Tamang opinion ang manghusga ng kapwa

[LeallianFaye]

Hi sissies, maglabas lang ako ng sama ng loob.


Yung tito ko kasi may babae, hindi sila divorce or annuled ng asawa niya pero hiwalay na sila.
Yung babae itong august lang lumipat sa bahay ng lola ko, minsan ko lang siya nakikita dun kasi minsan lang ako dumadalaw. Yung nakakabatang kapatid ko ( 16 yrs old ) dun din nakatira. Sa umpisa okay naman, hanggang sa naiwan nung kabit yung fb account niya sa ipad nung pinsan ko at yung kapatid ko may hinala na kaya binasa niya yung message ng tito ko at nung kabit niya, nagulat yung kapatid ko na ang daming sinasabi nung babae at nung tito ko tungkol saamin, puro masasakit na salita at pang huhusga at pagbibintang na kesyo b******t daw kaming anak, sasabunutan at bubugbugin, mga maarte daw kami at binebrainwash namin yung lola namin, pati problema ko at ng mga parents ko may opinion din sila. Meron pa dun sa usapan nila na pinagtatawanan nung kabit yung kapatid ko kasi nalockan ng pintuan sa baba.

Ngayon kinausap ko sila at ang sagot lang sakin, eh, opinion lang daw nila yun samin at hindi nila sinasabi kasi baka masaktan kami. Lahat daw ng tao entitled manghusga ng kapwa na para bang tama yung ginawa nila. Yung tungkol naman sa pagbubogbog ang sagot niya sakin is bakit ginawa daw ba, hindi naman daw.  Tsaka sakanilang dalawa lang daw yun nung babae niya at hindi naman dapat lalabas kung hindi naki-alam yung kapatid ko.

Grabe mga tao ngayon, kelan pa naging tama ang manghusga ng kapwa.

[castledoll]

^ siguro nga, opinion lang nila yun talaga and the messages is para sa kanila lang talaga dalawa. Wala din naman pinag kaiba yung situation mo sa situation ng karamihan dito sa atin na may mga ka-pm sa fb and talk about other people's businesses. Sana na lang din, hinde nyo na lang pinakelaman yung private fb account nung gf nung tito mo.

I mean, it sucks kapag nalaman mo na other people are talking behind your back pala. But it happens. Just give them the cold shoulder and make the gf feel na she's not part of the family and will never be.

[baliwsayo]

In the first place, private conversation yun sis.. mali ang ginawa ng kapatid mo. Hindi kayo dapat nangiinvade ng privacy. Masama yun.

[mooncake and leaves]

wala kang magagawa if they are judging you. yes, hindi maganda. but we all do it. ikaw din naman, you're judging them, right? masaya talaga mag-judge paminsan-minsan. it can't be helped.

but hindi tama na they talked about beating you up and hindi tama na when you confronted them, hindi man lang sila tinamaan ng hiya. unahan mo na. bugbugin mo. joke lang.

i'd be on alert. mahirap yan, baka ano nga gawin sa inyo. or baka anong gawin sa lola mo. saka ano ba naman tito mo, mambababae tapos iuuwi sa nanay. anong klase naman, di ba. hindi man lang kumuha ng sariling place. i'm sorry pero yang ganyang klase ng tito mo and kabit niya, hindi yan ang tipong pinapatira sa bahay kasi based on what you have shared, mukhang hindi talaga sila matino pareho.

[nettai]

Hmmm. Opinyon ko lang ah.

We are all entitled to our own opinion. But our opinions tell what kind of person we are -- moreso we do not always have the right to share them to anyone as other people might wrongly perceive them as a fact (e.g. "this girl is a w***e", etc).

So at least alam mo na kung anong klaseng tao ang babae ng tito mo (and yung tito mo, actually) and you know what to do from there. XD

[sistah!]

in fairness naman nga sa kanila, private conversation nila yun. sana hindi na pinakialaman ng kapatid mo. may feeling na sya na kakaiba na hinuhusgahan kayo pero kahit ganun, mali pa rin na sinilip nya yun. im sure tayo din naman, kung makapanglait tayo sa ibang tao, medyo intense din.

anyway, just keep an eye out on them. while you now confirm that they are saying negative things about you, they also have more reason to do so because their privacy has been breached and will probably use that as fuel to get people on their side. just be careful and if possible, try to reach out. it isn't easy being the bigger person but sometimes, it's really the right thing to do.

[LeallianFaye]

Totoo mga sis, hindi maganda yung ginawa ng kapatid ko at humingi ako sakanila ng pasensya. Pero hindi kasi opinion yung pag-uusap nila puro panglalait at pagtatawa tsaka pang huhusga samin. Sabi nalang ng lola ko sa kapatid ko na diyos na daw gumawa ng paraan para makita talaga ugali nila.

Yun nga mga, sis. Keber nalang talaga sakanila.

wala kang magagawa if they are judging you. yes, hindi maganda. but we all do it. ikaw din naman, you're judging them, right? masaya talaga mag-judge paminsan-minsan. it can't be helped.

Ay, sis no! Hindi ko sila hinusgahan, yun yung masakit dun, eh. Hahaha! Yung wala kang panghuhusgang ginawa sakanila kahit na ang dami mong pwedeng sabihin pero hindi mo ginawa tapos sila pala yung ganun.

[hisana]

Hmmm. Opinyon ko lang ah.

We are all entitled to our own opinion. But our opinions tell what kind of person we are -- moreso we do not always have the right to share them to anyone as other people might wrongly perceive them as a fact (e.g. "this girl is a w***e", etc).

So at least alam mo na kung anong klaseng tao ang babae ng tito mo (and yung tito mo, actually) and you know what to do from there. XD

I totally agree. I'm not gonna mince words, mukhang masasamang tao yang tito mo at kabit nya. Sabagay, the fact na they're having an affair makes them of questionable character already. Even in the privacy of my own thoughts, hindi ako ganun ka-squatter mag-isip na gustuhin ko mambugbog at manabunot basta na lang. Be careful, kahit kamag-anak mo pa sya.

[TysLolakins]

human nature lang talaga na we have an opinion on everybody and everything.  if no opinion,  it only means that you don't care enough about that person or thing.
between couples,  there's this thing called 'pillow talk',  things you discuss in the privacy of your bed.  [size=78%]so those things are normal.[/size]


what is not normal is to think or imagine one's self doing bodily harm against another person, let alone family/relative.  so doon ka mag-watch out sa kanila.


and stop getting bothered by what people say behind your back.  we're all guilty of that as the talkee and the talker, both.  their opinions of you don't hold water,  just realize where it's coming from,   from those 2 useless beings.

[LeallianFaye]

Thank you mga sis! Ganun na nga lang dedmahan nalang pero cautious parin kasi kahit kinonfront ko na sila and sinabi ko yung tungkol dun sa pambabanta nilang pambubugbog saamin sagot ng tito ko "bakit ginawa ba? hindi naman diba?" wala man lang sorry o kung ano na nasabi yun ng babae nya. Kaya bahala na sila isipin nila kung ano gusto nila isipin basta balik nalang sakanila yun.