How do you boost your confidence and stop envy?

[oshiawase]

Hi, I have a friend whom I have been jealous of. She is pretty, smart, has a boyfriend, etc.

And we're friends. But lately, I realized I've been unconsciously treating her unfairly because of my envy towards her. And I resent such feelings.

How do you boost your confidence and stop envy?? I don't want to feel so little whenever I am with her. And of course, i still love her dearly as a friend

[simang]

It can be two things -- pwedeng insecure ka or maybe she shoves it to your face na she's better than you. Either way, just focus on yourself! A simple way to do it is to list down all the positive aspects of your life right now. Yung mga things that makes your life good. I'm sure meron yan. Tapos focus ka lang on those. and of course, discover yourself more! Try new things, do stuff you havent done before. Be out there. important din na you learn to embrace your imperfections.  Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.

[jenny.babe]

tama si sis simang. i agree with this:

It can be two things -- pwedeng insecure ka or maybe she shoves it to your face na she's better than you. Either way, just focus on yourself! A simple way to do it is to list down all the positive aspects of your life right now. Yung mga things that makes your life good. I'm sure meron yan. Tapos focus ka lang on those. and of course, discover yourself more! Try new things, do stuff you havent done before. Be out there. important din na you learn to embrace your imperfections.  Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.

[la_chic]

^well said sis!

Ayun, just think of the positive things in life and always be grateful of what you have. Never fail to thank Him for your blessings, for the more you appreciate your blessings, the more you will be able to receive the things you want in life.

Envy is a fatal sin. Whenever you think you feel this, be aware and be sure to disregard this feeling/thought. Kapag na-aggravate pa yan, patay na.

Stop comparing yourself to others for there will surely be people better/worse than you. When you stop comparing, you will have peace of mind...

[aquacharly]

How do I boost my confidence?
Red lipstick, kapalmukz, a curious mind, being my authentic self.  Smile all the time, it masks your nerves & breaks ice.
If the red lipstick won't work, new shoes will do it.

How do I stop envy?
My Lola always says:   Ang suerte ni Juan hindi mapupunta Kay Pedro.
I suppose that translates into: Suck it up. Lol
There is little room for envy if one appreciates what one has; and cherishes the dreams one works for day in & day out, may these be grandiose or humble.

[quinone]

ano ba mga goals mo? ano ba mga gusto mo ma-achieve? siguro naman magkaiba kayo ng mga gustong makamit sa buhay?

kung ikaw ang gusto mo bahay, siya ang gusto niya kotse; hindi ka dapat mainggit kung ma-achieve niyang maka-kotse dahil bahay ang gusto mo. instead be happy for her, then focus on accomplishing your goals.

bakit nga ba tayo nagco-compare sa mga friends or ka-level natin? for me lang huh, halimbawa kung gusto mo maging reporter, why be a jessica soho or korina sanchez when you can look up to christiane amanpour.

kung tungkol lang sa mas maganda si friend at mas matalino, sabi nga sa serenity prayer...accept the things you cannot change.

[TysLolakins]

be the best you can be in everything you do.  that's my mantra.  if by doing that you gain recognition and get compensated as well,  then count that as a blessing.
i get a lot more satisfaction if i've completed a task knowing that i've done it to the best of my ability.  no halfass job ika nga.
having this mentality will leave no room for envy nor self-doubt.
that's my 2 cents.

[purple.strawberry]

Sis let's accept it, we'll always have friends who are prettier than us, smarter than us, or in general mas maswerte sa buhay. Walang magagawa yang inggit, you'll just feel down about yourself. The most that you can do is be genuinely happy for them as a friend. Also love yourself more and see yourself as a unique individual worthy of attention and love.