Kung ano food namin, yun din sa kanila. Minsan if wala kami, they cook tuyo, daing or whatever. Nalalaman namin kasi me naiiwang amoy sa kitchen minsan. Sometimes, hubby and I prefer oatmeal lang and/or bread for breakfast, we tell them the night before para ang lutuin lang nila kinabukasan e food for them. Pag sa labas kami lunch or dinner, sometimes they eat the leftovers or yung mga takeout namin na nasa ref, para daw di na sila magluto. At para mabawasan leftovers sa ref. Their call.
Same for merienda, most food items e for everyone, free sila to open and eat them (including imported chocolates, chips, etc). If meron specific items na di namin pinapagalaw, we tell them beforehand para alam nila na off-limits yun. Minsan, they make turon, ginatan, champorado or pancakes for snacks for all of us. Di naman sila abusado at medyo mahina din kumain (compared sa amin ni hubby, hehe). Minsan kami na mismo nagbubukas ng imported snacks para pag bukas na e di na sila mangimi na kumuha. Minsan kasi kahit sabihin naming ok lang e nahihiya pa din sila to open sealed food, especially pag imported, kaya kami na nagbubukas for them. Minsan, if napadami sila merienda, they skip dinner. Basta sabi ko lang, pag nagutom e kumain kasi baka manghina naman sila kaka-diet.
I basically let them decide what food to cook for all of us. Sometimes lang we have requests (like me, i'm breastfeeding so pag namamalengke nagbibilin ako na bumili ng pang-tinola tsaka leafy veggies, etc). Recently, hubby and I decided to minimize pork consumption so i started making a suggested weekly lunch&dinner menu para me guide sya sa pagpalengke. But i told them na they can still buy and cook pork for them, basta lutuan na lang nila kami ibang ulam na hindi pork.
Sometimes, they buy local tsitsirya and snack items using their own money. I take note of those and buy them sa next grocery trip ko. Or if kasama sila mag-grocery, i let them pick their snack items. As much as possible kasi, I don't want them to spend their own money for food, kasi I know pinapadala nila a large part of their salaries sa families. Mantra namin ni hubby, walang magugutom sa bahay namin. Hehe..
Sa toiletries, we provide the basic stuff -- soap (me specific whitening soap silang request, hehe), shampoo, conditioner, toothpaste, cottonbuds, alcohol. The rest ng kakikayan, own expense na nila. Minsan, pag galing kami byahe, we buy them colognes or drugstore makeup (powder, lippies) as part of pasalubong.
Toilet paper, laundry detergent, fabcon, etc -- they're free to get and use from the household stash. It's for everyone's consumption.