Husband has cancer :(

[chocnats]

^yes actually, yun ang diet niya ngayon. Purely organic na.

Puro native chicken, native eggs and veggies kinakain niya like malunggay and saluyot. Brown rice rin and puro steamed ang luto. Minsan rin bineblend namin yung sayote or guyabano tapos iniinom rin niya yun. Healthy living na talaga.

[zira]

stay strong for your family specially for your baby girl. i am sure she will be as strong or even stronger when she grows up and you know she got it from her momma

God will not leave us behind. we will include you in our prayers. everything will be alright... hindi ibibigay yang problema na yan sa inyo kung hindi nyo kaya.

stay positive and believe

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Thanks sis! Sige sabihan ko rin siya if kaya naming puntahan. May appointment rin kami sa isang alternative medicine doctor na rinefer ng boss niya na cancer survivor rin..

Share ko lang rin, ever since he changed his whole diet na rin to alkaline-rich veggies, nawala na yung pagkakaroon niya ng kabag and parang bumabalik ang dati niyang lakas siya. Hinihilot rin namin yung tiyan niya every night with the blessed oil na bigay sa amin ng isang kamag-anak na devotee ni Mama Mary. At dahil dun, nararamdaman namin na parang lumiliit yung matigas na lump sa may pusod niya, which the doctor said was a metastatic lymph node. Dati matigas yung area surrounding the belly button, pero ngayon, nawala na yung matigas na part sa lower belly button. As in sa pusod na lang yung nararamdaman namin

Some may say na wishful thinking lang yun pero I believe na gumagana yung prayers namin and part yun ng miracle na hinihingi namin for his healing. So let's pray na magtuloy-tuloy ang paggaling niya. Thank you.

aaaw that's good sis. though careful sa mga hilot-hilot and massage-massage ha. baka naman yung metastatic lymph node eh mag-erode tapos mas kumalat pa yung cancer. just a caution.

btw i know of an excellent oncologist, in case you're interested.

sis if i may, ano yung specific medical name ng cancer niya?

[chocnats]

Thanks sis!

Well not necessarily hilot, more of pinapahid lang namin yung oil pero I'll take note of that.

The specific name is poorly differentiated adenocarcinoma. Common siya sa mga 70 and above na male kaya medyo rare case na si hubby ay nagkaganun.

[artegirl]

sis chocnats, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband's illness.  try to get 2nd, or even 3rd opinion.  Both my parents had cancer (liver for dad, and non-smoker lung cancer for mom).  my parents were not really into western medicine kaya both chose alternative treatment.  and it was both a disaster....  for my mom, buti na lang we were blessed with a second chance.  and maski 1 yr [textspeak!], western med was able to give her quality of life. 

don't close the door on western med.  everyday, there is a new discovery.  yung mga treatments na binigay sa mom ko (targetted therapy, radiation, chemo) all didn't have the horror side effects na nakikita natin sa movies (except for hair loss).  mas mahirap pa nga ata yung pinapa-inom sya ng raw egg whites several times a day na prescribed ng alt med doc nya.

I can fully relate to your thinking na you'd rather see your husband go, than see him suffer.  Pero kasi pag cancer, it's not an overnight thing.   kaya make sure you consider and research all options well, para no regrets.

Stay strong sis

[chocnats]

Thank you sis for your kind words. Naka-4 doctors na rin kami and all of them said the same thing kaya we decided not to push through with the chemo na lang. May ibang nagsasabi rin na find another doctor to look into the results pero parang waste of time and resources na rin. Mahirap rin kasi dahil halos wala kaming savings since we're starting out pa lang tapos we have to save rin for our baby. Syempre, ako na lang rin naging breadwinner ng family. Maybe harsh rin sabihin pero practicality also played a part in our decision. It is his wish na rin talaga not to spend to much on his treatment, which also led us to take the organic route. Whatever will happen, i know there are no regrets because we made this decision together, and alam kong he is happy.

[TysLolakins]

sis TS,  we don't want to add more to your concerns,  if we did say please consider other options,  we all meant well and some were spoken from experience.  i kinda thought so too in the beginning that financial might be of one of the reasons for the alternative med.  before we brought my dad here in the states to get treatment,  he consulted some oncologists in Pinas and you're right,  the experimental drug would cost like 900 thousand pesos there and that's just to prolong for a few months,  not necessarily get rid of the cancer. 
anyway,  ironic too that the same med  costing a fortune there was given to him here FOR FREE (he had the best coverage here since he worked for over 20 years),  but he passed on before he can start taking it.  he was scheduled to take it first week of jan 2014 but he died dec 2013.
just be strong sis for you, your husband and your baby.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

Thanks sis!

Well not necessarily hilot, more of pinapahid lang namin yung oil pero I'll take note of that.

The specific name is poorly differentiated adenocarcinoma. Common siya sa mga 70 and above na male kaya medyo rare case na si hubby ay nagkaganun.

Aaaw i see sis. If may mga kapatid si hubby, they better get screened para mas maagapan. If a cancer usually appears at an older age tapos a family member has it younger, baka my genetic predisposition siya.

Still praying na all we turn out well for him sis.

