. If you did that even though he was serious about you, ano pa kaya ang kaya mo gawin in a few months time? In a few years? Most guys won't let you meet his parents unless he is serious about you.

If I were you, I would save face and move on from this incident and learn from it.

^ true, 2 months, dapat honeymoon stage pa yan eh, yung tipong  you're still very sweet to each other. na halos di na kayo mapaghiwalay. the fact that you did this to him says a lot about your relationship. baka naman natatakot ka lang mawalan or be left alone?

  #2 nito for me ay "if a guy does not want you anymore, he mean it."

^ this is very true. once a guy makes up his mind, there is hardly anything you can do to change it. real guys ha. hindi yung mga weak-willed men. kahit pa magiiyak at magwala ka sa harap nya, kahit pa ano sabihin mo, pag sinabi ng guy na ayaw na nya, ayaw na nya talaga.

[slickchick]

Did I read your post right? You were together for just 2 months and you cheated on him already?

Well, that will set off alarms everywhere. If you did that even though he was serious about you, ano pa kaya ang kaya mo gawin in a few months time? In a few years? Most guys won't let you meet his parents unless he is serious about you.

If I were you, I would save face and move on from this incident and learn from it.

sis celebrity_me, i agree with the post above. if your bf was not serious about you, he wouldn't introduce you right away to his family, to think that the relationship was just 2 months old. and i cannot blame your bf if he never talks to you again.. friend pa nya yung ipinalit mo... double whammy sis.. napahiya siya eh.. he introduced a girl to his family whom he thinks is worthy and decent enough... unfortunately, you proved him wrong, at sa friend pa nya sis... personally and in my opinion lang naman, kung yung pagiging malambing and sweet lang ang reason mo for cheating, ang babaw sis, especially na 2 months pa lang kayo.. you could've at least talked to him about it and gave him a chance to improve, hindi yung niloko mo sya agad, at sa friend pa nya... and ikaw na rin ang nagsabi that there are other good things and memories na nangyari dun sa 2 months kayo.. hindi ba enough yung good things and good memories na yun for you to stay true to your guy? minsan kasi tayong mga babae, we tend to focus on the smaller things, that we overlook the bigger and more substantial matters in the relationship... siguro sis, give your guy some time to heal din.. after all, sabi mo nga, you did what you could.. if he really and truly loves you, perhaps, he'll be able to look beyong that cheating incident.. otherwise, let this be a learning experience to you and sana wag mo na ulitin.. just my two cents worth...