successful kabit

[Reynamargallo]

hi mga sis. im just wondering.... may kilala ba kayong kabit na nagtagumpay?

Sorry to post this. Kasi years ago, naagawan ako ng bf. Pinagpalit ako sa younger girl. she was 23 years old then and my ex bf was 33. 10 years ang gap nila.The girl was my officemate. Tipong isang dura lang ang layo ng cubicle namin.

The kabit confronted me and told me na di daw gagawin sa kanya ng ex bf ko ang ginawa sa akin - na niloko ako at iniwan. Di daw siya lolokohin ng ex ko kasi mahal daw siya kaya nga iniwan ako.

Sa loob loob ko, gusto kong sabihin na "o sige na! ikaw na!!!! sa yo na ang korona!" But I chose to walk away. Pero deep inside awang awa ako sa sarili ko. two months after that confrontation, i decided to just resign from work kasi ang laking insulto sa akin ng nangyari.

I'm trying to look them up sa fb pero wala eh.Gusto ko malaman kung totoo nga yung pinamukha niya sa akin na di siya lolokohin ng ex bf ko at sila pa talaga forever. Nagtagumpay kaya talaga siya after niya mang-agaw?


Ang tanong ko mga sisses, may kilala ba kayo na successful kabit? 

[Littlekathryn]

Meron akong kilala. Yung kabit ng ex ko nagkatuluyan sila. Pero yung ex ko nakikipag balikan sakin upto now e nakatagpo na ko ng right guy at sobrang bait. I can say mas better ako ngayon lalo na nang nalaman ko pinag aawayan parin nila ako dahil mas mahal parin ako ng ex ko. Hehe. Na share ko lang.

[queenteaser]

May kilala akong ganito. Same situation, kabit sya that time na kami pa ng ex ko. Pinakasalan OO. pero I dont think SUCCESSFUL na sya non. Kung ginawa sa ibang babae yun, malamang e gawin din sa kanya yun. I remember sinabi ko pa sa kanya, Sana di mo maranasan yung pinaranas mo sakin. Well, naging successful man at sya ang pinakasalan it doesnt mean na walang balik yun. I'm pretty sure that karma eventually brings them to a realization of how they should behave towards others and this certainly applies to all relationships. 

[Reynamargallo]

i also remember na sabi ng kabit ng ex ko na di daw siya "qualified" na ma-karma dahil they fell so in love with each other. Like, oh okay.... may ganung factor pa siyang nalalaman.

 

[Reynamargallo]

Meron akong kilala. Yung kabit ng ex ko nagkatuluyan sila. Pero yung ex ko nakikipag balikan sakin upto now e nakatagpo na ko ng right guy at sobrang bait. I can say mas better ako ngayon lalo na nang nalaman ko pinag aawayan parin nila ako dahil mas mahal parin ako ng ex ko. Hehe. Na share ko lang.

Ewan ko ba anong pinakain ng mga kabit sa mga ex natin noon. malalakas na rin loob nila.

[queenteaser]

^Sis it's okay. There is a reason for everything. Nothing will be taken from you without the existing intention to replace it with something much better. Everything happens for a good reason. Most of the time, you won’t see its goodness right away, but down the road, you will. When you do, you will appreciate the reason why it was taken away. 

[Girltalker2]

I think the best thing to do in a situation whereby naagawan ka is just to move on. No sense na isipin mo pa kung magiging successful sila o hindi.  Sobrang waste of time iyan kasi you will never ever know if they will be successful.  So nag iisip ka ng something na never mo malalaman ang sagot.

In any case, once you move on, all you have to do is find your happiness, have faith and believe na puede ka pa naman maging masaya but all you have to do is work on it.  Once magawa mo iyan, kahit maging masaya pa sila o hindi, it would not matter to you.

Ex ko wanted me and his mistress. Ayaw humiwalay sakin and yet ayaw din bitawan ang kabit. Ok, fine, I left.  And even after months I left, he insists na wala na sila or hindi naman sila nagsasama, etc.  How can I believe that eh nung mag asawa nga kami, nakuha nyang ibahay ang babae nya, ano pa kaya if he is free na?  So di ko naniwala. And kahit na may nakakakita pa sa kanila together, wala nakong paki kasi I just moved on.  Then later on, after a couple of years, I just found out my ex had another GF, at buntis na naman. So I guess, I really do not know where that guy is heading, pero I wish him well. What happens to him eh wala na sa kamay ko and he makes his own happiness, I make mine. Maging successful man sya, happy for him. Kapag hindi man, tough luck, kagagawan din naman nya.

[i_v_y]

meron akong kilala. they are now in their  late 50's.

[izabelle]

I dont think meron successful kabit.. why? kasi habang buhay sya kakarmahin

[margauxkhloe]

Ako may kilala. Successful talaga. Una sa lahat di naman niya alam na kabit siya. Di niya alam na may gf si kuya at may anak. So after niyang malaman. Nagalit siya syempre pero si kuya sabi siya ang tunay na mahal at ayaw niya na dun sa babaeng naanakan niya. Kaya nakipag break si guy dun sa unang babae. So after ilang years, sila pa rin at nagkaron na rin sila ng sariling baby nila. So ayun. Happy naman sila ngayon at sila pa rin. Sinusuportahan nlng ni kuya yung anak niya dun sa una. Sila siguro talaga ang nagmamahalan at mahal na mahal siya nung guy.

[simang]

IMO, whether nagkatuluyan or hindi ang kabit and the guy (or girl, whatever), kung sino ang may bitterness pa, yun ang hindi 'successful'. Madalas yung nga legal wife yan.