[chocnats]

@Tys: oo nga eh. Sabi nga nila na pang-mayamang sakit yung cancer and tama nga sila. Yun rin dilemma namin ngayon kasi as much as we want to spend for my husband's treatment, we also have our baby's future to think about. Mahirap talaga na ngayon tumama ang ganitong trial kung kelan nagsisimula pa kami pero I know naman na God will provide a way. Kaya laban lang kami and continue to pray na lang .

@iwanna: oo sis, sabi ko nga sa bayaw ko na magpacheckup siya kasi siya yung mas madalas magkaproblema sa tiyan. And since si hubby ay nagkaroon na ng cancer, mas mataas na ang risk niya rin to have that same disease.

[TysLolakins]

on a positive note,  i hope your husband's case will turn into what happened to my late uncle.  he battled cancer for 20 years.  his was also a rare case for his age at the onset (38 years old).  his son was only 8 years old at that time.  in that 20 years,  he would get better then worst then better again,  in and out of the hospital.  so many times we thought that would be it and he'll come out of it.  he did a series of chemo btw.  for the longest time,  we didn't know what kind of cancer he had,  it was a very rare cancer on the blood, not leukemia. what kept him going was the concern for his son.  he made some goals that he'd wish to make,  first was he'd like to see his son graduate from elementary, then he wanted to see him graduate from high-school,  then graduate from college, then graduate from his masteral,  then to see him get married.  see, he witnessed all that.  the last one he wished to see was the birth of his grandchild.  unfortunately not this time,  his body had finally given up.  he passed away 3 months short of his granddaughter's birth-day.
so hang on dear sis TS, stay positive and who knows what's in store for the future.  just take it one day at a time, that each passing day is a blessing in itself.   

[chocnats]

Thank you sis. Yes, everyday is indeed a blessing, and we thank God every morning for giving us another day together. Ngayon, ang goal namin is to make him strong enough para he'll be with me when I give birth. Para siya ang unang makakakita sa anak namin paglabas niya.

[glamorosa_09]

Hay, mixed emotions ako while reading your thread sis. Una, nakakaiyak when you said that you're willing to let him go, what matters is you still have a part of him, which is your baby. At the same time, I'm brimming with admiration for you, dahil sobrang strong and courageous mo. You gracefully accepted what Life has given you, hindi ka naging bitter, hindi ka nagalit. I pray and hope that God will prolong your husband's life, that your husband will be able to witness important milestones of your family. Your hubs has a strong will to live, he has a strong meaning of life, together with God's mercy, nothing is impossible.

Blessings to you, your husband, and your child. May God grant the desires of your heart.

[chocnats]

Thank you sis for your kind words. Natouch naman ako.

Of course, there are times talaga when I'll think na bakit sa amin nangyari ito. Especially pag tinitignan ko yung wedding pictures namin. Hard to believe na 5 months ago lang, ang saya saya namin tapos ngayon, ganito na ang situation namin. But I always pray na lang to God to not only heal my husband but also to give us strength. Strength to accept whatever His plans are for us. And sana alisin niya yung lungkot sa puso namin. So I guess yun na lang talaga pinanghahawakan namin, it's all up to God.

[iwannabeasupermodel]

ako din mixed emotions, the medical part of me is like this and that. cold hard facts and all. pero ayun nga, there's a part na something else. haha! sorry i cant describe it correctly.

[chocnats]

Haha. Ako rin mixed emotions minsan. There are times na nakakalimutan kong may sakit siya lalo pag nakikita ko siyang happy at nagpapahinga sa bahay. But then, biglang boom, ayun nanaman yung idea na oo may cancer siya. But ayaw kong mag-dwell sa ganun. Gusto ko lang i-enjoy ang bawat moments with him. Kaya ayun, think happy thoughts na lang palagi.

And siguro, we feel blessed na ang daming nagmamahal rin sa asawa ko. Pag nakikita ko yung mga messages ng mga friends namin sa kanya, sobrang natotouch kami kasi we really feel their support.. and of course from you as well! Sobrang daming nagdadasal para sa amin kaya I know na God will find a way to help us.

[Angel2guideu]

Hi sis chocnats, i'm silent follower of your blog... I admire your courage in facing this trial, I can't imagine how are you carrying yourself flawlessly lalo na you're pregnant.. I can say Grace ni god yan.. its one of God's answered prayer to strengthen you and your husband.. Kung ano man maging decision ni husband, just stand with him and support his decision, may sakit man sya still he is the leader of your family....kahit anong treatment option you will take, si God pa din ang magdedecide until when he will lived.. Continue to pray, and be positive for your husband.. that testing will stretch your faith to the maximum level, at the same time it will strengthen your marriage.. 

Keep your husband in positive environment kasi stress is cancer cell food.. as much as possible iwasan nya muna yung stress.. tsaka negativity... I advice listen to joel osteen's preaching din, its biblical and positive.. 

God bless sis.. di man kita kilala personally.. pero masasabi ko na malalagpasan nyo tong pagsubok na toh.. 

[zanabee]

how is your husband sis chocnats? i hope that everything fine. God bless you, your husband and the miracle inside you....

[chocnats]

Hi! Thanks for all your prayers.

There are good days and there are bad days. We are just taking it one day at a time. Mahirap pero kelangan kayanin.

[joanlim]

praying for you and your family.. God is good... be strong

[swtgrl_bee]

Stay strong sis, nalungkot ako nung nabasa ko ito Silent reader din ako ng blog mo.