Mas mataba si GF/wife kesa kay BF/hubby

[estelle21]

Girls, do you feel insecure if you are fatter than your bf or hubby?

and boys, nahihiya ba kayo pag mataba si gf/wife? lalo na kung biglang lobo sya nung naging kayo?




When I was on steroids parang naging mas mataba ako sa ex ko. Nakakataba steroids e at hirap pa i-lose talaga! Hindi ako naiinsecure nun kasi ang focus ko gumaling ako sa sakit ko that time.

Pero siguro kung wala ako sakit at talagang natabaan ko lang si ex, i'd be insecure... -_- lalo na dami sexy gurls. hayayyy!

[sacred cow]

siguro it would bother me, especially kung ampayat niya before. I tend to judge really fat girls (yung bigger than guys) as really masiba or lazy talaga kahit hindi ko alam kung may medical condition behind it.

[Girltalker2]

Minsan ang unfair nga ng mundo. Ako mismo hindi ko gusto mas tumaba ako kaysa kay BF. Pero honestly, ang hirap, lalo na kung payat ang partner mo. For now, mas payat pako, pero syempre ewan ko sa future. Ngayon may time pako mag gym, kaya ko pa to avoid unhealthy food.  Pero once we age, hormones come into play, so ewan ko na. Sad nga. Mas mabilis talaga for women to gain, kaya it is more common to see bigger wives (lalo na 35yo and up) than their partners. Of course bukod pa sa panganganak.

Kaya importante ang husbands na mas understanding and supportive. At hindi yung selfish.

[estelle21]

^kung nag g-gym ka ngayon magiging hobby/habit mo na yan. hirap nga mag-maintain as we age pero dapat alaga pa rin sa katawan.


@sacredcow - ok. so ang mga lalake ayaw sa mataba kasi ang tingin nila hindi mahal ang sarili?

kaya pala pag may mataba na presentable, makinis kutis, parang ok na rin kasi she takes care if herself very well

[sugardrop]

May bilbil ako and my guy doesn't. He understands that I have to take steroids for my medical condition. In fact, when he saw my picture nung payat ako, ayaw nya. I look older and matured daw compared ngayon na I look younger than my age. Pero his shirt fits me, medyo maluwag pa nga and he prefers medyo fitted shirts kasi when I buy him a shirt, sinusukat ko. He's taller than me by 8 inches, I think, kaya siguro mas malapad ako tingnan sa kanya. Pero for a girl, aminado ako na malapad talaga ako. Balakang ko pa lang, ewan ko na.

And no, I don't feel insecure. And it also helps that he doesn't make me feel insecure about myself. If your partner, instead of encouraging you to look and feel better, actually makes you feel the other way around, yun ang off. Kasi physical pa lang yan, ganyan na. What more pa kung non-superficial. Isip isip pag ganun.

[estelle21]

^sis may mga kilala ko guys na preferred talaga malalaman/chubby gf. para meron daw niyayakap. asthma sakit mo sis?

pero meron din ako mga nakilala kasi na iniwan tapos factor yung weight. tama ka superficial nga -_-

[sugardrop]

^
True. I had a co-worker na sobrang payatot talaga pero ang gusto daw nya, mga chubby. Name nga ng gf nya sa cellphone nya, lechon.   Ang kulit lang.

Yung isang co-worker ko dati who weighs around 250lbs, ang macho ng bf nya.

Meron pa din isa and another one. Basta! Madami yan sa paligid.

Kaya may term nga na chubby chaser. Haha!

Asthma, recurring bell's palsy, back problem.

Pero syempre, I want to shed some of the lbs that I gained. I want to look better and be healthier not just for him, but more importantly for myself. Ang kailangan lang naman daw mawala sakin, bilbil. Kamoteng steroids yan eh.

[sacred cow]

@estelle21

personal opinion ko lang naman yun na kapag hinayaan ng babae ang sarili maging sobrang taba ay hindi mahal ang sarili. most fat women kasi ay fat not because they took steroids but are just plain lazy or love to eat in excess. kahit sabihin mong nasa lahi kasi mataba ang parents, it's still not an excuse. dami kong friends, officemates and even relatives na babaeng matataba and they always complain of being fat, yet they don't try to change their lifestyle or eating habits and are always looking for a magic pill na hindi kailangan pawisan or magbawas ng kain para pumayat. generally sa mga kilala ko, guys are more dedicated when trying to lose weight kasi hindi naghahanap ng quick fix

[toreros]

I prefer her to be on the healthy side. Sarap lang tingnan ang seksi at payat pero mas "full" ang healthy. Syempre wag din pabayaan sumobra.

[abbmg15]

mabigat lang saken si hubby ng mga 30 lbs pero 1 inch lang ang tinangkad niya saken. eversince chubby n talaga ako ang lightest weight ko ay 125lbs @ 5ft 4 inches can't go any lower than that kasi mukha na daw ako nakadrugs... mas mataba saken ang asawa ko ngayon pero mas mabilis siya pumayat kasi ako nahihirapan ako magpapayat tapos ngayon preggy pako so wala munang "starvation diet". lagi ko tinatanong asawa ko kung mataba ba ako sabi niya di naman daw chubby lang pero pag nanganak ako sabay daw kami magjojogging. hehe

[Girltalker2]

@estelle21

personal opinion ko lang naman yun na kapag hinayaan ng babae ang sarili maging sobrang taba ay hindi mahal ang sarili. most fat women kasi ay fat not because they took steroids but are just plain lazy or love to eat in excess. kahit sabihin mong nasa lahi kasi mataba ang parents, it's still not an excuse. dami kong friends, officemates and even relatives na babaeng matataba and they always complain of being fat, yet they don't try to change their lifestyle or eating habits and are always looking for a magic pill na hindi kailangan pawisan or magbawas ng kain para pumayat. generally sa mga kilala ko, guys are more dedicated when trying to lose weight kasi hindi naghahanap ng quick fix

Bro, totoo yung lazy and eat in excess.  Pero sa totoo lang may mga nakikita kasi ako na diet to the max talaga tapos sobrang liit ng effect. Kaya hindi sila naeengganyo kasi katakot takot na hirap ang kelangan mo gawin for just 1 kg.

