FWB with coworker - UPDATED Nov.17

[telekikay]

kelangan mo untugin sarili mo paulti ulit hehe

[magno4]

To the threadstarter.  Huwag mo silang pakinggan.  Magfo-fall din sa iyo yung guy, promise!    He just needs more time para iwanan niya gf niya.  More sex = the more chances of winning!  lol

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Seriously, you already know what to do.  Di mo na kailangan ma-untog.  Ikaw na rin may sabi na matagal ka nang lurker dito.  Malamang alam mo na ang mga usual na payo.

  datz korek, at nasa pag uusap nyo naman yan kung fubu o fwb kayo, ang importante e nag kaksundo naman kayo for your own sake, yan ay kung parehas tanggap ang mga sitwasyon nyo lang naman.

[stealthscorpio]

 Just a simple advice TS... stay away. Although I am a guy and for some guys they might look your situation as an "opportunity" dahil pumapatol ka sa committed person and considering that you have the full knowledge that he is committed to his kawawang gf kasi di niya alam na may affair kayo ng bf niya. Then, you don't have to ask the question kung ano ang gagawin mo kasi it's an 800-pound gorilla in the room. You yourself know what to do and you are just seeking someone to say na go for it, baka "madevelop" siya sayo, which is in fact hindi mangyayari yan. Those people have the tendency to cheat as well pag ganun ang idea. You say 10 years na sila diba? You can't easily pull out a 10 year old tree rooted deeply into the ground using only your strength; you need more than that.

You deserve someone much better. Don't be driven by lustful desires of the flesh kasi you will just end up being the loser no matter what. I have committed male friends with flings and I really pity those flings that they have. Parang desperate lang kasi ang paningin ko sa kanila which in truth, they should have deserved someone better than my friends. Get out of the vicious circle. Respect yourself.

[purplegravity]

^I agree with stealthscorpio.

If you start a relationship as FWB, then, i guess it will end as is. Dont expect someone to fall in love with you just because you had sex. 

[p0isonIvy]

to TS, your 10months of pseudo relationship/sleeping together is no match for the 10 years he had with the gf. you can never erase that. and because of this, you are missing out on other opportunities where you could be building your own 10year relationship (or more) with other more deserving people. better recognize and wake up fast. ikaw lang ang talo in the end.

[cussler]

TS, if ako si lalaki, sex lang habol ko sayo. Compare to our situation sa relatinship namin ni gf in 10years. Wala akong feelings sayo maybe friend but friend lang.

[purplegravity]

Kung ayaw ng mga girls sa ganyang set-up di naman sila pipilitin ng guys. Both should be ready of consequences in this kind of relationship. Dont expect and dont blame the guys kasi desisyon nyong dalawa yan.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

TS, think of it this way, it's been 10 months and you're starting to get bothered by the fact that it looks like you will be nothing more than your coworker's FWB. So, think about the next 10 to 15 years of your life.. do you see yourself deeply happy being his full time mistress kasi for sure he'll marry that decade old gf soon. If your answer is a yes, then go right ahead. Be my guest. Stay with him. Otherwise, walk away now.

[lyon]

stay out FAST. period. the longer you stay, the harder to quit from his spell.

it's a guy's animal instinct kicking in, an alpha male of animal kingdom.

[ohcmon]

Nakakaloka ang storya mo ha.

FWB tapos nainlove na rin sa'yo si guy? That must mean something is really wrong with his relationship with the girlfriend. I'm saying this objectively ha, hindi para umasa ka.

So mahal ka niya, mahal mo siya, pero anong plano niya sa inyong dalawa? Alangang mahal ka nga niya tapos sila pa rin nung gf?

[baliwsayo]

Kung tutuong mahal ka niya, he will fix your status. Give him space so he could really choose what he really want. Ikaw kasi nandiyan sa malapit.. try mo kaya lumayo muna.

[insanelypurpleprincess]

Saw the update posted and ayayay! Whoa! At ginamit ang L word para makuha ang gusto or something to that effect. I don't want to make you feel or think that we don't want you to be happy, but c'mon.. never niya na realize.. not until he saw signs that he was losing you na. So I seriously doubt it's Love. Perhaps he needs you, but that doesn't translate to love agad agad. Just saying. Good luck sorting things out.. and making the right decision.