Pero a kabit may be successful kung nagkutuluyan sila and they lived happily ever after, or kung naghiwalay sila and the kabit moved on and nakawala na sya sa phase na yun. So hindi ibig sabihin na kapag hindi nagkatuluyan ang kabit and ang other partner, eh hindi na sya successful. Minsan the kabit's success is measured with the peace in her heart.

Also, di ako naniniwalang kakarmahin habang buhay ang mga kabit. Mas naniniwala pa ako na kakarmahin habang buhay yung naghahangad na karmahin ang kapwa nila.

[littlekinselle]

@reynamargallo IMO never ever magiging sucessful ang gumawa ng masama.  what goes around, comes around.  Nasa blissful stage pa sila let'say, pero in the end mag sasawa na yan sa isa't isa  lalo na wala na ang thrill. Just wait and let do the bad karma slaps their faces..   
Enjoy mo pagiging single mo at dapat lalo ka magpaganda at show them na Happy ka.. wag mo sana hayaan na maging miserable ang buhay mo dahil sa walang kwentang tao.. mag move on kana 

[queenteaser]

IMO, whether nagkatuluyan or hindi ang kabit and the guy (or girl, whatever), kung sino ang may bitterness pa, yun ang hindi 'successful'. Madalas yung nga legal wife yan.

Pero a kabit may be successful kung nagkutuluyan sila and they lived happily ever after, or kung naghiwalay sila and the kabit moved on and nakawala na sya sa phase na yun. So hindi ibig sabihin na kapag hindi nagkatuluyan ang kabit and ang other partner, eh hindi na sya successful. Minsan the kabit's success is measured with the peace in her heart.

Also, di ako naniniwalang kakarmahin habang buhay ang mga kabit. Mas naniniwala pa ako na kakarmahin habang buhay yung naghahangad na karmahin ang kapwa nila.

^Very Well Said Sis Simang 

[Yamski]

Yung katrabaho ko, naging "kabit" ng ex niya. I mean, a year after nilang magbreak, may iba ng gf yung guy tapos nag-cross uli yung paths nila and realized that they still love each other kaya pumayag siyang kabit pansamantala. Naghiwalay naman yung guy and the new gf and after some time, the guy married my colleague. After 12 years of marriage, sobrang happy pa rin sila. Natatawa na lang sila ngayon pag kinukwento yung lovelife nila.

[Miss.Pancake]

hi mga sis. im just wondering.... may kilala ba kayong kabit na nagtagumpay?

Sorry to post this. Kasi years ago, naagawan ako ng bf. Pinagpalit ako sa younger girl. she was 23 years old then and my ex bf was 33. 10 years ang gap nila.The girl was my officemate. Tipong isang dura lang ang layo ng cubicle namin.

The kabit confronted me and told me na di daw gagawin sa kanya ng ex bf ko ang ginawa sa akin - na niloko ako at iniwan. Di daw siya lolokohin ng ex ko kasi mahal daw siya kaya nga iniwan ako.

Sa loob loob ko, gusto kong sabihin na "o sige na! ikaw na!!!! sa yo na ang korona!" But I chose to walk away. Pero deep inside awang awa ako sa sarili ko. two months after that confrontation, i decided to just resign from work kasi ang laking insulto sa akin ng nangyari.

I'm trying to look them up sa fb pero wala eh.Gusto ko malaman kung totoo nga yung pinamukha niya sa akin na di siya lolokohin ng ex bf ko at sila pa talaga forever. Nagtagumpay kaya talaga siya after niya mang-agaw?


Ang tanong ko mga sisses, may kilala ba kayo na successful kabit?

Hay naku sis ito nalang isipin mo, kung nagawa sayo ng ex mo yun, anung guarantee nun kabit na hindi gagawin sa kanya yun nun guy? hahahaha.

[Doontayosadamuhan]

Masasabi bang successful si kabit kung three years na sila ni hubby and still going strong? Iniwan ko na si hubby two years ago but until now looks like their relationship is ok na ok parin at wala na yata balak bumalik si hubby sa amin (may isabg anak kami 4yrs old) wala din syang sustento binibigay samin ever since naghiwalay kami. Though he calls occasionally kinakamusta si daughter hangang dun lang.

[forumera]

meron ako kilala. si girl married with one daughter si guy married with 3 kids ata, they met, then had a child, now they live together. civil si guy sa ex wife (not legally separated/annulled) while si girl (not legally separated/annulled) hindi masyado civil sa ex husband at first daughter. 6 years na sila so far

[alinkshel]

tulad ng sabi ni simang, a kabit can be considered successful if she's harmoniously living with the guy.

to answer your question on that context, yes, i know at least one successful kabit. she's a close friend. the guy left his wife and two kids to be with my friend. they now have two kids din. still, the guy continuously supports his kids with the legal wife. i guess my friend's guilt feeling is somehow lessened by that. i just don't know how complete her happiness could be knowing that a family was wrecked in the process.

just a piece of advice reyna, let him be. stalk if you need to, indulge in it. but please give yourself a deadline for all of it. move on 'coz you have to. as what you have read in the previous posts, there are affairs that succeed over the legal ones. isipin mo na lang, NILOKO ka nya. that won't change.

[j.adore]

From what I've seen so far, mistresses are only successful while the guy lives. The legal wife has the final say when the guy passes away.

Very rare ang civil na legal wife and mistress because there's no way to appease a scorned wife..

So I guess, mistresses just enjoy it while it lasts?

[sarsingkit]

I would sa yes. There are people not meant to be together and there are people who are. Life sometimes turn sour but that doesn't mean it will be that way forever. Thinking about how they are now makes you fall behind and be unsuccessful. Always move forward and do not look behind. I know cheating is bad and there is no excuse for it but I know men who have cheated and found that one person who was able to tie them down. I consider myself religious so this might be too much to say but do not put your faith in man, put it in God. Whatever life brings you, you surely will be alright, eventually.