And for women, it's the hormones. Sometimes pag malapit na period mo, you tend to eat so much.  Mahirap mag control. Parang sinabi mo rin sa guy mag control sya without sex for 6 months.

Bottomline, para sakin, mas madali pumayat for guys than for women.

[sacred cow]

^ yup, I also agree that it's easier for guys to lose weight compared to women. kaya nga andami ding payat at machong bakla, meron sila ng vanity ng babae tapos metabolism ng lalake...hahaha. madami namang ibang guys na mahilig din sa chubby or plus size women, sana lang gusto din sila nung mga chubby. yung iba kasi diet diet daw pero kapag may donut, waffles or chocolates kung kumain akala mo wala nang bukas. it should be a lifestyle change and not only a short term goal na magkasya sa damit para sa kasal ng kaibigan/relative.
lahat ng resource available na sa net para maglose weight (e.g. iifym, intermittent fasting) it's up to the person na lang talaga, unless masaya siyang mukhang christmas ham yung legs mo kapag naka fishnet stockings

[pretty_B]

guilty.

well, even before na "mejo payat" pa ako mas chubby pa din ako kay bf. but then, parehas kasi kaming lumolobo then pumapayat ulit. the prob is, lately mas lumobo na talaga ako compared kay bf. T____T sinasabihan nya ako na tama na ang paglobo and sometimes, pinagaawayan namin yun. sana lang di sya magbago. >____<

[sourgrapes244]

Nakakatuwa naman may mga ganitong topics pala dito sa girl talk. Sa totoo lang , turn off ako sa mga matatabang guys pero ayoko rin ng mga maskulado kasi masyado silang vain, mas malakas makaturnoff mga vain guys lalo na kung masyado silang maluho kesa sakin. Mas gusto ko malaman lang pero wala masyadong bilbil, pero ako mabilbil ng konti dahil kulang talaga ako sa exercise. Mahirap kasi talaga maggym kung wala kang time. So better gamitin nyo na lang bonding time ang jogging para makahabol ka sa body ng bf mo.

[Girltalker2]

But seriously, naniniwala ako na dapat supportive si BF/hubby sayo in terms of encouraging you to maintain your weight.  In terms of dieting, hindi yung alam na nagd diet ka nanga, sa harap mo pa kakain ng mga chips, cake, etc.   

At the same time, as the gf/wife, we should try our best to maintain ourselves, not only for the man we love but also for ourselves. 

^ sis, ako din turn off ako sa guys na medyo mataba, sloppy kasi tingnan. lalong ayoko din ng malaki ang tyan.

[sacred cow]

teka teka, how fat is fat nga ba?

healthypoints.info/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/body-fat-percentage-pictures-for-women-mpfrhu34.jpg

sakin 35% pataas ang fat. mas mataas kasi by defauly ang body fat ng babae kesa sa lalake due to physiological makeup. ang 10-15% na bf sa lalake maganda tingnan, sa babae mukha nang nagcocompete sa bodybuilding

[simang]

Magkaweight kami ng boyfriend ko, he's 5 inches taller than me, we wear the same shirt size. He met me that way. Actually mas payat nga sya nung nameet ko sya, til eventually magkaweight na kami. For his height and frame, mesomorph talaga sya, while i am endomorph.

To answer TS's question, no i don't feel insecure about it. Ewan ko lang ha, pero never ako nainsecure sa weight ko. I've been overweight most of my life. Never ako nabully about it, never pinaramdam saken na i'm ugly because of it. The truth is, if there's one major reason why I want to lose weight, that is so I can have wider dress selection. Haha. Shallow as it is, but that's the goal I'm after now. Nothing to do with my-bf-might-find-a-sexier-lady scare.

[ri-anne]

this thread reminded me of this video

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cH6SKV_PN5A

The Importance of Looking Good for your partner...it's zoren and carmina, being interviewed by kris. zoren said something like, women should take care of their body, huwag hayaan ang sariling tumaba. lalo na kung nameet ni guy si girl ng payat. let's face it, kaya nga niligawan ni guy si girl because he found her attractive, so dapat daw i-maintain yun. don't give the guy an excuse daw na magloko...(carmina was arguing all the while at nahihigh blood na lol na hindi excuse na porket mataba ang girl eh iiwan na, at walang karapatang mangbabae ang guy dahil lang sa ganun)  sabay banat ni zoren,"kaya ako, walang karapatan magloko, kasi look at you (carmina)" hehe

[estelle21]

^hirap talaga maging babae
 
you work like a man, tapos pag uwi expected ka gumawa ng gawaing bahay, mag alaga ng anak, magluto ng hapunan, tapos inaasahan pa rin na you're drop dead gorgeous!

kaya ata maraming babae tumataba pag nag asawa na dahil sa stress, napapakain na lang

[TysLolakins]

Kwento ni hubs, na attract siya sa akin dahil sexy thin ako.  Tapos somebody pointed out my mom to him, e medyo mataba talaga si mother, nagisip siya na baka maging ganon din ako.  But he took his chance even with that thought.  Sabi niya Buti na lang sa daddy ka nag mana who's naturally thin.  I may not be as thin as before due to old age, but definitely he looks bigger, well he is 7 inches taller.  Plus with hard work and diet I'm back to wearing small sizes.