he is just not into you

[estelle21]

meron akong guy friend na sabi sakin minsan, "akala naman ni *insert girl's name here* hahabulin ko sya? para namang trip na trip ko sya."

sabi ko, "e di ba trip mo naman talaga?"

sabi nya, "pero hindi trip na trip."

guys, ganon ba talaga? bihira lang ba talaga ma inlove mga lalake? na tipong may mga babaeng masasabi nyo na "i am not just into you..." "trip lang pero hindi trip na trip."?

etong guy friend ko na ito, habulin talaga. madami na naka fling and ONS, i think. (sawa na nga sya e) pero if i am not mistaken, 2 pa lang talaga minamahal nya. gwapo to saka nilalapitan talaga ng mga babae. ewan ko ba lakas sex appeal. pero yun gf nya nga na last hindi yung chix na chix. maganda, pero simpleng ganda.

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kumbaga pwede fubu o pang kama dahil trip ng guy pero hindi trip na trip na gagawin na nyang GF. dahil he is not just into you.

[telekikay]

guys, ganon ba talaga? bihira lang ba talaga ma inlove mga lalake? na tipong may mga babaeng masasabi nyo na "i am not just into you..." "trip lang pero hindi trip na trip."?

atey,

depende yan sa disposisyon ng tao.  depende pa din sa pagkakataon. yan kaibigan mo, sukat na nya kakayahan nya sa pambababae. alam na nya ang ins and outs, thats why he'll refuse to exert to much effort sa trip nya na girl otheriwse its gonna be a big blow to his ego. kung magpapahabol pa yun si girl, malamang lilipat lang ng bulaklak yan tapos babalik sa dati nyang pinopormahan. it's gonna be a win win situation for him anyway.

yun opinion ko base lang sa post mo ha. hindi ko naman kilala yan friend mo at yun trip nya na girl. saka to generalize na lahat ng guy ay bihira ma in love? unfair yan, madami din guys na patay na patay sa partner o nililigawan nila.

akala ko kasi yun topic is " he is just not into you", kala ko its about a girl who likes a guy. anyway, ang lalaki hindi yan pwede pilitin ma in love, hindi pwede pilitin magkagusto sa nireto mo, hindi yan pwede turuan ma in love kapag niligawan. may kusa mga lalaki pag dating sa ganyan. am i generalizing? based from experience from people i know, yes hehe

[estelle21]

^naputol lang yung post ko! hehe nagloko kasi browser ko edit ko na lang.

well kahit hindi ko natapos yung post, connected naman talaga sya sa subject.

what i mean is, merong mga guys na may trip na girls pero hindi trip na trip. pwedeng trip i ONS, pero hindi pang GF. simple lang explanation. hindi dahil mawawasak ego. hindi dahil tamad. simple lang "he is not just into her."

[telekikay]

^kelangan ba trip na trip as in dead na dead? hahaha ah alam na ang habol ng friend mo na guy!

[jojo2978]

Minsan kasi nakikita na kaagad ng guy na this girl ok na maging gf. Ito namang isang girl, hanggang bed lang. At times naman, factor din ang timing and situation.  Perhaps TS, hindi naman naghahanap ng girlfriend ang kaibigan mo or parang mali nga ang term na gamitin na maging sobra sobra niyang trip yung girl to the point na habulin niya.  Baka na foresee na niya na, ahhh hanggang dito lang talaga yan, he is not totally attracted to her.

Pwede ring factor na hindi pa siya naka move on sa sinasabi mong gf niya or si girl, hindi naman gf material. Hmmmp sorry TS, IMHO lang to.

[simang]

Hmm tingin ko, may mga guys who are willing to play around until they find the woman na they genuinely like. So i guess, your guy said it literally, gusto nya si girl pero hindi gustong gusto. So baka hindi nya pa nakikita yung girl na gustong gusto nya talaga, kaya he's playing around muna

[JSmoove]

Most guys are afraid to say what they really feel. Even if they have this girl that they like, they won't admit it even if you ask.

In your friend's case, maybe the girl doesn't reciprocate his actions, kaya nya nasabi yun.

[Girltalker2]

Hmm tingin ko, may mga guys who are willing to play around until they find the woman na they genuinely like. So i guess, your guy said it literally, gusto nya si girl pero hindi gustong gusto. So baka hindi nya pa nakikita yung girl na gustong gusto nya talaga, kaya he's playing around muna

I agree.  Which I think is fair, let the guys  play around then and huwag magpumilit na maging GF kung hindi pa ready si guy. Otherwise, yung babae din ang sasakit ang ulo later.