[j.adore]

Oh dear.. How can you even say you're happy and that your main problem is all about him not yet choosing you? You have no remorse for hurting (or about to hurt) someone else.

Sana matauhan ka na mali ang ginagawa mo. Kung makipagbreak man siya (which doesn't seem he would kasi puro excuses) at maging kayo, masama pa din ang simula niyo. Makakatulog ka ba knowing he can do the same to you?

Please build your self-respect and leave this guy.

[evilwoman]

^naku sis,sarap ng tulog nyan pag nakipagbreak na nga sa gf.ganyan naman mga willingly sumasabit sa may sabit.no room for kunsensya.i am sure rason ng 2 yan e laki ng kakulangan kay legal gf.

To ts, tulog ka lang ng mahimbing knowing na 10years is 10years.dadating at dadating ang point na lagi ka maccompare kay ex so prepare ka ng earplugs na lang para di ka mabingi.di mo naman siguro dadamdamin kasi ginusto mo yan at importante ikaw pinili di ba? :p

[Girltalker2]

I can't seem to post a reply so I'm updating this na lang.

After I started this thread, I gradually stopped seeing him, though feeling niya siguro wala masyadong difference. I opened up the topic of him choosing again, tapos a few weeks after, he told me he loved me. Parang nawala lahat ng inipon kong strength para lumayo sa kanya.

These are exactly the type of men you should AVOID, at all cost.  They lure you, give you hope, but in the end, they won't give in kasi nakukuha naman nila ang gusto nila.

Parang bf-gf na kami ngayon. Halos 24/7 kami magkasama, and on the rare times na hindi, magkatext at magkatawagan kami lagi. Masaya naman ako, pero parang hindi pa rin ako panatag knowing na hindi pa rin sila nagbbreak kahit sa akin na lahat ng oras at atensyon niya.

Oh really? 24/7 ha?  Where is the GF?  I am sure she must be somewhere abroad, busy or nag cool off na naman sila kaya yang lalaki mo eh nasa spare tire nya these days?  And for how long iyang 24/7?  Ilan days na sya ganyan?  If he is consistently into you for like a year, maniniwala nako. Pero ilan days palang, I am sure the cat is not watching, kaya naglalaro na naman sya.

He said hindi raw kasi ganun kadali na maghiwalay sila. I believe him naman, pero I'm not sure until when I can hold on and wait for him to decide. 

Of course. Nangyari na naman iyan before di ba? Nag cool off sila but he CHOSE to patch things up with the GF.  This guy has no balls that is, if he says he loves you.

The problem when he says he loves you, may karugtong yun!  He also loves his GF!  And most of all.. he loves himself above all! 

You make your own destiny. If you want to be a spare tire all your life, by all means. It's your life.

kamusta na kaya si TS??
mukhang malilgaya na sa piling ni friend... lol. joke lang.

natumbok mo pala. hehe

[stealthscorpio]

Of course. Nangyari na naman iyan before di ba? Nag cool off sila but he CHOSE to patch things up with the GF.  This guy has no balls that is, if he says he loves you.

The problem when he says he loves you, may karugtong yun!  He also loves his GF!  And most of all.. he loves himself above all! 

You make your own destiny. If you want to be a spare tire all your life, by all means. It's your life.

^
I think this is the most precise answer.

[aubb]

Untog pa more, TS? Ang hharsh niyo kasi, di natuloy bumalik sis TS. 

[futboler_dati]

this is interesting for me... there is this girl sa office na type ko talaga.

for the TS, medyo mahirap yan kung may feelings at affection ka na for the guy.. tapos may gf pa sya. siguro try mo na makipaghiwalay sa FWB mo.

[FayeP]

di na sumagot si TS baka masaya pa din ke FWB...

[hisana]

Honestly nasayangan nga ako sa lahat ng magagandang advice na nilagay dito, ang ending is babalik din naman pala sya dun sa guy, LOL. Well, she's made her choice.