Therefore, it is important for the girl na hindi ma-fall agad agad.  One should know how to weigh things before letting yourself hurt.  Siguro madali sabihin at mahirap gawin, especially if you are young. Pero that's the point nga, as we age, we should learn how to be wiser.

in this situation, the tables are turn.,,
si guy naman ang pa-hard to get...
just like other girls, meron din pa-hard to get 

kung si guy ang pa hard to get, bilang babae, wala ka nang magagawa. As I have said previously, importante for a guy to like to girl more than the girl likes the guy. Ang girl masusuyo mo. Ang guy, kung wala talagang initial attraction, wala talaga.

Most guys are afraid to say what they really feel. Even if they have this girl that they like, they won't admit it even if you ask.

In your friend's case, maybe the girl doesn't reciprocate his actions, kaya nya nasabi yun.

Talaga?  I don't think so. Kahit yung pinaka torpe na na guy, if he really wants something, he would pursue it. Otherwise, he is not worthy to be the BF of anyone kung mismo ang nararamdaman nya eh hindi pa nya mapaglaban.

[telekikay]

"Ang girl masusuyo mo. Ang guy, kung wala talagang initial attraction, wala talaga."

Girltalker2 - THIS! SPOT ON, ATEY!

[graezieylicious]

I believe mga sis, depende din sa guy. May guy na kahit gusto nila si girl e hindi makalapit kasi mas naappreciate nila na si girl gagawa ng move o mag aapproach pero hindi maghahabol o torpe talaga si guy tapos intimidating pa si girl. Yung cousin ko kasi na guy mahinhin, mother's boy kasi siya tapos ramdam ko na mas gusto niya na si girl ang magiinvite. Sa panahon daw ngayun sabi ng mga guys pantay pantay na..okay lang daw or minsan mas okay pag si girl ang magiinvite pero syempre hindi lagi. Friendly invite dapat din.

[p0isonIvy]

may ibang girls kasi na nagpakita lang ng motibo si guy, e etong si girl e todo pilit na agad kay guy na makipagrelasyon.. wherein si guy naman e still checking kung like talaga nya si girl..

^ haha true. dami din kasing girls na atat minsan. lalo na yung mga nbsbs. napansin ko sila yung super nag aanalyze or nag aasume na something is going on. yung tipong each and every move or gesture nung guy binibigyan ng meaning. samantalang for the guy, wala lang yun sa kanya and hes just being plain friendly.

[aubb]

He's just not much into the girl, yun lang yun, hanggang dun lang. "Trip", lang naman niya, though it really just starts with that most of the time, but apparently for his case,it did not further into the exclusive phase, and onto commitment.

[redhead69]

I guess may levels attraction ng "ibang" guys (also with the girls)
Level 1 : eye candy
Level 2 : admiration (attitude,physical appearance)
Level 3 : crush (hangang salita lang)
           : crush (you can tell her directly na crush mo)
Level 4 : pang kama (term ng ibang guys) pero friends
Level 5 : pang kama pero intimate
Level 6 : girlfriend material
Level 7 : sister lang
Level 8 : wifey material


Idk na iba. Pero depende kasi sa tao yun e. And "hindi trip na trip" like 50:50 "bahala na" "okay naman siya pero.." Mga ganong term.

[t_r_i_s_h]

^ natawa ko sa level 7... sister zoned! hahaha

[redhead69]

Hahaha! Kasi naman may iba pa na nahihiya sabihin na ayaw ng guy. "Sister lang talaga turing ko sayo e"     Boo! Hahahaha

[t_r_i_s_h]

guys with no balls hahaha

[fredprinz]

Para sa'ken, may two categories ako.

1) I like you as a friend - tipong barkada level, sister I never had, I can tell you all about my bad traits and semi-secrets type, magpapapilit akong magpalibre ng ramen/pho sa'yo

2) I like you VERY MUCH - iisipin ko susuotin ko pag magmi-meet tayo, nahihirapan ako ipakita na funny guy ako kasi baka makornihan siya, bumabagal ang salita ko (pa-cute), di ko siya ipapakilala agad sa mga close friends ko dahil babasagin lang ako ng latter, ako ang magbabayad ng ramen/pho na inorder namen - ganyang level.

[t_r_i_s_h]

and I think there are guys who will like someone but will not like her enough to pursue her. It sucks, but it happens....

[Queen Chokolah]

Depende sa kung gano ka gusto ni guy si girl. Talagang hindi maghahabol yan kung di nya naman ganun ka gusto. Pero naniniwala ako, na kahit anong gwapo pa ni guy at kahit never nya pa ginawa, kung talagang tinamaan sya, maghahabol at maghahabol yan :p

Don't generalize. May mga lalakeng mahilig maghabol. Meron din hindi